"A revelation of insight into the foundations of human suffering & transcendence. It not only lays out essential steps for inner freedom and joy but illuminates the way to true human potential." Paul Rademacher, author: A Spiritual Hitchhiker's Guide to the Universe

"The masterwork of a profoundly gifted healer of the soul. Dazzling, challenging, wondrously useful." Peggy Rubin, author: To Be and How To Be, Transforming Your Life Through Sacred Theatre

"Rewiring the Soul is one the best introductions to the spiritual life I've ever read. Not esoteric but real-world and practical. The implications are profound." Peter Shepherd, author: Daring To Be Yourself

Sunday, August 31, 2008

Two Streams of Existence

Living here in Spain, there are many typical American magazines that are out of reach, they are not available on newstands, and even when you subscribe, they frequently do not arrive due to lackadaisical postal service. Hence, when someone lends me something - as recently happened with the May 2008 issue of Oprah's magazine - I thoroughly enjoy the foray into them.

In that issue Oprah interviewed Eckhart Tolle, and a few phrases he said caught my attention:

"Sometimes people ask me if things are getting better or worse, and my answer is, at the moment, both: things are getting better and worse. There are two streams in existence now: One stream is the old, unenlightened, egoic consciousness, which is still continuing. You see it when you watch the news. The other stream is us sitting here now, talking. I'm not saying we're special, but the fact that we're addressing this and that many, many people are reading it and it's meaningful to them means there is another stream here, which is the stram of humanity awakening. Both are present at this time."

I believe this is important because many people insist that the world is not conscious; they insist this is so due to global political turmoil, graft, rampant crime, and so on. They are right insofar as those events continuing to happen, but Tolle is also right insofar that there are many people interested in the type of topic he addresses.

What will happen when the awakened mass overtakes the other one in numbers?

Later in the interview Oprah asks him this: "Do you think it will ever be possible to live peacefully in the now, or is that too much of a lofty goal?"

Tolle answers (isn't this beautiful?): "Rather than asking if you can ever be free, because "ever" is a huge amount of future time, ask if you can be free at this moment. The only place where you can or need to be free is this moment. Not the rest of your life. Just now."

Saturday, August 30, 2008

Online Adventures into Consciousness

You may like her, you may not, but you've got to admire her! Oprah is - in many ways - a trailblazer.

Together with Eckhart Tolle she began a global session of classes on the internet at Oprah.com ... but she went a step further than the typical online webinars or teleclasses, or other web-based audio versions of classes or lectures. You not only hear Oprah and Tolle discussing each chapter of his book A New Earth (each class is about one chapter of the book and lasts about 90 minutes), but if you "attend" the webinar classes live, you also see Oprah and Tolle (with as good a resolution as you get on a decent TV screen), and you can email questions or phone in via regular landline or mobile and you can phone in via Skype, which means the viewers of said classes, are also able to see the Skype caller presenting his or her question.

How good is that?

Whether you like Tolle's work or not, whether you like Oprah or not, this is, nevertheless, an incredible way to spread information, to allow people from all over the world to participate, and furthermore, perhaps the most incredible part of it, is that Oprah and Tolle have not put a price tag on this. It is totally and 100% complimentary. There is one brief commercial about every 25 or 30 minutes during a 90 minute class.

There is another advantage over the many sites that charge for tele-classes or webinars: not only are replays available ... also at no charge ... but they are down-loadable, also at no charge.

I can only assume that Oprah and Tolle are doing this because:
  • they believe in the message

  • they believe they will be able to reach many more this way (not charging), than even by charging a nominal fee. Many people with access to the internet, nevertheless live in countries where paying by credit card or Paypal makes life difficult, if not impossible. During the first class, Oprah refers to a global audience of over 700,000 individuals in 139 countries. Talk about getting the message out there!!

Ten classes are available.

And don't forget Oprah's Soul Series, also with no charges attached ... no membership fees ... only good talks (webcasts) with inspirational leaders of this time, and again, downloadable for offline listening or sharing with others at your convenience. And many others are there as well from her radio shows.

These are wonderful ways to keep your energy in a good place, your energetic frequency high, as I have so often recommended in your quest for inner freedom.

Thursday, August 28, 2008

Are You in Alignment with the Real You?

Let’s look at the concept of alignment first. It basically refers to positioning, to being in a line with something else. We get our tires aligned. We align a text in a document we write in such a way that the margins are straight and uniform. Wikipedia tells us that alignment is the adjustment of an object in relation to other objects.

How does this apply to us as human beings?

Better Results

To answer that we might like to look at the effect of aligning any of the examples mentioned. Aligned tires run in unison. Because of their alignment, the car works more efficiently. In a document that is aligned, the text looks more polished and pulled together, more professional. An object that has been adjusted in relation to other objects generally works more smoothly, and we can count on better results.

When we look at ourselves, it’s a similar story…we get better results, we work better, we function better, things go more smoothly. You might say that being in alignment is like getting a regiment of soldiers all lined up…and so it is if your inner and outer selves are aligned

How To Tell When You Aren’t Aligned

When you are feeling uneasy, uncomfortable, not calm, not peaceful---agitated, mixed up, at cross-purposes, jittery, and so on, you can pretty well count on the fact that you are not aligned with who you really are. Can you imagine lining up a banana with a walnut? It just doesn’t work, does it? One is more or less round, and hard, and brown. The other is elongated, curved, soft, and yellow. They align in the sense that both need their outer shell or peel to be removed in order to be eaten, but other than that, there is little alignment that takes place between the two.

And so it is with you, when you are aligning yourself to some way of life, or living your life, or some purpose that has nothing to do with who you really are at the core of your being. The feelings of uneasiness, discomfort, agitation, etc. are showing you as clearly as if there were a signpost on the road: This is not the way to go forward.

Where Does This Really Take Us?

If we really wanted to unravel the thread from which this whole topic hangs, we would in fact need to look not only to who we are in the flesh-and-blood sense, using all those labels that help us understand who someone is in the greater scheme of mundane activity, but we would also need to look far beyond that. I loved Gary Zukav’s term – now much-used – but when I first read it in May 1989 when I discovered his The Seat of the Soul in a tucked-away-in-the-corner bookshop in Geneva on a business trip, no one was really using the term he liberally sprinkles throughout the book of multi-dimensionality. We are all multi-dimensional.

Being of this world is part of it. But we are so much more, and that is where we often wind up out of whack, so to speak, because we are simply not listening to our inner voice, our inner guidance system, call it intuition (even Antonio Damasio, the world-renowned neuro-scientist – famous for his Looking for Spinoza: Joy, Sorrow, and the Feeling Brain calls it intuition, as do researchers at the Max Planck Institute for Human Development in Berlin, which has just published a book by Gerd Gigerenzer about this subject called Gut Feelings: The Intelligence of the Unconscious), call it what you will, but it’s that part inside of us that knows very well what is the best way for us to go each day so that we get to the place we had initially intended to aim for. That wonderful series of books, also in the 80’s, by Jane Roberts, about Seth talking about the eternal validity of the soul, takes the topic one step further.

I know those last paragraphs carry a lot of punch. I won’t make it even heavier by going on and on, but consider this: how do you know that you are just the you that you see in the mirror and that you feel when you touch yourself, and that feels something not so good when you are sad or angry? That is your personality and your ego. There’s so much more to you than that, you know..

And that’s what gets misaligned when you are not paying attention to it. (See also my May 2007 Newsletter: Tending Your Inner Garden).

