Some easy-to-recognize examples are:
- the friend who calls every day to re-hash the latest drama in his/her life. You want to be a good friend, but you are beginning to dread the calls
- the person with whom you had an affair who threatens to harm themselves if you leave them
- a teen who tells you that unless you help with their homework, they will fail the class (this is not about 'normal' helping, but of going above and beyond because the teen is not choosing to take any initiative)
- the friend who wants to live life through you ... so they want to know every detail of your life and because you began this relationship by feeling flattered that someone wants to know so much about you, you complied, but now, months or even years later, you feel so drained, that you just want out, but of course that makes you feel guilty
- Guilty (we feel guilty as we
ask ourselves how we can possibly be feeling some of the things we are
feeling, if this person is being so
good to us or so helpful and hospitable.)
- Drained and sapped
- Tired and weak
- Unenthusiastic (or if we were
enthusiastic earlier in the day, after a bit of time in their presence,
our enthusiasm is gone)
- Pushed and pulled in directions
you don’t want to go (ever heard of subliminal manipulation?)
- You may even feel befuddled,
less clear in your head, as if you had been mildly drugged
For much more about this topic, please read my article Emotional and Energetic Vampires (Note: you will need to sign up to gain access).
For much more about creating healthy boundaries, and about loving yourself, have a look at my book Rewiring the Soul: Finding the Possible Self
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