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Tuesday, September 12, 2017

The Importance of Being You



Funny question. How important is it to be you?

And I've mentioned this topic before in these posts:
But it is such an important topic that I can't help but bring it up again. And anyway, just as in marketing, where a message needs to be seen an average of NINE times before the potential consumer will react to it, so also in topics that refer to our inner self, it may be possible that we need to see the message many times before we react and do something about it.

Being you is a frightening concept to many people. They may define themselves by their professional situation, their academic prestige, their social position or family background, their finances and material well-being, their political party or religious convictions, they may define themselves by the people they know, the places they frequent, they may even define themselves by their looks and their physical attributes.

While all of the above is in fact, part of who we are, it does not necessarily define us. If a man is given professional recognition as a lawyer and is part of a conservative party due to his family's leaning over generations, and it is expected that he follow that political line, we might say that he is living an authentic life if we don't scratch beneath the surface. What if this man is gay? How much of his mode of living can be true to himself if he needs to hide or is afraid to show that most important aspect of his being? Or what if he is a closet liberal, politically speaking? What if he is a lawyer because it was expected, or because it would give him a good income, but at heart he wanted to write or paint? Or be a travel journalist?

You clearly see what I am driving at. Not being you implies potential tragedy. Not being you implies a life half lived. Not being you may erode your health...physiological, psychological or spiritual.

There is another important facet to not being you. Many of us simply don't know who we are. Not necessarily our fault, you know. Schools teach us so much: reading, writing, mathematics, history, geography, etc., but when are we ever taught about ourselves, and how important it is to get to know ourselves...this person with whom we will live all our lives? When are we shown the importance of taking the journey within?

This is a topic I will explore at greater length in future because we tend to gloss over it - not because we are necessarily shallow materialists, but because it is not emphasized to the degree that it could be done, if we as a society placed as much importance on the inner quest as on the outer search for excellence.      



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Also visit my book website: www.gabriellakortsch.com where you may download excerpts or read quotations from any of my books (also in Spanish & German). My latest book Emotional Unavailability & Neediness: Two Sides of the Same Coin is available globally on Amazon in print & Kindle. You can also obtain it (or any of my other books) via Barnes & Noble.


Books by Dr. Gabriella Kortsch (English). Available globally in paperback or Kindle e-book versions


Bücher von Dr. Gabriella Kortsch (Deutsch) ... JETZT bei Amazon (Taschenbuch oder E-Book) erhältlich 
DEINE SEELE UND DU
  

Angefangen mit Rewiring the Soul - auf Deutsch: Deine Seele und Du, jetzt weltweit erhältlich als Taschenbuch oder Kindle E-Book (Blog hier), werden auch meine anderen Bücher in Zukunft auf Deutsch bei Amazon erhältlich sein.

Libros por Gabriella Kortsch (español) ... ahora en todo el mundo en Amazon en versión bolsillo y Kindle



Note: Also see my other other blog The Tao of Spiritual Partnership, so named for another one of my books. Click here to visit the blog and/or to sign up for the feed. 

My blog posts are also featured on Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn, Google+, Pinterest & you can find me on Instagram 

Monday, September 4, 2017

How Often Do Praise & Laughter Come Your Way?



You may have friends with whom you enjoy hearty belly laughs. Or you may have lovely people in your life who praise you often. But perhaps you don't. Or perhaps the above happens, but not as frequently as you might like. Consider being the source of it yourself. You can be the source of your own laughter and praise.

Regarding laughter, you may - at least initially - need outside inspiration, such as video clips (plenty of funny ones - even for people like myself whose 'funny bone' is a bit strange - on YouTube), or films you may already have in your library that caused you to laugh long and hard when you saw them the first time, or simply do a search on YouTube for brief two to four-minute video clips teaching laugh therapy. (In case you are not aware of it, laugh therapy can reduce stress, as well as improve the quality of your life. Laughing has physical effects because it is able to stimulate the circulatory and immune systems of your body).

However, I find that laughing at myself (in loving ways) is sometimes the funniest of all. Perhaps it happens when I am with others, or it might happen when I am totally alone and realize what I'm doing (don't ask), or when I relate something about myself to others that was not so funny when it occurred, and yet, in hindsight, is hilarious - and the joke is on me! If you have a habit of doing this, you will know that it brightens up your day ... so start now.

Praising yourself is another one of those things so many of us tend not to do. Starting with our cultural bias that taught us since we were very young that praising the self is boastful, egotistical, sinful, etc., many people feel absolutely uncomfortable doing it, and believe that this discomfort underlines the truth of the fact that praising the self is not good. That then becomes a vicious circle, and they simply never get in the habit of doing it. But the truth is (one simple place to look this up is in research put out by proponents of positive psychology) that praising yourself is good for you.

