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"The masterwork of a profoundly gifted healer of the soul. Dazzling, challenging, wondrously useful." Peggy Rubin, author: To Be and How To Be, Transforming Your Life Through Sacred Theatre

"Rewiring the Soul is one the best introductions to the spiritual life I've ever read. Not esoteric but real-world and practical. The implications are profound." Peter Shepherd, author: Daring To Be Yourself

Friday, February 28, 2014

Different Vibrations, Different Results


"If you desire something (material, experiential, whatever), but your beliefs and thoughts all day long are about how impossible it will be for you to get it, and that you are being silly just to imagine that you will get it, then you are "entertaining" two very different vibrations simultaneously that will cancel each other out." Abraham

To put it into other words, whatever it is you wish to achieve, your mindset needs to remain on that thought, and on the belief that you will achieve it. The more you meander about, either on negative thoughts, or fear thoughts, or thoughts of doubt that you will not be able to achieve your goal (of whatever type), the more you are drawing yourself away from being able to achieve it.

With this thought we come back to the idea mentioned so often here (and not originally mine, but of many other authors throughout the millenia; something so wonderful to know, because by knowing it, you will be able to go in whichever direction you choose).

This idea is the notion of your own energy, your vibrational frequency. Your own energy is produced by your thoughts and feelings. The best way to maintain your energy high (and of course I am not talking so much about the energy you require to run a marathon, but the energy within you, that allows you to feel good as a whole about yourself and your life circumstances), is by paying close attention to your feelings. And then to correct as needed. It is through a specific good energy, or vibrational frequency that you are able to attract to your life that which you seek).

This vibrational frequency can be equated to a radio transmission. If you are searching for a specific radio show at the local level, you know that you have to go to a specific radio frequency on your dial. If you do not, you either don't get my program, or you get static, and a fuzzy reception, so you will not be able to understand what is being said.

It's exactly the same with your own vibrational frequency: if it is not on the right dial; if you are in a frame of mind or state of feeling that is not good, then you will only get static when you go after your goals, or you may not get anything at all.

Simple as this analogy sounds, it is so true. Change your feelings, use the energy barometer within you thanks to your state of feeling, and begin to observe how you can fine tune the emission in order to achieve exactly what you are aiming for.

(Note: I've just read an excellent article that relates to this topic from a slightly different angle, as it refers to how our energy is capable of changing our cells: New Study Reveals How to Upgrade Your Genetic Code)

Image: Capri

Also visit my new website: www.gabriellakortsch.com where you may download excerpts or read quotations from any of my books.

Books by Dr. Gabriella Kortsch:
 
Rewiring the Soul

Click here to download the first chapter.
To see the Table of Contents click here

Reviews From the Back Cover:

"The masterwork of a profoundly gifted healer of the soul. Dazzling, challenging, wondrously useful." Peggy Rubin, Director, Center for Sacred Theatre, Ashland, Oregon; author: To Be and How To Be, Transforming Your Life Through Sacred Theatre

"Rewiring the Soul is one the best introductions to the spiritual life I've ever read. Not esoteric but real-world & practical. The implications are profound." Peter Shepherd; Founder Trans4mind.com; author: Daring To Be Yourself 

"The human being's directory to the soul. A breakthrough for those seeking practical assistance, those of a more mystical bent & every soul awaiting discovery." Toni Petrinovich, Ph.D.; author: The Call: Awakening the Angelic Human

The Tao of Spiritual Partnership

To download the first chapter, click here
To see the Table of Contents click here

Praise for The Tao of Spiritual Partnership

“All humans seek the illusive touch of another's Soul, which opens us to the sense of belonging to something bigger than the self. Dr. Kortsch has given us the true "tao" of relationship in this brilliant exploration of emotional tapestry. We will be grateful for this illumination of spiritual partnership for generations to come."
Chris Griscom: Spiritual Leader, Author (among others) of: Ecstasy is a New Frequency

“Eloquent and comprehensive, showing how your primary love relationship may be a sacred vessel that transports you and your partner to a place of mutual healing and expansion.” 

