However, loving another human being might also imply the responsibility an individual carries for their partner from an emotional point of view, because the partner is unable to remain strong without a great deal of input and support from the partner. This one might weigh a bit more heavily. It might be the responsibility someone carries for their partner who is needy, who clings, who is dependent, and never seems to totally grow up. This one is another kind of responsibility that might weigh heavily. It might be the responsibility one partner feels for the other with regards to the other's happiness. The partner considers it is his/her responsibility to make the other one happy. This is very heavy duty responsibility! It might be the responsibility a person carries for a friend who somehow never seems to make it and always needs some kind of help. This one might also weigh more heavily.
The kind of responsibility that comes about with love as referred to in the first paragraph is, I believe, 'clean'. It may weigh heavily at times, but it's part of life, and we accept it. It is, however, the kind of responsibility that arises with love, referred to in the next paragraph that I consider 'fettered'. You take on a kind of chain or strait jacket when you tacitly agree to these kinds of responsibilities with a partner who does not carry their own weight psychologically and emotionally. This happens when both partners are living life unconsciously and are not aware of what they have going on between them. This smacks of poor boundaries and a lack of self-love on both sides, all of which can be improved immensely by taking steps to becoming aware. Unfettered and unchained love is so much better and is what each of us deserves. Start making different choices in your life and begin the process to become aware.
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