Did you have to fight a bit with yourself this morning to get to they gym, or jogging trail? But you did it anyway? How about not giving in to the temptation to have that luscious looking croissant and eating something healthier instead? What about when you caught yourself in the habit of criticizing others and stopped mid-track in order to not continue? Aren't those all praise-worthy? Is there anything wrong with praising yourself for doing that? If so please comment below, or email me!

Laughing about yourself, praising yourself, and loving yourself are all ways to care for yourself. Would you not laugh with a small child to see it happy? Would you not praise it for its tiniest progress? And would you not show it you love it at all times? So treat yourself the same way.

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See the preview (click the image) to my online video course:
Fatherless Women & Motherless Men




Now Available
"Fatherless Women & Motherless Men"

Click HERE for the introductory pricing of US 15


***************

See the preview (click the image) to my online video course:
Freedom From the Torture of Your Thoughts




Now Available
"Freedom From the Torture of Your Thoughts"

Click HERE for the introductory pricing of US 15

**************************************************

See the preview (click below) to my online on-demand video course  




  NOW available

"Emotional Unavailability & Neediness: Two Sides of the Same Coin"


  *****************************

Si hablas español:


Una charla reciente en Málaga:


Se grabó y se puede ver en YouTube aquí:

 


Una charla reciente en Marbella:


Se grabó y se puede ver en YouTube aquí:



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Also visit my book website: www.gabriellakortsch.com where you may download excerpts or read quotations from any of my books (also in Spanish & German). My latest book Emotional Unavailability & Neediness: Two Sides of the Same Coin is available globally on Amazon in print & Kindle. You can also obtain it (or any of my other books) via Barnes & Noble.


Books by Dr. Gabriella Kortsch (English). Available globally in paperback or Kindle e-book versions


Bücher von Dr. Gabriella Kortsch (Deutsch) ... JETZT bei Amazon (Taschenbuch oder E-Book) erhältlich 
DEINE SEELE UND DU
  

Angefangen mit Rewiring the Soul - auf Deutsch: Deine Seele und Du, jetzt weltweit erhältlich als Taschenbuch oder Kindle E-Book (Blog hier), werden auch meine anderen Bücher in Zukunft auf Deutsch bei Amazon erhältlich sein.

Libros por Gabriella Kortsch (español) ... ahora en todo el mundo en Amazon en versión bolsillo y Kindle



Note: Also see my other other blog The Tao of Spiritual Partnership, so named for another one of my books. Click here to visit the blog and/or to sign up for the feed. 

My blog posts are also featured on Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn, Google+, Pinterest & you can find me on Instagram 

Monday, August 28, 2017

Live Your Best Life 2017 - 2018 Schedule




Group Meetings to Support Your Growth & Well-Being


*** Here is the 2017 - 2018 Season Schedule ***

We all deserve to live our best life. We all deserve joy, peace, happiness, and inner freedom. So why are each of us not living our best lives and experiencing all these things? Schools teach us how to read and write, they teach us about math, geography and history, but they do not teach us about life and how to live it. Sometimes our parents do, but most often, they do not. This discussion group is designed to change that.

Are you experiencing any of the following in your life?
  • Relationship breakdown or stress
  • Financial stress
  • Major illness (you or a close family member)
  • Poor communication with your parents or offspring
  • Worry and desperation due to:
    • Fear of aging
    • Unfulfilling life
    • Depression
    • Loneliness 
    • Boredom 
    • Desire for change
    • Lack of progress and success
On Tuesday, September 12th, 2017 our discussion group will once again begin meeting weekly. It is not focused on any one given problem, but precisely because it focuses on growth and well-being, this group literally addresses any problem. The path that leads to inner and outer peace and well-being is a path that serves you no matter what kind of situation you are facing.

You will not be expected to divulge personal details at any time unless you wish. The group meeting begins at 7:30 and lasts until approximately 9 pm. For the first portion of the meeting I will present the topic of the week, and then there will be a general discussion in order to facilitate the understanding of the methods by which the tools that have been discussed may be incorporated into your life … beginning immediately.

If you wish to participate, you may come to any of the meetings - and although it is recommended that you attend as many as possible, simply because each is designed to further you along that road to inner and outer peace, joy, and well-being - there is, however, no minimum attendance requirement. Everyone is welcome, whether you have previously attended or not.

The group started in January 2010 and other than summer and Christmas/New Year's breaks, has been meeting ever since. Of course there is always an influx of new people, so if you have never come before, don't feel as though you are the only one.