Robert Schwartz: Author of Your Soul’s Gift: The Healing Power of the Life You Planned Before You Were Born 


The Power of Your Heart: Loving the Self 


My new book: The Power of Your Heart: Loving the Self, is just out. Click here to download an excerpt. 
Here is a brief excerpt from the Introduction:

It is your right to live a life of love. It is your right to understand that loving yourself first is not a selfish way of behavior, but one that allows you to live that life of love. However, it's highly probable that you never got the instruction manual explaining exactly how to accomplish this. Possibly your family - and it may have been a loving family - considered loving the self an act of selfishness. Or perhaps the members of your family simply didn't practice loving the self, and of course, what you didn't see - what was not shown to you - while you were growing up, meant that you just didn't learn how to apply it to yourself. The closer you are able to move towards loving yourself, the closer you will be to living a life of love - quite independently of whether you are in a love relationship or not. A life of love can be lived with or without a partnership, because a life of love implies that you know that it all begins with you by loving the self. The more clearly you understand how to love yourself, the more clearly you will see that it is very hard - if not impossible - to love others in ways that are unrelated to fulfilling any of your needs. Loving yourself first is - for so many of us - one of the hardest things we will ever learn how to do. But know this: the benefits affect you in every particle of your being - body, mind, and soul - and are greater than you will ever be able to imagine.


Note: If you are wondering why this blog is now only appearing on alternate days (excluding Sat/Sun), it is because I also post on my other blog on the others days. That other blog is The Tao of Spiritual Partnership, so named for another one of my books. Click here to visit the blog and/or to sign up for the feed.

Wednesday, February 26, 2014

Supporting Your Ego With Your Brothers


Let's say I'm a busy lawyer. My practice is doing well, and therefore financially I'm secure. Furthermore, I do regular pro bono work, so in the department of feeling good about myself, I'm also secure. My relationship with my spouse is doing reasonably well, perhaps better than many others, so on the emotional front, I feel that life is good, and perhaps my son has been accepted at the London School of Economics and my daughter is planning on a Ph.D. in electrical engineering at MIT, so again, on the level of pride, I'm doing well.

Let's think about that a bit. As I feel financially secure, how much of that has to do with the actual funds in my portfolio or accounts, and how much of it with the fact that I occasionally compare myself to my lesser brethren who toil at their jobs, but reap little benefit? Could we (could I) say that they don't work as hard? Or perhaps they did not prepare as well while they were studying in order to get into their profession. Or perhaps their networking skills aren't as finely-tuned as mine.

And the pro bono work I do, actually benefits me in more than one way: not only do I get to feel good about myself because I do such work for those who could not otherwise afford my expertise, but I get to see - occasionally - how the other half (or 75%) lives, and so feel even better about how I managed to get myself to where I am.

Lest you are turned off by this person I am portraying as being an individual who is very small-spirited, mean, and petty, let's at least admit that some portions of what I am relating, does indeed cross our minds on occasion.

The fact that my relationship with my spouse is doing reasonably well, is often also a measurement brought on by comparison. Isn't it true that my cousin's marriage is on the rocks? And didn't I hear the neighbours shouting at each other as they came home last night? What about the statistics in the press? I - we - are simply doing so much better than that ... even though our marriage actually leaves a lot to be desired.

What is at stake here is a question of how much my - and your - ego gets involved when you think of where others find themselves along this continuum of the various areas of your life as compared to you. Think of it: the people in your life may serve to make you feel better about yourself by virtue of their failings or at the very least, their lesser accomplishment or accumulation of any kind. Your ego grows in some fashion, thanks to this.

My purpose today is not to point the finger at anyone - or - if I am doing so, then I include myself in it. Rather, my purpose is to make all of us more conscious about how this happens. A quote from the 'Course in Miracles' says: you do not realize how much you have misused your brothers by seeing them as sources of ego support.

Also visit my new website: www.gabriellakortsch.com where you may download excerpts or read quotations from any of my books.

