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Monday, June 27, 2016

Choosing Love - Not Fear


What prevails in your life? Is it love? Or is it fear? If love is stronger you will know it immediately because in general, your life holds a measure of well-being and peace that - should your life be ruled by fear - you will not be tremendously well acquainted with.

Being ruled by fear necessitates a negative charge to daily life. It means - in simple terms - that you are not confident that you will be fine no matter what occurs. In other words, you are fearful of some things happening, essentially because you believe - you fear - that if they happen, you will suffer. Exactly what those events are that you fear may vary from person to person to such a degree that what John fears most is something that Simon does not fear at all, and yet what Simon fears, is something that John considers a simple challenge that can easily be surmounted. Living a life where at some point - most likely some subconscious point - you chose fear over love does not mean that you are a coward or a wimp. This is not about courage. It is about understanding some elementary aspects about the goodness of life and about believing in the self the way one does when one has established a relationship with the self. And you only ever do that if you have begun the process of loving the self.

The fact of the matter is that those things that we fear - as long as we continue to fear - can never be fully enumerated, because we have no way of knowing what we may have to face at the next turn of the road. Fear - in this sense - implies wishing to control that which we may encounter, and as said, it is never possible to control everything that we might encounter, because we simply don't know what we will encounter at any given time.

At this point the choice for love and trust in the self may - if we are conscious enough - enter the equation.

Love has to do with confidence, with caring for the self and with knowing that because you care for the self, you are able to handle things as they arise in your life - even when those things  are difficult or painful. More than anything, above all, and in the very first instance, choosing love has to do with loving the self and because of this love having the firm inner conviction that you can deal with any of the cards that life throws you. That does not mean, by the way, that you will always win or always be successful, or always get what you want. It simply means that no matter what happens, you will be able to deal with it in such a way that your inner well being remains on an even keel. Even if you are Nelson Mandela and spending 27 years locked up in Robben Island, and even if you are Victor Frankl imprisoned in Auschwitz, or even if you are Aimée Mullens and had both legs amputated when you were five.

This inner conviction does not come about just in an instance. Let's say you have lived your life driven by fear to this point. You've attempted - often unsuccessfully - to exert a measure of control over those outer circumstances that threaten to throw your well-being off center. You are ruled - to a degree - by the subliminal fear or knowledge that you are not able to control your life, and hence you don't know how you will be if something bad happens.

This inner conviction does not come about just in an instance. Let's say you have lived your life driven by fear to this point. You've attempted - often unsuccessfully - to exert a measure of control over those outer circumstances that threaten to throw your well-being off center. You are ruled - to a degree - by the subliminal fear or knowledge that you are not able to control your life, and hence you don't know how you will be if something bad happens. You don´t know if you will be able to deal with, or even bear the circumstances - whatever they may be. This creates – if not outright fear, since fear is such a strong emotion – at least a continual sensation of discomfort in your skin, so to speak. Something about you, concerning your life and the way you live does not feel at ease.

The process of moving from a fear-ruled life in the sense described above to a love-ruled life always begins with the recognition of the need to learn how to love the self. By loving the self, fear gradually begins to dissipate because the individual whose life is ruled by love and who has chosen love as the primary benchmark for how he lives his life, is an individual for whom fear – of dis-ease - no longer looms large as it does for the person who has not yet made such choices.

I imagine you are inundated with advice for this new year that began only a few hours ago and so I merely wish to leave you with several thoughts:
  • Choosing love over fear signifies that you view your life from the vantage point of goodness, love, strength and hope, as well as peace, love and harmony, as opposed to fear, competition, one-up-man-ship, and the need to prove that something about you, your life or what you do is more right than that of another individual.
  • Choosing love over fear means every situation always brings you to a win-win end result.
  • Choosing love over fear as a modus operandi for your life; a way to live your life will literally change everything for you.
  • Choosing love over fear will also change the effect you have on all those whose lives you touch and so YOU will actively - and most literally - contribute to change our world.
Choose love. Choose it for you, your loved ones, your neighbourhood, your community, your nation and your world. We are all in this together and we can all contribute to making this change. All it takes is all of us choosing love over fear. Remember that we are all one and that what affects one of us, affects us all.

