What prevails in your
life? Is it love? Or is it fear? If love is stronger you will know it
immediately because in general, your life holds a measure of well-being and
peace that - should your life be ruled by fear - you will not be tremendously well
acquainted with.
Being ruled by fear
necessitates a negative charge to daily life. It means - in simple terms - that
you are not confident that you will be fine no matter what occurs. In other
words, you are fearful of some things happening, essentially because you
believe - you fear - that if they happen, you will suffer. Exactly what those
events are that you fear may vary from person to person to such a degree that
what John fears most is something that Simon does not fear at all, and yet what
Simon fears, is something that John considers a simple challenge that can
easily be surmounted. Living a life where at some point - most likely some
subconscious point - you chose fear over love does not mean that you are a coward or a wimp. This is not about
courage. It is about understanding some elementary aspects about the goodness
of life and about believing in the self the way one does when one has
established a relationship with the self. And you only ever do that if you have
begun the process of loving the self.
The fact of the matter
is that those things that we fear - as long as we continue to fear - can never
be fully enumerated, because we have no way of knowing what we may have to face
at the next turn of the road. Fear - in this sense - implies wishing to control that which we may encounter, and
as said, it is never possible to control everything that we might encounter, because we simply don't
know what we will encounter at any
given time.
At this point the
choice for love and trust in the self may - if we are conscious enough - enter
the equation.
Love has to do with
confidence, with caring for the self and with knowing that because you care for
the self, you are able to handle things as they arise in your life - even when
those things are difficult or painful.
More than anything, above all, and in the very first instance, choosing love
has to do with loving the self and
because of this love having the firm inner conviction that you can deal with any
of the cards that life throws you. That does not mean, by the way, that you
will always win or always be successful, or always get what you want. It simply
means that no matter what happens, you will be able to deal with it in such a
way that your inner well being remains on an even keel. Even if you are Nelson
Mandela and spending 27 years locked up in Robben Island, and even if you are
Victor Frankl imprisoned in Auschwitz, or even if you are Aimée Mullens and had
both legs amputated when you were five.
This inner conviction does
not come about just in an instance. Let's say you have lived your life driven
by fear to this point. You've attempted - often unsuccessfully - to exert a
measure of control over those outer circumstances that threaten to throw your
well-being off center. You are ruled - to a degree - by the subliminal fear or
knowledge that you are not able to control your life, and hence you don't know
how you will be if something bad
happens.
This inner conviction does not come about just in an instance. Let's say
you have lived your life driven by fear to this point. You've attempted - often
unsuccessfully - to exert a measure of control over those outer circumstances
that threaten to throw your well-being off center. You are ruled - to a degree
- by the subliminal fear or knowledge that you are not able to control your
life, and hence you don't know how you will be if something bad happens.
You don´t know if you will be able to deal with, or even bear the
circumstances - whatever they may be. This creates – if not outright fear,
since fear is such a strong emotion – at least a continual sensation of
discomfort in your skin, so to speak. Something about you, concerning your life
and the way you live does not feel at ease.
The process of moving from a fear-ruled life in the sense described
above to a love-ruled life always begins with the recognition of the need to
learn how to love the self. By loving the self, fear gradually begins to
dissipate because the individual whose life is ruled by love and who has chosen
love as the primary benchmark for how he lives his life, is an individual for
whom fear – of dis-ease - no longer looms large as it does for the
person who has not yet made such choices.
I imagine you are inundated with advice for this new year that began
only a few hours ago and so I merely wish to leave you with several thoughts:
- Choosing love over fear
signifies that you view your life from the vantage point of goodness,
love, strength and hope, as well as peace, love and harmony, as opposed to
fear, competition, one-up-man-ship, and the need to prove that something
about you, your life or what you do is more right than that of another
individual.
- Choosing love over fear means
every situation always brings you to a win-win end result.
- Choosing love over fear as a modus
operandi for your life; a way to live your life will literally change everything
for you.
- Choosing love over fear will
also change the effect you have on all those whose lives you touch and so
YOU will actively - and most literally - contribute to change our world.
Choose love. Choose it for you, your loved ones, your neighbourhood,
your community, your nation and your world. We are all in this together and we
can all contribute to making this change. All it takes is all of us choosing love over fear.
Remember that we are all one and that what affects one of us, affects us all.
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