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Tuesday, March 22, 2016

Fear, Terror & Hatred



While today's terrorist attacks in Brussels are no longer something the world is unaccustomed to, they nevertheless make us edgy, and create - in so many - strong emotions of fear, terror, and hatred. My last post on this blog was titled: "Do You Know What to Ignore In Order to Find Peace?", but today's post is not so much to encourage you to ignore what is happening, as much as to recognize that if you want to continue to remain in an inner state of harmony, despite what is happening, you need to find a way to deal with your thoughts. Here - on this blog - I've often talked about mindfulness as being a method that can be easily learned to do just that.

Jon Kabat-Zinn who is essentially responsible for having introduced the West to mindfulness thanks to Thich Nhat Hanh offers much information about the topic. You can look on his website or listen to any of the numerous video clips he has on the web.

However, if you want to get started right now ... today ... here is something very simple you can do. It goes to becoming the one who is charge of your thoughts (and hence your emotions), as opposed to being ruled by your thoughts (and hence your emotions), try this: make the decision that beginning today, and at least for the next three weeks (to give yourself a chance to see how you feel), you will take a daily 15-minute walk. Try to do it in a beautiful area (or a park), where there is not too much foot traffic to distract you. Your goal over the course of the 15 minutes is to focus on a beautiful thing - preferably in nature - appreciate its beauty, then feel gratitude for its presence in your life just for now, and move on to the next beautiful thing. Repeat the same procedure, and continue doing this for the 15 minutes. At the end of this time, as you take stock of what you just did, you will realize you may have noticed 4-6 beautiful things, but then your mind probably took off on its own agenda, and delved into whatever you habitually think, stress, or worry about.

Don't worry about it. Just do it again tomorrow. You'll manage a few more things before you drift off. And then the next day, and the next, and so on. The practice starts a process in your brain that serves to keep you in the present moment, as opposed to being off in the past or future. New neural pathways are created in your prefrontal cortex as you do this. At the end of three weeks, you will realize how much you look forward to the walk, and how much at peace you feel while you do it - even if the circumstances of your life at this time are not optimal.

There is much material on this blog to help you continue in this direction. But remember: terrorists have taken another strike in another capital. They have killed and maimed. Don't add your own inner negativity to the already high level of negativity in the world. Fear, terror, and hatred - even if you would never do anything to harm another - do add to what is not good in the world. Manage your thoughts. Manage your feelings, and you will be of much greater use to others than if your thoughts and feelings are running amok.

This is a choice. Choose well.



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Also visit my book website: www.gabriellakortsch.com where you may download excerpts or read quotations from any of my books. My latest book Emotional Unavailability & Neediness: Two Sides of the Same Coin is available globally on Amazon in print & Kindle. You can also obtain it (or any of my other books) via Barnes & Noble.


Books by Dr. Gabriella Kortsch (English). Available globally in paperback or Kindle e-book versions


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Note: If you are wondering why this blog is now only appearing on alternate days (excluding Sat/Sun), it is because I also post on my other blog on the others days. That other blog is The Tao of Spiritual Partnership, so named for another one of my books. Click here to visit the blog and/or to sign up for the feed. 

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Tuesday, March 15, 2016

Do You Know What to Ignore in Order to Find Peace?


Normally we ignore the superfluous things in our lives; the things that don't add to its value, or the things that teach us nothing new, or those that we simply don't need, that are bothersome (but only to a certain degree), and that distract us from a task at hand. We might also ignore a slight headache, the itch from a mosquito bite, as well as the news blaring in the coffee shop (or in future we might choose a different one with less blaring). We might ignore the fact that it's raining - precisely today - when we had wanted to take the kids on a picnic, we might ignore the noise from the insistent and concurrent ubiquitous lawnmowers in our neighborhood as we sit at our laptop composing yet another blog post, and we might ignore the little voice that says: get up, move about for a few minutes to stimulate your organism - you've been sitting far too long. You might ignore your spouse's retelling of that old joke for the 89th time simply because - although you no longer think it's funny - you love your spouse, and know that he/she derives enormous pleasure out of the telling of it. And you might ignore your colleague's boasting about the fact that a given idea that has been successfully implemented was mainly hers/his - because - you're the one who got the promotion!

What about ignoring slightly more important things that can wreak havoc on our lives such as: a family member's rudeness, lack of consideration, or downright unkindness? Or perhaps finding out that your best friend whom you always 'dragged' along to parties by asking the hosts to invite him/her, is now throwing a party for all these people he/she met through you, and has not invited you? Or imagine coming back to your car and seeing it has been keyed and is therefore now defaced on that side. What about the 18th rejection letter you received for that novel you so lovingly wrote?

Ignoring things such as these - that, I admit, can be hugely hurtful or annoying and upsetting - nevertheless means that you choose inner calm over being hurt, annoyed or upset. Isn't that a benefit derived from this business about ignoring certain things?

