So: when thoughts are plaguing you, whether about something you fear, or something that causes great worry, pain, or grief, among other difficult emotions, here is a relatively simple recipe to follow that literally takes seconds:
- First acknowledge that continuing to think about the 'thing' in a vicious-circle type of way, i.e., ruminating about it, takes you no where. It does not resolve the issue or make it better. Proactive thinking might help or lead you to a solution, but that is, in fact, not what you are doing.
- Next, simply say to yourself - when the intrusive, worrisome, anxiety-producing, or painful thought next appears - ok, this is something I have not yet resolved. Nor do I know - at this time - how to resolve it. But just for now, and because I want to take good care of myself, instead of focusing on this thought, I am going to focus on something that will be able to create a small shift in my energy.
- Now look at something beautiful - preferably something in nature that is close at hand - perhaps the blue sky, or the refreshing rain, or the exquisite fir or palm, or listen to birdsong, or the sighing of the wind through the trees, or breathe in the scent of freshly-mown grass. Whatever is there.
- Notice that slight energetic shift in you as you focus on the beauty you see, smell, or hear (or touch, as in the velveteen petals of an African violet), and feel gratitude for its presence in your life just now.
- Notice that thanks to that slight energetic shift, you now feel a bit better.
- Get on with your day.
- It may happen - depending on the neural pathway already associated with the difficult thoughts and worries, pain, etc., that you have been focusing on this a great deal each day, ruminating, as said, in vicious-circle mode, and therefore the thoughts you had just moved to the outer edges of your consciousness are back in a matter of minutes.
- Above all, don't despair. This is a well-ingrained neural pathway, and all you need is a bit of patience (and some discipline) to change.
- Repeat steps #2 - #6.
- And continue repeating over and over again.
- That first day you may find that you have done this 187 times.
- It's always only seconds, so you are not actually using a lot of your time.
- But the second day it might only be 159 times.
- The third perhaps only 82 times
Doing this - so simple - is a choice. What are you choosing?
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