(If this sounds confusing or bizarre to you, you could start with the idea of the observer, or witness, as it is often called in yoga, mindfulness, and meditation techniques (see books by Jon Kabat-Zinn). Eckhart Tolle also speaks of it. The observer is that part of you that is observing what you are doing or commenting on what you are doing – to yourself – as you do it, as in: you are such an idiot, you couldn’t even get the ball over the net. The one who observes and criticizes is one part and the one who played and didn’t get the ball over the net is another part. As you explore this path, you will find that the observer is capable of becoming more and more detached from the part that we generally call our body or personality or ego. That’s where it starts to get interesting from an alignment point of view.

The Long and Winding Road…

Where does that part of you that you call intuition come from? Out of a mote of dust? A ray of sunshine? The ether? And where does your inner knowledge that you and Suzy or John have some kind of connection come from, when the two of you have just met right now? From logical, empirical thought? And why do you think of your cousin just moments before he calls you? Was that coincidence? Or ESP? Or maybe it was a deeper knowing that you have inside of you that comes from a part of you that you simply tend not to pay attention to because it’s not considered a priority in this world of external, material results.

And if that is so, wouldn’t it make sense that you need to be aligned with that part? That part that gives you such normally unavailable information? That part that somehow seems to know so much more than your personality or ego part. That part that appears to be connected to an inner knowing to which your outer personality or ego has no access. Imagine it like an external hard drive that you have just discovered. It’s always been there, but you never perceived it. Now you are learning how to connect it to your laptop, and now you are beginning to recognize the incredible richness of material already stored on this hard drive that you are only now learning how to access.

Your eternal self, your intuition, your inner knowing is like that external hard drive, except it is not external to you, but right there, part of you, and has always been part of you, despite the fact that you may never have been aware of it, or, despite the fact that you may have always denied its existence each time it tried to communicate with you.

Simple, really

When you have been sitting for too long hunched over the computer, or at an assembly line, your body screams for a stretch, right? And once you do, your stiff muscles loosen and you feel better. You feel more physically aligned. And being aligned with who you really are is kind of like that.

You go on every day doing things that may or may not be right for you, and sooner or later you notice a stiffness, you notice that something is not right. That’s when you are not aligned. That’s when you need to consider some of what this article is about. Because if you are not feeling right in your skin, it’s a message from that same inner part of you that knows about the connection with Suzy or John, or that thinks about your cousin moments before he calls. That inner part of you is just as much a part of you – if not much, much more – than those muscles that get stiff after too much hunching over the computer.

The difference between it and the muscles is that we have no anatomy books that tell us about it. We have no empirical information that tells us where we can see it or study it. All we can do is go by what we sense, and when we feel unaligned, at least a part of the reason that we feel that way, is because that part of us, that unseen, but very much sensed and felt part of us, is not in alignment with what we are doing and thinking and saying in the outer world.

Here’s a thought: if you are saying this is nonsense, I don’t believe this, we don’t have such a part…if we did, we would be able to show it, prove it, demonstrate it empirically, then you might think of the radio, or your TV, or brain waves, or sub-atomic particles. We know there is electricity. We know frequencies allow us to hear the radio, or watch TV. Quantum physicists tell us about sub-atomic particles that change, just because they have an observer, and cellular biologists tells us that the way we think changes our very DNA (see also Bruce Lipton, The Biology of Belief, and the Wisdom of Our Cells) and we believe in all those things despite not being able to see them. All we see are the results. So it is with this, our inner sense of knowing and intuition, our inner observer. We can’t touch it. But we can see the results.

Getting More Aligned

What is the best sign of alignment? Inner peace. So simple. And so wonderful once it is achieved.

So how can you get there? Start paying attention to those feelings of misalignment that come about via your body, your mind, and your feelings. Recognize that you have these wonderful built-in devices that help you figure things out. (Also see my article: The Energy Barometer: Make Your Mind-Body Connection Work For You). Don’t ignore this treasure trove of information that you get from yourself by telling yourself that it’s lacking in empirical proof, it’s not rational or logical. Recognize that this is a part of you that is eternal and it is giving priceless knowledge to the part of you that is finite and passing.

What this whole thing concerns is the alignment of that finite part with the eternal part. That gives inner peace. And inner peace is a prize far more valuable than any that might please your finite, more mundane part. This is another step to inner freedom…this is one of the most important ones of the many you have encountered in this series of articles I have been offering over the past years.

Wednesday, August 27, 2008

Do We Have Free Will or Does Our Biology Control Us?

An article that has appeared in Scientific American discusses both sides of the fence in the free will versus the programmed brain issue.

While this is not an issue for me, it is nevertheless, one for a good number of people, and that is the reason I feel compelled to give it mention here via some brief excerpts.

"Many scientists and philosophers are convinced that free will doesn’t exist at all. According to these skeptics, everything that happens is determined by what happened before—our actions are inevitable consequences of the events leading up to the action—and this fact makes it impossible for anyone to do anything that is truly free. This kind of anti-free will stance stretches back to 18th century philosophy, but the idea has recently been getting much more exposure through popular science books and magazine articles. Should we worry? If people come to believe that they don’t have free will, what will the consequences be for moral responsibility?

[ ... ]

The Western conception idea of free will seems bound up with our sense of moral responsibility, guilt for misdeeds and pride in accomplishment. We hold ourselves responsible precisely when we think that our actions come from free will. In this light, it’s not surprising that people behave less morally as they become skeptical of free will. Further, the [... ] result fits with the idea that people will behave less responsibly if they regard their actions as beyond their control. If I think that there’s no point in trying to be good, then I’m less likely to try.

[ ... ]

Many philosophers and scientists reject free will and, while there has been no systematic study of the matter, there’s currently little reason to think that the philosophers and scientists who reject free will are generally less morally upright than those who believe in it. But this raises yet another puzzling question about the belief in free will. People who explicitly deny free will often continue to hold themselves responsible for their actions and feel guilty for doing wrong. Have such people managed to accommodate the rest of their attitudes to their rejection of free will? Have they adjusted their notion of guilt and responsibility so that it really doesn’t depend on the existence of free will? Or is it that when they are in the thick of things, trying to decide what to do, trying to do the right thing, they just fall back into the belief that they do have free will after all?"

read entire article

Tuesday, August 26, 2008

Your Self Esteem is the Power that Manages the Ego

Consider this:

When the ego takes us over, when we need to win, or when we need to prove that we are right, or when we need to show how much more we know, or when we need to demonstrate, by virtue of our toys, how much more we are worth in chrematistic terms, or when we need to make others aware, by dropping the names of those we know or rub shoulders with, how much more important we are in social or professional terms ... when we do all of this in order to satisfy the ego, our self esteem is showing us how little we truly value ourselves.
If your ego needs the type of satisfaction I've just painted, you clearly suffer from a lack of self esteem, else you would not need any of this. The more conscious you are (see also Consciousness Is A Full-time Job and On the Road to Inner Freedom), the more you will become aware of the pull of your ego. And the places into which it wants to pull you, assuming you have begun to differentiate between your conscious and your not conscious self, are always places where you don't feel - in the long run - as good as you feel when the ego is not running the show.
When your self esteem is healthy, you have no need to satisfy the ego's empty needs because those needs are no longer your needs.
And that is why your self esteem - or the level (and health) of your self esteem is the power that manages the ego.

