"A revelation of insight into the foundations of human suffering & transcendence. It not only lays out essential steps for inner freedom and joy but illuminates the way to true human potential." Paul Rademacher, author: A Spiritual Hitchhiker's Guide to the Universe

"The masterwork of a profoundly gifted healer of the soul. Dazzling, challenging, wondrously useful." Peggy Rubin, author: To Be and How To Be, Transforming Your Life Through Sacred Theatre

"Rewiring the Soul is one the best introductions to the spiritual life I've ever read. Not esoteric but real-world and practical. The implications are profound." Peter Shepherd, author: Daring To Be Yourself

Wednesday, April 2, 2014

Distinguishing Between What is Important & Your Ego

That's a very long title for a very simple concept.

June is fast approaching and many young people will be graduating, whether from high school, from university, or from some graduate school. Obviously proud, they want their parents to attend. And proud parents - logically - also want to attend.

So what happens when the parents have separated or divorced and are at war with one another? Even if many years have passed since the divorce? How do they overcome their dislike, hatred, or desire for revenge about the other partner in order to ensure peace and harmony at this graduation?

Forgive each other, you say? Yes. That would be the ideal solution. And in the long term, the one I'd propose. But here we are, not too long before the graduation, and something has to be done in order to make it work, and the parents who are at war with each (whether they have new partners or not), are not yet at a place in their lives where they can even consider forgiving each other because they continue to blame each other. Or perhaps one blames and the other one has forgiven, but either way, it will create a difficult atmosphere for the son or daughter that is graduating (no matter how young or old they are), instead of allowing them to enjoy this day the way they should with no concerns about how their parents will behave in each other's company (even if there is no question of anyone getting aggressive, but merely the fact that there will be iciness between the two, or that they will attempt to ignore each other, or make the other feel bad or slighted, or whatever).

So: back to our title. How does one distinguish between what is important and what is your ego? It's always your ego if it has to do with proving how right you are about something. Simple. So what is important? That your son or daughter has a good day. In peace. Calmly, with no worries about your or your ex-spouse. Allow love to be your motivating force as opposed to your ego. Period.

And that is something you can agree to accomplish even if you are not yet ready to free yourself of this entire burden and forgive.

Also visit my new website: www.gabriellakortsch.com where you may download excerpts or read quotations from any of my books.

Books by Dr. Gabriella Kortsch:
Rewiring the Soul

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To see the Table of Contents click here

Reviews From the Back Cover:

"The masterwork of a profoundly gifted healer of the soul. Dazzling, challenging, wondrously useful." Peggy Rubin, Director, Center for Sacred Theatre, Ashland, Oregon; author: To Be and How To Be, Transforming Your Life Through Sacred Theatre

"Rewiring the Soul is one the best introductions to the spiritual life I've ever read. Not esoteric but real-world & practical. The implications are profound." Peter Shepherd; Founder Trans4mind.com; author: Daring To Be Yourself 

"The human being's directory to the soul. A breakthrough for those seeking practical assistance, those of a more mystical bent & every soul awaiting discovery." Toni Petrinovich, Ph.D.; author: The Call: Awakening the Angelic Human

The Tao of Spiritual Partnership

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Praise for The Tao of Spiritual Partnership

“All humans seek the illusive touch of another's Soul, which opens us to the sense of belonging to something bigger than the self. Dr. Kortsch has given us the true "tao" of relationship in this brilliant exploration of emotional tapestry. We will be grateful for this illumination of spiritual partnership for generations to come."
Chris Griscom: Spiritual Leader, Author (among others) of: Ecstasy is a New Frequency

“Eloquent and comprehensive, showing how your primary love relationship may be a sacred vessel that transports you and your partner to a place of mutual healing and expansion.” 

Robert Schwartz: Author of Your Soul’s Gift: The Healing Power of the Life You Planned Before You Were Born 

The Power of Your Heart: Loving the Self 

My new book: The Power of Your Heart: Loving the Self, is just out. Click here to download an excerpt. 
Here is a brief excerpt from the Introduction:

It is your right to live a life of love. It is your right to understand that loving yourself first is not a selfish way of behavior, but one that allows you to live that life of love. However, it's highly probable that you never got the instruction manual explaining exactly how to accomplish this. Possibly your family - and it may have been a loving family - considered loving the self an act of selfishness. Or perhaps the members of your family simply didn't practice loving the self, and of course, what you didn't see - what was not shown to you - while you were growing up, meant that you just didn't learn how to apply it to yourself. The closer you are able to move towards loving yourself, the closer you will be to living a life of love - quite independently of whether you are in a love relationship or not. A life of love can be lived with or without a partnership, because a life of love implies that you know that it all begins with you by loving the self. The more clearly you understand how to love yourself, the more clearly you will see that it is very hard - if not impossible - to love others in ways that are unrelated to fulfilling any of your needs. Loving yourself first is - for so many of us - one of the hardest things we will ever learn how to do. But know this: the benefits affect you in every particle of your being - body, mind, and soul - and are greater than you will ever be able to imagine.

Note: If you are wondering why this blog is now only appearing on alternate days (excluding Sat/Sun), it is because I also post on my other blog on the others days. That other blog is The Tao of Spiritual Partnership, so named for another one of my books. Click here to visit the blog and/or to sign up for the feed.

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