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Monday, October 26, 2015

What Do You Choose to Give Back?


We can't all be Nelson Mandela or Mother Teresa. And we certainly can't all be those mega wealthy individuals who have given generously of their money to do good. Nor can we all be celebrities who thanks to their star power have been able to do much for the world in the arenas of war, child labor, sexual slavery, hunger, education, water, and a long list of other - as yet - globally unresolved needs. But I'm also thinking about my mother. She worked as a technical designer, but volunteered at a home where thalidomide babies and children were growing up. I'm also thinking of an aunt who never had a job, but she volunteered at a hospital where she read to the sick and dying. And another aunt, who also never had a job, who volunteered with orphans. All three are long dead, but they gave back and left a mark, albeit it small, in their particular world.

I'm also thinking of some people here where I live, such as one lovely woman who despite her exceedingly busy life volunteers with a charity and spends many hours not only talking to those in need, but just standing and packing up donations in baskets, and even delivering them when necessary. Another woman does volunteer fundraising for a hospice, and a third regularly visits the home-bound who are ill or can't easily go out, in order to bring a ray of sunshine into their day. Another friend has become the 'mother' of at least one child in a third world country, contributing financially to her well-being and education, but also developing a relationship with her that has spanned many years and that signifies that that child's life was expanded not only within the realm of financial possibilities, but also by giving her a much more global view of the world by mere virtue of this ongoing relationship with my friend.

And what of the many 'big brothers and sisters' who create a relationship with a child in order to mentor and befriend it? Or the ones who freely tutor those who need tutoring, or the many individuals who share their gifts of musical or other artistic talent with those who would like to learn but may not have the funds to pay for it?

Giving back furthermore, carries with it its own reward as has been pointed out in so many studies: altruism makes you feel very good indeed about yourself! (Have a look at the wonderful TED talk given by Matthieu Ricard about altruism here). Giving back is not hard because we all have something to give. What may be hard is making up your mind to do it. What are you giving back?

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Also visit my book website: www.gabriellakortsch.com where you may download excerpts or read quotations from any of my books. My latest book Emotional Unavailability & Neediness: Two Sides of the Same Coin is available globally on Amazon in print & Kindle. You can also obtain it (or any of my other books) via Barnes & Noble.


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Tuesday, October 20, 2015

Commitment


You are probably imagining that this is a post about commitment to your goals, commitment to being disciplined or commitment to making your dreams become a reality.

In a way I suppose we could say it is ... but approached from another angle, and that angle is you.

How committed are you to yourself? How committed are you to making the most of yourself in all possible ways and on all levels? Not for others, but for you, because you want to be able to believe in yourself, and you want to be able to love yourself, and part of this process is making a commitment to yourself where you set the benchmark and you hold yourself responsible for reaching it.

This is about you and the way you dialogue with yourself; the way you allow your inner self-talk to go. It's about your thoughts and what you do with them: do you allow them to run your life for you? Do you allow them to torture you? How committed are you to ensuring that you are in charge of your thoughts, as opposed to it being the other way around? It's about the way you look at yourself - on all levels. If there is something about yourself that you don't like, are you proactive about changing it? let's be more specific: I'm not so concerned with whether you don't like the fact that you have very fine, or very curly, or very thick , or very straight hair, as I am with the fact that you may not like your judgmental part; your critical part; your prejudiced part, or the fact that you are inherently lazy. Are you proactive about changing these aspects of yourself? Are you committed to yourself in that way? It's also about the way you pull yourself up when you have fallen down and dust yourself off and start over. Not to prove anything to anyone but yourself. But because you are committed to yourself. Being committed to yourself also means loving yourself, and it shows you how - when you work on some part of your being, other parts also improve and consequently improve your life. Commitment to yourself can bring about great change. It's your choice.

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Also visit my book website: www.gabriellakortsch.com where you may download excerpts or read quotations from any of my books. My latest book Emotional Unavailability & Neediness: Two Sides of the Same Coin is available globally on Amazon in print & Kindle. You can also obtain it (or any of my other books) via Barnes & Noble.


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Note: If you are wondering why this blog is now only appearing on alternate days (excluding Sat/Sun), it is because I also post on my other blog on the others days. That other blog is The Tao of Spiritual Partnership, so named for another one of my books. Click here to visit the blog and/or to sign up for the feed. 

My blog posts are also featured on Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn, Google+, Pinterest & you can find me on Instagram 

Friday, October 16, 2015

Do You Know Where Your Home Is?


I can imagine some of the answers flying in from all parts of the globe, indicating that your particular home is in Rome, or in Sussex, or Singapore, Christchurch, Nassau, or Rio. Other answers might specify that your home is where your family is, where you hang your hat, and where you feel at home. And of course all of those answers are correct.

I'm thinking of my favorite icons right now: Mandela and Frankl - favorite, because it was all taken away from them - one, when he was imprisoned on Robben Island for 27 years, and the other, when he was sent to the horrors of Auschwitz. Clearly, both men lost everything. They lost all those things that most of us would use as descriptors to indicate where our home is. They not only lost it all materially, but they also lost family. Mandela's mother and eldest son died while he languished on that island in plain view of Cape Town - just across the water - but he was not permitted to attend either funeral, and Frankl lost almost his entire family to the gas chambers.

