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Monday, May 30, 2011

Bless You!

How often do you get upset or angry enough, in order to think of a word that's not very kind - to say the least - about the person who has just caused your anger? Maybe even angry enough to say or think f--k you!

Today's post is merely a reminder. I imagine you've heard this before.

There are two points I want to make:

The feelings that arise in you due to another's words or actions, are yours. So life is throwing you a little gift when those feelings of anger arise, in order that you look at something inside of you. (Don't think I am saying whatever is said or done is ok, or that you are somehow responsible for it ... all I am saying is that when those feelings arise, by looking inside, you might be able to figure something out about yourself. Such as, for example, that perhaps you need to say something without losing your cool in order to let the other person know that what they have said or done is totally not acceptable...

But the other point, the main point of today's post, is that you have the choice to merely think (or say) bless you. You can still go down the other road described in the first point, but if you are so close to expressing an expletive, saying bless you may just keep you from doing so. Then you can go away and think about the whole thing. Perhaps next time, you'll be able to address the matter in a healthy way, or the time after that. But in the meantime, you've done something good for your own energy (maybe even the other person's energy), by saying bless you. And remember, you can apply it to the guy who squeezes past you in traffic, or the customer service person who is obtuse or rude on the phone, etc.

It's like having the perfect solution to all those nasty impulses that you have when someone is out of line. Sooner or later you'll find other ways of dealing with these situations. But right now, saying bless you when you are riled, will begin to bring you to a better place in your life.

Try it!

1 comment:

  1. Meri Kuusi-ShieldsMay 30, 2011 at 11:14 PM

    I will try this technique today. Very nice writing :) Greetings from your follower @interaria on Twitter