You might object - in the example of the family member - that he/she needs to learn about boundaries, manners, and rules, and of course, if this is an on-going behavior that occurs frequently, then yes, something (such as a talk about boundaries, for example) might need to be done. Or in the case of the friend who did not invite you, you might object that this deserves a reaction of some kind, and of course, that is your choice, but in that case you might first sit down to discuss what happened with the friend, and then perhaps come to the conclusion that you have been used, or that this was never really a friend - or - you might get a deeply-felt apology and reasonable excuse and things might return to normal.

Knowing what to ignore - and then deliberately choosing to do so - is what partially composes the stuff of a life worth living. Rumi said the art of knowing is knowing what to ignore and I would gently suggest to you that you carefully analyze all those things you don't ignore that create havoc and discomfort for you, in order to decide whether they are, perhaps, things you would do well to ignore. Part of it is, of course, caring enough about yourself to choose to ignore that which simply does not serve you. You could even take it one step further, by following Jiddu Krishnamurti's reason for why he lived a happy and content life: I don't mind what happens. And lest you think this is apathetic, understand that what he means (I believe) is that first you find a place of calm and balance inside, whenever something happens, and then you look once more at what happened, and that is when you begin to understand how it might be possible not to mind.

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Also visit my book website: www.gabriellakortsch.com where you may download excerpts or read quotations from any of my books. My latest book Emotional Unavailability & Neediness: Two Sides of the Same Coin is available globally on Amazon in print & Kindle. You can also obtain it (or any of my other books) via Barnes & Noble.


Books by Dr. Gabriella Kortsch (English). Available globally in paperback or Kindle e-book versions


Bücher von Dr. Gabriella Kortsch (Deutsch) ... JETZT bei Amazon (Taschenbuch oder E-Book) erhältlich 
DEINE SEELE UND DU
  

Angefangen mit Rewiring the Soul - auf Deutsch: Deine Seele und Du, jetzt weltweit erhältlich als Taschenbuch oder Kindle E-Book (Blog hier), werden auch meine anderen Bücher in Zukunft auf Deutsch bei Amazon erhältlich sein.

Libros por Gabriella Kortsch (español) ... próximamente en Amazon en versión bolsillo y E-Libro para Kindle


Empezando con Rewiring the Soul - en español: Reconectar con el Alma (blog aquí), se podrán encontrar mis libros en español por todo el mundo próximamente en Amazon.

Note: If you are wondering why this blog is now only appearing on alternate days (excluding Sat/Sun), it is because I also post on my other blog on the others days. That other blog is The Tao of Spiritual Partnership, so named for another one of my books. Click here to visit the blog and/or to sign up for the feed. 

My blog posts are also featured on Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn, Google+, Pinterest & you can find me on Instagram 

Wednesday, March 9, 2016

Does Making a Mistake Mean You Are Out of Your Comfort Zone?


When babies reach about 11-13 months of age they begin to walk. Tentatively at first, then more securely, and finally, of course, they walk perfectly, unless there is a physiological or neurological challenge not attributable to their skills. At the beginning, a parent is typically there to help the child, encourage the child, and above all, to watch out for the child's safety.

When pilots learn how to fly, they may practice in simulators in order to be able to gain expertise before actually being up in the air. In the early stages, and prior to earning their license, an instructor accompanies them in their first forays up into the skies, in order to remind the student pilot of procedures, to help in difficult maneuvers, to encourage, and again, to watch out for the student's safety.

When we learn how to write we painstakingly trace shapes with clumsy fingers until at last we manage the skill and progress from pencil to pen ... to this day I remember the pride that overwhelmed me on that day when I was seven when I was allowed to write with a pen!

When we learn how to dance salsa, when we fall in love, when we learn how to make bread, when we speak in public, when we learn how to play football, the violin, or paint with oils, we will always first make some kind of mistake. It's part of the learning process, isn't it?

So why do we believe we should not make mistakes later on in life when we do other things? Admittedly, by now we may be adults, we may even be in mid-life or old age, but since there are always things we are doing for the first time, it follows that we'll make some mistakes in the process of learning them. Is our fear of making a mistake mainly based on what others might think? Or on how we look, making such a mistake at our age? Is it based on maintaining an image - even if just in our own eyes, that we have nothing left to learn? Even the most image-conscious would agree with me that such a thought is just plain silly.

So what's it all about? Could it be our ego? Our comfort zone? That when we make mistakes we feel insecure, as opposed to how we feel when we tread on our well-known and by now - deeply-trodden - path? And yet, we all know that leaving the comfort zone is where and when we begin to grow. We left the safety of crawling on our hands and knees to walk. And so we grew. We left the safety of mother's arms to go to kindergarten. And so we grew.

Charles Kettering, inventor, engineer, and businessman, as well as head of research at General Motors for well over 20 years, said: the only time you mustn't fail is the last time you try. In other words, you need to keep on trying, until you get it right. You need to have an attitude of faith; of willingness to keep on trying, over and over, until you get it right.

