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Wednesday, December 10, 2014

Peace, Education & Freedom for all Children


Today Malala Yousafzai and Kailash Satyarthi will receive the Nobel Peace Prize in Oslo. Both started as children in their attempts to change the lives of children, and of course, Malala - at the age of 17 - is still a child. Both have been attacked and both persevere.

We know something of their stories due to mass media coverage, so rather than rehash that, my interest today is to attempt to understand what fuels them.

Look at this young girl. She has been speaking out in favor of education for all children, but particularly for girls since she was 11. She got shot in 2012. Does she look as though she is taking selfies? Is she worried about how thin she is? How many boys like her? Whether she can afford to get the latest designer bag?

And look at this man who began to help poor children who were segregated from schools due to their lack of funds by collecting books in a cart in India for those children when he himself was still at school. He continued with what is now his life work by doing his utmost to eradicate child labor and child slave labor. Does he look as though he is posting photos of himself on Facebook driving a late model high end car? Or does he look as though he is wondering how his stock portfolio is doing?

So back to the question; what fuels them?

I believe it has much to do with an inner recognition that we are all one. We are not separate, and therefore what happens to you, also - on energetic levels - happens to me. And what I do affects you, and so on. They simply do not see the differences that make most of us tick. They work from another perspective - that of the human family. They care. They are compassionate. They don't see skin color, or what a person wears, or where he comes from. They simply see that we all have needs and rights and all these needs and rights need to be freely available. They see that we are all one. 

What are we - you and I - doing to move ourselves further in that direction as well?

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Also visit my book website: www.gabriellakortsch.com where you may download excerpts or read quotations from any of my books. My new book Emotional Unavailability & Neediness: Two Sides of the Same Coin is now out globally on Amazon in print & Kindle. You can also obtain it (or any of my other books) via Barnes & Noble.

Books by Dr. Gabriella Kortsch


Note: If you are wondering why this blog is now only appearing on alternate days (excluding Sat/Sun), it is because I also post on my other blog on the others days. That other blog is The Tao of Spiritual Partnership, so named for another one of my books. Click here to visit the blog and/or to sign up for the feed.

Find more free articles from my monthly newsletters as well as more information about my work at Advanced Personal Therapy

Monday, December 8, 2014

Nature's Priceless Beauty & My Spirit


When did you start appreciating beauty? When did you start noticing what it does to you on an inner level? When did you look at something out there in nature, and feel as though your heart had just stopped for a beat because what you were looking at was so breath taking?

In my case it happened occasionally when I was still a child - I remember, for instance, staring at the beauty of the Matterhorn as I stood in a village in Switzerland that faced its majestic crags - but it didn't happen often enough for me to have many memories of consciously seeing beauty. I remember staring at the amazing beauty of postcards my father had the habit of sending me from one locale more beautiful than the next, and I saved hundreds of those postcards (that somehow mysteriously disappeared in my late 20's), but I'm not so certain that my appreciation of that beauty had to do with it, per se, or more with the fact that I wished I were there with my travel-hungry progenitor. When I was five I appreciated the glittering blue waters of the Lake of Constance below a hillside restaurant in which I sat with my parents, brother, and aunt just outside of Lindau in Germany. Later, in my early teens, I remember traveling from Switzerland to Italy and gazing mesmerized at bonfires that had been lit on August 1st - the Swiss National Day - all over the sides of the mountain across from Lugano where we were having dinner in a restaurant, and then the next day being just as mesmerized by stately villas in what appeared to be lush gardens behind high walls around Lake Como. I remember looking down on the St. Lawrence River from a high vantage point in Montreal when I was 16, snow-packed fields glistening in the sun near Gravesano in Italy when I was 18, and the Mediterranean in southern Spain a year later.

But these moments came few and far in between - they stayed with me over the decades because they had caught my attention in such a strong way - but they were anything but frequent; certainly not daily, and most definitely not something that occurred almost all the time.