Monday, August 25, 2008

Consciousness Is A Full-time Job

Today's post is very connected to yesterday's topic about gaining inner freedom and inner peace.

In order to get to that place, at some point you have to realize and assimilate that this is not something you do on Sundays, or on a weekend workshop, or when you feel relaxed, or on a week-long retreat. This - becoming conscious and staying conscious - is a full-time job.

That means that especially at the beginning you will need to make the conscious choice of how much intention you will put into paying attention to what it is you are thinking, feeling, doing, and saying. Because if you don't make such a conscious choice, and begin to apply some discipline in order to bring about this process, not much will happen.

As this becomes more ingrained, more of a habit, you will - as I wrote yesterday when I gave the example of mindfulness meditation - notice that it soon requires less of an effort. It is something you now do without constantly needing to think about it, and remind yourself about it. But at the beginning that is precisely what is required. You need to constantly remind yourself in order to remain conscious, or to pull yourself back into consciousness, into awareness.

Even if you have to resort to tricks such as putting post-it notes up on your bathroom mirror and in the kitchen, or putting paper clips in your pockets so that when you feel them, and ask yourself what they are doing there, you remember to remember to remain conscious or to return to consciousness. Some people put a small pebble in their change purse, others set the alarm on their mobiles to vibrate once an hour, or set the kitchen timer in a similar fashion, simply to use any method that works to help you remain conscious, or if you've slipped back into blindness, to help you come back from there.

However, at the beginning, as you make a conscious choice to follow this process, you will also begin to realize the absolute need for you to decide to become totally responsible for yourself. And in so doing, you will realize that:
  • It is not enough to go to a seminar and get all revved up by a particularly inspirational speaker.
  • It is not enough to read yet another book that makes you feel so wonderful while you read it because it addresses all those issues that you so much want to work on.
  • It is not enough to participate in yet another interactive workshop that blows your mind because of how you feel when you are performing whatever it is that the workshop is about.
  • None of this is enough unless you also decide to take all these wonderful things that you are hearing, reading, and participating in, and make use of them throughout your day, every day, to the end of your life.

Consciousness is a full-time job. Until you realize this, until you internalize it, until you decide to make this realization a central and fundamental part of your life, and then act upon it, becoming conscious - and living a conscious life - will elude you and slip from your grasp over and over again, just as wisps of fog over the sea evanesce in the morning light.

Sunday, August 24, 2008

On the Road to Inner Freedom

Many - if not most - clients complain that when we discuss methods by which they can find greater inner freedom and inner peace, it sounds like such hard work.

They tell me that it's all very well for me to talk about it, but that for them it is just going to take so long and be so hard.

In some ways they are right. None of this work is possible without some dedication and discipline. I often liken it to developing biceps and triceps in a weak or flaccid arm. In order to see some change, you need to be lifting weights or going to the gym on a regular basis for about three months. You have to be consistent, and you have to believe - during those early days and weeks - that even though it appears that nothing is changing, that something is indeed changing, and that you will soon see the desired results.

We talk about becoming aware of the self and its reactions, making conscious choices at each step of the way that are good for you on an energetic level (these may not be the easiest or most immediately pleasing choices, but they are the choices that give you the greatest sense of satisfaction with yourself), and choosing responsibility for the self in all senses of the word.

When we get to this point, some clients then protest, indicating that there is no proof that the end result will give them what they are seeking (inner freedom and peace in their lives and relationships), other than the fact that I (and untold others) vouch for it due to the effect it has had in their own lives.

Hence it is wonderful to listen to yet another person speaking the same language - this time couched in the terms of mindfulness meditation (I've posted about this in the past and mentioned Jon Kabat-Zinn).

In this instance it is Daniel Siegel, MD., author of The Mindful Brain: Reflection and Attunement in the Cultivation of Well-Being, whose podcast I listened to at the Brain Science Podcast, a wonderful site I link to on my own blog. In this podcast, he speaks about mindfulness meditation and the beneficial effects it has on your well-being ... and these benefits speak directly to the type of desired effects I referred to earlier in this post, that cause some clients such difficulty.

By paying attention to your intention over a period of 10 minutes every day, focusing on your breath, you begin to become aware of your awareness, and in this process certain sections of the brain are activated. Studies show that this process ... a state of mind that you work on with effort, becomes a trait, a long-term aspect of an individual's way of being that then happens without effort, and whose benefits cause you to:
  • develop more capacity to regulate your body (blood pressure, immune system improves, etc.)

  • attune to yourself and others in a deeper and meaningful ways (you develop compassion)

  • regulate your affective states better (you approach, rather than withdraw from things)

  • develop the ability to extinguish fear

  • develop response flexibility...the capacity to pause before you act; you think about your options and choose the most adaptive

  • have more insight into yourself

  • develop greater empathy

  • have more morality

  • you have access to your intuition, which is fundamentally your body's wisdom

All of these benefits - brought about as studies have proven - through mindfulness meditation, are the same benefits that can be achieved through other mechanisms, but that frequently take much longer, and require much more conscious effort.

How you do it is your business - even whether you do it, is your business - but these are some of the best roads to inner freedom and peace.

Friday, August 22, 2008

Positive Thinking & Proven Lower Cancer Risk

I was diagnosed with cancer several years ago, and while I was given a clean bill of health after an operation that presumably removed the offending cancerous cells from my body, I will never forget the look on my oncologist's face when he gave me the results of the biopsy of all the tissue removed during said operation. There was nothing cancerous there at all . He could not believe it.

What had happened between the definitive diagnosis and the operation three months later was a great deal of inner work on my part. Positive work. Work that I know a lot about. So I applied it. And it worked. And I was not surprised. But my very traditionally trained - and very young - oncologist was.

At any rate, it is due to the above that I rejoice when I read articles such as this one Happiness 'can cut breast cancer risk by a quarter' because these articles are introducing information into mainstream media and hence into the general population that can save lives in a way that chemotherapy has perhaps not done.

The article states: "You may not be able to prevent breast cancer. But you can the risk of developing the disease to an extent -- just be happy and think positively. A new study has revealed that positive thinking and happiness could reduce a woman's chance of devel oping breast cancer by a quarter while traumatic events like divorce and bereavement might have an adverse affect. " read more

The study on which the above article is based indicates in its abstract: "Since 1983, studies have suggested an interaction between the severe life events, psychological distress and the etiology of Cancer. However, these associations are still under dispute. The aim of the present study was to examine the relationship between life events, psychological distress and Breast Cancer (BC) among young women."

The severe life events the abstract refers to are potentially taken from the Life Events Questionnaire, where it is assumed that the more difficult live events an individual must live through during the course of a year, the more said individual is predisposed to falling ill the following year.

"Is there a connection between the number of major life events a person experiences in a year and the likelihood of illness? Drs. Thomas Holmes and Richard Rahe think so. They reached this conclusion after questioning 7,000 people about the number of life events they went through in one year. The people who scored highest on this questionnaire experienced the highest amount of physical illness in the year following the test." Source

Unless the individual knows about the power of positive thinking as demonstrated in the study.

"“It was found that a feeling of happiness and optimism has a 'protective effect','' according to the researchers whose study has been published in the latest edition of 'BMC Cancer' journal. " Source

Thursday, August 21, 2008

The Absolutely Best Way To Help Your Children Grow Into Exceptional Adults

We send our kids to the best schools we can afford. We send them to immersion courses during the summer in other countries to perfect their foreign language skills. We make sure their food is nutritious, we organize tennis lessons, piano lessons, private tutors and if they need it, we send them to expensive dermatologists to help with their acne. We buy over-priced school and sports uniforms; we give in to their pleas for the latest fashion or technology craze, and it is abundantly clear that we love them very much and want the very best for them.

