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Friday, December 11, 2015

How Long are You Planning on Searching?


If you are a seeker; if you are interested in spiritual growth; if you want to connect with the part of you that - while always present - is not always - at least at first glance - so easy to find, then you may have already spent years, or even decades in a quest for ultimate answers. You may have followed first this route, and then that one; you may have walked in the footsteps of one thinker or another; you may have grown disillusioned in what you found and then gone on to yet a new path, a new guide, and still you search. You believe you have simply not yet attained that which you seek.

From my perspective (despite the fact that I also followed a pattern similar to the one described until I was in my 30's), it is not so much that the above is a mistake (I believe nothing is ever a mistake as whatever it is will inexorably lead you to learn - if you so choose - and to move on to the next step), as that it will never lead you to what you truly seek, because it is always outer-focused. More importantly, it means you rarely, if ever, listen to your own inner knowing. And clearly, as long as you remain focused on finding your answers in a book, a guru, a leader, a mantra, a workshop, a sangha, or a retreat, while you may learn much, you will always be side-stepping that inner knowing, the inner voice.

If you are offered steak, salmon, lobster or foie gras, and you have never tried any of them, obviously you won't know which to choose - or you won't know what to expect from any of the choices. But if you try them, or some of them, you will have gained some perspective about what is available, how you react to it, and how it makes you feel. So now you have come a bit closer to knowing yourself.

In the world of spiritual growth, initially there is a similar process, because as long as you know nothing, you have little with which to gauge how this or that makes you feel. And unless you are an innately deep and philosophical thinker, you will need some initial guidance. However, as you gain some knowledge, as you deepen your inner reactions and listen to them, a quickening takes place, and you begin to sense - if you pay close attention - when you are on the right path (the right path for you), because it will bring you joy. Rumi said: When you do things from your soul, you feel a river moving in you, a joy.

So this doesn't mean that when you've read things by one author, or attended the workshops of a given speaker and feel that inner quickening, that you have now found your final answer. It simply means that what you heard or read resonated with you on some level and therefore is meaningful to you - perhaps only at that point in your life, or perhaps for your entire life. Perhaps at another point in your life you read something else, or listen to another speaker, and again find that something resonates with you. In the meantime, however, between having found the first thing that resonated, and the next one, you may have spent several decades reading books, thinking, talking, attending seminars, and attending satsangs, etc. If you were not moving in the direction of your own inner knowing, you may have felt pushed and pulled in many directions, or you may have blindly adhered to another's path, which - good or bad - is their path, and not necessarily yours.

So the question in the title of today's post refers to your recognition of the fact that the answer lies much less in the search, than in your inner connection to the quickening that takes place - that inner reaction of joy that Rumi refers to - and that therefore your deepening in the growth you seek will come much more quickly if you heed that inner voice and move in the direction in which it wants to take you. The Buddha said: No one saves us but ourselves. No one can and no one may. We ourselves must walk the path. Your path.

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Also visit my book website: www.gabriellakortsch.com where you may download excerpts or read quotations from any of my books. My latest book Emotional Unavailability & Neediness: Two Sides of the Same Coin is available globally on Amazon in print & Kindle. You can also obtain it (or any of my other books) via Barnes & Noble.


Books by Dr. Gabriella Kortsch (English). Available globally in paperback or Kindle e-book versions


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Libros por Gabriella Kortsch (español) ... próximamente en Amazon en versión bolsillo y E-Libro para Kindle


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Note: If you are wondering why this blog is now only appearing on alternate days (excluding Sat/Sun), it is because I also post on my other blog on the others days. That other blog is The Tao of Spiritual Partnership, so named for another one of my books. Click here to visit the blog and/or to sign up for the feed. 

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Monday, December 7, 2015

Altruism & Compassion: The Next Wave


A wave of material about compassion and altruism has been making its appearance over the past 12 months. It makes you wonder whether it is signalling a change in the world. If people are writing about it, they are thinking about it, and others are buying the books - even if not many others. This tells us there is a groundswell occurring about the subjects, and that is cause for celebration. We know some YouTube videos about violence and depravity get millions of views, and these books are in all likelihood not selling in the millions, but the simple fact that so many have been published in just a short period of time, tells us that even the publishing houses - who tend to be in the business in order to make money - are betting on them. Here is a sampling:
This first listing is one that I have in my personal library and highly recommend. I've gifted friends and family members with it because of the high rating I give it. It is a rather hefty tome, so if you are less keen on reading, you might want to view some of the online videos of talks given by the author about this subject, on TED, on Google Talks, and particularly, this very excellent one where Matthieu Ricard and Richard Gere shared the stage earlier this year in NYC.
There were numerous books published about altruism and compassion as well in the latter part of 2014, but I wanted to simply illustrate what has been printed about these subjects during 2015 alone.
Finally, I'd like to reiterate (as I've said in previous posts ... for example Do You Care Too Much?) that altruism is not selflessness in the sense that you forget about yourself in order to give to another, or help another. Compassion is not pity. It is also not empathy. In both instances, you desire that others be happy and do not suffer. There are gems about this subject in the book by Matthieu Ricard listed above, as there are gems about this precise topic in the talk in NYC (see link above). Desiring that another be happy, and does not suffer is a large part of it. Ricard says altruism has to start with the motivation. Why are you being altruistic? Is it because you want to feel good by helping another? Or is it because you are concerned about another's situation, and that your ultimate goal is to bring that person a benefit? In true altruism, that's your primary motive and your intention. If in addition to that, you also feel good about what you did, that's an added benefit.

