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Wednesday, August 1, 2012

How Do You Pay for Those Wonderful Moments?

I overheard some people talking at the beach the other day. They were clearly on vacation, and preparing to hunker down for some serious lazing. The day was clear, the sky an almost impossible azure, the sand was cool and the water transparent. The woman said I can hardly wait until the concert tonight. The man appeared to agree, and replied I know what you mean. I'm counting the hours until my foursome tomorrow at that golf club I've never been at.

I shook my head ... not because I was snooping, but because these two innocent comments typified what happens to us - most of us - so much of the time. We do not know how to enjoy the present moment. We're always looking to the next bit; the next event; the next trip; the next something, even when as in this example we are in fact in a delighful situation that no one would have any problem imagining enjoying.

Why do we do this? One answer is that we've simply never learned how to enjoy the pesent moment. But if you think about it, a child can be so immersed in building that sand castle, or in pretending to be an Indian stalking the cowboy through the grass in your garden, that you may need to call him or her several times before they even hear you. So clearly, they (our children), and we (when we were children) know how to be present. Somewhere along the road we got out of the habit. Whatever the reason might be, we can get back in the habit.

A simple tool can take you there, because it will literally change the neural pathways in your brain. It's called a mindfulness walk and you do it like this: once a day take a 15-minute walk alone. No dog, no child, no partner, no friend. Alone. Begin by focusing on something beautiful. Immerse yourself (briefly) in its beauty. Be thankful, feel gratitude for having such beauty in your life right now. Notice how that leaves you a small sensation of peace. Repeat with another beautiful thing. And again, until your 15 minutes are up. However, be warned, that especially at the beginning, you will not be able to keep it up for more than three or four 'items' of beauty because you will get lost in the world of your thoughts. But the longer you keep up this practice, the more you will be able to do it, until one fine day you notice that you are being present in many parts of your daily life - and not only during the walk - where before you were not because now your neural pathways have changed. It was Richard Bach who said: The best way to pay for a lovely moment is to enjoy it.

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  1. Good Day Gabriella! This post is so on point. One of most effective strategies I utilize to remain balanced is walking outdoors. When I am at my best I am taking an hour long walk 4 or 5 times a week. When I fall off of this VITAL habit everything falls out of sync. I woke up this morning with more energy than I have had in a long time. I put on my walking gear and put one foot in front of the other. There is a creek near by where I stay, I walk there and then return. The moment I step out of the door I feel beauty. The air is different out there and it feels good. Nature is gorgeous. Be active, be well. cnakeesha

  2. Great visual - beautifully said Gabriella ...taking in the present moment !!
    - In gratitude of our connection ...peace☼