And yet ... if I were able to ask either of them the question where was your home while you were going through that man-devised horror, I am certain that a portion of their answer would contain the following ideas: their home was inside themselves, in that place to which they had connected. In other words, their home was their connection to themselves, to their inner most self, to their soul.

But careful: words are said so easily, and yet I very much doubt that either of these two men were in such strong connection to themselves when they were first imprisoned that they would have been able to speak in those terms immediately. Building up such a connection requires time, practice, diligence, and patience, as well as faith in the connection itself and in its value.

Those of us who live 'normal' lives where we are not subject to political pursuit or racial genocide may not have many opportunities where we are forced into the development of such an inner connection in order to be able to go on and simply get through another day. In our 'normal' lives such development of an inner connection generally only happens after we have gone through a period of much suffering (for example, in our relationships, our finances, our health, or our profession), or if we have come to the realization that being aware is something we wish to strive for. Clearly, the more aware you are, even if there is no suffering, the more you will strive to achieve the inner connection and in so doing, the more you will have your home right there, inside of you, whether your outer home is as lovely as the one in the above image, or a modest dwelling at the edge of a small town; and whether your family is with you or not. Connecting to the self, recognizing the value of such a connection is one of the greatest things you can do for yourself.

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Also visit my book website: www.gabriellakortsch.com where you may download excerpts or read quotations from any of my books. My latest book Emotional Unavailability & Neediness: Two Sides of the Same Coin is available globally on Amazon in print & Kindle. You can also obtain it (or any of my other books) via Barnes & Noble.


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Note: If you are wondering why this blog is now only appearing on alternate days (excluding Sat/Sun), it is because I also post on my other blog on the others days. That other blog is The Tao of Spiritual Partnership, so named for another one of my books. Click here to visit the blog and/or to sign up for the feed. 

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Tuesday, October 13, 2015

Well-Being Varies According to the Language You Habitually Use


What language do we use to express ourselves inside our heads - our self-talk - about ourselves and what we do and what we plan? Specifically, which words are we using during this self-talk?

Further, what language do we use to express ourselves verbally, when in conversation with others? What words are we hearing ourselves say over and over again?

Are they words that serve to empower us, or do we use words that weaken us, and that lower our energetic frequency? Think about it: when your young child makes a mistake, do you encourage, bolster and support him or her, so that they will try again, with the belief that next time they will do better, or succeed? Or do you cut them down, criticize and belittle them?

Now: in a similar situation, how do you speak to yourself?

What about when you run into a snag during your day? Not necessarily a mountain, just a little snag, but one that is enough to lower your energy ... if you allow it by the messages you send yourself.

Do you say things like:
  • Not again!
  • I really could have done without this!
  • Why does stuff like this always happen to me?
  • I just knew it couldn't continue as smoothly as it had been going...
  • Wouldn't you know it ... just when things were going so well.
  • Typical ... my usual bad luck.
Or do you watch your language and say things like:
  • let's see ... how do we solve this in the best way?
  • what's the quickest way to get around this?
  • wow ... now that I think about it, this is actually good, because it let me see a new perspective. Without it, I would never have come to this conclusion ... which is actually much better in the long term
  • so this is what Ford meant when he said that failure is the opportunity to begin again more intelligently
  • if Lincoln / Edison / Einstein / Ford could pick themselves up, so can I!
  • so this is what Kennedy meant when he said "Only those who dare to fail greatly can achieve greatly"
The point is not so much that you use words of this nature verbatim, but that you remember their general gist when you need to in order that you maintain your inner energy - your inner sense of purpose - in a good place, rather than going down because of the language you use.

I often refer to energy from the point of view of how you feel inside, of the frequency at which your inner state of being is vibrating, and there are many articles about this subject here on the blog (click on the label below). In order to maintain this energy at an optimum level at all times, it is expedient to take good care of that energy. If you want to maintain a toned body, with strong muscles, it is clear that you must do something about that body and those muscles. It's the same thing with this energy I'm referring to. Many, many things - many easy things - can be done, as long as they are done frequently (as you would exercise frequently in order to maintain a toned body), in order to maintain such a state of good energy. Again, I recommend that you have a look at the posts about energy on this blog, and in particular, these:

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Also visit my book website: www.gabriellakortsch.com where you may download excerpts or read quotations from any of my books. My latest book Emotional Unavailability & Neediness: Two Sides of the Same Coin is available globally on Amazon in print & Kindle. You can also obtain it (or any of my other books) via Barnes & Noble.


Books by Dr. Gabriella Kortsch (English). Available globally in paperback or Kindle e-book versions


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Note: If you are wondering why this blog is now only appearing on alternate days (excluding Sat/Sun), it is because I also post on my other blog on the others days. That other blog is The Tao of Spiritual Partnership, so named for another one of my books. Click here to visit the blog and/or to sign up for the feed. 