Let's dare make mistakes and rejoice in their teaching rather than sinking in the thought of failure. Failure is never failure unless you don't get back up. Just as the baby who has fallen back on the floor, grins up disarmingly - never once suspecting that once it's older such a fall, figuratively speaking, would make it feel awful - and gets right back up on its feet to try again. Over and over. Until he's got it right. And then, of course, he starts to run. Does he care how he looks? No! Does he care what others think? No! Is he proud of his accomplishment? Yes!

Let's dare make mistakes and learn what our infant selves knew intuitively: trying over and over again makes perfect. And then, let's run!
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Also visit my book website: www.gabriellakortsch.com where you may download excerpts or read quotations from any of my books. My latest book Emotional Unavailability & Neediness: Two Sides of the Same Coin is available globally on Amazon in print & Kindle. You can also obtain it (or any of my other books) via Barnes & Noble.


Books by Dr. Gabriella Kortsch (English). Available globally in paperback or Kindle e-book versions


Bücher von Dr. Gabriella Kortsch (Deutsch) ... JETZT bei Amazon (Taschenbuch oder E-Book) erhältlich 
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Angefangen mit Rewiring the Soul - auf Deutsch: Deine Seele und Du, jetzt weltweit erhältlich als Taschenbuch oder Kindle E-Book (Blog hier), werden auch meine anderen Bücher in Zukunft auf Deutsch bei Amazon erhältlich sein.

Libros por Gabriella Kortsch (español) ... próximamente en Amazon en versión bolsillo y E-Libro para Kindle


Empezando con Rewiring the Soul - en español: Reconectar con el Alma (blog aquí), se podrán encontrar mis libros en español por todo el mundo próximamente en Amazon.

Note: If you are wondering why this blog is now only appearing on alternate days (excluding Sat/Sun), it is because I also post on my other blog on the others days. That other blog is The Tao of Spiritual Partnership, so named for another one of my books. Click here to visit the blog and/or to sign up for the feed. 

My blog posts are also featured on Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn, Google+, Pinterest & you can find me on Instagram 

Wednesday, March 2, 2016

Choosing to Change Your Energy Level


If you are feeling bad in any way it's time to change your energy level. How you feel is something you can choose to change. Not by pretending that whatever you are feeling bad about does not exist, but because:
  • you choose to look at it differently
  • you choose to focus elsewhere
  • you choose to think about it in another way
  • you choose to remain aware at all times (aware of yourself in all ways)
  • you choose to move beyond your current comfort zone
  • you choose not to remain at the energetic level at which you currently find yourself
  • you choose to move your energy higher
  • you choose to recognize that frequently how you feel derives from not having made the choice to forgive someone
  • you choose to take responsibility for how you feel at all times
  • you choose to be grateful at any given moment
  • you choose to move into the now
  • and by moving into the now you choose to come to a place of inner peace, despite outer circumstances that may have contributed to how you are feeling
Things happen in life that may cause great pain or sorrow. This post is not an encouragement to blithely pass over such feelings and finding a way to feel positive, no matter what. The post is, however, about encouraging you to understand that when you go through hard times (if that is why you are feeling bad, as opposed to feeling bad because you were planning on having a picnic and it's raining), you can choose to find that inner place of equilibrium, harmony, and peace, and in that space - in the present moment - you can be OK despite the pain. Feeling bad is a choice ... and you can choose to feel differently.

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Also visit my book website: www.gabriellakortsch.com where you may download excerpts or read quotations from any of my books. My latest book Emotional Unavailability & Neediness: Two Sides of the Same Coin is available globally on Amazon in print & Kindle. You can also obtain it (or any of my other books) via Barnes & Noble.


Books by Dr. Gabriella Kortsch (English). Available globally in paperback or Kindle e-book versions


Bücher von Dr. Gabriella Kortsch (Deutsch) ... JETZT bei Amazon (Taschenbuch oder E-Book) erhältlich 
DEINE SEELE UND DU
  

Angefangen mit Rewiring the Soul - auf Deutsch: Deine Seele und Du, jetzt weltweit erhältlich als Taschenbuch oder Kindle E-Book (Blog hier), werden auch meine anderen Bücher in Zukunft auf Deutsch bei Amazon erhältlich sein.

Libros por Gabriella Kortsch (español) ... próximamente en Amazon en versión bolsillo y E-Libro para Kindle


Empezando con Rewiring the Soul - en español: Reconectar con el Alma (blog aquí), se podrán encontrar mis libros en español por todo el mundo próximamente en Amazon.

Note: If you are wondering why this blog is now only appearing on alternate days (excluding Sat/Sun), it is because I also post on my other blog on the others days. That other blog is The Tao of Spiritual Partnership, so named for another one of my books. Click here to visit the blog and/or to sign up for the feed. 

My blog posts are also featured on Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn, Google+, Pinterest & you can find me on Instagram