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Wednesday, December 12, 2007

How To Deal With Emotions

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This is not a quick-fix solution.

Overwhelming emotions, such as pain, fear, rage, jealousy, and sorrow, to name only a few, can be enormous in their magnitude when they hit, and if you have not made a practice of looking within (see also my May 2007 Newsletter: Tending Your Inner Garden), and this is the first time it happens, you may find that you are at a total loss as to what you can do with them. Even if it is not the first time, and hence you recognize this state, if you have not dealt with it in the past, you will feel just as overwhelmed as when it happened the first time.

You will probably feel panicked, possibly hysterical, out of yourself, and certainly out on a limb in a place you do not recognize, you don't like, but you don't know how to climb back on to the trunk of the tree for some measure of inner safety.

Think of it like throwing yourself into a pool without knowing how to swim. You might learn how to dog-paddle very quickly, and manage to get to the side, or you might flounder about, frantic, swallowing water, until someone comes to your rescue...or you might drown.

If you get out however, wouldn't it make sense to learn how to swim?

So think of your emotions as something that you can get to know...a part of you that is as important to take care of as flossing and brushing your teeth, or getting regular checkups, and so on. Emotions can make or break your physical and psychological state of health, so it is to your utmost benefit to get to understand them and work with them.

In order to do that, you might like to consider getting to know yourself. This will help you deal with overwhelming emotions when they occur, because you will be able to understand where they are coming from and how to think and talk to yourself in order to lower their magnitude, in order that you may begin to feel better, and from that position of feeling somewhat better, be able to observe the situation and your role in it in a much more controlled fashion. (See also The Energy Barometer: Make Your Mind-Body Connection Work For You).

But this is not about control as much as it is about understanding that your emotions are not something that just happens and that you are at their mercy, but that you can shift your emotions by using your awareness, making choices (in thought, action, and reaction) that enhance your well-being, your energetic frequency, and that therefore you are in charge of the overwhelm.

As I said, this is not a quick-fix solution, nor do I pretend that with this short little post you will have all the tools necessary to accomplish this. But I do believe that this can make you think, and perhaps encourage you to begin to walk down this road to inner freedom.

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