How Important Is It To Remember That Bad Thing That Was Done To You?



You were lied to, you weren't invited, you were ignored, you were betrayed, you were humiliated, you were abandoned, you were laughed at, you weren't accepted, you were considered lacking, you felt left out and defeated.

Some, if not all of these things have happened to most of us. They certainly don't feel good. Thinking about them feels almost as bad as when they were occurring. And then thinking about them a long time later, especially if you feel that what happened was very important, it still feels nearly as bad as when they were occurring. Therefore, thanks to your thoughts, you willingly (you do choose your own thoughts, don't you?) go through the experience over and over again.

But if you decide, as soon as you can after the event that you will no longer give it energy by thinking about it, then you don't have to go through all of the above over and over again. It doesn't mean that what happened is OK, nor does it mean that it was in any way or fashion good, but it does mean that you can choose to let it leave your memory in a conscious way by being aware of the fact that loving yourself and being accountable to yourself about your inner well-being implies letting go of that which no longer serves you. Confucius said: To be wronged is nothing unless you continue to remember it.

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