Books by Dr. Gabriella Kortsch:
 
Rewiring the Soul

Click here to download the first chapter.
To see the Table of Contents click here

Reviews From the Back Cover:

"The masterwork of a profoundly gifted healer of the soul. Dazzling, challenging, wondrously useful." Peggy Rubin, Director, Center for Sacred Theatre, Ashland, Oregon; author: To Be and How To Be, Transforming Your Life Through Sacred Theatre

"Rewiring the Soul is one the best introductions to the spiritual life I've ever read. Not esoteric but real-world & practical. The implications are profound." Peter Shepherd; Founder Trans4mind.com; author: Daring To Be Yourself 

"The human being's directory to the soul. A breakthrough for those seeking practical assistance, those of a more mystical bent & every soul awaiting discovery." Toni Petrinovich, Ph.D.; author: The Call: Awakening the Angelic Human

The Tao of Spiritual Partnership

To download the first chapter, click here
To see the Table of Contents click here

Praise for The Tao of Spiritual Partnership

“All humans seek the illusive touch of another's Soul, which opens us to the sense of belonging to something bigger than the self. Dr. Kortsch has given us the true "tao" of relationship in this brilliant exploration of emotional tapestry. We will be grateful for this illumination of spiritual partnership for generations to come."
Chris Griscom: Spiritual Leader, Author (among others) of: Ecstasy is a New Frequency

“Eloquent and comprehensive, showing how your primary love relationship may be a sacred vessel that transports you and your partner to a place of mutual healing and expansion.” 

Robert Schwartz: Author of Your Soul’s Gift: The Healing Power of the Life You Planned Before You Were Born 


The Power of Your Heart: Loving the Self 


My new book: The Power of Your Heart: Loving the Self, is just out. Click here to download an excerpt. 
Here is a brief excerpt from the Introduction:

It is your right to live a life of love. It is your right to understand that loving yourself first is not a selfish way of behavior, but one that allows you to live that life of love. However, it's highly probable that you never got the instruction manual explaining exactly how to accomplish this. Possibly your family - and it may have been a loving family - considered loving the self an act of selfishness. Or perhaps the members of your family simply didn't practice loving the self, and of course, what you didn't see - what was not shown to you - while you were growing up, meant that you just didn't learn how to apply it to yourself. The closer you are able to move towards loving yourself, the closer you will be to living a life of love - quite independently of whether you are in a love relationship or not. A life of love can be lived with or without a partnership, because a life of love implies that you know that it all begins with you by loving the self. The more clearly you understand how to love yourself, the more clearly you will see that it is very hard - if not impossible - to love others in ways that are unrelated to fulfilling any of your needs. Loving yourself first is - for so many of us - one of the hardest things we will ever learn how to do. But know this: the benefits affect you in every particle of your being - body, mind, and soul - and are greater than you will ever be able to imagine.


Note: If you are wondering why this blog is now only appearing on alternate days (excluding Sat/Sun), it is because I also post on my other blog on the others days. That other blog is The Tao of Spiritual Partnership, so named for another one of my books. Click here to visit the blog and/or to sign up for the feed.

Friday, February 21, 2014

The Qualilties Your Dog Sees in You


Those of you who have dogs know that your dog absolutely adores you. Your dog believes (erroneously or not) that you are beautiful and lovable (because you go on walks together), that you are fun (because you throw sticks or tennis balls), that you are funny (because you think you can hide the dog treats), and above all, that you are highly intelligent (because you always, magically have food for your dog). And unless you mistreat your dog, this animal that shares a home with you, also believes that you are good, patient, warm, generous, kind, caring, compassionate, and loving.

But your dog is pretty dumb, right? Because you know - in your heart of hearts - that you are nowhere near all of those things. Those qualities that your dog attributes to you, simply do not form part of your particular repertoire. Perhaps some of them, but certainly not all.

On the other hand, isn't it wonderful to know that your dog feels that way about you? Doesn't that melt your heart each and every time you are together? Isn't that part of what stimulates the so-called 'relaxation response' in you, each time you get home and your dog jumps for joy, tail wagging fit to be tied, at the mere sight of you? Whether you are old and wrinkled or young and fit, fat and badly dressed, or thin with designer jeans hugging your hips, rich or poor, bald or bearing long blond tresses, didn't finish school or you have an alphabet soup of letters after your name - clearly, your dog just doesn't care. Your dog loves you. Period.

So why not use all these qualities that your dog embues you with as a challenge? Grow into them. Become that good, patient, warm, generous, kind, caring, compassionate, and loving person that your dog believes you are. Work towards that goal. In part, because you don't really want to let your dog down, do you? But much more, because you want the world to be a better place. Just if you - and you - and you who read this make those changes bit by bit, we will all soon live in a much better place. A quote you often see on the internet says: my goal in life is to be as good a person as my dog thinks I am. And Gandhi, although he did not include dogs in his maxim, said, as I repeat frequently: be the change you want to see in the world.

