Being What You Might Have Been

Motivation is often part of what I do when I see clients. People who have a hard time getting themselves going - in all senses of the word - profit from learning how to inspire themselves by modeling their behavior on that of another (how do you think I learned how to do it??).

So when someone tells me that it's too late to do something in their lives ...

• too late to learn how to use a computer
• too late to write a book
• too late to learn how to play the piano
• too late to take a sailboat and go around the world
• too late to speak a new language
• too late to love

... as you can imagine, I give them myriad reasons why it's never too late, and furthermore I remind them of that immensely inspiring quote by George Eliot: It is never too late to be what you might have been. Just the words themselves: be what you might have been make shivers run up and down my spine. Do you remember what you wanted to be when you were a child? A teen? A young adult? How much of that has come to pass? And how much of that could you still do? Perhaps not exactly the way you imagined it then, but in a way that allows you to continue (or begin anew) to dream and follow those dreams until the day you are no longer here.

It's never too late. Make that your motto every single day, and begin to take small steps in the direction of those long-forgotten dreams. Don't just plop yourself down in front of the tv. Don't just sit and social network for hours. Don't waste your time. Dust those dreams off, remove what is no longer useful and viable, and move forward ... and do it every day, taking just a few steps. Is there a risk you won't complete whatever it is you are contemplating? That doesn't matter. You know that it's not the destination, but the journey. Live that wonderful journey of yours that you left behind when life got in the way. Become what you might have been. It's never too late.

For more information about moving your life into the direction of your dreams, about the meaning of your life, about being aware, about doubt and moving forward and the way your thoughts and feelings about those subjects influence you and what to do about it, about inner well-being, inner growth and joy, have a look at my book Rewiring the Soul: Finding the Possible Self, available at Amazon as paperback or e-book for Kindle.


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From the Description on Amazon:

Ask anyone, whatever their circumstances, if their life is vibrant, fulfilling, harmonious and happy. An honest reply is likely to be 'no', because to answer a truthful 'yes' is no mean feat. Only to grow psychologically and emotionally is not enough. And only to grow spiritually is not enough either. All three dimensions need to be developed in order to realize your full potential. If you are willing to assume total responsibility for the self and to start what is an on-going journey, you will quickly begin to glimpse the first fruits of the ultimate goal: inner well-being, freedom, peace, harmony and joy. This book sets out the pathway to self-mastery and self-discovery and walking that pathway will be the most exciting adventure of your life.

Rewiring the Soul' provides a user-friendly roadmap for personal transformation. Using conversational style, it guides the reader to an understanding of life's problems and how they can be resolved, deliberately including the reader's connection to his own soul and spiritual growth. Based on common sense and the author's work as an integral psychotherapist as well as lessons gleaned from teaching and personal experiences, all interwoven with current findings from neuroscience, positive psychology, quantum physics and Buddhism, 'Rewiring the Soul' signposts the path to resolving everyday life and its problems while converging with the inner quest for connection with the soul. This process allows life to take on a revolutionary new meaning: resolving personal and interpersonal issues while keeping the inner connection to the soul in mind leads to unprecedented growth that is simply not possible if psycho-emotional matters and spiritual concerns are not combined.