What
prevails in your life? Is it love? Or is it fear? If love is stronger you will
know it immediately because in general, your life holds a measure of well-being
and peace that - should your life be ruled by fear - you will not be
tremendously well acquainted with.
Being ruled
by fear necessitates a negative charge to daily life. It means - in simple
terms - that you are not confident that you will be fine no matter what occurs.
In other words, you are fearful of some things happening, essentially because
you believe - you fear - that if they happen, you will suffer. Exactly what
those events are that you fear may vary from person to person to such a degree
that what John fears most is something that Simon does not fear at all, and yet
what Simon fears, is something that John considers a simple challenge that can
easily be surmounted. Living a life where at some point - most likely some
subconscious point - you chose fear over love does not mean that you are a coward or a wimp. This is not about
courage. It is about understanding some elementary aspects about the goodness
of life and about believing in the self the way one does when one has
established a relationship with the self. And you only ever do that if you have
begun the process of loving the self.
The fact of
the matter is that those things that we fear - as long as we continue to fear -
can never be fully enumerated, because we have no way of knowing what we may
have to face at the next turn of the road. Fear - in this sense - implies
wishing to control that which we may
encounter, and as said, it is never possible to control everything that we might encounter, because we simply don't
know what we will encounter at any
given time.
At this
point the choice for love and trust in the self may - if we are conscious
enough - enter the equation.
Love has to
do with confidence, with caring for the self and with knowing that because you
care for the self, you are able to handle things as they arise in your life -
even when those things are difficult or
painful. More than anything, above all, and in the very first instance,
choosing love has to do with loving the
self and because of this love having the firm inner conviction that you can
deal with any of the cards that life throws you. That does not mean, by the
way, that you will always win or always be successful, or always get what you
want. It simply means that no matter what happens, you will be able to deal
with it in such a way that your inner well being remains on an even keel. Even
if you are Nelson Mandela and spending 27 years locked up in Robben Island, and
even if you are Victor Frankl imprisoned in Auschwitz, or even if you are Aimée
Mullens and had both legs amputated when you were five.
This inner
conviction does not come about just in an instance. Let's say you have lived
your life driven by fear to this point. You've attempted - often unsuccessfully
- to exert a measure of control over those outer circumstances that threaten to
throw your well-being off center. You are ruled - to a degree - by the
subliminal fear or knowledge that you are not able to control your life, and
hence you don't know how you will be
if something bad happens.
This inner conviction does not come about just in an
instance. Let's say you have lived your life driven by fear to this point.
You've attempted - often unsuccessfully - to exert a measure of control over
those outer circumstances that threaten to throw your well-being off center.
You are ruled - to a degree - by the subliminal fear or knowledge that you are
not able to control your life, and hence you don't know how you will be
if something bad happens. You don´t know if you will be able to deal with, or
even bear the circumstances - whatever they may be. This creates – if
not outright fear, since fear is such a strong emotion – at least a continual
sensation of discomfort in your skin, so to speak. Something about you,
concerning your life and the way you live does not feel at ease.
The process of moving from a fear-ruled life in the
sense described above to a love-ruled life always begins with the recognition
of the need to learn how to love the self. By loving the self, fear gradually
begins to dissipate because the individual whose life is ruled by love and who
has chosen love as the primary benchmark for how he lives his life, is an
individual for whom fear – of dis-ease - no longer looms large as it
does for the person who has not yet made such choices.
I imagine you are inundated with advice for this new
year that began only a few hours ago and so I merely wish to leave you with
several thoughts:
- Choosing
love over fear signifies that you view your life from the vantage point of
goodness, love, strength and hope, as well as peace, love and harmony, as
opposed to fear, competition, one-up-man-ship, and the need to prove that
something about you, your life or what you do is more right than that of
another individual.
- Choosing
love over fear means every situation always brings you to a win-win
end result.
- Choosing
love over fear as a modus operandi for your life; a way to live
your life will literally change everything for you.
- Choosing
love over fear will also change the effect you have on all those whose
lives you touch and so YOU will actively - and most literally - contribute
to change our world.
Choose love. Choose it for you, your loved ones, your
neighbourhood, your community, your nation and your world. We are all in this
together and we can all contribute to making this change. All it takes is all of us choosing love over fear.
Remember that we are all one and that what affects one of us, affects us all.
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Rewiring the Soul
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The Tao of Spiritual PartnershipReviews From the Back Cover:
"The masterwork of a profoundly gifted healer of the soul. Dazzling, challenging, wondrously useful." Peggy Rubin, Director, Center for Sacred Theatre, Ashland, Oregon; author: To Be and How To Be, Transforming Your Life Through Sacred Theatre
"Rewiring the Soul is one the best introductions to the spiritual life I've ever read. Not esoteric but real-world & practical. The implications are profound." Peter Shepherd; Founder Trans4mind.com; author: Daring To Be Yourself
"The human being's directory to the soul. A breakthrough for those seeking practical assistance, those of a more mystical bent & every soul awaiting discovery." Toni Petrinovich, Ph.D.; author: The Call: Awakening the Angelic Human
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“All humans seek the illusive touch of another's Soul, which opens us to the sense of belonging to something bigger than the self. Dr. Kortsch has given us the true "tao" of relationship in this brilliant exploration of emotional tapestry. We will be grateful for this illumination of spiritual partnership for generations to come."
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The Power of Your Heart: Loving the Self
Here is a brief excerpt from the Introduction:
It is your right to live a life of love. It is your right to understand that loving yourself first is not a selfish way of behavior, but one that allows you to live that life of love. However, it's highly probable that you never got the instruction manual explaining exactly how to accomplish this. Possibly your family - and it may have been a loving family - considered loving the self an act of selfishness. Or perhaps the members of your family simply didn't practice loving the self, and of course, what you didn't see - what was not shown to you - while you were growing up, meant that you just didn't learn how to apply it to yourself. The closer you are able to move towards loving yourself, the closer you will be to living a life of love - quite independently of whether you are in a love relationship or not. A life of love can be lived with or without a partnership, because a life of love implies that you know that it all begins with you by loving the self. The more clearly you understand how to love yourself, the more clearly you will see that it is very hard - if not impossible - to love others in ways that are unrelated to fulfilling any of your needs. Loving yourself first is - for so many of us - one of the hardest things we will ever learn how to do. But know this: the benefits affect you in every particle of your being - body, mind, and soul - and are greater than you will ever be able to imagine.
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