Yes. Not a doubt in my mind about it.

But today I wanted to discuss other aspects of helping them grow up well. And all of these have to do with us. Not with them.


What does your own happiness depend on? Do you need your external circumstances to be just so in order to be happy? Or have you found the way to being happy no matter what the external circumstances? In other words, have you worked on yourself enough to depend on yourself for your happiness? What a wonderful gift to give your children! Can you do this?

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How self aware are you? How well do you really know yourself? What are the buttons that trigger your reactions? Do you then act on those blind reactions or are you so self-aware that you are able to choose to remain conscious? If you do not remain conscious when your buttons are pushed, and you become reactive (you react blindly), you are teaching something as harmful to your children as you would be if you were giving them drugs.

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Making Choices & Self Responsibility

What kind of choices do you make? How much responsibility do you take for resolving your own issues? When you make your choices – every day – during your entire life, do you remember to be aware in order to recognize that at each step of the way you always have alternatives? Do you remember that you are responsible for everything you feel, think, say, and do? In other words, you need not yell, you need not cry, you need not despair, you need not fear, you need not resort to anger, because you always have another alternative. Do you know how to live in such a way that the alternative you choose is the one that creates most well-being for you, and hence – by ripple effect – for those that live with you? If you do this – and consistently show it to your children – you are giving them a great gift.

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Healthy Boundaries & Loving the Self

Are you free of codependence, manipulation, and enmeshment? No? I really did not expect you to say yes, you know. But it is very important that you recognize that some or all of these continue to form part of your life. That’s called being aware. Then, deciding to do something about them is called making choices and being responsible for the self.

Here’s how it works: you fall into some of your old traps, like noting codependent behavior with your spouse, sibling, parent, or anyone else, or like realizing you have once again attempted to manipulate someone … perhaps your child, in order to create the behavior you desire in a specific situation. If you are doing this, and if you are aware of it, recognize also that you are teaching your child behavior that will fetter him to self-destructive and negative ways of dealing with life. You can change this by giving your child the gift of your change. Working on yourself will bring this about.

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Blaming Others & Being A Victim

Do you tend to blame others? Are you a victim of events or people in your life? Can you forgive? What you show your child by one or the other mode of behavior, will, in some ways, determine his/her chance at happiness now and in the future. Learn not to blame – no matter what - stop being a victim – no matter what - and begin to forgive – no matter what - in order to teach all of this to your child by virtue of your own example!

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Walking Your Talk

Do you walk your talk? Do you say one thing and do another? Are you authentic? Are you really the way you portray yourself to be? Do you actually know who that is? This goes back to self awareness. It goes to meaning. It is implicit in happiness. Discover yourself because only if you do that, can you really walk your talk and in the process show your child what it means to be authentic.

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Is There a Meaning In Your Life?

What is the central meaning of your life? Is there passion in your life, in that which gives meaning to it? Does your energy soar (not only your physical energy, but in particular, you inner energy, your psycho-emotional energy, the way you feel yourself vibrate inside) when you involve yourself with whatever it is that gives meaning to your life? Having this; finding this, implementing this, and then truly living it is one of the greatest gifts you can give your child as a role model he or she can follow.

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Living in the Now

Are you always reliving past glories? Or past hurts? Or are you always counting the time until something special will happen – that raise at work, your vacation, the weekend, etc.? In other words, are you always living at any time other than the present? If so, recognize what you are teaching your child. This is the cause of much unhappiness in the lives of so many. Don’t let your child be one of them. Teach him/her something different by learning to remain in the present yourself. Become aware of all the now moments you are losing and begin to systematically change this in order to make your life so much better and in the process give your child the gift of the now.

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Be open with your children! Show them that you can make mistakes, or that you can learn from them. Show them that you are open to being open, and that you invite openness from them, no matter what they want to confide in you! Doing this is both easy and hard. It’s easy because it is really just a question of choosing to be like this, but it’s hard because in order to be like this, you must also choose to become self-aware and conscious at all times, choose to make yourself responsible for all that you feel, think, say, and do, and hence choose to work on all the those aspects that complicate this as discussed in previous sections of this article.

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Love Has the Greatest Priority in Your Relationships

Remember this: the love you have for your child (newborn, toddler, teenager or adult child) must come before all other considerations. When there is a problem, in particular, an ego problem, for example, where one of you insists on being right, and as long as the other does not acquiesce to the rightness of that one, the relationship is on hold, you must remember that the love you have for each other – or even just the love you have for your child (in the event that at this particular moment your child has forgotten he loves you) – must be greater than the need to be right, or than the need for the problem to be resolved the way you think it ought to be.

Putting It All Together

Look within, work on yourself, become congruent, love yourself and realize that every positive thing you do in order to improve yourself will have a ripple effect on the lives of all those you touch.

You have so many gifts to give your child. No one expects you to be perfect. But you can start the road towards the goal of growth, self awareness, and loving yourself by beginning today with the first step. That first step is simply remembering to be conscious, and when you forget, forgiving yourself for forgetting, but praising yourself for at least having remembered that you forgot to remember to be conscious. And then doing it all over again … the more time you spend being conscious, the more quickly you will reach the goal of your own inner freedom, and the more quickly you will reach the goal of being able to offer your child the gift of your example with all of this.

Photo: Beach in Greece

Wednesday, August 20, 2008

My Blog's Been Nominated!

I am nonplussed (don't you love that word??)

My blog has been nominated as a brilliant blog by William Harryman, the owner of Integral Options Café ... a blog I often peruse ... a blog that bedazzles me with its width and breadth of all things integral ... a blog, I am pleased to say, that has frequently linked to my own posts ...

Now I am asked to nominate another seven blogs for the brilliant award ... not an easy thing to do bearing in mind I look at many blogs, although not always all on all days...

Awardees, when you read this post, here is what you are invited to do:

  • add the logo of the award to your blog
  • add a link to the person who awarded it to you
  • nominate at least 7 other blogs
  • add links to those blogs on your blog
  • leave a message for your nominees on their blogs

Here are my nominees, in no particular order:

  1. Merlin Mann's 43 Folders about productivity and time management tips. Thanks to him, I got myself a copy of David Allen's book GTD (Getting Things Done) and my life is shaping up in ways heretofore unimaginable
  2. Skeptiko: Science at the Tipping Point - hosted by Alex Tsakiris
  3. Seth Godin's world class blog about innovation, new ideas, blogging, internet marketing, and an infinite number of other brilliant subjects.
  4. Duane Sherry's excellent blog about alternative bipolar treatment Discover and Recover. Let's get the word out there, folks! Bipolar is treatable in ways that are unrelated to psychotropic medication. Get informed!
  5. Really Raw Food - one woman living the raw food life style.
  6. Ginger Campbell's Brain Science blog about mind-body medicine, the brain, and consciousness. In this podcast she shares recent discoveries from the world of neuroscience in a way that people of all backgrounds can enjoy
  7. Brenda Padilla's blog (this American-who-lives-in-Spain is the hostess of my weekly radio program). Her blog is in Spanish and it is about adoption in all its facets. Truly a brilliant blog by a brilliant and shining human being ... Adopción Por Dentro

There are so many other amazing and wonderful blogs ... to name only seven is almost a sin ...

