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Saturday, June 2, 2007

Focus On What You Have and How You Can Make It An Asset

Zakynthos, Greece
Suzanne Somers, whom I have written about in a previous post in connection with her stance on bio-identical hormones, gave a key-note address recently, and spoke of focus, and how that which we focus on can literally make or break a life.

She referred to incidents in her own life when she had been fired, or lost some position or situation in life, and how these moments caused her to turn around and look at what she had, rather than what she did not have or what she had lost, in order to re-group and come up with a winning solution.
Don’t be lulled into thinking this happens to people like her, people who are well-known celebrities, and who therefore have an easier time at achieving a turn-around, as opposed to the rest of us. Thinking that way will merely turn your thinking into a self-fulfilling prophecy. (Even using the example of people who have been emotionally crippled by difficult childhood experiences – see Scars – we could say that their focus needs to turn to those parts of their personality that do feel emotion, rather than on the aspect that fears emotional vulnerability because precisely due to this negative focus they run from any kind of feeling. Focusing on what we have, and on what works, even if it is still at a very seminal stage of development, gives us chances of much greater possibilities, than focusing on what does not work). (See also Intentional Focus: Your Happiness, Your Success, & the Law of Attraction).

Think of it as re-inventing your life whenever necessary, and however often it is necessary. Think of it as learning to focus on that which is there, rather than on that which is gone. What can you do with what you have? How much further can you travel with those ideas, talents, gifts, that knowledge, that skill, those contacts, and so on? Use all of that in order to come up with a new itinerary. Use all of that in order to think out of the box.

In Somers’ case, she literally became a much more well-known celebrity, with a life-long career, thanks to being laid off a sit-com that would probably only have lasted a few more years anyway. She used that moment in her life to turn it into another direction. She made use of what she had at that moment in order to come up with a winning solution.

If you look at your losses and perceived failures as something that will mess up your existence, something that will ruin your chances at success in whatever arena you are interested in, and focus on this aspect of your reality, you will, as said earlier, find yourself with a self-fulfilling prophecy in your lap. When however, you think out of the box, and when you look at obstacles as something that can actually help you come up with novel ideas about how to use what you have in order to turn it into an asset, your life may take on a shape that you would never have been able to imagine before.

1 comment:

  1. Very encouraging. I read Sommer's book and was also impressed with the way she picked herself up.

    Whenever I face a really tough situation I think about all the big names out there - politicians who've lost elections, for example - who have found the way to get back up and keep going.

    Isn't that the way it is? You have to put it behind you, take stock of what you have and then forge ahead!