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"Rewiring the Soul is one the best introductions to the spiritual life I've ever read. Not esoteric but real-world and practical. The implications are profound." Peter Shepherd, author: Daring To Be Yourself

Tuesday, March 4, 2014

Choose People You Pay Attention to with Care

Do you have any of the following people in your life:
  • the ones who call you to tell you about the latest thing that will cause cancer
  • those who insist that the world is getting worse every day
  • the ones who see dark, ugly things where all you are seeing is beauty
  • those who - from their spiritual or religious point of view - talk about bad karma, sin, or damnation
  • the ones who tell you it will be very hard for your project to get off the ground
  • those who seem much more interested when you fail at something than when you are successful
  • the ones who have little good to say about others
  • those who despair of their lives ever getting better
The list could go on and on. My point is this: while it is true that there may be ever more things that will cause cancer, and that indeed, if you watch the morning news, it appears that the world is slowly going mad, and yes, over there, in the middle of that beautiful field of flowers there is a huge pile of rotting garbage, and of course, if you do someone a bad turn, it might indeed follow that you will get your come-uppance, and yes, there are definitely people about whom one could - if one so chose - say only negative things, and clearly, there are individuals who have experienced such tragedy in their lives, that it may seem there will never be a light at the end of the tunnel, nevertheless - by listening to the people in your life who talk like this, you will get dragged down into their darkness.

Is that what you want?

Not wanting to go there, and hence choosing to spend your time with another kind of individual who looks at the world with eyes that add something beautiful to your own life and thinking and seeing, is akin to eating healthy food, deliberately chosen over junk or processed food, and is most definitely not Polyanna thinking. Rather, this is taking good care of yourself. It's loving yourself enough to make good choices when it comes to the people in your life. And it's making good choices about where you focus your attention when you are with those people. Rumi said: ignore those that make you fearful and sad, that degrade you back towards disease and death.

I know someone will object to this by saying that we need to be kind to our fellow man; that if we leave the people I described in the beginning of today's post to their own negative plight, we are forsaking someone to whom we should be a good Samaritan. I totally agree. But only up to a point. Here we verge into the topic of boundaries, you see. How long and how many times must you listen to the negative litany? Have you noticed that when you try to point out the positive, or some alternative for your friend to focus on, you are often faced with that 'yes, but' reply? Yes, but I simply can't look at the flowers, it makes me too sad because things (in my life/in the world) are so awful. Or: Yes, I know I would be better off not thinking about cancer, but it's so frightening. Or: Yes, I know there are also good things happening in the world, but the bad ones are all over TV, so I can't avoid seeing them all the time. And so on. So somewhere in there you must make some choices for yourself. 

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Books by Dr. Gabriella Kortsch:
Rewiring the Soul

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Reviews From the Back Cover:

"The masterwork of a profoundly gifted healer of the soul. Dazzling, challenging, wondrously useful." Peggy Rubin, Director, Center for Sacred Theatre, Ashland, Oregon; author: To Be and How To Be, Transforming Your Life Through Sacred Theatre

"Rewiring the Soul is one the best introductions to the spiritual life I've ever read. Not esoteric but real-world & practical. The implications are profound." Peter Shepherd; Founder Trans4mind.com; author: Daring To Be Yourself 

"The human being's directory to the soul. A breakthrough for those seeking practical assistance, those of a more mystical bent & every soul awaiting discovery." Toni Petrinovich, Ph.D.; author: The Call: Awakening the Angelic Human

The Tao of Spiritual Partnership

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Praise for The Tao of Spiritual Partnership

“All humans seek the illusive touch of another's Soul, which opens us to the sense of belonging to something bigger than the self. Dr. Kortsch has given us the true "tao" of relationship in this brilliant exploration of emotional tapestry. We will be grateful for this illumination of spiritual partnership for generations to come."
Chris Griscom: Spiritual Leader, Author (among others) of: Ecstasy is a New Frequency

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Robert Schwartz: Author of Your Soul’s Gift: The Healing Power of the Life You Planned Before You Were Born 

The Power of Your Heart: Loving the Self 

My new book: The Power of Your Heart: Loving the Self, is just out. Click here to download an excerpt. 
Here is a brief excerpt from the Introduction:

It is your right to live a life of love. It is your right to understand that loving yourself first is not a selfish way of behavior, but one that allows you to live that life of love. However, it's highly probable that you never got the instruction manual explaining exactly how to accomplish this. Possibly your family - and it may have been a loving family - considered loving the self an act of selfishness. Or perhaps the members of your family simply didn't practice loving the self, and of course, what you didn't see - what was not shown to you - while you were growing up, meant that you just didn't learn how to apply it to yourself. The closer you are able to move towards loving yourself, the closer you will be to living a life of love - quite independently of whether you are in a love relationship or not. A life of love can be lived with or without a partnership, because a life of love implies that you know that it all begins with you by loving the self. The more clearly you understand how to love yourself, the more clearly you will see that it is very hard - if not impossible - to love others in ways that are unrelated to fulfilling any of your needs. Loving yourself first is - for so many of us - one of the hardest things we will ever learn how to do. But know this: the benefits affect you in every particle of your being - body, mind, and soul - and are greater than you will ever be able to imagine.

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