Tuesday, August 19, 2008

Finding the Lionheart Inside of You

Richard I (1157 - 1199), King of England, was known as Richard the Lionheart, or Cœur de Lion, according to Wikipedia, because of his reputation as a great military leader and warrior. He remains one of the very few Kings of England remembered by his epithet, not number, and is an enduring, iconic figure in England.
Figuring out how to find that element within ourselves that allows us to be great warriors in our own existence, is an essential part of bringing to life those parts of ourselves that allow us to carry on in the face of great odds.
Richard was a central Christian commander during the Third Crusade, scoring considerable victories against his Muslim counterpart, Saladin. (Those of you who have seen Ridley Scott's 2005 movie Kingdom of Heaven with Orlando Bloom and Liam Neeson, will be somewhat familiar with this epoch).
Carrying on in the face of great odds. Finding the lionheart inside of you.
This is not just courage. It is not just being able to be a warrior in the traditional sense of the word. It is being a warrior with yourself, in the face of your own doubts and fears. Those are the odds against which you stack yourself, and it is there where you need to find your own lionheart.
Tackling doubts and fears begins with believing in yourself, and that begins with dealing with your own sense of self-esteem. If it is not high, you need to work on it.
Begin by looking at all those events, attitudes and people in your life that disempower you. Be ruthless in your self-analysis. When do you feel weak? When do you doubt yourself? When are you afraid? Look at those situations and begin to change something. Perhaps by shoring up some healthier boundaries. Perhaps by learning to leave your comfort zone. Perhaps by disciplining yourself to become more aware. Perhaps by telling yourself that the only one who can be responsible for how you think, feel, act, and react is you. Once you accept that, you are on the road to your own lionheart.

Monday, August 18, 2008

Radio Program September 2008

Once a month I will be posting the current list of topics for my weekly radio show.

This is what the September 2008 schedule looks like:

Sept. 3 Are You Enmeshed with your children?
Sept. 10 Where Are Your Habits Leading You?
Sept. 17 Self Esteem and Listening to Your Inner Voice
Sept. 24 International Adoption (Replay)

ARCHIVES 2004 - 2008

Click here for radio show archives from 2004-2008 (not all are up, but you'll find more than 125 different radio shows!).

The show airs weekly on Wednesdays from 11 – 12 noon CEDT (Central European Daylight Time) which is 6 hours ahead of New York, one hour ahead of London, the same time as Paris or Berlin (except at the end of October and March, where there tends to be a week of confusion, as not all countries change to daylight saving and back, and those that do, don't always do so on the same day).

See below for equivalent times in other locations.

Ways To Listen

1) LIVE on your radio dial OCI FM 101.6 (Costa del Sol) or FM 94.6 (Costa Blanca)
2) LIVE on the web Onda Cero (Once there, click on “Internacional” on upper right)
3) Listen to over 100 archived audio files on my website

Equivalent Times in Other Locations: (Locally: CEDT: Central European Daylight Time)

or go to http://www.timeanddate.com/worldclock/converter.html to convert from your time zone (some of these times may not be correct at certain times of the year):

11 pm – 12 midnight: Honolulu (locally Tuesday evening)
5-6 am: New York City, Miami, Montreal, Toronto, Nassau, Santo Domingo, Barbados
6-7 am: Rio de Janeiro
9-10 am: Reykjavik, Casablanca
10-11 am: London, Lagos
11-12 noon: (LOCAL) Madrid, Rome, Berlin, Paris, Warsaw, Tripoli, Harare, Cape Town
12-1 pm: Bucharest, Riga, Istanbul, Cairo, Amman, Kuwait City, Addis Ababa, Nairobi
12:30-1:30 pm: Tehran
1-2 pm: Moscow, Dubai, Baghdad, Seychelles
2-3 pm: Islamabad
2:30-3:30 pm: New Delhi, Bangalore, Mumbai
4-5 pm: Hanoi, Bangkok
5-6 pm: Singapore, Hong Kong, Shanghai, Manila, Bali, Taipei, Perth
6-7 pm: Tokyo, Seoul
7-8 pm: Sydney
9-10 pm: Auckland, Fiji Islands

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Alternative Bipolar Treatment

One of the blogs I frequently peruse - as I've mentioned in the past - is Discover and Recover. Its latest post is always available for quick viewing on the right sidebar of my own blog, by scrolling down to the list of blogs I often read.

The blog includes a very comprehensive list of links to sites that offer ideas, support, and help for those struggling with this tremendously misunderstood condition. Duane Sherry, the owner of the blog, posted an article the other day that is important reading for anyone with an interest in bipolar problems.

It is the story of Autumn Stringam who ran the gamut of a life-shattering diagnosis of bipolar disorder to mind-numbing psychotropic meds to the inadvertent discovery of what a combination of micronutrients (vitamins and minerals) along with amino acids could do for her.
This is the link to the post on Duane's blog: Autumn Stringam: Recovery Story Published in ‘HealthKeepers’ and this is the link Duane indicates leading to Healthkeepers magazine where Autum's entire story is available for online reading: A Promise of Hope for Bipolar Disorder.

Saturday, August 16, 2008

Who Said No Sex After 80?

I actually have held talks about this subject here in Southern Spain to groups of expat retired individuals, from many different countries (UK, Germany, Scandinavia, USA, France, Austria, Switzerland, South Africa, Australia), and it's a subject I'm passionate about (no pun intended), simply because so many believe this part - the sexual part - of their life is over. And it certainly does not have to be.

So I'm always pleased when the mainstream press comes out with information that supports what I discuss in some of my conferences: that a healthy sex life can extend well into the 80's.

MSN published this article recently:

Healthy Sex Life Can Extend Into 80s

A satisfying sex life is possible as you age into your 70s and 80s, new research suggests.

Many older Americans are apparently taking advantage of that fact, because 68 percent of men between 57 and 85 reported having sex last year, as did 42 percent of women, according to the study's lead author, Edward Laumann, the George Herbert Mead Distinguished Service Professor of Sociology at the University of Chicago. And, Laumann added, more older women might have wanted to have sex, but there just aren't as many available older men for them to partner with.

Read entire article

Photo: La Quebrada, Acapulco, Mexico

Friday, August 15, 2008

One Minute Changes at the Institute of Noetic Sciences

This brief video from the Institute of Noetic Sciences (one of the links on the right sidebar of my blog) speaks of changes in consciousness in our world.

The video - as the website indicates - "focuses on the global shift in consciousness and reminds us that every thought, word and action we display has a great impact on others. Many people are witnessing and feeling a shift in the universe which is beginning to move from an ego based energy to a more loving and caring energy. This new energy will bring more light into the world and cast negativity more brilliantly."

Should you experience difficulties in viewing it on my blog, please click here to view it directly at the originating website.

Thursday, August 14, 2008

Create Joy in the Way Your Life Unfolds

This is about responsibility ... your responsibility in creating joy in the way your life unfolds.

No, I can't do that.My life is not unfolding to plan. My life is not good. I don't like my life. Under such circumstances how do you expect me to create joy in the way my life unfolds?

That is, however, precisely it. Most of our lives don't always unfold according to plan, or in the best way possible. That's the reason why we have to take charge about creating joy in the way our life unfolds.