Something changed - but not until I was in my 30's - when I began to consciously notice what happened to my inner energetic frequency when I communed with nature in my role of what was - at first - simply a fervent admirer. Later - by now in my 40's - I sought out beauty much more avidly, and of course, by so doing, I actually saw so much more of it. It was always there, but due to this communing with it, and seeking it out, I saw it everywhere. Copacabana and the Cristo in Rio, Chichen Itzá and the immaculate white beaches and turquoise waters in the Yucatan Peninsula. Key West, Sedona, Santa Barbara, Santa Fe, the Garden Route along the Indian Ocean, Cape Town, the Karoo Game Reserve. Palenque, Guanajuato, Acapulco, Sayil, Labnah, and Uxmal. Oman. Dubai, and so much more.

But eventually something else changed. At this point I was in my 50's. It was no longer a question of being in some exquisite place and being wowed by some exquisite view. Admittedly I have lived in some very exquisite places much of my life, but I realize I began noticing beauty anywhere and everywhere and nourished my spirit with it. I believe this happened due to an exponential increase of mindfulness in my life over the past years. The more I am present - here and now - the more I am mindful, the more I am able to "be" with beauty at all times, and the more that beauty has an effect on my inner self; on my energetic frequency, and on my spirit.

This is a gift you can also give yourself if you decide to choose it.

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Also visit my book website: www.gabriellakortsch.com where you may download excerpts or read quotations from any of my books. My new book Emotional Unavailability & Neediness: Two Sides of the Same Coin is now out globally on Amazon in print & Kindle. You can also obtain it (or any of my other books) via Barnes & Noble.

Books by Dr. Gabriella Kortsch


Note: If you are wondering why this blog is now only appearing on alternate days (excluding Sat/Sun), it is because I also post on my other blog on the others days. That other blog is The Tao of Spiritual Partnership, so named for another one of my books. Click here to visit the blog and/or to sign up for the feed.

Find more free articles from my monthly newsletters as well as more information about my work at Advanced Personal Therapy

Wednesday, December 3, 2014

Using Failure to Reach Success


There are many successful people in the world, and there are many people who fail. The main difference between the two is this: the successful ones pick themselves up after failure again and again until they finally reach success.

In other words, before attaining success, most people go through different stages of failure on the way to where they want to go, but those that eventually do attain success, learn something from the failure and then make the choice to pick themselves up and continue pursuing their goal, consistently persisting in achieving it.

Abraham Lincoln is a wonderful and inspiring example to understand this:

In 1832 he lost his job and was defeated for the state legislature, but was elected company captain of the Illinois militia in the Black Hawk War.

In 1833 he failed in business, but was appointed postmaster of New Salem, Illinois and was appointed deputy surveyor of Sangamon County.

In 1834 he was elected to Illinois state legislature.

In 1835 his fiancé died.

In 1836 he had a nervous breakdown, but was re-elected to Illinois state legislature (running first in his district) and received his license to practice law in Illinois state courts.

In 1837 he led the Whig delegation in moving Illinois state capital from Vandalia to Springfield and he became law partner of John T. Stuart.

In 1838 he was defeated for Speaker, but was nominated for Illinois House Speaker by the Whig caucus and was re-elected to the Illinois House (running first in his district), and served as Whig floor leader.

Between 1839 and 1842 he was chosen presidential elector by the first Whig convention, he was admitted to practice law in the U.S. Circuit Court, he argued his first case before the Illinois Supreme Court, he was re-elected to the Illinois state legislature, he established a new law practice with Stephen T. Logan, and he was admitted to practice law in U.S. District Court.

In 1843 he was defeated for nomination for Congress.

In 1844 he established his own law practice with William H. Herndon as junior partner and in 1846 he was elected to Congress.

In 1848 he lost the renomination.

In 1849 he was rejected for land officer, but was admitted to practice law in the U.S. Supreme Court.

