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Wednesday, August 31, 2016

Live Your Best Life 2016 - 2017 Schedule




Group Meetings to Support Your Growth & Well-Being


*** Here is the 2016 - 2017 Season Schedule ***

We all deserve to live our best life. We all deserve joy, peace, happiness, and inner freedom. So why are each of us not living our best lives and experiencing all these things? Schools teach us how to read and write, they teach us about math, geography and history, but they do not teach us about life and how to live it. Sometimes our parents do, but most often, they do not. This discussion group is designed to change that.

Are you experiencing any of the following in your life?
  • Relationship breakdown or stress
  • Financial stress
  • Major illness (you or a close family member)
  • Poor communication with your parents or offspring
  • Worry and desperation due to:
    • Fear of aging
    • Unfulfilling life
    • Depression
    • Loneliness 
    • Boredom 
    • Desire for change
    • Lack of progress and success
On Tuesday, September 6th, 2016 our discussion group will once again begin meeting weekly. It is not focused on any one given problem, but precisely because it focuses on growth and well-being, this group literally addresses any problem. The path that leads to inner and outer peace and well-being is a path that serves you no matter what kind of situation you are facing.

You will not be expected to divulge personal details at any time unless you wish. The group meeting begins at 7:30 and lasts until approximately 9 pm. For the first portion of the meeting I will present the topic of the week, and then there will be a general discussion in order to facilitate the understanding of the methods by which the tools that have been discussed may be incorporated into your life … beginning immediately.

If you wish to participate, you may come to any of the meetings - and although it is recommended that you attend as many as possible, simply because each is designed to further you along that road to inner and outer peace, joy, and well-being - there is, however, no minimum attendance requirement. Everyone is welcome, whether you have previously attended or not.

The group started in January 2010 and other than summer and Christmas/New Year's breaks, has been meeting ever since. Of course there is always an influx of new people, so if you have never come before, don't feel as though you are the only one.

Meetings will be not be announced by email except to the specific persons who have requested to be notified on a weekly basis. Please email me if you wish to be included in this weekly mailing. Information will also be available on at least one of my Facebook pages:
There is a per-meeting participation fee of 10 Euros. Please bring exact change. (Please contact me privately if cost is an issue).

Please do your utmost to arrive punctually between 7:15 and 7:30 prior to the beginning of the meeting. Coming later than this time will interrupt the flow of the group. We meet in Guadalmina Alta. If you need directions, please send an email.

NOTE:
If you wish to participate in any given meeting, please RSVP before Monday at 9 pm prior to the Tuesday meeting that you wish to attend at info (at) advancedpersonaltherapy (dot) com If you subsequently need to change your plans, please also let me know in order to give your place to another person as seating is limited.

SCHEDULE of TOPICS
      
2016
            
September

Sept. 6                  Bringing the baggage of the old energy to the present
Sept. 13                Challenges you may face on the spiritual path
Sept. 20                What to do about verbal abuse & toxic behavior in your life

Sept. 27                The powerful medicine of love

October

Oct. 4                    Stop your anxious thinking
Oct. 11                  Do you have to change your friends if you take a spiritual path?
Oct. 18                  Creating excellent children
Oct. 25                  If you only had one year left to live what would you change?

November

Nov. 1                   Recognizing the two types of narcissists
Nov. 8                   Do you really change the day you awaken?
Nov. 15                 Where are you going?
Nov. 22                 Breaking from the chains of codependency
Nov. 29                 Can you allow your soul to guide your destiny?

December

Dec. 6                    Did you know that you ALWAYS have a choice? 
Dec. 13                  Focusing on what you want to grow       
      After the meeting we will celebrate our annual Christmas dinner
Dec. 20                  No Meeting
Dec. 27                  No Meeting

2017

January

Jan. 3                    No Meeting
Jan. 10                  The double-whammy predicament of loving
Jan. 17                  How is it possible to bear the unbearable?
Jan. 24                  There’s no instruction manual for life, so here’s what you can do
Jan. 31                  Focusing on heart-centered consciousness

February

Feb. 7                    Spiritual partnerships / conscious relationships
Feb. 14                  How can you make friends with change in your life?
Feb. 21                  Suffering is optional … and so is joy
Feb. 28                  If you’re not present, how can you communicate?