My blog posts are also featured on Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn, Google+, Pinterest & you can find me on Instagram 

Wednesday, October 7, 2015

People Whose Lives Are Destroyed By a Partner


An article in the press this morning spoke of an individual whose life had been destroyed by the very high-profile partner. Both are in their late 60's or 70's. I chose not to read the article - lack of time - but as I prepared for my day, I contemplated the matter at hand.

We are frequently drawn into relationships that at first glance appear to be heaven made on earth, until, of course, the truth hits us (and at this point it may be too late to easily do something about it because houses have been purchased, children have been born, or one may have - as a couple - moved to a far corner of the world, or started a business together), and we realize that either we made a huge mistake, or our partner soundly betrayed us by portraying him or herself as someone they are not. (Other potential reasons for this having happened, such as our own projections, our unmet needs, etc., rarely enter the equations of our thoughts regarding the matter, because generally we simply don't know about these things).

So we rail against it. We might start by complaining, having rows, manipulating, crying, begging, exploding, using drawn-out silences, etc., but very likely the end result is that nothing of consequence has changed. At this point we have a number of choices: one would be divorce or the threat thereof. Another would be to stick it out. A third might be to seek therapy - for oneself, or for the couple).

The second choice above - to stick it out - is the one that concerns me in this post. Sticking it out can have many different faces; many different guises, but one of these faces is, indeed, the face of having had one's life ruined by the partner.

Let's be clear, some partners are truly vile, selfish, cruel, and inconsiderate to say the least, alcoholic, abusive, and philanderers (male and female), are merely some of the adjectives we could use to describe one or the other we may have met. So of course, if someone like that has ruined the life of another who has stuck it out for many years, we would not have much difficulty in understanding how this came about. One of the two brought about a very bad outcome.

But is that really what happened? And please note, I'm not discussing any specific real person or couple. I'm merely throwing out some ideas. What if the whole thing is a dynamic process? A dance in which two people participate - each with their own role to play - as long as they AGREE to play said role. So the role of one is to be vile and ruin the other's life, and the role of the other - you guessed it - is to be the victim and to have their life ruined.

What I'm getting at here - and I know we can't fully generalize as there are always exceptions that simply wouldn't fit into the parameters I'm describing - is that at each step of the way, both partners have a choice. And the one whose life winds up being ruined also had choices. Some of those had to do with a specific mindset. With the kinds of thoughts he/she allowed to keep running through his/her mind. Some had to do with boundaries, or lack thereof. Some had to do with self-love. Some had to do with awareness. And last, but not least - not to mention that fact that there are many more that I'm not listing - some had to do with choosing to become responsible for the self.

Putting one or more of these into place, or making the appropriate changes in order to be able to put them into place, would mean, in the long term, that the life would not have been destroyed or ruined. You see, it's not always as simple as saying that something is someone else's fault. Part of the dance is one's own responsibility - many of the steps are of one's own choosing.

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Also visit my book website: www.gabriellakortsch.com where you may download excerpts or read quotations from any of my books. My latest book Emotional Unavailability & Neediness: Two Sides of the Same Coin is available globally on Amazon in print & Kindle. You can also obtain it (or any of my other books) via Barnes & Noble.


Books by Dr. Gabriella Kortsch (English). Available globally in paperback or Kindle e-book versions


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Note: If you are wondering why this blog is now only appearing on alternate days (excluding Sat/Sun), it is because I also post on my other blog on the others days. That other blog is The Tao of Spiritual Partnership, so named for another one of my books. Click here to visit the blog and/or to sign up for the feed. 

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Friday, October 2, 2015

Hidden Layers of the Self In Dreams


In the early days of this blog, I did a number of posts on dreams in order to offer readers multiple ways of viewing hidden layers of the self by using the symbolism of dreams. The reason hidden layers of the self are so important is because they connect you to your true essence and dreams are one of the many tools available to you to find that all-important and fundamental connection. Moreover, without that connection (which, as stated, may come about in numerous ways, and not just through an analysis of your dreams), you can never truly aspire to know yourself, nor to fulfill yourself and your life to the full extent that is possible.

Those posts in this series on dream symbols are:
Be sufficiently interested in yourself to examine some of these areas, and begin to keep a dream journal. You may be amazed at the hidden depths and treasures you discover about yourself.

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Also visit my book website: www.gabriellakortsch.com where you may download excerpts or read quotations from any of my books. My latest book Emotional Unavailability & Neediness: Two Sides of the Same Coin is available globally on Amazon in print & Kindle. You can also obtain it (or any of my other books) via Barnes & Noble.


Books by Dr. Gabriella Kortsch (English). Available globally in paperback or Kindle e-book versions


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Note: If you are wondering why this blog is now only appearing on alternate days (excluding Sat/Sun), it is because I also post on my other blog on the others days. That other blog is The Tao of Spiritual Partnership, so named for another one of my books. Click here to visit the blog and/or to sign up for the feed. 

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