You, of course, know that he should not stop, and you know this because almost all children (yourself - unless you were physically handicapped - included) learn in that very same way: trying, falling, trying, falling yet again, trying, and falling, until finally they hardly ever fall, having then quite successfully mastered the skill. They reached their goal. To get there, they tried, and tried, and tried again. At the beginning it might have been by holding on to tables, or conveniently placed women's legs, skirts, or men's pants, or a chair. They used every opportunity to help them become successful. They never stopped.
No Negative Self-Dialogue: One of the major reasons they never stopped is because they did not yet have some self-dialogue running in their heads like you do saying things such as:
- You'll never manage to get there.
- You're no good at this.
- You never succeed at anything.
- Why should you succeed at this, if you've never succeeded at anything else?
- That's way too hard
- Do you have any idea how long it will take you to do that?
- Oh, I know a bunch of people who tried that and they just couldn't make it work.
- Do you have any idea what people will think if you do that?
It was Einstein who said: You never fail until you stop trying. You too can get that negative self-dialogue out of your head, can stop paying attention (or even giving time) to those well-meaning but negative friends, and find some encouraging supporters to cheer you on as you try to once again take your next step (possibly for the 24th time).
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