Pain is one of the biggest motivators for people to come and see someone like myself. Pain can be, as most of us know, devastating. Pain can not be "thought" away. Pain has a time, and, just like grief, which is a version of pain, it can have stages and a process that you have to live through before you can get to the other side.
So this article is not about talking yourself out of the pain. Or about pretending it's not there by distracting yourself. Or about minimizing it. Or about making you think you should be stalwart and strong, and grin and bear it, and get out to the other end as quickly and staunchly as possible.
Rather, this article is about coming to an understanding that precisely when you are suffering and in pain, is when you need to be able to care for yourself enough, and love yourself enough, to keep your inner energetic frequency in the best place possible, in order to be able to survive this descent into pain as healthily as possible.
Most of us, when pain comes knocking, tend to lose whatever grasp we have on awareness and fall into the trap of allowing our thoughts to take over. And so we re-visit the place of the pain over and over again. See also Tolle's writing about the pain body and Chris Griscom's work on the emotional body, as I have written about elsewhere:
- Our Joys
- Can You Forgive?
- Who Are You?
- Freeing Yourself From Some of the Bonds
- Emotional Unavailability
- Looking For Light in the Darkness
- Finding It Hard to Love Yourself? Check Out Your Boundaries
- Suffering
- Where Is Our Inner Voice?
- Letting Love Guide You
- The Pearl Principle
- Getting Over it Sooner or Later
- Gratitude, Choice, and the "Why Did This Happen To Me?" Syndrome
- Disempower Pain From Your Past
- Our Enemies: Take Another Look
- The Hard Task of Forgiving
- Hot Thought Forms
- Enthusiasm & Depression Can't Live in the Same Place
- Scars
The happiness of your life depends upon the quality of your thoughts. Marcus Aurelius
It's not what happens to you, but how you react to it that matters. Epictetus
Life is 10% what happens to you, and 90% how you respond to it. Unknown
Must you continue to be your own cross? No matter which way God leads you, you change everything into bitterness by constantly brooding over everything. For the love of God, replace all this self-scrutiny with a pure and simple glance at God's goodness. Saint Jeanne Chantal
Pain is never permanent. Teresa of Avila
Love does not cause suffering: what causes it is the sense of ownership, which is love's opposite. Antoine de Saint-Exupery
To become a spectator of one's own life is to escape the suffering of life. Oscar Wilde
A wise man, recognizing that the world is but an illusion, does not act as if it is real, so he escapes the suffering. Buddha
Pain in life is inevitable but suffering is not. Pain is what the world does to you, suffering is what you do to yourself. Pain is inevitable, suffering is optional. First Noble Truth (Buddhism)
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