March

March 7                Changing the narrative of your life
March 14              Forgiving: Can you? Do you want to? Do you know how?
March 21              Live your highest you
March 28              All your daily teachers: Be grateful for their presence in your life

April

April 4                   The stages of spiritual awakening
April 11                 Your own “hero’s journey”
April 18                 Your possible selves
April 25                 The power of your self-dialogue

May

May 2                    Talking to your body & health
May 9                    Mindfulness: Incorporating it into your daily life
May 16                 Compassion vs. empathy: Are you experiencing burn-out?
May 23                 Your use of others’ emergencies
May 30                 Heaven on earth

June

June 6                   YOUR personal growth has the power to change the world
June 13                 Death & Dying: A spiritual approach
June 20                 Dealing with grief
June 27                 Happiness is YOUR responsibility

July

July 4                     Conscious aging
July 11                   Life between lives: What happens when you are ‘between’ reincarnations?
      After the meeting we will celebrate our annual summer break dinner together
July 18                   No Meeting
July 25                   No Meeting



*** SUBJECT TO CHANGE***



Further Information 
or to request to be included in the group email list that is sent out weekly:
Email: info (at) advancedpersonaltherapy (dot) com
    Phone: +34 626 189 765 

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Also visit my book website: www.gabriellakortsch.com where you may download excerpts or read quotations from any of my books (also in Spanish & German). My latest book Emotional Unavailability & Neediness: Two Sides of the Same Coin is available globally on Amazon in print & Kindle. You can also obtain it (or any of my other books) via Barnes & Noble.


Books by Dr. Gabriella Kortsch (English). Available globally in paperback or Kindle e-book versions


Bücher von Dr. Gabriella Kortsch (Deutsch) ... JETZT bei Amazon (Taschenbuch oder E-Book) erhältlich 
DEINE SEELE UND DU
  

Angefangen mit Rewiring the Soul - auf Deutsch: Deine Seele und Du, jetzt weltweit erhältlich als Taschenbuch oder Kindle E-Book (Blog hier), werden auch meine anderen Bücher in Zukunft auf Deutsch bei Amazon erhältlich sein.

Libros por Gabriella Kortsch (español) ... ahora en todo el mundo en Amazon en versión bolsillo y Kindle
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Note: If you are wondering why this blog is now only appearing on alternate days (excluding Sat/Sun), it is because I also post on my other blog on the others days. That other blog is The Tao of Spiritual Partnership, so named for another one of my books. Click here to visit the blog and/or to sign up for the feed. 

My blog posts are also featured on Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn, Google+, Pinterest & you can find me on Instagram 

Wednesday, August 24, 2016

Basing Your Behavior on Your Heart Instead of Your Ego


Being motivated by the ego rather than the heart is such a big one for so many of us. We see it frequently (and recognize it easily as such), for example when a couple splits up and instead of making their children's well-being a priority (which would be heart-based behavior), they can only see those things which allow them to feel that they are getting even with the ex-partner (which is ego-based behavior). This might include such niceties as not showing up when they have visitation, or not paying child-support until forced to by law, or refusing to have anything to do with the children while they're with the partner and only interacting with the children when they are actually physically together, to continually badmouthing the other parent, or deliberately withholding the children in some fashion from the other parent, making phone calls difficult, and impeding easy visitation in whatever way they can. Such a parent might carry on a vicious custody battle, only to leave the children to the care of a nanny, in the event they win. Or they might drop off the children for a weekend with the non-custodial parent with the wrong clothes or too few clothes, to ensure that the non-custodial parent has to spend more money and time during the short hours they have with the child/ren. There are as many modalities of this kind of behavior as there are imaginative minds. The bottom line however is this: the kids never win. Even the ego-based behavior person doesn't win, because in some fashion, at some time they will pay a price.