Meetings will be not be announced by email except to the specific persons who have requested to be notified on a weekly basis. Please email me if you wish to be included in this weekly mailing. 


There is a per-meeting participation fee of 10 Euros. Please bring exact change. (Please contact me privately if cost is an issue).

Please do your utmost to arrive punctually between 7:15 and 7:30 prior to the beginning of the meeting. Coming later than this time will interrupt the flow of the group. We meet in Guadalmina Alta. If you need directions, please send an email.

NOTE:
If you wish to participate in any given meeting, please RSVP before Monday at 9 pm prior to the Tuesday meeting that you wish to attend gkortsch at gmail dot com  If you subsequently need to change your plans, please also let me know in order to give your place to another person as seating is limited.

SCHEDULE of TOPICS
      
2017
            
September

Sept. 12                The Daily Torture of Your Thoughts - If YOU Aren't in Charge
Sept. 19                Recognizing Choice: It Literally Signifies Freedom In Your Life
Sept. 26                Health: Creating a New Environment for Your Genes

October

Oct. 3                    Happiness: These are the Prerequisites
Oct. 10                  Beginning the Process of Becoming Aware
Oct. 17                  Self-Regulation
Oct. 24                  Expanding Your Comfort Zone
Oct. 31                  Shifting to Better Energetic Levels

November

Nov. 7                   Your Need to Control Others
Nov. 14                 Living With Worry & Still Having a Good Life
Nov. 21                 Choosing Your Habits
Nov. 28                 Poor Boundaries & Your Self-Esteem, Happiness & Self-Love

December

Dec. 5                   Your Emotions: The Royal Road to Freedom (6 & 8 Dec. are holidays)
Dec. 12                 Self-Responsibility & Inner Freedom
After the meeting we will celebrate our annual Christmas dinner
Dec. 19                 No Meeting

Dec. 26                 No Meeting


2018

January

Jan. 2                    No Meeting
Jan. 9                    Major Steps to Loving the Self
Jan. 16                  Consenting to Feeling Bad
Jan. 23                  Self-Reflection & Emotional Maturity
Jan. 30                  The Deep Unhappiness of Emotional Unavailability & Neediness

February

Feb. 6                    Your Addictions – Psychological and Otherwise
Feb. 13                   Why Spiritual Partnerships are Good for Your Sex Life
Feb. 20                   Do You Use Your Wounds to Give Yourself an Identity?
Feb. 27                   Can You Forgive: Its Vital Importance to Your Health & Growth 

March

Mar. 6                   Are You An Emotional Vampire or is Your Life Populated with Several of Them?
Mar. 13                 Complaining
Mar. 20                 Why Failure Can Be a Hidden Blessing
Mar. 27                 Practicing Non-Judgment

April

Apr. 3                    Blaming
Apr. 10                  Starting the Steep Road Towards Compassion
Apr. 17                  Bringing Joy to Your Life
Apr. 24                  Choosing Where to Focus

May 

May 1                    Co-Creating Your Life (Labor Day)
May 8                    Using Our Three Brains
May 15                  Self-Reflection & Success
May 22                  Your Life  as Metaphor: The Lotus Emerging From the Mud
May 29                  Holding Pain in Your Hands


June

June 5                   Growing More & Faster Than Your Partner: Now What?
June 12                 Looking at Your Relationship Patterns
June 19                 Compassion & Empathy: Are You Experiencing Burn-Out?
June 26                 Why Meaning In Your Life Will Always Give You Strength

July

July 3                    Suffering is Optional … And So Is Joy
July 10                  The Stages of Spiritual Awakening
After the meeting we will celebrate our annual summer break dinner together
July 17                   No Meeting
July 24                   No Meeting
July 31                   No Meeting


*** SUBJECT TO CHANGE***


Further Information 
or to request to be included in the group email list that is sent out weekly:
Email: gkortsch (at) gmail dot com
    Phone: +34 626 189 765 



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See the preview (click the image) to my online video course:
Fatherless Women & Motherless Men




Now Available
"Fatherless Women & Motherless Men"

Click HERE for the introductory pricing of US 15


***************

See the preview (click the image) to my online video course:
Freedom From the Torture of Your Thoughts




Now Available
"Freedom From the Torture of Your Thoughts"

Click HERE for the introductory pricing of US 15

**************************************************

See the preview (click below) to my online on-demand video course  




  NOW available

"Emotional Unavailability & Neediness: Two Sides of the Same Coin"


  *****************************

Si hablas español:


Una charla reciente en Málaga:


Se grabó y se puede ver en YouTube aquí:

 


Una charla reciente en Marbella:


Se grabó y se puede ver en YouTube aquí:



*****************************

Also visit my book website: www.gabriellakortsch.com where you may download excerpts or read quotations from any of my books (also in Spanish & German). My latest book Emotional Unavailability & Neediness: Two Sides of the Same Coin is available globally on Amazon in print & Kindle. You can also obtain it (or any of my other books) via Barnes & Noble.