In 1854 he was defeated for the U.S. Senate, but was elected to the Illinois state legislature.

In 1856 he was defeated for the nomination for Vice President.

In 1858 he was again defeated for the U.S. Senate.

In 1860 he was elected President.

Here is the formula he appears to have followed consistently:
  1. Choose your goal or goals
  2. Undertake steps to move in that direction
  3. Failure
  4. Pick yourself up
  5. Learn
  6. Persist (continue doing whatever you can right now that goes in the basic general direction of your goal)
  7. You may need to repeat the loop from number 3-6 several times
  8. Success.
And remember this: many of the successful people that you see or hear about may appear to have reached the success they have so easily, because we typically hear nothing about the many pitfalls and failures they surmounted in order to reach their goals. As you look at that part of their trajectory, you may find yourself much more motivated to continue on in your own.

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Also visit my book website: www.gabriellakortsch.com where you may download excerpts or read quotations from any of my books. My new book Emotional Unavailability & Neediness: Two Sides of the Same Coin is now out globally on Amazon in print & Kindle. You can also obtain it (or any of my other books) via Barnes & Noble.

Books by Dr. Gabriella Kortsch


Note: If you are wondering why this blog is now only appearing on alternate days (excluding Sat/Sun), it is because I also post on my other blog on the others days. That other blog is The Tao of Spiritual Partnership, so named for another one of my books. Click here to visit the blog and/or to sign up for the feed.

Find more free articles from my monthly newsletters as well as more information about my work at Advanced Personal Therapy

Monday, December 1, 2014

Carrying a Heavy Load



As you go through a long day of errands and shopping, you find yourself weighed down at the end with many different parcels. You may despair of ever ending your duties and getting rid of the numerous bags and packages, and you notice how your arms ache from carrying them around. You also notice that the lovely ice cream that was tempting you, was simply not possible to have because your hands were so occupied in carrying what you already had in them. So you did not have the ice cream and you also didn't stop to smell the glorious jasmine because it would have been impossible to stoop down with all that weight in your hands. Finally, you wanted to run your hand over the rich velvet of a sofa in a display, but again, could not, because of all that you already had in your hands. It would have simply been too much trouble to let it all go, allow yourself the pleasure of feeling the velvet, and then picking it all up again in order to get all those parcels to the car.

However, on some occasions you may find that you are able to make a brief stop at your car halfway through the day in order to deposit some of the packages in the trunk, thus allowing your arms to relax again and therefore you feel less tired.


In our lives we are loaded down with another kind of burden that can weigh even more heavily on our minds than those packages weigh on our arms, especially if we are not able to let go of those burdens and therefore we continue to allow them to occupy a place inside of us. Those are the burdens of pain, anger, suffering, and resentment about wrongs that others have done to us or that are related to the unfairness of life and that we refuse to release, or we choose not to release, or on occasion, we may not even be aware of the fact that we could release them. And so of course more and more of these burdens accumulate inside of us, leaving very little room for joy and delight and love and happiness. It was the Buddha who said: Remembering a wrong is like carrying a burden on the mind.


Have you chosen to let go of the wrongs of your life? Remember that the less you love yourself, the more you will cling to the pain and resentment, and the more you love yourself, the more you will be able to do this - in fact - the more you will want to do this. 


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Also visit my book website: www.gabriellakortsch.com where you may download excerpts or read quotations from any of my books. My new book Emotional Unavailability & Neediness: Two Sides of the Same Coin is now out globally on Amazon in print & Kindle. You can also obtain it (or any of my other books) via Barnes & Noble.

Books by Dr. Gabriella Kortsch


Note: If you are wondering why this blog is now only appearing on alternate days (excluding Sat/Sun), it is because I also post on my other blog on the others days. That other blog is The Tao of Spiritual Partnership, so named for another one of my books. Click here to visit the blog and/or to sign up for the feed.

Find more free articles from my monthly newsletters as well as more information about my work at Advanced Personal Therapy