"A revelation of insight into the foundations of human suffering & transcendence. It not only lays out essential steps for inner freedom and joy but illuminates the way to true human potential." Paul Rademacher, author: A Spiritual Hitchhiker's Guide to the Universe

"The masterwork of a profoundly gifted healer of the soul. Dazzling, challenging, wondrously useful." Peggy Rubin, author: To Be and How To Be, Transforming Your Life Through Sacred Theatre

"Rewiring the Soul is one the best introductions to the spiritual life I've ever read. Not esoteric but real-world and practical. The implications are profound." Peter Shepherd, author: Daring To Be Yourself

Wednesday, October 9, 2013

Remembering to Remember

Being conscious and aware of yourself is truly a full-time job (see the article by this name on my website on the 'Articles' page), but it's really about remembering to remember to be conscious. You may have read a book or two, or heard someone speak about this very subject, and you may therefore have realized how important it is for you to begin the process of being conscious and aware of yourself. But you keep forgetting. Hours go by, and you suddenly remember, but then days go by before you remember again. Doing it like that will mean that it will be a very slow process indeed.

So what can you do to remember more frequently?

I believe there are two easy mechanisms to use: the first has to do with setting up reminders that will be all around you during that early time where you are attempting to acquire the habit of awareness, and the second has to do with practicing some simple exercise that serve to do the same, although they are apparently different.
  1. Put up some post it's around your house (bathroom mirror, bedroom mirror, refrigerator, computer or tablet monitor, etc.). Write something on those post it's that will help you remember to remember to be aware and conscious. For example: write a favorite brief quotation and then you will know that each time you look at that quotation, you are meant to be reminded to be aware. Or literally write on the post it's: 'remember to be aware', or 'what are you thinking?', or 'what are you feeling?'.
  2. Take a mindfulness walk every day (for an explanation see A Daily 15-Minute Relaxation) which will quickly begin to change some of the neural pathways in your pre-frontal cortex that will help you remain conscious and aware. Being mindful literally means being present, being in the moment, and the only way you can be present and in the moment is by being aware.
  3. Make a habit of seeing beauty in your surroundings: the beauty in nature, the beauty in elements of your home, etc. Deliberately and consciously use this whenever you are feeling anything negative. Focus on the thing of beauty, feel gratitude for its presence in your life at that moment, and notice a slight shift in your inner state, even if only for a moment. That slight shift came, because for a moment you were focused on the present, on the now, as opposed to stress, worry, or pain about your past or future. Doing this on a regular basis, as often as you can, will also help change those neural pathways discussed in the last point, in order to help you remain aware and conscious.
Remember to remember. It's up to you. As everything else, it's a choice.

Image: La Digue Beach, Seychelles

For more about living with greater awareness each and every day, and about the self-transformational process - both in your outer life in the world, and in your inner life with your connection to your inner, divine self, have a look at my book Rewiring the Soul: Finding the Possible Self (paperback or e-book).

To download the first chapter, click here
To see the Table of Contents click here

From the Description on Amazon: Ask anyone, whatever their circumstances, if their life is vibrant, fulfilling, harmonious and happy. An honest reply is likely to be 'no', because to answer a truthful 'yes' is no mean feat. Only to grow psychologically and emotionally is not enough. And only to grow spiritually is not enough either. All three dimensions need to be developed in order to realize your full potential. If you are willing to assume total responsibility for the self and to start what is an on-going journey, you will quickly begin to glimpse the first fruits of the ultimate goal: inner well-being, freedom, peace, harmony and joy. This book sets out the pathway to self-mastery and self-discovery and walking that pathway will be the most exciting adventure of your life.


The Tao of Spiritual Partnership: Background Music in Daily Life That Can Enhance Your Growth

The Tao of Spiritual Partnership is also available in print and Kindle formats.

To download the first chapter, click here
To see the Table of Contents click here

From the Description on Amazon: More exciting than any other kind of relationship you have ever known, spiritual partnership is a path, a Tao, available to you so that you may transform your life. Spiritual partnership becomes background music to daily life allowing you to enhance the process of your growth and evolution.

This ground-breaking book addresses:

• relationship patterns that hold you back from a truly fulfilled life
• the strong connection between sexuality and spiritual partnership
• communication leading to true connection & lasting transformation of your relationship

It is precisely at the problematic crossroads so often encountered in relationships that we are offered the opportunity to create a new foundation based on mutual complementarity rather than need; a free relationship between two people who want to be together, rather than two people who need to be together. Needing another, we are told, is the measure of love, but for a fully conscious individual nothing could be further from the truth. And therein lies part of the secret and healing power of spiritual partnerships. 

Praise for The Tao of Spiritual Partnership 

“All humans seek the illusive touch of another's Soul, which opens us to the sense of belonging to something bigger than the self. Dr. Kortsch has given us the true "tao" of relationship in this brilliant exploration of emotional tapestry. We will be grateful for this illumination of spiritual partnership for generations to come." 
Chris Griscom: Spiritual Leader, Author 

“Eloquently and comprehensive, showing how your primary love relationship may be a sacred vessel that transports you and your partner to a place of mutual healing and expansion.” 

Robert Schwartz: Author of Your Soul’s Gift: The Healing Power of the Life You Planned Before You Were Born 


The Power of Your Heart: Loving the Self

My new book: The Power of Your Heart: Loving the Self, is due out later this year. Here is a brief excerpt from the Introduction:

It is your right to live a life of love. It is your right to understand that loving yourself first is not a selfish way of behavior, but one that allows you to live that life of love. However, it's highly probable that you never got the instruction manual explaining exactly how to accomplish this. Possibly your family - and it may have been a loving family - considered loving the self an act of selfishness. Or perhaps the members of your family simply didn't practice loving the self, and of course, what you didn't see - what was not shown to you - while you were growing up, meant that you just didn't learn how to apply it to yourself. The closer you are able to move towards loving yourself, the closer you will be to living a life of love - quite independently of whether you are in a love relationship or not. A life of love can be lived with or without a partnership, because a life of love implies that you know that it all begins with you by loving the self. The more clearly you understand how to love yourself, the more clearly you will see that it is very hard - if not impossible - to love others in ways that are unrelated to fulfilling any of your needs. Loving yourself first is - for so many of us - one of the hardest things we will ever learn how to do. But know this: the benefits affect you in every particle of your being - body, mind, and soul - and are greater than you will ever be able to imagine.

Note: If you are wondering why this blog is now only appearing on alternate days (excluding Sat/Sun), it is because I also post on my other blog on the others days. That other blog is The Tao of Spiritual Partnership, so named for my new book. Click here to visit the blog and/or to sign up for the feed.

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