Also visit my new website: www.gabriellakortsch.com where you may download excerpts or read quotations from any of my books.

Books by Dr. Gabriella Kortsch:
 
Rewiring the Soul

Click here to download the first chapter.
To see the Table of Contents click here

Reviews From the Back Cover:

"The masterwork of a profoundly gifted healer of the soul. Dazzling, challenging, wondrously useful." Peggy Rubin, Director, Center for Sacred Theatre, Ashland, Oregon; author: To Be and How To Be, Transforming Your Life Through Sacred Theatre

"Rewiring the Soul is one the best introductions to the spiritual life I've ever read. Not esoteric but real-world & practical. The implications are profound." Peter Shepherd; Founder Trans4mind.com; author: Daring To Be Yourself 

"The human being's directory to the soul. A breakthrough for those seeking practical assistance, those of a more mystical bent & every soul awaiting discovery." Toni Petrinovich, Ph.D.; author: The Call: Awakening the Angelic Human

The Tao of Spiritual Partnership

To download the first chapter, click here
To see the Table of Contents click here

Praise for The Tao of Spiritual Partnership

“All humans seek the illusive touch of another's Soul, which opens us to the sense of belonging to something bigger than the self. Dr. Kortsch has given us the true "tao" of relationship in this brilliant exploration of emotional tapestry. We will be grateful for this illumination of spiritual partnership for generations to come."
Chris Griscom: Spiritual Leader, Author (among others) of: Ecstasy is a New Frequency

“Eloquent and comprehensive, showing how your primary love relationship may be a sacred vessel that transports you and your partner to a place of mutual healing and expansion.” 

Robert Schwartz: Author of Your Soul’s Gift: The Healing Power of the Life You Planned Before You Were Born 


The Power of Your Heart: Loving the Self 


My new book: The Power of Your Heart: Loving the Self, is just out. Click here to download an excerpt. 
Here is a brief excerpt from the Introduction:

It is your right to live a life of love. It is your right to understand that loving yourself first is not a selfish way of behavior, but one that allows you to live that life of love. However, it's highly probable that you never got the instruction manual explaining exactly how to accomplish this. Possibly your family - and it may have been a loving family - considered loving the self an act of selfishness. Or perhaps the members of your family simply didn't practice loving the self, and of course, what you didn't see - what was not shown to you - while you were growing up, meant that you just didn't learn how to apply it to yourself. The closer you are able to move towards loving yourself, the closer you will be to living a life of love - quite independently of whether you are in a love relationship or not. A life of love can be lived with or without a partnership, because a life of love implies that you know that it all begins with you by loving the self. The more clearly you understand how to love yourself, the more clearly you will see that it is very hard - if not impossible - to love others in ways that are unrelated to fulfilling any of your needs. Loving yourself first is - for so many of us - one of the hardest things we will ever learn how to do. But know this: the benefits affect you in every particle of your being - body, mind, and soul - and are greater than you will ever be able to imagine.


Note: If you are wondering why this blog is now only appearing on alternate days (excluding Sat/Sun), it is because I also post on my other blog on the others days. That other blog is The Tao of Spiritual Partnership, so named for another one of my books. Click here to visit the blog and/or to sign up for the feed.

Wednesday, February 19, 2014

Freedom From the Need to Have


Every day as I look at the headlines on the apps I use to see articles about those areas of interest that resonate with me, I click on some of those headlines in order to read the full article. Invariably, something on the sidebar of the newspaper, magazine or ezine in question beckons me to buy it, to join it, to send an enquiry in order to get more information in order that I buy it in the future. Sometimes those little ads in the sidebars are very temptiing indeed. I want it.

Long ago, when I was in my late 20's I recognized that the desire to have something (in that case it was in fashion magazines that told me that if I bought that dress, or that brand of lipstick, that perfume, or those designer shoes, I would be endlessly beautiful), had little to do with what I might feel after I purchased the item. And so I learned not to look at such magazines, and in the process lost most of my interest in having certain items in my wardrobe or bathroom. I recognized how free I had become, by mere virtue of the fact that I no longer purchased and looked at such magazines (this was before the internet).