If we do that, we begin to see joy appear in the most unexpected ways and in the most unexpected places. Once that happens, we are well on the road to experiencing joy in our lives at will, no matter what the circumstances.

How can we create joy? How can we become responsible in creating joy in the way in which our life unfolds? By deciding to do so. It's a choice. So simple. Start now.

Wednesday, August 13, 2008

Don't Make Decisions

When we take small decisions, such as what to have for breakfast, or which suit to wear to work, normally the consequences of these decisions do not have the power to wreak much havoc in our lives (unless we insist on have junk food for breakfast every day, and choose to wear inappropriate clothing to work).

But when we take decisions of another nature:

- shall I say this to this person?
- shall I agree to this situation?
- do I really want to do this?
- do I really want to go to this place?

In such situations, we want to be able to ask ourselves whether we have our emotions well in hand. If we are in rage, or if our heart is not in a good place, we may want to postpone taking the decision.

Your emotions - as important as they are - when they are negative emotions, such as rage, or pain, or jealousy, etc., are not conducive to taking good decisions. Simply postpone the decision to a time when you are not in this state. No one is forcing you to decide now. Or if they are trying to manipulate you to to do so, it is perhaps, another clue that it is not a good moment to take a decison. Decisions should not be coerced or manipulated by others.

If you decide now, you are not in a good place, and what you decide may not be the best decision for you. So wait.

Tuesday, August 12, 2008

Love Yourself First

This almost seems old hat. Overdone. Been there, done that.

The topic, I mean. Love yourself first.

But it isn't.

You know why? Because people are still not doing it. Most of us have still not learned that old adage that if we don't love ourselves first, we can't really love anyone else.

Know why?

Because you'll be loving them for all the wrong reasons. Oh, you might believe that you love them, and in some fashion you do, but for all the wrong reasons.

Here are some of them:
  • I'm so happy when I'm with him/her
  • He/she makes me feel so good
  • I need him/her so much! (in this instance, the person actually believes that needing someone is proof that they love them) Whew!
  • I feel so secure when I'm with him/her
  • I've never felt like this before ... only he/she can give me this feeling
  • When we're not together, I feel so lost
  • When we're not together, I feel like a part of me is missing
  • When we're not together, I just don't really enjoy doing things

Are you beginning to get my drift? All of the above indicate someone who is in love due to something he/she is getting from the beloved. That is the reason they are in love. Obviously this is not a conscious - almost mercenary - process. It happens. We realize we feel better around the beloved. We begin to define why we feel better around that person. Hence statements such as the above. And then - presto - we believe we are in love.

All is not lost, however. In other words, if you are still with me, this doesn't mean you now should give up your relationship in order to find yourself and discover how to love yourself first.

But it does mean, that now you should begin to realize that these reasons that make you believe you are in love are in fact pointing to the bits of you that you have not yet filled for yourself. So you go looking to fulfill them through another.

By beginning to fill them yourself, you begin the process of self love and self respect and self esteem and self acknowledgement. This is not selfishness or egotistical behavior.

Doing this, waking up about yourself, will lead you to a place where - when you then love - you will love as you were never able to as long as you needed the other for the fulfillment of your own needs.

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Monday, August 11, 2008

Vitamin D Reduces Cancer Risk By a Whopping 60% and More

I don't particularly like to read articles about continually more products that cause cancer and tend to avoid them.
I do, however, like to read articles about what we can do to prevent cancer, especially when said prevention is natural.
Natural News, a great website with timely articles about much to do with our health, offers frequent information about cancer prevention and recently posted an article about highly interesting Vitamin D research.
It appears that by taking nominal amounts of Vitamin D, we reduce our cancer risk by a whopping 60 ... possibly as much as a 77%. All sources for this are duly indicated and linked, and I recommend you read it for yourself.
It is never enough to simply read what you are being told in mass media or by your doctors ... not because this information is necessarily not correct, but because if you don't take charge of your own health by being informed, you may never know if it is incorrect. And if it is and you follow incorrect guidelines with regards to your own health, the price you may pay for not being informed is potentially very high.
Exciting new research conducted at the Creighton University School of Medicine in Nebraska has revealed that supplementing with vitamin D and calcium can reduce your risk of cancer by an astonishing 77 percent. This includes breast cancer, colon cancer, skin cancer and other forms of cancer. This research provides strong new evidence that vitamin D is the single most effective medicine against cancer, far outpacing the benefits of any cancer drug known to modern science. Read entire article.
Photo: Ithacare, Brazil

Sunday, August 10, 2008

Our Enemies ... Take Another Look!

Who has harmed you?

I'm not talking about enemies in the impersonal, geo-political sense of the word, as in wars, but enemies as in those individuals whom you consider personal enemies.

In my practice a frequent manner of viewing the enemy is in the guise of an ex-spouse or ex-partner.

My purpose today is not to ask you what was done to you and then to say that it was not as bad as you imagined it to be.

Nor is it to ask you to forgive those who have trespassed against you.

My purpose is to ask you to consider this: how have you grown since whatever it was that was done, was actually done? Have you taken advantage of life's offerings in order to grow through your difficulties?

This is a lot less crazy than it sounds.

Those who make us suffer unwittingly offer us the opportunity for growth. It is up to us whether we decide to take that opportunity or not. Those of you who have taken it, know who you are, because you have grown and changed - often in such a way that as you now look back, you realize you like yourself - perhaps even admire yourself - much more as you are now, than the way you were before. And you know it might not have happened if your enemies had not trespassed against you.

Take another look at your enemies...

Saturday, August 9, 2008

Leap To a New Life

The title of today's blog comes from this sentence:

If you ever get a chance, and you feel stuck, leap to a new life.

Michael Gill, author of How Starbucks Saved My Life, said that, referring to what happened in his own life after losing his high-powered job, spending another 10 years trying to grow a consulting firm, and finally, at age 63, sitting in a Starbucks in Manhattan wearing an Armani suit, being offered a job. It was a joke, but he accepted.

And he's never looked back.

Read the book, or read this article from CBS News about it, or watch this 3 minute video

You can also see a longer talk by Michael Gates Gill from Google here

Friday, August 8, 2008

Neuroplasticity = The Brain's Everlasting Ability to Change, Grow, & Re-Wire Itself

This video in six 9-minute segments shows Dan Rather, the US news anchor discussing the still new subject of neuroplasticity, our brain's everlasting ability to change, grow, and re-wire itself.

As opposed to what was believed in prior decades, scientists now know that our brain is not static, it does not need to decline, when brain cells die, we do not lose all chances at increasing our brain's capacity to function well.

Neurogenesis, or the formation of nerve tissue, in this case, in the brain, has been established. Now it is a fact that not only can we continue to grow dendrites in order to maintain or increase cerebral capacity, but that our brain is infinitely change-able, and that much more than was ever supposed, can be done to circumvent or even heal so-called mental disorders.

Part I

Part II

Part III

Part IV

Part V

Part VI

If you prefer to watch it all at one go, click here

Thursday, August 7, 2008

The Chemistry of Love

TED, always such a generous source of fascinating videos, offers this talk about the chemistry of love:

Why do we crave love so much, even to the point that we would die for it? To learn more about our very real, very physical need for romantic love, Helen Fisher and her research team took MRIs of people in love -- and people who had just been dumped.

TED writes this about Helen Fisher: Anthropologist Helen Fisher studies gender differences and the evolution of human emotions. She's best known as an expert on romantic love, and her beautifully penned books -- including Anatomy of Love and Why We Love -- lay bare the mysteries of our most treasured emotion.

