"A revelation of insight into the foundations of human suffering & transcendence. It not only lays out essential steps for inner freedom and joy but illuminates the way to true human potential." Paul Rademacher, author: A Spiritual Hitchhiker's Guide to the Universe

"The masterwork of a profoundly gifted healer of the soul. Dazzling, challenging, wondrously useful." Peggy Rubin, author: To Be and How To Be, Transforming Your Life Through Sacred Theatre

"Rewiring the Soul is one the best introductions to the spiritual life I've ever read. Not esoteric but real-world and practical. The implications are profound." Peter Shepherd, author: Daring To Be Yourself

Friday, August 30, 2013

Fearing Mistakes

How often have you not done something because you are afraid you will make a mistake? Perhaps you've been learning a new language and simply don't practice speaking it because of those fears. Or perhaps you've been practicing a Tchaikovsky concerto (you know you're reaching very high, but that's what you wanted to learn), and now you are afraid to play it for friends because you might make a mistake. What about trying out that new French recipe for bouillabaisse? What happens if it doesn't turn out right? What will your dinner guests think? You've been taking tennis lessons and yesterday a friend who's been playing tennis for decades invited you to play on the weekend. You're considering fabricating an excuse because you know you'll make a mistake and how will that look?

Maybe none of these examples apply to you. But what happens when business, money, and your professional reputation is at stake? A wonderful young woman just completed a book and is now full of trepidation about potential mistakes in it - not syntax - but the ideas, the thoughts, and hence is very concerned that this might affect her reputation negatively. A businessman wants to move into less corporate work as a naturopath, but fears it might be a mistake because he doesn't know if he can make a success of it.

Do you see that much of our fear about making mistakes has to do with how we will look in the eyes of others? Do you see how little of our fear has to do with how much we really want to do whatever it is? Joseph Campbell, who had much to say about being the hero of your own journey (your own life), also said: follow your bliss and the universe will open doors where there were only walls. But this only works if you commit. (And let me tell you that the first time I read that, many decades ago, I had to wrap my head around it, because my initial impression was that the man was addressing only those who lived in their dreams). Even before Campbell wrote those words, Goethe (or words attributed to Goethe via a translation to English of his opus Faust) wrote: whatever you can do or dream you can, begin it. Boldness has genius, power and magic in it.

Dreams, bliss, open doors, boldness, and genius. Those are the places to take your thoughts when you feel the fear of making mistakes overcome you. Where would the world have been if Columbus had feared being mistaken in his belief that there was a world beyond the water? Where would the world be if astronauts had feared they themselves, as well as the scientists and engineers were mistaken about space ships being able to reach the moon? There are endless examples of this type. In your own personal life - which may not affect discovering new worlds or reaching the moon - it nevertheless means that potential horizons that you have not yet reached will forever remain hidden to you. Don't fear mistakes: welcome their possible lessons and reach as far you dare, and then make certain you have even further horizons to reach for, once that first one has been attained!

Image: Moon through North Window Arches, National Park, Utah by Lynn Sessions

For more about believing in the richness of your dreams and staying on track despite your fears, and how awareness about this can move you into a life of greater inner peace, well-being, and joy, have a look at my book Rewiring the Soul: Finding the Possible Self (paperback or Kindle).

To download the first chapter, click here
To see the Table of Contents click here

Reviews From the Back Cover:

"The masterwork of a profoundly gifted healer of the soul. Dazzling, challenging, wondrously useful." Peggy Rubin, Director, Center for Sacred Theatre, Ashland, Oregon; author: To Be and How To Be, Transforming Your Life Through Sacred Theatre

"Rewiring the Soul is one the best introductions to the spiritual life I've ever read. Not esoteric but real-world & practical. The implications are profound." Peter Shepherd; Founder Trans4mind.com; author: Daring To Be Yourself 

"The human being's directory to the soul. A breakthrough for those seeking practical assistance, those of a more mystical bent & every soul awaiting discovery." Toni Petrinovich, Ph.D.; author: The Call: Awakening the Angelic Human


The Tao of Spiritual Partnership: Background Music in Daily Life That Can Enhance Your Growth

The Tao of Spiritual Partnership is also available in print and Kindle formats.

To download the first chapter, click here
To see the Table of Contents click here

From the Description on Amazon: More exciting than any other kind of relationship you have ever known, spiritual partnership is a path, a Tao, available to you so that you may transform your life. Spiritual partnership becomes background music to daily life allowing you to enhance the process of your growth and evolution.

This ground-breaking book addresses:

• relationship patterns that hold you back from a truly fulfilled life
• the strong connection between sexuality and spiritual partnership
• communication leading to true connection & lasting transformation of your relationship

It is precisely at the problematic crossroads so often encountered in relationships that we are offered the opportunity to create a new foundation based on mutual complementarity rather than need; a free relationship between two people who want to be together, rather than two people who need to be together. Needing another, we are told, is the measure of love, but for a fully conscious individual nothing could be further from the truth. And therein lies part of the secret and healing power of spiritual partnerships. 

Praise for The Tao of Spiritual Partnership 

“All humans seek the illusive touch of another's Soul, which opens us to the sense of belonging to something bigger than the self. Dr. Kortsch has given us the true "tao" of relationship in this brilliant exploration of emotional tapestry. We will be grateful for this illumination of spiritual partnership for generations to come." 
Chris Griscom: Spiritual Leader, Author 

“Eloquently and comprehensive, showing how your primary love relationship may be a sacred vessel that transports you and your partner to a place of mutual healing and expansion.” 

Robert Schwartz: Author of Your Soul’s Gift: The Healing Power of the Life You Planned Before You Were Born 


The Power of Your Heart: Loving the Self

My new book: The Power of Your Heart: Loving the Self, is due out later this year. Here is a brief excerpt from the Introduction:

It is your right to live a life of love. It is your right to understand that loving yourself first is not a selfish way of behavior, but one that allows you to live that life of love. However, it's highly probable that you never got the instruction manual explaining exactly how to accomplish this. Possibly your family - and it may have been a loving family - considered loving the self an act of selfishness. Or perhaps the members of your family simply didn't practice loving the self, and of course, what you didn't see - what was not shown to you - while you were growing up, meant that you just didn't learn how to apply it to yourself. The closer you are able to move towards loving yourself, the closer you will be to living a life of love - quite independently of whether you are in a love relationship or not. A life of love can be lived with or without a partnership, because a life of love implies that you know that it all begins with you by loving the self. The more clearly you understand how to love yourself, the more clearly you will see that it is very hard - if not impossible - to love others in ways that are unrelated to fulfilling any of your needs. Loving yourself first is - for so many of us - one of the hardest things we will ever learn how to do. But know this: the benefits affect you in every particle of your being - body, mind, and soul - and are greater than you will ever be able to imagine.

Note: If you are wondering why this blog is now only appearing on alternate days (excluding Sat/Sun), it is because I also post on my other blog on the others days. That other blog is The Tao of Spiritual Partnership, so named for my new book. Click here to visit the blog and/or to sign up for the feed.

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