The Place Where Fear Lives

What do you fear more than anything? What do those dreams that jolt you back into consciousness consist of? Is it losing a child? Is it being alone? Is it not having enough money? Is it not being 'anybody'? Is it being ill and not having anyone to care for you? Is it growing old? Is it not knowing which decision to take at a crucial time of your life?

Whatever it is, consider this: your thoughts are what churn the fear into activity. Hence your thoughts in some fashion create the fear. Think for a moment of one of your fears. Now think another thought about that same fear where you project yourself into a future where that fear has become a reality. Now imagine how it would be for you in that hypothetical future. You can see that each thought adds weight and pressure and stress to the thought that came before and the one before that.

But now imagine you have the same first thought you did above about one of your fears. And you decide - from a very aware and conscious position - to refuse to give more attention to that particular thought. You might tell it something like: I know I haven't solved you yet. I know that somewhere inside of me you continue to live, because you 'pop' into my head often. But just for now, just for today, instead of thinking more about you, I'm going to focus on something different. And then you could focus on beauty or gratitude (you might focus on beauty and gratitude (see the many articles about these subjects here on the blog) or do a mindfulness walk or use any other healthy technique to help you shift to another energetic state. It was Dale Carnegie who said: You can conquer almost any fear if you will only make up your mind to do so. For remember, fear doesn't exist anywhere except in the mind.

Image: Grotta del Bue Marino, Filicudi Island, Italy

For much more about shifting from fear and how to consciously choose your thoughts and feelings, hence taking charge of them, and about becoming aware of the choices you have at all times in order to transform your life, have a look at my book Rewiring the Soul: Finding the Possible Self (paperback or Kindle).

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