Books by Dr. Gabriella Kortsch (English). Available globally in paperback or Kindle e-book versions


Bücher von Dr. Gabriella Kortsch (Deutsch) ... JETZT bei Amazon (Taschenbuch oder E-Book) erhältlich 
DEINE SEELE UND DU
  

Angefangen mit Rewiring the Soul - auf Deutsch: Deine Seele und Du, jetzt weltweit erhältlich als Taschenbuch oder Kindle E-Book (Blog hier), werden auch meine anderen Bücher in Zukunft auf Deutsch bei Amazon erhältlich sein.

Libros por Gabriella Kortsch (español) ... ahora en todo el mundo en Amazon en versión bolsillo y Kindle



Note: Also see my other other blog The Tao of Spiritual Partnership, so named for another one of my books. Click here to visit the blog and/or to sign up for the feed. 

My blog posts are also featured on Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn, Google+, Pinterest & you can find me on Instagram 

Tuesday, August 22, 2017

Are You Absolutely Certain It's Right?


You've just had a great idea. You are beginning to put it into practice, or having some initial conversations about getting it going. And the doubts assail you. Will you ever get it right?

You've been offered a new position. It involves a lot of money and prestige. Also a great deal of work. So far so good. All of that is to your liking and you have no fear of it whatsoever. And then the doubts assail you. Will you ever be able to take so much responsibility over so many matters and get it all right?

You've been painting for some time. You desperately want some recognition. The owner of a fairly well-known local art gallery proposes that you do a show there nine months hence. You know you will need at least another 15 pieces to do it properly and are filled with joy at the prospect of finally having an exhibition. And then the doubts assail you. Will you ever be able to get all those pictures done in time and done right?

You get the picture. Because you are uncertain about getting the finished product - or the demands of the job - or the idea - just right - you stop in your tracks and don't continue what you started. You become immobilized and paralyzed at the thought of not getting it right. Thoughts can be assassins, and these thoughts of doubt and something not being just right can kill an idea, an opportunity, or a new life long before you even give yourself a chance. Be aware of those thoughts and their power to annihilate. Beware of not doing that which you will regret in the winter of your life when you are sitting on your terrace in your rocking chair remembering it all. Recognize that none of the world's great accomplishments and discoveries and works of art would ever have been completed, if the people involved had allowed the thought of doubting the just rightness of the end product to deter their progress.

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See the preview (click the image) to my online video course:
Fatherless Women & Motherless Men




Now Available
"Fatherless Women & Motherless Men"

Click HERE for the introductory pricing of US 15


***************

See the preview (click the image) to my online video course:
Freedom From the Torture of Your Thoughts




Now Available
"Freedom From the Torture of Your Thoughts"

Click HERE for the introductory pricing of US 15

**************************************************

See the preview (click below) to my online on-demand video course  




  NOW available

"Emotional Unavailability & Neediness: Two Sides of the Same Coin"


 *****************************

Si hablas español:


Hace poco di una charla en Marbella sobre el tema


Se filmó y se puede ver en YouTube aquí:


*****************************

Also visit my book website: www.gabriellakortsch.com where you may download excerpts or read quotations from any of my books (also in Spanish & German). My latest book Emotional Unavailability & Neediness: Two Sides of the Same Coin is available globally on Amazon in print & Kindle. You can also obtain it (or any of my other books) via Barnes & Noble.


Books by Dr. Gabriella Kortsch (English). Available globally in paperback or Kindle e-book versions


Bücher von Dr. Gabriella Kortsch (Deutsch) ... JETZT bei Amazon (Taschenbuch oder E-Book) erhältlich 
DEINE SEELE UND DU
  

Angefangen mit Rewiring the Soul - auf Deutsch: Deine Seele und Du, jetzt weltweit erhältlich als Taschenbuch oder Kindle E-Book (Blog hier), werden auch meine anderen Bücher in Zukunft auf Deutsch bei Amazon erhältlich sein.

Libros por Gabriella Kortsch (español) ... ahora en todo el mundo en Amazon en versión bolsillo y Kindle



Note: Also see my other other blog The Tao of Spiritual Partnership, so named for another one of my books. Click here to visit the blog and/or to sign up for the feed. 

My blog posts are also featured on Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn, Google+, Pinterest & you can find me on Instagram