But I find that we are perhaps a bit more blind in recognizing ego-based behavior when it comes in connection to concepts such as pride and honor, and even more nebulous concepts that somehow involve self-righteousness, such as you are wrong and I am right. You have insulted me, and you think perhaps I have been lacking in respect, and now both of us get up on our high horse regarding the matter, and completely lose sight of the fact that beyond all of this we actually love each other. This often happens in families. I've had clients come to see me that may have been estranged from their parent/s or children for years, even decades. And when you unravel it, and come right down to what happened - it is very often a case of the individual ego being stronger than the love. Or it can happen that the person with this ego simply doesn't know how to let go of the ego in order to let love rule. Not knowing how is often a huge factor. Even if one of the two parties is operating from the heart, if the other continues in his/her ego, the heart-based person may not be able to crack the shell. And of course it's also possible that both are coming from the ego, and neither is letting love be the decisive factor.

How this comes about is actually relatively easy to understand: we lose sight of what is important and remain in a place where higher importance - more value - is given to something that has to do with pride and honor, or being right, as opposed to love. The former is ego-based; the latter is heart-based.

In smaller ways it often happens with parents and adolescents as well, especially when the teens are in that time of their lives that psychoanalysts used to call Sturm und Drang, which I actually prefer to call: 'the time when they shape-shift into aliens from outer space'. So of course, when parents come to see me at that time of a teen's life and request that I 'fix' their teen, I tend to urge better - and much more heart-based than ego-based - communication. And I encourage the parents to exercise their role as parents (which is, in fact, a valid concept even when the parents are in middle or old age and the teens are no longer teens but well into their 30's and 40's), by showing that they are the mature ones (for this to work, they - the parents - actually must be the mature ones, and that unfortunately is often not the case). This involves speaking to their offspring in ways that remind them (or perhaps clearly point out for the first time) that what they (the parents) really care about is the love that exists between them and the teen, as opposed to the issue - whatever the issue might be. And that by all keeping their eye on the love, the issue can more readily be resolved. That is heart-based behavior.

In order to allow heart-based behavior to be prevalent in your life, being aware and conscious of yourself is paramount. Add to that the full acceptance of total responsibility for yourself. All of this is strongly related to emotional maturity. And once that is in place, you will catch yourself quickly when you revert back to ego-based behavior, and you will then just as quickly move forward again to heart-based behavior. How can we ever expect there to be peace anywhere at all in the world, if we cannot even do this in the relationships we have with those who are closest and nearest to us: with those we love?

One final point: not forgiving is ego-based. Forgiving is heart-based.

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Also visit my book website: www.gabriellakortsch.com where you may download excerpts or read quotations from any of my books (also in Spanish & German). My latest book Emotional Unavailability & Neediness: Two Sides of the Same Coin is available globally on Amazon in print & Kindle. You can also obtain it (or any of my other books) via Barnes & Noble.


Books by Dr. Gabriella Kortsch (English). Available globally in paperback or Kindle e-book versions


Bücher von Dr. Gabriella Kortsch (Deutsch) ... JETZT bei Amazon (Taschenbuch oder E-Book) erhältlich 
DEINE SEELE UND DU
  

Angefangen mit Rewiring the Soul - auf Deutsch: Deine Seele und Du, jetzt weltweit erhältlich als Taschenbuch oder Kindle E-Book (Blog hier), werden auch meine anderen Bücher in Zukunft auf Deutsch bei Amazon erhältlich sein.

Libros por Gabriella Kortsch (español) ... ahora en todo el mundo en Amazon en versión bolsillo y Kindle



Note: If you are wondering why this blog is now only appearing on alternate days (excluding Sat/Sun), it is because I also post on my other blog on the others days. That other blog is The Tao of Spiritual Partnership, so named for another one of my books. Click here to visit the blog and/or to sign up for the feed. 

My blog posts are also featured on Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn, Google+, Pinterest & you can find me on Instagram 

Thursday, August 18, 2016

Being Transparent in Love


Who hasn’t lied in a relationship? Maybe not about something as shattering as having an affair on the side, but perhaps something more light-weight such as pretending to like football or opera at the beginning so you can be with the football or opera lover, when it actually bores you. And who hasn’t been lied to in a relationship – and felt the results: lack of trust and a general sense of malaise that permeates everything from that point forward, because you just don’t know anymore whether the person that lied once can be trusted to not lie in future.

