"A revelation of insight into the foundations of human suffering & transcendence. It not only lays out essential steps for inner freedom and joy but illuminates the way to true human potential." Paul Rademacher, author: A Spiritual Hitchhiker's Guide to the Universe

"The masterwork of a profoundly gifted healer of the soul. Dazzling, challenging, wondrously useful." Peggy Rubin, author: To Be and How To Be, Transforming Your Life Through Sacred Theatre

"Rewiring the Soul is one the best introductions to the spiritual life I've ever read. Not esoteric but real-world and practical. The implications are profound." Peter Shepherd, author: Daring To Be Yourself

Tuesday, March 25, 2014

The Truth You Tell Yourself

You might be surprised to discover how much we hide the truth from ourselves. And you'd be surprised, precisely because you may be doing it as well. It's not a question of being dense, or not particularly intelligent, but of not being totally aware, not only of the self, but also of others, or situations that surround us. If we were more aware, we would recognize more truth, and then - quite simply - would lie less to ourselves.

Some examples:
  • I have such a marvelous relationship with my adult children (when in fact, they - your adult children - feel highly uncomfortable in your presence, and continually avoid subjects that cause potential strife, which means that your fields of conversation are becoming more and more narrow, and tend to be purely chosen by you).
  • My staff and I are on excellent terms: look at the results from the last quarter. They work so hard because they know we are all in this together (when in fact, they - your staff - live in trepidation of your autocratic rule, but desperately need their jobs, and hence never say a word that might make you think they are less than totally dedicated to your firm).
  • We have a wonderful time with my writing group / golf club / bridge club / classmates, etc.; we get along so well (when in fact, they - the other members of the group - avoid you as much as possible except during group times: you are never invited along on excursions, or to parties, and there is always some plausible excuse, but the fact is, they eschew your company).
  • I know myself so well ... I really don't need any advice from others - indeed, I'm the one who gives advice to others in my life, because I've read so many books and gone to so many workshops and seminars (when in fact, some of the above points (or similar situations) form part of your life, and you have not recognized it).
So what, exactly, is going on? It's back to the issue of being conscious; of being aware. Of yourself. Of what surrounds you. Conscious awareness means questioning things. So if you are the only one calling your adult kids (they rarely call you to chat), or if you notice that they don't really participate in conversations, other than with non-committals, but you write it off as their overwhelming interest in what you are saying, or if you only ever receive 'yes' answers from your staff, and never any challenging questions, or if you pay attention to the fact that you're not being invited to the other events your 'group' organizes, and ask yourself why, not from the position of blaming them, but from that of asking yourself about yourself, so if these things are happening, and you are closing your eyes to them, or deliberately ignoring the information they are giving you on other levels than the purely obvious, then of course, the truth you are telling yourself is, in fact, NOT the truth!

Writing a short post like this is evidently quite limiting. I've neither given all possible scenarios (not could I), nor all possible solutions. But what I am, in fact, aiming for, is to open your eyes - if any of this applies to you at all, even if only in some oblique fashion - so that you can begin to look differently, hear differently, assimilate differently, and hence react differently. Your truth about yourself may need a revision. And change leads to growth.

Also visit my new website: www.gabriellakortsch.com where you may download excerpts or read quotations from any of my books.

Books by Dr. Gabriella Kortsch:
Rewiring the Soul

Click here to download the first chapter.
To see the Table of Contents click here

Reviews From the Back Cover:

"The masterwork of a profoundly gifted healer of the soul. Dazzling, challenging, wondrously useful." Peggy Rubin, Director, Center for Sacred Theatre, Ashland, Oregon; author: To Be and How To Be, Transforming Your Life Through Sacred Theatre

"Rewiring the Soul is one the best introductions to the spiritual life I've ever read. Not esoteric but real-world & practical. The implications are profound." Peter Shepherd; Founder Trans4mind.com; author: Daring To Be Yourself 

"The human being's directory to the soul. A breakthrough for those seeking practical assistance, those of a more mystical bent & every soul awaiting discovery." Toni Petrinovich, Ph.D.; author: The Call: Awakening the Angelic Human

The Tao of Spiritual Partnership

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To see the Table of Contents click here

Praise for The Tao of Spiritual Partnership

“All humans seek the illusive touch of another's Soul, which opens us to the sense of belonging to something bigger than the self. Dr. Kortsch has given us the true "tao" of relationship in this brilliant exploration of emotional tapestry. We will be grateful for this illumination of spiritual partnership for generations to come."
Chris Griscom: Spiritual Leader, Author (among others) of: Ecstasy is a New Frequency

“Eloquent and comprehensive, showing how your primary love relationship may be a sacred vessel that transports you and your partner to a place of mutual healing and expansion.” 

Robert Schwartz: Author of Your Soul’s Gift: The Healing Power of the Life You Planned Before You Were Born 

The Power of Your Heart: Loving the Self 

My new book: The Power of Your Heart: Loving the Self, is just out. Click here to download an excerpt. 
Here is a brief excerpt from the Introduction:

It is your right to live a life of love. It is your right to understand that loving yourself first is not a selfish way of behavior, but one that allows you to live that life of love. However, it's highly probable that you never got the instruction manual explaining exactly how to accomplish this. Possibly your family - and it may have been a loving family - considered loving the self an act of selfishness. Or perhaps the members of your family simply didn't practice loving the self, and of course, what you didn't see - what was not shown to you - while you were growing up, meant that you just didn't learn how to apply it to yourself. The closer you are able to move towards loving yourself, the closer you will be to living a life of love - quite independently of whether you are in a love relationship or not. A life of love can be lived with or without a partnership, because a life of love implies that you know that it all begins with you by loving the self. The more clearly you understand how to love yourself, the more clearly you will see that it is very hard - if not impossible - to love others in ways that are unrelated to fulfilling any of your needs. Loving yourself first is - for so many of us - one of the hardest things we will ever learn how to do. But know this: the benefits affect you in every particle of your being - body, mind, and soul - and are greater than you will ever be able to imagine.

Note: If you are wondering why this blog is now only appearing on alternate days (excluding Sat/Sun), it is because I also post on my other blog on the others days. That other blog is The Tao of Spiritual Partnership, so named for another one of my books. Click here to visit the blog and/or to sign up for the feed.

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