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Wednesday, September 28, 2016

No More Bitterness & Resentment


I've often wondered if those people whose lives are filled with bitterness and resentment could just see for a moment in time what their lives would be like without the bitterness and the resentment (and the ensuing pain), whether they would then take the step towards making the choice of putting the bitterness and resentment behind them.

Because that is really what it's all about ... making a different choice.

It's not so much about being compassionate towards the person (or institution) who did whatever it was to them; it's also not so much about letting by-gones be by-gones. Much more than that it's about recognizing that you can continue to identify with whatever it was that threw your life out of balance at some point in the past (yesterday or a quarter of a century ago), and that caused much pain then, which is why the bitterness and resentment arose, or you can decide that you simply are no longer that person. That you choose to be a person without bitterness and resentment for you. For your own good. For your own inner freedom and growth. And particularly in order to make space inside of you

As you choose to turn your back on the bitterness and resentment, you no longer need to use up energy - psychic energy - (psychological energy) to keep up those feelings. So now your energy can be channeled towards totally different - life-giving - endeavours. As always, you choose ... or not.

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Also visit my book website: www.gabriellakortsch.com where you may download excerpts or read quotations from any of my books (also in Spanish & German). My latest book Emotional Unavailability & Neediness: Two Sides of the Same Coin is available globally on Amazon in print & Kindle. You can also obtain it (or any of my other books) via Barnes & Noble.


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Note: If you are wondering why this blog is now only appearing on alternate days (excluding Sat/Sun), it is because I also post on my other blog on the others days. That other blog is The Tao of Spiritual Partnership, so named for another one of my books. Click here to visit the blog and/or to sign up for the feed. 

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Wednesday, September 21, 2016

The Life We Don't Lead


Oscar Wilde said: One's real life is often the life that one does not lead.

Why would that be one's real life? Think for a moment how frequently you get side-tracked by what others think. You have a plan or a desire or an idea, and then, because of censure you feel you might receive from others or because someone says something to you that is critical or derisory about what you are planning, you set your own ideas aside.

They have been annihilated. And you can't really blame the other person - they merely stated their opinion. The problem is that you listened, and let it affect you to the point that you buried your own thoughts and are now living life - at least in this respect - according to what the other person has said...and where is your own life?

All I want to achieve with this very brief post is to make yo think. Don't let this be the result the next time you are on the verge of allowing another's opinion or words lynch your own idea or enthusiasm about a project you have just envisioned. And be very careful with whom you share your dreams ... because when your thoughts are still in that dream stage, they are not yet firmly entrenched. Let them grow roots before you expose them to strong winds and harsh rains.

See these articles here on the blog for more thoughts about this subject. See also my March 2006 newsletter: Intentional Focus: Your Happiness, Your Success, and the Law of Attraction and my August 2007 newsletter: Making Fear of the Unknown Work for You.

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Also visit my book website: www.gabriellakortsch.com where you may download excerpts or read quotations from any of my books (also in Spanish & German). My latest book Emotional Unavailability & Neediness: Two Sides of the Same Coin is available globally on Amazon in print & Kindle. You can also obtain it (or any of my other books) via Barnes & Noble.


Books by Dr. Gabriella Kortsch (English). Available globally in paperback or Kindle e-book versions


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Libros por Gabriella Kortsch (español) ... ahora en todo el mundo en Amazon en versión bolsillo y Kindle



Note: If you are wondering why this blog is now only appearing on alternate days (excluding Sat/Sun), it is because I also post on my other blog on the others days. That other blog is The Tao of Spiritual Partnership, so named for another one of my books. Click here to visit the blog and/or to sign up for the feed. 

My blog posts are also featured on Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn, Google+, Pinterest & you can find me on Instagram 

Monday, September 12, 2016

Choosing Hope in the Midst of Despair


There is much to be said about how you use choice in your life. Most particularly, the way you choose to react and behave, and where you choose to find hope in the midst of despair, may well make the difference between a life of frequent pain and one of inner well-being and harmony despite outer events.

Choice comes into it in many ways, but one of the most immediate and important, is choosing to remain aware. You can't possibly make choices that are good for you if you are not aware of the fact - in a situation of despair, pain, or fear - that your thoughts are running away on you; indeed, that it is precisely your thoughts that are causing much of the turmoil that is going on inside of you.

Next on the list of how choice comes into it is choosing to actively do something about those thoughts that are running away on you. By being aware of them you can do this (begin to practice doing this), and most particularly, you can choose to first find a place of inner calm and equanimity before you consider what might need to be done out there, on other levels, in order to deal with the event.