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Also visit my book website: www.gabriellakortsch.com where you may download excerpts or read quotations from any of my books (also in Spanish & German). My latest book Emotional Unavailability & Neediness: Two Sides of the Same Coin is available globally on Amazon in print & Kindle. You can also obtain it (or any of my other books) via Barnes & Noble.


Books by Dr. Gabriella Kortsch (English). Available globally in paperback or Kindle e-book versions


Bücher von Dr. Gabriella Kortsch (Deutsch) ... JETZT bei Amazon (Taschenbuch oder E-Book) erhältlich 
DEINE SEELE UND DU
  

Angefangen mit Rewiring the Soul - auf Deutsch: Deine Seele und Du, jetzt weltweit erhältlich als Taschenbuch oder Kindle E-Book (Blog hier), werden auch meine anderen Bücher in Zukunft auf Deutsch bei Amazon erhältlich sein.

Libros por Gabriella Kortsch (español) ... ahora en todo el mundo en Amazon en versión bolsillo y Kindle



Note: If you are wondering why this blog is now only appearing on alternate days (excluding Sat/Sun), it is because I also post on my other blog on the others days. That other blog is The Tao of Spiritual Partnership, so named for another one of my books. Click here to visit the blog and/or to sign up for the feed. 

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Monday, June 20, 2016

Do You Use the Tools You Already Have?


There is so much information available to us today ... in this year, this decade, this century, this millennium ... particularly information that allows us to live better lives, not only more productive lives, but much better lives on levels that go way beyond that.

We can be healthier, due to the information cutting-edge science is constantly feeding us. We can be more content and happier, less stressed, more in tune with ourselves, in a much better place inside ourselves, simply due to information that is constantly pouring out at us on so many levels.

Tools are available to us that no one would have - or could have - dreamed about a mere decade ago ... tools that allow us to resolve issues that in the last century were dealt with over years of treatment, and even then, more often than not, simply not resolved.

But we - here and now in this time of our history - have tools ... if we only go out looking for them.

Or ... if we already have them, if we've already received or found them ... if we would only stop procrastinating and use them.

Today my topic is about that. This post is about reminding you to use what you already have gleaned, rather than just reading it or hearing it and then not doing anything about it. There is so much, and yet we tend to sit back and vegetate.

I often think that part of the reason for this lack of initiative is that we are lazy and not disciplined when it comes to making changes - even positive changes - that can impact our lives.

I also often think it has to do with the fact that so many of us don't really allow the possibility of real change being possible enter our lives. We've been taught so long and so forcefully that change only comes with a price tag of hard work, that we are not excited about trying some of the tools we may have learned about at a workshop last weekend, or read about in a book or article the other day, or observed in a program on TV or on YouTube.

You might also like to listen to the audio file of a radio show I did about this topic some time ago,
I've Been to all the Seminars, and all the Workshops, and I've Read all the Books, But My Life is Still the Same... in order to hear more about this topic of our procrastination when it comes to not rushing out to make changes even when all the tools are already in our hands. (NOTE: Once you click on the above link, scroll down to the "Awareness & Consciousness" section and find the audio file ... in alphabetical order).

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Also visit my book website: www.gabriellakortsch.com where you may download excerpts or read quotations from any of my books (also in Spanish & German). My latest book Emotional Unavailability & Neediness: Two Sides of the Same Coin is available globally on Amazon in print & Kindle. You can also obtain it (or any of my other books) via Barnes & Noble.


Books by Dr. Gabriella Kortsch (English). Available globally in paperback or Kindle e-book versions


Bücher von Dr. Gabriella Kortsch (Deutsch) ... JETZT bei Amazon (Taschenbuch oder E-Book) erhältlich 
DEINE SEELE UND DU
  

Angefangen mit Rewiring the Soul - auf Deutsch: Deine Seele und Du, jetzt weltweit erhältlich als Taschenbuch oder Kindle E-Book (Blog hier), werden auch meine anderen Bücher in Zukunft auf Deutsch bei Amazon erhältlich sein.

