"A revelation of insight into the foundations of human suffering & transcendence. It not only lays out essential steps for inner freedom and joy but illuminates the way to true human potential." Paul Rademacher, author: A Spiritual Hitchhiker's Guide to the Universe

"The masterwork of a profoundly gifted healer of the soul. Dazzling, challenging, wondrously useful." Peggy Rubin, author: To Be and How To Be, Transforming Your Life Through Sacred Theatre

"Rewiring the Soul is one the best introductions to the spiritual life I've ever read. Not esoteric but real-world and practical. The implications are profound." Peter Shepherd, author: Daring To Be Yourself

Tuesday, February 19, 2013

Excuses, Nails & Failure

How are you building the house of your life? Do you intend to exercise in the morning, but when the alarm rings, find that it is too dark outside and too cozy in bed, and so you tell yourself you'll do it tomorrow? Or do you intend to paint or write or practice tennis or playing the piano every day (or if your 'day' job's time constraints don't allow this, then you intend to practice whichever of those activities you are trying to succeed at, every weekend), or do you allow the lassitude of a lack of energy take over and convince you that you simply can't do all that plus work and that you deserve some time off?

Do you intend to nurture parts of yourself that go beyond the physical and psychological person you are, by viewing talks or reading books by known speakers or writers on a daily basis, even if it's just 15 minutes, but when it comes time to do it, you switch on your favorite sitcom, because you're just too tired?

None of these 'excuses' make you a bad person, or a person I am judging or criticizing, but they do make you a person who makes excuses. That's just a fact. So let's examine what happens as long as you make excuses: you never become the next Michael Jordan, you never become an Olympic contender, you never have that art exhibition or write that book or play at that concert, even if it's simply at your local school play. Put simply, and in the words of Don Wilder: excuses are the nails used to build a house of failure.

But here's the thing: failure does not have to last. Failure is not necessarily the last step in a process down into a black hole. Many of the world's most famous and admired people, including Lincoln, Edison, and Mandela, had to contend with failure over and over again. What makes them different from the people who are facing failure from a position of sitting on a mountain of excuses? They picked themselves up over and over again until they finally did achieve what they had set out to do.

What this takes is not only courage, but also discipline and getting down from the road called procrastination. It takes being slightly less comfortable in the short term in exchange for great satisfaction in the long term. It takes work and belief in what you are working towards and belief in yourself, as well as motivation. When you find that lacking or sliding into non-existence, you can nurture it up again by (as said earlier) nurturing yourself and those qualities by viewing talks or reading books by people who can inspire you. It was Zig Ziglar who famously said (and I love this quote): people often say that motivation doesn't last; well neither does bathing, that's why we recommend it daily.

For more about being more conscious about making aware choices that will enhance your life and promote greater inner peace and freedom, have a look at my book Rewiring the Soul: Finding the Possible Self (paperback or Kindle).

To download the first chapter, click here
To see the Table of Contents click here

From the Description on Amazon:

Ask anyone, whatever their circumstances, if their life is vibrant, fulfilling, harmonious and happy. An honest reply is likely to be 'no', because to answer a truthful 'yes' is no mean feat. Only to grow psychologically and emotionally is not enough. And only to grow spiritually is not enough either. All three dimensions need to be developed in order to realize your full potential. If you are willing to assume total responsibility for the self and to start what is an on-going journey, you will quickly begin to glimpse the first fruits of the ultimate goal: inner well-being, freedom, peace, harmony and joy. This book sets out the pathway to self-mastery and self-discovery and walking that pathway will be the most exciting adventure of your life.

My new book The Tao of Spiritual Partnership is now also available in print and Kindle formats.

To download the first chapter, click here
To see the Table of Contents click here

From the Description on Amazon: More exciting than any other kind of relationship you have ever known, spiritual partnership is a path, a Tao, available to you so that you may transform your life. Spiritual partnership becomes background music to daily life allowing you to enhance the process of your growth and evolution.

This ground-breaking book addresses:

• relationship patterns that hold you back from a truly fulfilled life
• the strong connection between sexuality and spiritual partnership
• communication leading to true connection & lasting transformation of your relationship

It is precisely at the problematic crossroads so often encountered in relationships that we are offered the opportunity to create a new foundation based on mutual complementarity rather than need; a free relationship between two people who want to be together, rather than two people who need to be together. Needing another, we are told, is the measure of love, but for a fully conscious individual nothing could be further from the truth. And therein lies part of the secret and healing power of spiritual partnerships. 

Praise for The Tao of Spiritual Partnership 

“All humans seek the illusive touch of another's Soul, which opens us to the sense of belonging to something bigger than the self. Dr. Kortsch has given us the true "tao" of relationship in this brilliant exploration of emotional tapestry. We will be grateful for this illumination of spiritual partnership for generations to come." 
Chris Griscom: Spiritual Leader, Author 

“Eloquently and comprehensive, showing how your primary love relationship may be a sacred vessel that transports you and your partner to a place of mutual healing and expansion.” 
Robert Schwartz: Author of Your Soul’s Gift: The Healing Power of the Life You Planned Before You Were Born 

"The Tao of Spiritual Partnership is a unique blend of wit and wisdom; Dr. Kortsch encourages us to take responsibility for our relationships, while recognizing and seizing the opportunities for our own personal spiritual growth." 
William Buhlman, Author of Adventures Beyond the Body 

Note: If you are wondering why this blog is now only appearing on alternate days (excluding Sat/Sun), it is because I also post on my other blog on the others days. That other blog is The Tao of Spiritual Partnership, so named for my new book. Click here to visit the blog and/or to sign up for the feed.

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