So you choose to become aware in general in your life at all possible times, and you choose to intend to be in charge of your thoughts when they race towards places in your mind that do you no good, and you choose to focus elsewhere in order to achieve that inner harmony and equanimity. Note that this is not a question of running away from a problem, or pretending it doesn't exist, but rather, a question of deciding you will first take charge of yourself, your inner state of being by taking charge of your thoughts. In order to do so, you will help yourself greatly by choosing where to focus. The more you focus on the event and the emotions it has created, the more you increase the weight of the thoughts that do you no good. And so you choose to focus elsewhere. You can focus on beauty, as I so often recommend here.

Focusing on beauty in nature is a simple method that allows you to be present. Being present (or mindful) allows you to leave that dark space in the past or future where your thoughts had taken you - the thoughts that fill you with trepidation, pain, worry, stress, or fear. Being present allows you to access inner calm. And being in a space of inner calm, allows you to choose your thoughts. Choosing your thoughts implies you can choose hope (and if you don't believe me, or if you think your particular situation is so much worse than anything I could imagine and hence does not apply to this post, take a look at the lives of Viktor Frankl, Nelson Mandela, or Christopher Reeve, and the books they wrote from their deepest despair. They chose to choose hope).

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Also visit my book website: www.gabriellakortsch.com where you may download excerpts or read quotations from any of my books (also in Spanish & German). My latest book Emotional Unavailability & Neediness: Two Sides of the Same Coin is available globally on Amazon in print & Kindle. You can also obtain it (or any of my other books) via Barnes & Noble.


Books by Dr. Gabriella Kortsch (English). Available globally in paperback or Kindle e-book versions


Bücher von Dr. Gabriella Kortsch (Deutsch) ... JETZT bei Amazon (Taschenbuch oder E-Book) erhältlich 
DEINE SEELE UND DU
  

Angefangen mit Rewiring the Soul - auf Deutsch: Deine Seele und Du, jetzt weltweit erhältlich als Taschenbuch oder Kindle E-Book (Blog hier), werden auch meine anderen Bücher in Zukunft auf Deutsch bei Amazon erhältlich sein.

Libros por Gabriella Kortsch (español) ... ahora en todo el mundo en Amazon en versión bolsillo y Kindle



Note: If you are wondering why this blog is now only appearing on alternate days (excluding Sat/Sun), it is because I also post on my other blog on the others days. That other blog is The Tao of Spiritual Partnership, so named for another one of my books. Click here to visit the blog and/or to sign up for the feed. 

My blog posts are also featured on Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn, Google+, Pinterest & you can find me on Instagram 

Friday, September 9, 2016

Waking Up


This year can be the year you truly wake up. While this is a spiritual quest, it does not - in the first instance - require many of the activities most of us have come to associate with a typical spiritual practice. Rather, it requires recognition that every moment of your life is filled with the promise of an enriched spirituality. If you want to wake up badly enough - or if you've recognized that you've tried many different avenues to reach a better place inside of you and nothing has worked - here are some of the things you will start doing right now (with specific examples following further below):
  • Be diligent in your practice of becoming continually aware.
  • For the above to work, be diligent in becoming mindful.
  • Being aware and mindful will allow you to become the one who is in charge of your thoughts, feelings, actions, and reactions, as opposed to your circumstances dictating all of these.
  • Look at yourself before blaming others, remembering that much of what causes strong emotions generally has some kind of root inside yourself - akin to what Carl Gustav Jung called the shadow, i.e., all those bits of yourself that have not yet seen the light of your understanding (being aware and mindful is the key). Remember that your ego is not your best friend.
  • Choose your reactions to anyone and anything with great care (being aware and mindful is the key).
  • Be diligent in your practice of being kinder, more loving, and compassionate every day.
Surely you have read or heard of much of the above before, especially if you have been reading my blog posts or monthly newsletter articles I have been disseminating since 2004. Most authors and teachers who write about these subjects refer to them in one fashion or another.

