- I'm less good looking than that person
- I'll never get 'there'
- My father/mother/brother/sister ruined everything for me
- If only I had chosen to become this (professionally) instead of that
- I won't stop until I show so-and-so he/she should never have meddled with me!
- Why does nothing every turn out right?
- How will I ever pay for that?
- I wish I could do what he/she does
- This is too much for me
- I can't
- I'm not good enough
- I'm a failure
- I should have never tried to do this
You've probably heard of thinking positively all the time. You're probably tired of it. But consider this: look at the whole picture from another angle. When you have thoughts of the kind I've illustrated above, how much importance do you attach to them? Do you consider them important enough to weigh carefully, and spend time thinking about? You see, that is another reason why they bog you down. If you could shake them off and move elsewhere with your mind, the heavy mud with which they cover you would have nothing to cling to. You can choose to give them less importance, for one, by choosing to spend less time on them. This (as always) requires awareness, because you need to be conscious of these mud-heavy thoughts when they appear unbidden in your mind. Think of it as a bad habit that you can change. In order to change any habit, you need to be aware of the times you fall into it, and consciously choose to do/think something different. And at the same time you remove a great deal of the importance you give to those thoughts. Choose well every day in order to give your life a greater quality.
Also visit my book website: www.gabriellakortsch.com where you may download excerpts or read quotations from any of my books.
Books by Dr. Gabriella Kortsch:
Rewiring the Soul
Click here to download the first chapter.
To see the Table of Contents click here
Reviews From the Back Cover:
"The masterwork of a profoundly gifted healer of the soul. Dazzling, challenging, wondrously useful." Peggy Rubin, Director, Center for Sacred Theatre, Ashland, Oregon; author: To Be and How To Be, Transforming Your Life Through Sacred Theatre
"Rewiring the Soul is one the best introductions to the spiritual life I've ever read. Not esoteric but real-world & practical. The implications are profound." Peter Shepherd; Founder Trans4mind.com; author: Daring To Be Yourself
"The human being's directory to the soul. A breakthrough for those seeking practical assistance, those of a more mystical bent & every soul awaiting discovery." Toni Petrinovich, Ph.D.; author: The Call: Awakening the Angelic Human
The Tao of Spiritual PartnershipReviews From the Back Cover:
"The masterwork of a profoundly gifted healer of the soul. Dazzling, challenging, wondrously useful." Peggy Rubin, Director, Center for Sacred Theatre, Ashland, Oregon; author: To Be and How To Be, Transforming Your Life Through Sacred Theatre
"Rewiring the Soul is one the best introductions to the spiritual life I've ever read. Not esoteric but real-world & practical. The implications are profound." Peter Shepherd; Founder Trans4mind.com; author: Daring To Be Yourself
"The human being's directory to the soul. A breakthrough for those seeking practical assistance, those of a more mystical bent & every soul awaiting discovery." Toni Petrinovich, Ph.D.; author: The Call: Awakening the Angelic Human
To download the first chapter, click here
To see the Table of Contents click here
Praise for The Tao of Spiritual Partnership
“All humans seek the illusive touch of another's Soul, which opens us to the sense of belonging to something bigger than the self. Dr. Kortsch has given us the true "tao" of relationship in this brilliant exploration of emotional tapestry. We will be grateful for this illumination of spiritual partnership for generations to come."
Chris Griscom: Spiritual Leader, Author (among others) of: Ecstasy is a New Frequency
“Eloquent and comprehensive, showing how your primary love relationship may be a sacred vessel that transports you and your partner to a place of mutual healing and expansion.”
Robert Schwartz: Author of Your Soul’s Gift: The Healing Power of the Life You Planned Before You Were Born
The Power of Your Heart: Loving the Self
From the Introduction: It is your right to live a life of love. It is your right to understand that loving yourself first is not a selfish way of behavior, but one that allows you to live that life of love. However, it's highly probable that you never got the instruction manual explaining exactly how to accomplish this. Possibly your family - and it may have been a loving family - considered loving the self an act of selfishness. Or perhaps the members of your family simply didn't practice loving the self, and of course, what you didn't see - what was not shown to you - while you were growing up, meant that you just didn't learn how to apply it to yourself. The closer you are able to move towards loving yourself, the closer you will be to living a life of love - quite independently of whether you are in a love relationship or not. A life of love can be lived with or without a partnership, because a life of love implies that you know that it all begins with you by loving the self. The more clearly you understand how to love yourself, the more clearly you will see that it is very hard - if not impossible - to love others in ways that are unrelated to fulfilling any of your needs. Loving yourself first is - for so many of us - one of the hardest things we will ever learn how to do. But know this: the benefits affect you in every particle of your being - body, mind, and soul - and are greater than you will ever be able to imagine.
Emotional Unavailability & Neediness: Two Sides of the Same Coin (to be released Summer 2014)
My new book (due out summer 2014), deals with a very important subject. Neediness and emotional unavailability are two sides of the same coin because both are based on a lack of self love, a fear of love, and a fear of the hurt that love can engender due to the vulnerability that being in love generally evokes. A person may live out one side of the coin (neediness) in several relationships and then - in a new relationship - may find him or herself living out the other side of the coin (emotional unavailability).
Neither
of these tend to be deliberate because there is never anything consciously
deliberate about the way a defense mechanism arises in childhood. A man who
refuses to commit should not blithely be judged as being manipulative or
callous although on the surface he
may very well appear to be so. Furthermore, the older he gets, the more of a
history of this nature he acquires, and hence the more those who sit in
judgement reach the conclusion that they are right. The same could, of course,
be said about the emotionally unavailable woman. Another case in point: a woman
whose neediness may appear as emotionally manipulative (of her partner,
parents, children, or friends), generally also does not behave this way in a
deliberate fashion. The same could be said about the needy man.
Nevertheless
some individuals, who have used these defense mechanisms over many years, have
observed their effect on others, and so the emotionally unavailable man or
woman may have noticed that this behavior magically
attracts a certain kind of partner. Likewise, the needy man or woman will have
observed that certain individuals always seem to do their bidding, if the
neediness in expressed in emotionally manipulative ways.
This
book dissects the causes and solutions of these defense mechanisms, paving the
road - for those who wish to change the inner landscape of their emotional
constraints - to live and be able to love more freely.
Note: If you are wondering why this blog is now only appearing on alternate days (excluding Sat/Sun), it is because I also post on my other blog on the others days. That other blog is The Tao of Spiritual Partnership, so named for another one of my books. Click here to visit the blog and/or to sign up for the feed.
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