I also recognized that I had freed myself from the need to have such items. And that is where today's article is leading. As you lose your need to have ... to have whatever it may be ... you become free. Think about it. You go to a mall and see something. You decide you need to have it. If you have enough money in your wallet, space on your credit card, or money in the bank to buy it with your debit card, you go ahead and buy the item based on that momentary need. Or a friend gets something and so you believe you need it as well. Or you crave something you can't afford for years. In the craving there is a need. And ultimately, in the need there is a lack of freedom. Lack of freedom from what? From need.

This doesn't mean you shouldn't have things. But it does mean you should begin to need things less. As you do so, you will find freedom. It was Jetsunma Ahkon who said: it isn't having that makes us joyful: it's freedom from the need to have that makes us happy.

Also visit my new website: www.gabriellakortsch.com where you may download excerpts or read quotations from any of my books.

Books by Dr. Gabriella Kortsch:
 
Rewiring the Soul

Click here to download the first chapter.
To see the Table of Contents click here

Reviews From the Back Cover:

"The masterwork of a profoundly gifted healer of the soul. Dazzling, challenging, wondrously useful." Peggy Rubin, Director, Center for Sacred Theatre, Ashland, Oregon; author: To Be and How To Be, Transforming Your Life Through Sacred Theatre

"Rewiring the Soul is one the best introductions to the spiritual life I've ever read. Not esoteric but real-world & practical. The implications are profound." Peter Shepherd; Founder Trans4mind.com; author: Daring To Be Yourself 

"The human being's directory to the soul. A breakthrough for those seeking practical assistance, those of a more mystical bent & every soul awaiting discovery." Toni Petrinovich, Ph.D.; author: The Call: Awakening the Angelic Human

The Tao of Spiritual Partnership

To download the first chapter, click here
To see the Table of Contents click here

Praise for The Tao of Spiritual Partnership

“All humans seek the illusive touch of another's Soul, which opens us to the sense of belonging to something bigger than the self. Dr. Kortsch has given us the true "tao" of relationship in this brilliant exploration of emotional tapestry. We will be grateful for this illumination of spiritual partnership for generations to come."
Chris Griscom: Spiritual Leader, Author (among others) of: Ecstasy is a New Frequency

“Eloquent and comprehensive, showing how your primary love relationship may be a sacred vessel that transports you and your partner to a place of mutual healing and expansion.” 

Robert Schwartz: Author of Your Soul’s Gift: The Healing Power of the Life You Planned Before You Were Born 


The Power of Your Heart: Loving the Self 


My new book: The Power of Your Heart: Loving the Self, is just out. Click here to download an excerpt. 
Here is a brief excerpt from the Introduction:

It is your right to live a life of love. It is your right to understand that loving yourself first is not a selfish way of behavior, but one that allows you to live that life of love. However, it's highly probable that you never got the instruction manual explaining exactly how to accomplish this. Possibly your family - and it may have been a loving family - considered loving the self an act of selfishness. Or perhaps the members of your family simply didn't practice loving the self, and of course, what you didn't see - what was not shown to you - while you were growing up, meant that you just didn't learn how to apply it to yourself. The closer you are able to move towards loving yourself, the closer you will be to living a life of love - quite independently of whether you are in a love relationship or not. A life of love can be lived with or without a partnership, because a life of love implies that you know that it all begins with you by loving the self. The more clearly you understand how to love yourself, the more clearly you will see that it is very hard - if not impossible - to love others in ways that are unrelated to fulfilling any of your needs. Loving yourself first is - for so many of us - one of the hardest things we will ever learn how to do. But know this: the benefits affect you in every particle of your being - body, mind, and soul - and are greater than you will ever be able to imagine.


Note: If you are wondering why this blog is now only appearing on alternate days (excluding Sat/Sun), it is because I also post on my other blog on the others days. That other blog is The Tao of Spiritual Partnership, so named for another one of my books. Click here to visit the blog and/or to sign up for the feed.