Why you should listen to her:

Helen Fisher's courageous investigations of romantic love -- its evolution, its biochemical foundations and its vital importance to human society -- are informing and transforming the way we understand ourselves. Fisher describes love as a universal human drive (stronger than the sex drive; stronger than thirst or hunger; stronger perhaps than the will to live), and her many areas of inquiry shed light on timeless human mysteries, like why we choose one partner over another.

Almost unique among scientists, Fisher explores the science of love without losing a sense of romance: Her work frequently invokes poetry, literature and art -- along with scientific findings -- helping us appreciate our love affair with love itself. In her research, and in books such as Anatomy of Love and 2004's Why We Love, Fisher looks at questions with real impact on modern life. Her latest research raises serious concerns about the widespread, long-term use of antidepressants, which may undermine our natural process of attachment by tampering with hormone levels in the brain.

"In hands as skilled and sensitive as Fisher's, scientific analysis of love only adds to its magic."
Scientific American

If you have any difficulty viewing the video on my blog, or if you wish to download the talk, please click here to see it on TED

Wednesday, August 6, 2008

The Mirror of Relationships

If you’ve been following these articles in my newsletters over the past nearly five years, and if you’ve been reading the frequent posts on my blog, you may have realized that much of what I write is repeated in new words. This is deliberate. In marketing it is said that if you want to sell something, you have to get the message across to the consumer at least nine times. In psychology things are not so different: to get the message across to the reader, so that inner transformation has a chance at beginning to take place, the message has to be repeated over and over again.

What do our Reactions to Others Tell Us about Us?

Recently I was asked (on the same day) by two acquaintances, what I would do if a client walked in the door that I did not like, and what I would do if I were attracted to a client. My answer has a great deal to do with what I believe an ethical practitioner should do, but more importantly, has a great deal to do with what all of us can and should do when faced with our reactions to others in our lives.

Basically I was being asked whether I would refer the first client out (the one I hypothetically did not like), and whether in the second instance (the client I was hypothetically attracted to), I would want to have some type of social contact with that client, or whether I would forego that, and continue on in the professional relationship.

Physician, Know Thyself!

The underlying structure to my answer lies in the Socratic advice: Physician, know thyself. In other words, if I am practicing in my chosen field of endeavour, I must have begun the process of knowing myself and recognizing my own issues. In such a case, when faced with the client I hypothetically don’t like, I would, of course, immediately understand that the reason I feel unpleasant in the presence of that person, has nothing in particular to do with him or her, but with me.



So does that mean I can’t blame that person for how I feel?

No Blame?

Right on. No blaming. Even if the person is obnoxious, or difficult, or needy, or haughty, or autocratic, or whatever it might be that sets me off. What sets me off is not his/her behavior, but some unresolved issue in me. If the issue were resolved, it would not set me off. Affect (emotion) is also a clue to something that needs addressing in oneself. So that means I’m the one that has to look at me, not look outward and point a finger.

Jewels in Our Lives

So back to the hypothetical client I don’t like. Such a client could well become a jewel in my life. If I’m willing to follow the above directives. If I’m willing to look within, rather than without. So such a client immediately sets off a warning bell, and launches a red flag in me, to make me aware of the fact that the client is bringing out some as yet unresolved issue.

The example I’m using is my client and myself, but this is how it is with every single person that populates your life, from the peripheral fringes, to its nuclear core, from the newspaper vendor and shoeshine person, to your partner (see also my Sept. 2006 Newsletter: Marriage in the 21st Century Could Cutting Edge Spiritual Psychology Make it Viable Again?) and children or parents. Every time you react inside to something, you are being given a message about yourself by your psyche, and if you pay attention to those messages, if you look in the mirror of your relationship with that particular person, you will learn something about yourself, and eventually resolve that issue in order to not have to revisit that place again, in such a way that similar situations in future, will not affect you negatively as they used to do. (See also Choosing to Wallow in Relationship Pain).

You, too, must know yourself!

Earlier I quoted Socrates: Physician, know thyself. This lies at the core of the work of any good therapist, psychologist, analyst, psychiatrist, or healer. Not only because this individual is in the business of helping people understand and help themselves, and consequently improve their lives and broaden their parameters of inner freedom, but also because if this individual does not begin with the humility of recognizing that he or she also has issues to be resolved, he’s going to be quite hopeless at helping other people resolve theirs. It doesn’t mean he has to have every single one of his issues resolved long before he begins to see clients. It just means he must be working on them. Actively. Continually. Incessantly. Tirelessly.

What Attracts you is Very Important…

So let’s go on to the question about the hypothetical client I might feel attracted to. Here there can be no doubt. An ethical practitioner will immediately recognize some kind of counter transference, i.e. that the client has touched on some core of an unresolved issue in oneself. Again, therefore, the therapist has to look inside. And be very ethical.

The Treasure Map

So how does this relate to people outside of a practice? In exactly the same manner. (Listen to the audio clip Obsession, Suspicion, Jealousy, and the Need to Control in the “Emotions” Section). When you feel attracted to someone, it is because that person carries within them something that lights up your buttons because there is something there that is unresolved in you. It doesn’t have to be a difficult or negative thing, simply something that has not yet been addressed, and the fact that you are now attracted to this specific individual, should be reason enough for you to realize that beyond the chemistry, beyond the infatuation, beyond the possible love, there is something even more important that can help you become more psychologically and emotionally free, and precisely this person can be the means by which you get there. . (See also my July 2006 Newsletter: I Need You...I Need You Not). As long as you realize the mechanism of the dynamics behind what is happening. In other words, don’t go there, don’t go into the relationship blindly. Look at yourself. Understand that the attraction, just as in the example of my hypothetical client, is a sign to you, a clue, a map, a treasure map, so that you will sit up and take notice. Your feelings are – in this sense – your road to freedom. Pay attention to them beyond the obvious. Learn to use them. Use them to grow. Grow and transform your way into freedom, because that is your duty to yourself and that is your right.

Photo: View towards the Atlantic in Atlanterra, Cadiz, Spain

Tuesday, August 5, 2008

Candace Pert on Larry King: Change Your Mind, Change Your Life

On August 2nd the following program was aired on Larry King Live on CNN. A portion of the transcript is reproduced here, with a link to the complete program (transcript).

Change Your Mind, Change Your Life

Aired August 2, 2008 - 21:00 ET

LARRY KING, CNN HOST (voice-over): Tonight, "Change Your Mind, Change Your Life."

UNIDENTIFIED MALE: The brain does not know the difference of what it sees in its environment and what it remembers.

ANDREW NEWBERG, M.D.: As far whether or not we're just living in a big holo-deck or not, it's not a question that we don't necessarily have a good answer to.

DR. JOSEPH DISPENZA, D.C.: Everybody has that that experience when they've made up their mind that they've wanted something. That's quantum physics in action.

KING: Can your head handle the possibilities?

FRED ALAN WOLF, PHD: Asking these questions opens up new ways of being in the world. It brings in a breath of fresh air. It makes life more joyful. The real trick to life is to not be in the no but to be in the mystery.

KING: Right now on LARRY KING LIVE.(on camera): We have an outstanding edition of LARRY KING LIVE tonight. We're going to explore the brain and all we're discovering about it in this fascinating look at what the brain does and does not do, and the brain and addiction. We have an outstanding panel. But we begin our first segment with a young lady who has appeared on this show frequently in the past. J.Z. Knight has dedicated over 20 years of studying the connection between mind and body, the author of her auto biography, "State of Mind," and the founder of Ramtha School of Enlightenment. Last time you were here, you said we are all addicted to our emotions.


