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Thursday, February 17, 2011

Don't Make Decisions

When you take small decisions, such as what to have for breakfast, or which suit to wear to work, normally the consequences of these decisions do not have the power to wreak much havoc in your life (unless you insist on having junk food for breakfast every day, or choosing to wear inappropriate clothing to work).

But when you take decisions of another nature, there can be consequences of greater impact:

- shall I say this to this person?
- shall I agree to this situation?
- do I really want to do this?
- do I really want to go to this place?

In such situations, you want to be able to ask yourself whether you have your emotions well in hand. If you are in rage, fear, or any other negative emotion, or if your heart is not in a good place, you may want to postpone taking the decision.

Your emotions - as important as they are - when they are negative emotions, such as rage, or pain, or jealousy, etc., are not conducive to taking good decisions. Simply postpone the decision to a time when you are not in this state. No one is forcing you to decide now. Or if they are trying to manipulate you to to do so, it is perhaps another clue that it is not a good moment to take a decision. Decisions should not be coerced or manipulated by others.

If you decide now, while you are not in a good place, then what you decide may not be the best choice for you. It may carry consequences you might later wish you had avoided. So wait. And in so doing, try to become aware of all the choices, all the alternatives you have regarding the way you are feeling. It is not the only way to feel, nor the only way to make a decision, no matter what the circumstances. Sleeping on the matter is very often a great way to find clarity. And remember, there is always a choice.


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