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Also visit my book website: www.gabriellakortsch.com where you may download excerpts or read quotations from any of my books. My latest book Emotional Unavailability & Neediness: Two Sides of the Same Coin is available globally on Amazon in print & Kindle. You can also obtain it (or any of my other books) via Barnes & Noble.


Books by Dr. Gabriella Kortsch (English). Available globally in paperback or Kindle e-book versions


Bücher von Dr. Gabriella Kortsch (Deutsch) ... JETZT bei Amazon (Taschenbuch oder E-Book) erhaltbar 
DEINE SEELE UND DU
  

Angefangen mit Rewiring the Soul - auf Deutsch: Deine Seele und Du, jetzt weltweit erhaltbar als Taschenbuch oder Kindle E-Book (Blog hier), werden auch meine anderen Bücher in Zukunft auf Deutsch bei Amazon erhaltbar sein.

Libros por Gabriella Kortsch (español) ... próximamente en Amazon en versión bolsillo y E-Libro para Kindle


Empezando con Rewiring the Soul - en español: Reconectar con el Alma (blog aquí), se podrán encontrar mis libros en español por todo el mundo próximamente en Amazon.

Note: If you are wondering why this blog is now only appearing on alternate days (excluding Sat/Sun), it is because I also post on my other blog on the others days. That other blog is The Tao of Spiritual Partnership, so named for another one of my books. Click here to visit the blog and/or to sign up for the feed. 

My blog posts are also featured on Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn, Google+, Pinterest & you can find me on Instagram 

Tuesday, December 1, 2015

Protecting Solitude


My solitude has always been of primordial importance to me. Even when I was a little girl, I needed my "alone time". I noticed that when I spent too much time with others without having some space, some time for myself, I would get antsy, stressed, nervous, as though I needed to be alone to recharge my batteries.

Thank God (and my parents) that I had a bedroom for myself and did not have to share.

As I grew older, left home, and eventually got married, I recognized that the tendency, much as I was in love, continued. I needed - no - I craved alone time. I craved solitude on a regular basis, and if I did not get it, or if I had to live in more crowded circumstances sometimes on holidays with the extended family, I immediately noticed that I was missing it.

Sometimes I thought I was a hermit, a loner, but then I would remember how sociable I am, how much I enjoy people, but what became more and more clear to me as time went by, was that I most definitely have a greater need for solitude than many of the people I know.

I began to recognize that what I had erstwhile defined as a recharging of batteries, was, in fact, a need for communion with the innermost self, with my soul, on some level that - even when I had not yet come to define it as such - was not only necessary for my well-being, but was an absolutely vital requisite for my being. Honoring this became important, and I began to understand that much as a plant needs sunshine and water, I needed this solitude in order to thrive.

In the relationships of my life this has continued to hold true, and I have had many a difficult moment in which this needed to be explained on terms that were non-threatening to the other. My solitude is not a lack of love for the other, or a lack of desire to spend time with the other, but a need to nourish the self despite the other. It is something that endures, and that needs to be honored, even when I am in relationship. It came before and it will continue to be after. It is who I am.

And so, as I came across these words from the great Rainer Maria Rilke today, I resonated with them ... he wrote: I hold this to be the highest task for a bond between two people, that each protects the solitude of the other.

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Also visit my book website: www.gabriellakortsch.com where you may download excerpts or read quotations from any of my books. My latest book Emotional Unavailability & Neediness: Two Sides of the Same Coin is available globally on Amazon in print & Kindle. You can also obtain it (or any of my other books) via Barnes & Noble.


Books by Dr. Gabriella Kortsch (English). Available globally in paperback or Kindle e-book versions


Bücher von Dr. Gabriella Kortsch (Deutsch) ... JETZT bei Amazon (Taschenbuch oder E-Book) erhaltbar 
DEINE SEELE UND DU
  

Angefangen mit Rewiring the Soul - auf Deutsch: Deine Seele und Du, jetzt weltweit erhaltbar als Taschenbuch oder Kindle E-Book (Blog hier), werden auch meine anderen Bücher in Zukunft auf Deutsch bei Amazon erhaltbar sein.

Libros por Gabriella Kortsch (español) ... próximamente en Amazon en versión bolsillo y E-Libro para Kindle


Empezando con Rewiring the Soul - en español: Reconectar con el Alma (blog aquí), se podrán encontrar mis libros en español por todo el mundo próximamente en Amazon.

Note: If you are wondering why this blog is now only appearing on alternate days (excluding Sat/Sun), it is because I also post on my other blog on the others days. That other blog is The Tao of Spiritual Partnership, so named for another one of my books. Click here to visit the blog and/or to sign up for the feed. 

My blog posts are also featured on Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn, Google+, Pinterest & you can find me on Instagram