How are you building the house of your life? Do you intend to exercise in the morning, but when the alarm rings, find that it is too dark outside and too cozy in bed, and so you tell yourself you'll do it tomorrow? Or do you intend to paint or write or practice tennis or playing the piano every day (or if your 'day' job's time constraints don't allow this, then you intend to practice whichever of those activities you are trying to succeed at, every weekend), or do you allow the lassitude of a lack of energy take over and convince you that you simply can't do all that plus work and that you deserve some time off?
Do you intend to nurture parts of yourself that go beyond the physical and psychological person you are, by viewing talks or reading books by known speakers or writers on a daily basis, even if it's just 15 minutes, but when it comes time to do it, you switch on your favorite sitcom, because you're just too tired?
None of these 'excuses' make you a bad person, or a person I am judging or criticizing, but they do make you a person who makes excuses. That's just a fact. So let's examine what happens as long as you make excuses: you never become the next Michael Jordan, you never become an Olympic contender, you never have that art exhibition or write that book or play at that concert, even if it's simply at your local school play. Put simply, and in the words of Don Wilder: excuses are the nails used to build a house of failure.
But here's the thing: failure does not have to last. Failure is not necessarily the last step in a process down into a black hole. Many of the world's most famous and admired people, including Lincoln, Edison, and Mandela, had to contend with failure over and over again. What makes them different from the people who are facing failure from a position of sitting on a mountain of excuses? They picked themselves up over and over again until they finally did achieve what they had set out to do.
What this takes is not only courage, but also discipline and getting down from the road called procrastination. It takes being slightly less comfortable in the short term in exchange for great satisfaction in the long term. It takes work and belief in what you are working towards and belief in yourself, as well as motivation. When you find that lacking or sliding into non-existence, you can nurture it up again by (as said earlier) nurturing yourself and those qualities by viewing talks or reading books by people who can inspire you. It was Zig Ziglar who famously said (and I love this quote): people often say that motivation doesn't last; well neither does bathing, that's why we recommend it daily.
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Angefangen mit Rewiring the Soul - auf deutsch: Wiedervereinigung mit der Seele (Blog hier), werden meine Bücher auf Amazon im April 2015 erhaltbar sein.
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