Transparency and the lack of it in relationships, is a condition with consequences whose insidious tentacles extend much further than pure and simple lying. Transparency means saying what is really inside of you. Transparency means not equivocating about what is important to you. It is not pushing your opinions or likes and dislikes on others, but it is being honest about them when they become part of what is happening in the relationship.

And of course, this applies not only to our love relationships, but to all the important relationships in our lived.

Being transparent implies being vulnerable, because the transparency…the visibility of your inner self ... is now out in the open, for your partner (or simply the person with whom you have a relationship, a friend, a family member, etc.), to see, to palpate, to react to, to comment about, and possibly, to reject. Clearly, this latter reason, coupled with the fear most people have of being vulnerable (see also “Leaving Your Comfort Zone: Fear of Emotional Expression”), causes many to avoid the issue of transparency. If I allow him or her to see the real me, or so one reasons, he/she will not want to be with me, or will think I am too this or too that. And yet, if you do not allow the other to see the real you, how will they ever really get to know you? And therefore, if they fall in love with you, what or who are they falling in love with??? A chimera, evanescent by nature, since it is not real. Is it not better to risk possible rejection by being transparent, and thus eventually be loved for one’s real self by someone who appreciates it, than to be loved for what one is not?

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Also visit my book website: www.gabriellakortsch.com where you may download excerpts or read quotations from any of my books (also in Spanish & German). My latest book Emotional Unavailability & Neediness: Two Sides of the Same Coin is available globally on Amazon in print & Kindle. You can also obtain it (or any of my other books) via Barnes & Noble.


Books by Dr. Gabriella Kortsch (English). Available globally in paperback or Kindle e-book versions


Bücher von Dr. Gabriella Kortsch (Deutsch) ... JETZT bei Amazon (Taschenbuch oder E-Book) erhältlich 
DEINE SEELE UND DU
  

Angefangen mit Rewiring the Soul - auf Deutsch: Deine Seele und Du, jetzt weltweit erhältlich als Taschenbuch oder Kindle E-Book (Blog hier), werden auch meine anderen Bücher in Zukunft auf Deutsch bei Amazon erhältlich sein.

Libros por Gabriella Kortsch (español) ... ahora en todo el mundo en Amazon en versión bolsillo y Kindle



Note: If you are wondering why this blog is now only appearing on alternate days (excluding Sat/Sun), it is because I also post on my other blog on the others days. That other blog is The Tao of Spiritual Partnership, so named for another one of my books. Click here to visit the blog and/or to sign up for the feed. 

My blog posts are also featured on Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn, Google+, Pinterest & you can find me on Instagram 

