Being diagnosed with a life-threatening illness yourself, or having it happen to a person you are close to can be devastating. Adding more negativity to the picture, it is also very frightening and downright paralyzing, in great part due to the rapidly escalating thoughts and feelings that may overwhelm you once you hear the doctor's words.
It's
exactly at this point - which probably happens quite quickly and in rapid
succession after having received the diagnosis - that you must step in and be
prepared to do something. Stepping in means you must take charge,
instead of allowing all those thoughts and feelings you are experiencing to be
the ones who are in charge. If they remain in charge, they literally affect
your energetic frequency, which means they affect your cells. Imagine a rose
you have planted that has been doing well and finally you notice it has some
strange sticky bugs on the leaves. Apart from consulting with an expert, you
would probably now do your utmost to ensure that the soil in which the plant
lives is clean. You would perhaps spray it with something that might help clear
out those bugs. You would probably give it health- and growth-enhancing
fertilizer, changing as well its position vis-à-vis the sun, watering more or
perhaps less, and thus doing, in other words, everything you could to improve
the 'environment' of the rose. You must do the same with yourself.
That
requires awareness. We've looked at that topic many times over the
course of these 10 years that I've been writing this monthly newsletter, so
suffice it to say that awareness means you need to be able to recognize your
own thoughts and be able to bring them to a less tumultuous state than the one
they may currently be in. Here's a past article to refresh your memory: Consciousness
is a Full-time Job.
Your
thoughts and feelings can be dealt with - gently - by following a daily
practice of mindfulness which will literally train your mind and form
new neural pathways in your brain, in order to be able to take greater
cognizance - to be more aware - at all times of your thoughts and hence your
feelings, and above all, to recognize that you are capable of making choices
about all of this, and hence literally influence and improve your
well-being.
Many
people who in fact know all these things I've been discussing, nevertheless
lose sight of them when they receive a diagnosis that frightens them, and it
all flies out of the window, and they give in to their most dire thoughts and
feelings, thus creating an even more unhealthy environment for their body.
Think
of it like this: imagine you have just had the cast removed after a multiple
fracture of your tibia. You are so frightened that you'll never walk properly
again. The orthopedic surgeon tells you that you'll need about two months of
serious physiotherapy and then will still require further time after that until
you are back up to speed. Again, your thoughts and fears take over, and all you
can concentrate on is the fear that it won't ever happen; that you'll never
walk without a limp again. Then, instead of going to those sessions of
physiotherapy, you stay at home. As time passes, the lack of mobility in your
leg becomes more and more pronounced and in the end, you truly do not recover
your motor skills. Now I realize that almost no one would do this, but
take it as an analogy of what happens to most people who receive a poor health
diagnosis. They focus on the problem. They freeze. They may accept conventional
treatment (and this article is not at all about refusing such
treatment), but their thoughts and feelings remain stuck in one specific place
- a very negative place, or a fear-filled place.
If
at that moment in time you are able to implement the above ideas into your
life, as follows, you will be doing all that is possible in order to improve
the state of your health:
- by taking as good care as possible of your body, but
not necessarily by racing off to the latest
surgeon/healer/shaman/alternative treatment, as much as giving your body
an inner and outer environment that is conducive to healing, and that has
the capacity to affect your very genes
- by consulting the best physicians/healers possible (but
without making an obsession of it, because if you do, you will probably
contribute to a lowering of your energetic frequency). Remember, the
physicians and healers are only part of the answer. YOU are just as
large a part of that answer. You.
- by doing your own research, because after all,
it is your body, and to some degree, you should make yourself
responsible for how you progress from this point forward (but again, not
by obsessing, for the same reasons as mentioned above). Self-responsibility
is one of the most freeing actions you can take for your life and inner
well-being.
- by surrounding yourself with those of your friends and
family who are capable of giving you good - not pitying or sad or
worried - energy, and studiously avoiding those people,
situations, films, conversations, books, talks, etc., who are not doing
this for you, and hence are lowering your energy (which, as said, affects
your cells)
- by gently working on all those issues that continue to
persist in your life. Is there resentment, pain, anger, frustration over
people and events in your past? Do you need to learn how to forgive,
create better boundaries, understand and eliminate patterns that
you have been reliving over and over again, or begin to love yourself
better, etc.?
- by seeking gratitude, beauty, and inner
harmony at all times, which in turn will also affect your energy,
but on very positive levels
- by furthermore reading, viewing, and listening to
material that also contributes to this raising of your energetic
frequency, ensuring that the tools you consistently use throughout the
course of your day - every day - further this quest for continually
either raising your energetic frequency, or maintaining it in a good
place, assuming you are already there
- by realizing, as you do all this, that you are working
more and more towards that most excellent and life-giving goal of loving
yourself in the healthiest way possible, recognizing that self-love
is totally up to you, and finally
- by continually taking stock of your thoughts and
feelings in such a way that you move them in directions that are
energy-raising as opposed to energy-depleting, positive as opposed to
negative, but recognizing that your responsibility in this
diagnosis of illness of yours is not to figure out how to cure
yourself, but to maintain yourself, or bring yourself to a place inside of
you where your inner state of energetic frequency and your inner state of
well-being is - by your choice, not by external circumstances -
always as good as you can possibly make it (knowing that it truly is up to
you), in order to bathe your being and your body in the most
excellent and nourishing climate you are able to. This - all of this -
is a choice.
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