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Sunday, December 9, 2007

Having A Good Life

Burj al Arab Hotel, Jumeirah, Dubai
What does it depend on? Having a good life means that our work, our relationships, our bank account, our social life, our health, how we feel about ourselves, our sense of purpose and satisfaction, and so on, should all be in reasonable order, right?

But if they are not?

Does that mean we can not have a good life? Or does that mean that the reflection of what is on the outside (see also As Without, so Within) is in our lives to give us an opportunity to do something about it???

And of course, as you go about doing something about that dead-end relationship you have, or the job that is taking you no where, or the dwindling bank balance, you focus on the lack. You focus on what is - which is of course what you don't want (what currently "is" is the way of life that you do not want - so your focus is rarely on what you really do want).

This is a very important lesson to learn. I repeat it often here on the blog with different concepts: (some posts overlap from one area to another, but much has been written here about what you can do now - today - if only you will make a decision to be consistent about it - to change your life around and make of it a good life)

So remember: if you focus on what currently is ... on that which you do not want ... you will get more of the same. Focusing on what you do want ... another kind of relationship, a more fulfilling career, greater financial rewards, more free time ... whatever it is ... realize that you need to be focusing your intent on that and not on what currently is that just isn't working. Whatever you focus on grows.

So choose wisely. Follow through. Be disciplined. Remember it will not happen and come together in one fell swoop...just like building up strong triceps, you will need to give this some time too. And that means that every time you tell yourself it is not working, you banish those thoughts and replace them with thoughts that have to do with your goals (in whatever area), and particularly replace those nay-saying thoughts with feelings that you have when you imagine those goals you are striving for, as if they were already a reality in your life.

Do this over and over, and go confidently in the direction of your dreams, as Thoreau always gently reminds us.

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  1. Just what I needed to read right now. I am just going through a difficult financial time and and have greatly learned from this that indeed, you need to put your mind to the goals of betterment which you wish to reach. I've been reading quite a lot about the Law of Attraction but don't find that easy to put into practice; yet with these few lines you have made it very concrete to me. Thanks.

  2. Hi Dylan...yes, people often say the LOA is not easy to put into practice...in reading about it over the years, I have consistently found the books by Abraham to be the best.

    Using your feelings as an energy barometer (as I call it...see the article - The Energy Barometer - on my website - www.advancedpersonaltherapy.com -under articles) you are able to tell whenever you are on the wrong track...simply because you are not feeling good...so you use that more negative feeling as a signpost to shift your attention to something - whatever - that makes you feel somewhat better. And again. And again. Until you are on an energetic frequency that is much higher as opposed to the one you were on before.

    It is from there, from that higher place of "good" feeling, that you can once again concentrate on your goals in a positive way that works, rather than focusing on all that which is not working.

    But as I said in the post...this has to be done over and over and over and over...until it becomes a HABIT (hence the analogy to building up muscles). You are not going to get what you want in your life just because you think about it a bit or on and off and then the rest of the time you are back to the worrying or "man, this is really awful" thoughts.

    Good luck!!!


  3. ... ... ...I experienced the same type of surge Dylan did reading 12,09'07 entry... ... were you at one time a cheerleader...the point is your getting through...which is great

    We must as you strongly suggest apprehend &sustain inner freedom which will lead to confidence in dealing necessarily with existing objective reality success-fully!

  4. Kurtis, it's funny you should ask whether I've been a cheerleader (I haven't), but the work of a psychotherapist, or life coach, or any kind of counselor can be very similar to that of a coach in the sports world...you continually get your athlete to regard him or herself in the best light possible in order to bring out their best, so that ultimately they will perform at the top of their ability.