Friday, August 12, 2016

Physical Illnesses that Masquerade as Psychological Disorders


With this article my intention is to offer you some insights into your own psychological and physical health. Don’t simply accept what a professional (like myself and countless others across the globe) tells you. Become aware that misdiagnosis is a common issue, particularly in the field of the psyche. You may be labeled as having B – a psychological disorder – while in fact, you have C – a physical problem. As you can imagine the treatment for B is very different from the treatment for C.
  • Michael and Melanie make separate appointments to see a psychologist, psychotherapist, or psychiatrist for depression. At the end of that first session, and after due probing into his/her state of mind, probably the first two recommend a series of 5 - 20 sessions, and the third recommends an anti-depressant. However, instead of complying, they decide to have their hormone levels tested, and discover several are low. After beginning a course of bio-identical hormone replacement therapy, the depression lifts as early morning mist can dissipate with the heat of the sun. It’s possible that either of these two individuals was going through andropause or menopause, or it’s equally possible, that they are at an earlier stage of their life, but nevertheless suffering from hormonal imbalance due to prolonged chronic stress characteristic of our modern life style. Either way, assuming the situation is as described, hormones are the answer – not therapy. [i]
  • Stephen’s teacher tells his mother he probably has ADHD (attention deficit hyperactivity disorder). After a brief evaluation, the pediatrician concurs, and Ritalin (an amphetamine-like drug) is prescribed. For two years it makes Michael agitated, causes him to lose weight, and keeps him awake all night. However, with a subsequent evaluation by another physician, it was discovered that Stephen has iron-deficiency anemia and elevated lead levels. Both of these caused his irritability for which he had been prescribed the drug Ritalin, and this drug had, in fact, exacerbated his condition. Clearly, assuming the situation is as described, treating the iron deficiency and the elevated lead levels is the answer – not drugs or therapy.[ii]
  • Jonathan makes an appointment for an evaluation due to repeated memory issues - at 57 - an age that might be a little young to consider early-onset Alzheimer’s and is told that it has to be dealt with; it’s part of life, and while there are some brain-training exercises he can do, there are few solutions. Doing some research on the topic, he decides to have his Vitamin B12 levels tested and finds his are not only low, but extremely low, and this may sometimes occasion memory loss (and a host of other issues). After a course of B12 injections and/or sublingual supplementation (as he may no longer assimilate B12 well via his digestive system), his memory improves drastically. Assuming the situation is as described, a vitamin is the answer – not therapy. [iii]
  • Suzanne sought therapy for anxiety and panic attacks, coupled with insomnia, and was counseled to schedule a series of psychological sessions. Again, doing some research on the topic, she decided to increase her magnesium intake, and finds a lessening of all symptoms after a period of time. Assuming the situation is as described, a mineral is the answer – not therapy. [iv]
An internationally accepted “bible” of symptoms, the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual (DSM)[v], came into being in 1952 (with numerous revisions since), and is used by a large part of the community of those professionals who deal with the human mind. In the above examples, certain symptoms were labeled a specific way, and then judged to be dealt with as described, without taking into consideration that there could be other reasons for these symptoms. Dr. Sydney Walker, a psychiatrist and author of A Dose of Sanity, writes:  “… a label is not a diagnosis. Saying someone is “depressed” or “anxious” is a far cry from finding out what causes the depression or anxiety; it’s comparable to a pediatrician saying a child has “spots”, without bothering to find out whether the spots are caused by measles, poison ivy, or staphylococcus. Patients who have been “diagnosed” as having manic depression, anxiety disorder, attention deficit hyperactivity disorder, and so on, haven’t been diagnosed; they’ve merely been described.” [vi]

Ann Japenga writes: "I use the DSM-III-R probably every day," says Marc Graff, assistant chief of psychiatry for Kaiser Permanente in the east San Fernando Valley. "I keep a copy at work, one at home and I carry one on call. It helps me conceptualize what's going on with a patient." But others, both inside and outside the profession, consider the system of categorizing disorders arbitrary at best and dangerous at worse. "It's not really an objective document at all," argues University of Montreal sociology professor David Cohen, who specializes in mental-health trends. "There's really nothing scientific about it. It's really just a list of our sins and deviations; it's a repository of our fears and our dislikes and hatreds." [vii]
  • Joan’s (76) sudden depression turns out to be a side effect of her high blood-pressure medication. Therapy would not have solved her problem. [viii]
  • A young mother’s exhaustion and disinterest in her baby seems like postpartum depression, but in fact indicates a postpartum thyroid imbalance that can be corrected with medication. Therapy would not have solved her problem. [ix]
  • Harry (47), manager, has angry outburst at work, frequently feeling “ready to explode”. A temporal brain scan reveals temporal-lobe seizures, a type of epilepsy that can be treated with surgery or medication. Therapy would not have solved his problem. [x]
Harvard psychiatrist Barbara Schildkrout, author of Unmasking Psychological Symptoms (a book aimed at helping therapists broaden their diagnostic skills), indicates that more than 100 medical disorders can masquerade as psychological conditions:

What appears to be        May actually be …

Depression                  underactive thyroid, low vitamin D or B12, diabetes, hormonal changes, Lyme disease, lupus, head trauma, sleep disorders, some cancers and cancer drugs

Anxiety                      overactive thyroid, respiratory problems, very low blood pressure, concussion, anaphylactic shock

Irritability             brain injury, temporal lobe epilepsy, Alzheimer’s disease, parasitic infection, hormonal changes

Hallucinations             epilepsy, brain tumor, fever, narcolepsy, substance abuse

Cognitive changes     brain injury or infections, Alzheimer’s, Parkinson’s, liver failure, mercury or lead poisoning