KING: Explain.

KNIGHT: Most people do not understand that the greatest addiction in their life is their emotional addiction, emotional addiction to past experiences. We gain our experiences in our life that begin to define us by the time we're about 20 years old. Then we sort of go on automatic. Then we keep playing back the emotions instead of having a new idea and a new thought. So people don't realize that they are led every day by their feelings. They want another emotional head. So they keep reexperiencing the same emotion no matter people, places times, events, no matter who they are, who they meet, they are after the same emotion. It's the same addiction, Larry, as someone who is an alcoholic, as someone who's on drugs. And all those things do is to allow brain chemistry to happen because it's that high or that state of peace. People are addicted to their past, their past emotions. It's what -- if you have a past emotion you're addicted to, you don't have a future. How can you have a future if every day you wake up and you are living in your past?

KING: But with alcohol and drugs, you can go through a toxic withdrawal. You can break a habit by drying out. What do you do with an emotional habit?

KNIGHT: About a 27-day rehab from your past emotions.

KING: You do a rehab?

KNIGHT: The rehab is, instead of waking up every day and putting your brain on automatic, that your hardwired personality kicks in and goes, oh, this is who are you. Well, OK, this is who we are going to feel today, this is how we want to feel today.Instead of going on automatic, which everyone in the world does, you stop that and say, this day I'm going to create my day. I'm going to create a day with a new thought, a new experience. I'm going to create the reality of this day and, from the new thought that I create, the new sentences that I say I am, I will manifest that day. That day brings a brand new emotion, no old and lousy.

KING: Isn't that an Eastern philosophy?

KNIGHT: I think it's a human philosophy.

KING: But don't they, in the Eastern world, practice that?

KNIGHT: I don't know if anyone actually ever practices that because if everybody did, we'd be further into the future than we are currently.

KING: So we're just skimming here, the surface?

KNIGHT: We're treading water and we're -- we don't reinvent ourselves. We don't realize that our future is being consumed by our past. The day that we realize, we wake up and go, the reason I'm depressed, the reason I'm uninspired is because I can pretty much predict how I'm going to feel about today. I can pretty much predict everything I'm going to saying today. That's uninspiring. We were really created to be creators.

KING: Isn't depression, though -- if we can overcome that, of the mind, isn't it a disease?

KNIGHT: Well, all disease is from an attitude that pushes the button genetically that begins to create those proteins inside of ourselves that are mutated. Depression really, at the root of it, is that if our brain is hardwired like this and we have no neuroplasticity -- and that neuroplasticity means that thought can travel to other regions of our brain to where we analyze it and we get greater insight. A person that has depression does not allow the -- their brain does not allow the thought to go any further. So it's in a cycle of thinking emotion, thinking emotion, thinking emotion.

KING: Can we control our reaction to external things?


KING: Can we determine to how we'll react to the fire in the house?

KNIGHT: Yes. Instead of being a reactive person, to be a master of the reality, even our house, even our family, our workplace, our greater place of enjoyment. That instead of reacting in the old ways, that we absolutely cultivate the ability to create new realities. We really are.

KING: You've done some work with Selma Hayek?

KNIGHT: Selma's my best friend.

KING: I mean, does she work with you on this concept we're talking about?

KNIGHT: She is a student in the school. She created her future.

KING: You changed her?

KNIGHT: Totally.

KING: Changed you?

KNIGHT: Totally, Larry.

KING: We're joined in West Palm Beach by Edgar Mitchell, the Apollo 14 astronaut. He was the sixth man to walk on the moon, and founder of noetic sciences. Were you affected at all by walking on the moon?

EDGAR MITCHELL, APOLLO 14 ASTRONAUT & FOUNDER, NOETIC SCIENCES: Well, not so much by walking on the moon but taking a look at the cosmos from a different perspective and starting to get a big-picture point of view, a much bigger picture than us humans have had before.

KING: Did something happen to you on the way back from the moon, Edgar?

MITCHELL: Well, just seeing the larger picture and having some insights as a result of that, I call it an epiphany. And the short version is just seeing the earth, the sun, the moon, all from a different perspective. I would say the big-picture of perspective, like a mountain top experience, or peak experience.

KING: Edgar, you, I imagine, you have led a happier life?

MITCHELL: I think so. I have a very satisfied life, Larry, and it's because of the experience and because of the desire to make a contribution. My whole attitude toward life and for being of service and towards pushing the frontiers has expanded and there's great joy in doing that.

KING: And I salute you. Thank you, Edgar. J.Z. Knight is with us. More to come. Don't go away.


UNIDENTIFIED MALE: Where do we come from? An immense quantum mechanical...

DISPENZA: You're brain doesn't know the different between what's taking place out there and what's taking place in their.

WOLF: There is no out there out there, independent of what's going on in here.

MICHAEL LEDWITH, PHD: It's like positive thinking. It's a wonderful idea, positive thinking. What it means is that I have a little smear of positive thinking, covering a whole mass of negative thinking. So thinking positive is not really thinking positive. It's disguising the negative thinking that we have.

(END VIDEO CLIP)KING: Exploring adventures of the mind. J.Z. Knight remains with us. We're now joined by Dr. Dean Radin. He is senior fellow at the Institute of Noetic Sciences, and Dr. Candace Pert, the scientific director of Rapid Pharmaceuticals, Incorporated, author of "Everything You Need to Know to Feel Good." All right, Dr. Radin, first of all, what is noetic sciences?

DR. DEAN RADIN, SENIOR FELLOW, INSTITUTE OF NOETIC SCIENCES: Noetic science refers to the idea that there are multiple ways of knowing. We usually think in the Western world that we know rationally and that's it. But other people and actually many people experience intuitions, psychic experiences, mystical experiences, and so we look at these other ways of possibly knowing about the world.

KING: You study that?


KING: You meet people that have such gifts?

RADIN: Well, we do. But we actually, in studying people over many years, we see that virtually everyone has multiple ways of knowing.

KING: Dr. Pert, do you agree with what J.Z. Knight has said?

DR. CANDACE PERT, AUTHOR & SCIENTIFIC DIRECTOR, RAPID PHARMACEUTICALS, CORP.: It's ironic because I'm a neuroscientist and I studied all the years studying the brain because I thought, by studying the brain, I would understand how to feel good, how to lead a happy life, unlock the mysteries of the universe. But now what I'm really interested in is in consciousness. And what my research at the NIH revealed is that, yes, the brain is important but consciousness is beyond the brain. I mean, in fact, you know, looking through the microscope and studying the molecules of emotion. And this comes from real hard science, looking through the microscopes, seeing the receptors for all of the emotional chemicals.

KING: You can see that?

PERT: That's what I spent 20 years on, mapping these endorphin receptors, et cetera. But they are not just in your brain. They are in your body.

KING: Dr. Radin, do you agree that you can be addicted to an emotion?

RADIN: I always defer to Candace when that comes up. But what I could say though is whether it is actually true that the brain and mind are the same thing. Now, in standard neuroscience, the answer is yes. The brain equals the mind. The kind of research that I do, and I think J.Z. would agree, we have evidence that the mind and the brain are actually not exactly the same thing. read entire transcript