Libros por Gabriella Kortsch (español) ... ahora en todo el mundo en Amazon en versión bolsillo y Kindle



Note: If you are wondering why this blog is now only appearing on alternate days (excluding Sat/Sun), it is because I also post on my other blog on the others days. That other blog is The Tao of Spiritual Partnership, so named for another one of my books. Click here to visit the blog and/or to sign up for the feed. 

My blog posts are also featured on Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn, Google+, Pinterest & you can find me on Instagram 

Monday, June 6, 2016

A Recipe For Life


The words of advice that have been written about what constitutes a recipe for life are legion. Mine aren't new. They're not even mine, as I heard them in a TED talk given by Paul Kronenberg, co-founder, together with Sabriye Tenberken, of Braille Without Borders and Kanthari.

But here is what's different: in their simplicity these words can be applied to every single human being who seeks such a recipe. And in their application, meaning is given to life.

Find a task that gives you value. The task Kronenberg was referring to - specifically - as he gave this talk, was that of a boy in Nepal. He was a yak herder. The task gave him value. Your task may be very different, perhaps much more sophisticated, perhaps you even went to Oxford in order to "accomplish" your task. But think: does it give you value? In the case of the yak herder, his task gave him value - in his community and in his own eyes - and the value gave him dignity. Thanks to the dignity he gained respect, and thanks to the respect, he gained self-confidence and self esteem. These are very clear building stones towards a life of meaning. Having meaning can make all the difference over the course of a life trajectory, most particularly in times of need, or loss, or pain,or chaos. See also my article from 2011: Finding a Meaning For Your Life

Let's examine where the 'value' of being a yak herder lies. The village - the community - needs those animals for many different purposes and thanks to the fulfilling of those purposes, the community not only survives, but it may even thrive. And the yak herder's role in this is very clear.

Now look at your own life. Examine it just as closely. Do you derive meaning from what you do with your life - from the tasks you have chosen? Look at it like this: does what you do with your life serve mainly to allow you to accumulate money, possessions, and/or prestige, or does it serve a larger purpose (even in only on a very small family or community level)? Does it serve mainly to make you feel successful in the eyes of others, or does it add to the greater good? While money is a necessary part of life and can, indeed, do a great deal of good, money, possessions, or how others see you, in and of themselves are not typically what allows you to feel you have a meaning in your life.

Give this some thought. The answers are not necessarily easy, nor will you necessarily like what you find. But I promise you this: if you find something that gives you meaning, you will love your life.

Jalal ad-Din Rumi wrote: When you do things from your soul, you feel a river moving in you, a joy. And that joy that emanates from the soul like a river comes to you thanks to the meaning you have given to your life.


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Also visit my book website: www.gabriellakortsch.com where you may download excerpts or read quotations from any of my books (also in Spanish & German). My latest book Emotional Unavailability & Neediness: Two Sides of the Same Coin is available globally on Amazon in print & Kindle. You can also obtain it (or any of my other books) via Barnes & Noble.


Books by Dr. Gabriella Kortsch (English). Available globally in paperback or Kindle e-book versions


Bücher von Dr. Gabriella Kortsch (Deutsch) ... JETZT bei Amazon (Taschenbuch oder E-Book) erhältlich 
DEINE SEELE UND DU
  

Angefangen mit Rewiring the Soul - auf Deutsch: Deine Seele und Du, jetzt weltweit erhältlich als Taschenbuch oder Kindle E-Book (Blog hier), werden auch meine anderen Bücher in Zukunft auf Deutsch bei Amazon erhältlich sein.

Libros por Gabriella Kortsch (español) ... ahora en todo el mundo en Amazon en versión bolsillo y Kindle



Note: If you are wondering why this blog is now only appearing on alternate days (excluding Sat/Sun), it is because I also post on my other blog on the others days. That other blog is The Tao of Spiritual Partnership, so named for another one of my books. Click here to visit the blog and/or to sign up for the feed. 

My blog posts are also featured on Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn, Google+, Pinterest & you can find me on Instagram