But let's examine some very specific things - using the most mundane examples - that you can explore and begin to do right now as you move in your quest to truly wake up:
  • You've just been passed by another car on a very dangerous road in such a way that you had to veer to the shoulder in order to avoid a crash. As you observe yourself going through this, how do you choose to react in your thoughts and feelings? What do you choose to learn from this situation about hidden bits of yourself as opposed to merely blaming the other?
  • One of your colleagues has undermined you in front of the boss. As you observe yourself going through this, how do you choose to react in the first instance inside of yourself - long before you decide how to address the issue with your colleague and your boss? What do you choose to learn from this situation about hidden bits of yourself as opposed to merely blaming the other?
  • You are at a dinner party with your partner and notice him/her flirting (or appearing to flirt). As you observe yourself going through this, how do you react inside yourself? What self-dialogue do you have? How do you speak to your partner later? What do you choose to learn from this situation about hidden bits of yourself as opposed to merely blaming the other?
  • Your doctor has just given you a frightening diagnosis. As you observe yourself going through this, how do you react inside yourself? What self-dialogue do you have? How do you take care of yourself? What do you choose to learn from this situation about hidden bits of yourself as opposed to merely blaming the circumstances?
  • A good friend has blown you off. You were meant to meet for lunch and at the last minute gave you a feeble excuse. It's not the first time. You are angry. You are sad. You are disappointed. But: as you observe yourself going through this, how do you react inside yourself? What self-dialogue do you have? What do you choose to learn from this situation about hidden bits of yourself as opposed to merely blaming the other?
  • Your salary is tight and this morning your hot water tank gave its last sigh. You need a new one and you don't have the money. Your credit cards are maxed out. You feel angry and impotent, and above all, you feel life is very unfair. As you observe yourself going through this, how do you react inside yourself? How do you take care of yourself? What do you choose to learn from this situation about hidden bits of yourself as opposed to merely blaming the circumstances?
  • You are working on a project close to your heart. Not only have you not yet succeeded, but you run into one failure after another. As you observe yourself going through this, how do you react inside yourself? What self-dialogue do you have? How do you take care of yourself? What do you choose to learn from this situation about hidden bits of yourself as opposed to merely blaming the situation?
  • One of your children (small or adult) has just had a major setback. You are in pain for him/her and are suffering. You wish to alleviate his/her difficulty. You want to take it on your own shoulders. As you observe yourself going through this, how do you react inside yourself? What self-dialogue do you have? How do you take care of yourself? What do you choose to learn from this situation about hidden bits of yourself as opposed to merely blaming the situation?
  • You know you are absolutely right in that argument you are having. As a matter of fact, you can prove it. But no matter what you do, you aren't able to sway the person with whom you are speaking. And so you battle on, trying to convince them. Finally you get righteously angry. But then you catch yourself. You remember that much of what is going on has to do with you. Why is it so important that you are shown to be right? How much of your ego is involved in this transaction? And therefore you check how you are reacting, you correct your self-dialogue, and you begin to free yourself from the need to be right.
Such situations are frequently dealt with by most of us in ways that are neither aware nor mindful. We don't choose our reactions; we simply react blindly. In so doing, we lose precious opportunities that life offers us in the guise of such struggles, not only to grow, and to understand ourselves better psychologically and emotionally, but to move forward in our spiritual path because such awareness of the self, and such using of those opportunities is a important and precious part of what it means to live a spiritual life and to wake up.

This year can be the year you truly wake up. Start by being aware and mindful and then apply it to absolutely everything that happens to you. You choose.

Image: Palouse, Washington

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Also visit my book website: www.gabriellakortsch.com where you may download excerpts or read quotations from any of my books (also in Spanish & German). My latest book Emotional Unavailability & Neediness: Two Sides of the Same Coin is available globally on Amazon in print & Kindle. You can also obtain it (or any of my other books) via Barnes & Noble.


Books by Dr. Gabriella Kortsch (English). Available globally in paperback or Kindle e-book versions


Bücher von Dr. Gabriella Kortsch (Deutsch) ... JETZT bei Amazon (Taschenbuch oder E-Book) erhältlich 
DEINE SEELE UND DU
  

Angefangen mit Rewiring the Soul - auf Deutsch: Deine Seele und Du, jetzt weltweit erhältlich als Taschenbuch oder Kindle E-Book (Blog hier), werden auch meine anderen Bücher in Zukunft auf Deutsch bei Amazon erhältlich sein.

Libros por Gabriella Kortsch (español) ... ahora en todo el mundo en Amazon en versión bolsillo y Kindle



Note: If you are wondering why this blog is now only appearing on alternate days (excluding Sat/Sun), it is because I also post on my other blog on the others days. That other blog is The Tao of Spiritual Partnership, so named for another one of my books. Click here to visit the blog and/or to sign up for the feed. 

My blog posts are also featured on Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn, Google+, Pinterest & you can find me on Instagram