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"Rewiring the Soul is one the best introductions to the spiritual life I've ever read. Not esoteric but real-world and practical. The implications are profound." Peter Shepherd, author: Daring To Be Yourself

Wednesday, May 7, 2014

Being Miserable is a Habit

Not true, you say. Being miserable is no more a habit than being happy is. Both depend on circumstances at any given moment.

Not so.

We all make choices at every moment of every day. Choices about how we 'feel' about something; what we 'think' about something; how we 'react' to something; what we 'do' about something, and in the making of these choices, we reinforce either the habit of being miserable or the one of being happy.

The other day I had a social  meeting with an acquaintance. As she greeted me, she told me she simply had to tell me about the terrible thing that had just happened to her. When she finished with that - we were driving on our way to the restaurant - she pointed out the amount of garbage on the side of the street, and then immediately jumped to the topic of corrupt local politicians who did nothing to remedy these matters.

As you can imagine, I made myself think of a topic that she would have another kind of reaction to - in order to get the conversation back on track - a topic that had much more to do with ideas and how each of us can use some of these ideas in order to improve our lives on a daily basis. When we finally had coffee after finishing our meal, she mentioned how well she was feeling.


So I deliberately pointed out where she had been taking herself when we first met, with her conversation and thoughts, and how - had I not grabbed the reins, so to speak, of the conversaton, we would have wound up being miserable, or at least, not very well. I made the choice to preempt her thought-wave and got us on another track. It was Tom Hopkin who said: being miserable is a habit. Being happy is a habit. The choice is yours.

And it was Eleanor Roosevelt who said great minds discuss ideas, average minds discuss events, and small minds discuss people. 

Choose well, as you go through your day, every day, all your life. It's your choice.

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Books by Dr. Gabriella Kortsch:

Rewiring the Soul

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"The masterwork of a profoundly gifted healer of the soul. Dazzling, challenging, wondrously useful." Peggy Rubin, Director, Center for Sacred Theatre, Ashland, Oregon; author: To Be and How To Be, Transforming Your Life Through Sacred Theatre

"Rewiring the Soul is one the best introductions to the spiritual life I've ever read. Not esoteric but real-world & practical. The implications are profound." Peter Shepherd; Founder Trans4mind.com; author: Daring To Be Yourself 

"The human being's directory to the soul. A breakthrough for those seeking practical assistance, those of a more mystical bent & every soul awaiting discovery." Toni Petrinovich, Ph.D.; author: The Call: Awakening the Angelic Human

The Tao of Spiritual Partnership

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“All humans seek the illusive touch of another's Soul, which opens us to the sense of belonging to something bigger than the self. Dr. Kortsch has given us the true "tao" of relationship in this brilliant exploration of emotional tapestry. We will be grateful for this illumination of spiritual partnership for generations to come."
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The Power of Your Heart: Loving the Self 

My new book: The Power of Your Heart: Loving the Self, is just out. Click here to download an excerpt. 

From the Introduction: It is your right to live a life of love. It is your right to understand that loving yourself first is not a selfish way of behavior, but one that allows you to live that life of love. However, it's highly probable that you never got the instruction manual explaining exactly how to accomplish this. Possibly your family - and it may have been a loving family - considered loving the self an act of selfishness. Or perhaps the members of your family simply didn't practice loving the self, and of course, what you didn't see - what was not shown to you - while you were growing up, meant that you just didn't learn how to apply it to yourself. The closer you are able to move towards loving yourself, the closer you will be to living a life of love - quite independently of whether you are in a love relationship or not. A life of love can be lived with or without a partnership, because a life of love implies that you know that it all begins with you by loving the self. The more clearly you understand how to love yourself, the more clearly you will see that it is very hard - if not impossible - to love others in ways that are unrelated to fulfilling any of your needs. Loving yourself first is - for so many of us - one of the hardest things we will ever learn how to do. But know this: the benefits affect you in every particle of your being - body, mind, and soul - and are greater than you will ever be able to imagine.

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