Psychosis                    venereal disease, brain tumors and cysts, epilepsy, steroids, substance abuse[xi]

Jerrold Pollak, a neuropsychologist, indicates that – at least while further tests are being carried out - some patients may benefit from both psychological counseling and medical help. [xii]

Depression is often the first thing people notice when something is going on in the body, or at least, it’s the one that causes people to get help. In one way this is positive as it might help a therapist diagnose a health problem that could have gone undetected without the advent of the depressive symptoms, but unfortunately, far too often it is treated without going deeper into the patient’s symptoms and history in order to determine what might underlie it.[xiii]

I wish I had the space in this short article to tell you about the appalling number of cases of misdiagnoses that the authors of the books and articles I cite have recorded. A psychiatric diagnosis made too quickly, and on the basis of labels based on a “bible” that by the admission of many within the APA who publish the DSM, may be the wrong one. And furthermore, by treating it with therapy or drugs, may cause even greater damage. I am a psychotherapist and very much believe in my work. However, I also very much believe that blithely diagnosing without taking into account the many physical factors that might come into play, could be lethal for patients. Please inform yourself.

Note: While my interest in this article has been to pinpoint examples of a series of disorders that appear to be psychological, but are indeed, physical, please understand, that in other cases, those same disorders are, in fact, psychological, and will require another kind of treatment.




[i] Google “symptoms of hormonal imbalance”. Also Google “bio-identical hormone replacement”.
[ii] Walker, Sydney, A Dose of Sanity. New York, John Wiley & Sons, Inc., 1996, p. 60.
[iii] Google “symptoms of Vitamin B12 deficiency”. Also read Could It Be B12: An Epidemic of Misdiagnoses by S.M. Pacholok & J.J. Stuart.
[iv] Google “symptoms of magnesium deficiency”. Also read The Magnesium Miracle by Carolyn Dean, or The Magnesium Factor by M.S. Selig & Andrea Rosanoff.
[v] Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders V, American Psychiatric Association, 2013.
[vi] Walker, Sydney, A Dose of Sanity. New York, John Wiley & Sons, Inc., 1996, p. 5.
[vii] Japenga, Ann, Rewriting the Dictionary of Madness: Is the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders a Work of Pure Science or Just a List of Dangerous Labels. LA Times, June 5, 1994.
[viii] Beck, Melinda, Confusing Medical Ailments with Mental Illness. WSJ, August 9, 2011.
[ix] idem
[x] idem
[xi] Schildkrout, Barbara, Unmasking Psychological Symptoms. John Wiley & Sons, Hoboken, 2011.
[xii] Beck, Melinda, idem.
[xiii] Wasmer Andrews, Linda, Could Your Illness Trigger Depressive Symptoms? Feeling Blue? The Cause Could Be Diabetes or Other Diseases. Lifescript, February 27, 2012.

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Also visit my book website: www.gabriellakortsch.com where you may book a Skype session, download excerpts, or read quotations from any of my books (also in Spanish & German). My latest book Emotional Unavailability & Neediness: Two Sides of the Same Coin is available globally on Amazon in print & Kindle. You can also obtain it (or any of my other books) via Barnes & Noble.


Books by Dr. Gabriella Kortsch (English). Available globally in paperback or Kindle e-book versions


Bücher von Dr. Gabriella Kortsch (Deutsch) ... JETZT bei Amazon (Taschenbuch oder E-Book) erhältlich 
DEINE SEELE UND DU
  

Angefangen mit Rewiring the Soul - auf Deutsch: Deine Seele und Du, jetzt weltweit erhältlich als Taschenbuch oder Kindle E-Book (Blog hier), werden auch meine anderen Bücher in Zukunft auf Deutsch bei Amazon erhältlich sein.

Libros por Gabriella Kortsch (español) ... ahora en todo el mundo en Amazon en versión bolsillo y Kindle



Note: If you are wondering why this blog is now only appearing on alternate days (excluding Sat/Sun), it is because I also post on my other blog on the others days. That other blog is The Tao of Spiritual Partnership, so named for another one of my books. Click here to visit the blog and/or to sign up for the feed. 

My blog posts are also featured on Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn, Google+, Pinterest & you can find me on Instagram