Monday, February 17, 2014

Getting Hit in the Head With Bricks


Your life may be moving along well - finally - and you believe you are now truly on the road to achieving whatever it is you have set out to do with it. You work hard. You are responsible. You play fairly. You remember to be kind. You don't lie or cheat, and you help others move towards their own goals. And then wham! You get hit on the head with a brick. Maybe even more than one. And in fact, it was not too long ago that you got hit with another one. You recuperated quite nicely from that one, but the last thing you wanted - expected - had hoped for, was to be hit by this new barrage.

In fact, it's now when you can get creative. Perhaps you can bend your mind enough in order to even consider this an interesting challenge. You see, as always, it's in your reaction to the event where what happens next lies.

If you groan, or mope, or bitch, or complain bitterly, or become resentful at the unfairness of life, it will - at the very least - take you a lot longer to recuperate from this latest setback. Furthermore, you will probably have a great deal more difficulty in finding potential solutions to the dilemma.

But if you make up your mind that this will not deter you, if you set your eyes on the horizon instead of on this particular boulder in your path, you will find it in you to continue.

I'm just reading a book about the combined history of Spain, Portugal, Holland, and England's race to gain control over the Spice Islands in the Indian Ocean. The merchants of these countries who financed the expeditions, the governments who gave out decrees permitting the bearer to claim land in the name of their respective crowns, and above all, the seafaring mariners and ship's captains went through the most incredible setbacks, calamities, seemingly insurmountable problems, and bricks in the head. But they had faith they would be able to deal with all of these disasters, and certainly that they would survive - to mention only two typical illnesses - the bloody flux (dysentery) and scurvy, and they also had faith that they would be able to communicate with indigenous populations with whom they did not share a common language. And yet ... they all persevered.

Above all, they had faith that they could find their way there, they had faith that those islands actually were there, and that they would offer them access to enormous quantities of spices cheaply that could then be sold for a great profit in their home countries.

Such faith in your purpose or goal is something that you can also find in yourself. It was Steve Jobs who said: sometimes life is going to hit you in the head with a brick. Don't lose faith.

Don't lose faith.

Image: Photographer: Andrey AntovA green grasshopper rests aboard a red mushroom boat in a sea of moss

Also visit my new website: www.gabriellakortsch.com where you may download excerpts or read quotations from any of my books.

Books by Dr. Gabriella Kortsch:
 
Rewiring the Soul

Click here to download the first chapter.
To see the Table of Contents click here

Reviews From the Back Cover:

"The masterwork of a profoundly gifted healer of the soul. Dazzling, challenging, wondrously useful." Peggy Rubin, Director, Center for Sacred Theatre, Ashland, Oregon; author: To Be and How To Be, Transforming Your Life Through Sacred Theatre

"Rewiring the Soul is one the best introductions to the spiritual life I've ever read. Not esoteric but real-world & practical. The implications are profound." Peter Shepherd; Founder Trans4mind.com; author: Daring To Be Yourself 

"The human being's directory to the soul. A breakthrough for those seeking practical assistance, those of a more mystical bent & every soul awaiting discovery." Toni Petrinovich, Ph.D.; author: The Call: Awakening the Angelic Human

The Tao of Spiritual Partnership

To download the first chapter, click here
To see the Table of Contents click here

Praise for The Tao of Spiritual Partnership

“All humans seek the illusive touch of another's Soul, which opens us to the sense of belonging to something bigger than the self. Dr. Kortsch has given us the true "tao" of relationship in this brilliant exploration of emotional tapestry. We will be grateful for this illumination of spiritual partnership for generations to come."
Chris Griscom: Spiritual Leader, Author (among others) of: Ecstasy is a New Frequency

“Eloquent and comprehensive, showing how your primary love relationship may be a sacred vessel that transports you and your partner to a place of mutual healing and expansion.” 

Robert Schwartz: Author of Your Soul’s Gift: The Healing Power of the Life You Planned Before You Were Born 


The Power of Your Heart: Loving the Self 


My new book: The Power of Your Heart: Loving the Self, is just out. Click here to download an excerpt. 
Here is a brief excerpt from the Introduction:

It is your right to live a life of love. It is your right to understand that loving yourself first is not a selfish way of behavior, but one that allows you to live that life of love. However, it's highly probable that you never got the instruction manual explaining exactly how to accomplish this. Possibly your family - and it may have been a loving family - considered loving the self an act of selfishness. Or perhaps the members of your family simply didn't practice loving the self, and of course, what you didn't see - what was not shown to you - while you were growing up, meant that you just didn't learn how to apply it to yourself. The closer you are able to move towards loving yourself, the closer you will be to living a life of love - quite independently of whether you are in a love relationship or not. A life of love can be lived with or without a partnership, because a life of love implies that you know that it all begins with you by loving the self. The more clearly you understand how to love yourself, the more clearly you will see that it is very hard - if not impossible - to love others in ways that are unrelated to fulfilling any of your needs. Loving yourself first is - for so many of us - one of the hardest things we will ever learn how to do. But know this: the benefits affect you in every particle of your being - body, mind, and soul - and are greater than you will ever be able to imagine.


Note: If you are wondering why this blog is now only appearing on alternate days (excluding Sat/Sun), it is because I also post on my other blog on the others days. That other blog is The Tao of Spiritual Partnership, so named for another one of my books. Click here to visit the blog and/or to sign up for the feed.

Thursday, February 13, 2014

Forsaken Souls: Start 'Rewiring' Them!


Our soul often gets forsaken very early on. That doesn’t mean we can’t find our way back to it. We live our lives with stumbling blocks or pain and wonder why it appears that it doesn’t get all that much easier as time goes on. Or we see that we keep repeating patterns but we either still don’t learn, or else we think that we keep falling into the hands of people who make things difficult for us (I always fall in love with people who are not loyal to me; my friends always use me; my co-workers always steal my ideas; my children / spouse / parents / friends always disappoint me). Either way, things just aren’t working out for us on the outside and definitely not on the inside. So to begin to find our way back to our forsaken soul it helps to have a road map. Think of it as a treasure map where each clue leads you on to the next clue that will eventually lead you to the treasure you are so fervently seeking, and that treasure is you, your love for yourself, and ultimately, your soul, your inner connection – and rewiring - to your true self.

For that to work, you actually have to set out on the path towards the first clue. It’s not enough that you read about clues and how to best find clues, if you don’t, in fact, take that first step in the direction of the place where the first clue presumably will be found. And that’s precisely where many people – even highly educated people – fail. Because they don’t take that first step.

I call it the ‘I’ve been to all the seminars, and I’ve read all the books, I even had a therapist, but still nothing in my life has changed’ syndrome. People attend workshops and seminars, lectures and classes, they read all the right books, and they get very excited, even momentarily highly motivated, and yet, after the workshop is over, or after they finish reading the last page of the book, they feel a let-down, an anti-climax. And so, in order to feel the excitement again, to get the next fix, to find the next adrenaline rush, they book another weekend seminar, or buy yet another book, and the cycle is repeated over and over again. But nothing changes.

So what’s different about my book Rewiring the Soul: Finding the Possible Self? Won’t it just happen again, as it has so many times before?

It might. You see, there really is no magic formula. No silver bullet. It’s a bit like the alcoholic who wants to stop drinking, but thinks it can be achieved by putting the addiction into the hands of a third party – like a clinic – where it will all be taken care of, or the cigarette smoker who wants to stop smoking, and also thinks it can be achieved by putting the addiction into the hands of a third party – like a hypnotherapist – who will take care of it. The clinic or the hypnotherapist can really only then be effective, when the addict has also taken the internal decision to put an end to whatever the addiction is. And in that case, the clinic or the hypnotherapist is in many instances, in fact, superfluous and no longer truly necessary.

In other words, for this book to work for you, you must take the internal decision to start walking your talk. It’s not enough to read. It’s not enough to attend the workshops, seminars, classes, and lectures; you have to start actually doing something.

I was already in my early 30’s when I realized this. I had gone down the road I’ve described above, and was sitting on my terrace in southern Spain reading yet another book that had raised my energetic frequency as I purchased it and began to read it, but as I got about halfway through, a sinking feeling started settling in my solar plexus. I knew I had not yet done anything the author suggested, nor had I taken any kind of steps suggested by a lot of the other information I had been receiving. Yes, numerous insights had come my way, and I now understood so much more than before, but understanding and actually applying this understanding to one’s life is not the same thing.

So the sinking feeling at the pit of my stomach had to do with the fact that I knew I was going to have to find another book or seminar to fill the void, once I finished this one. I needed the adrenaline rush of yet more information that could change my life so that I could get through my days. It had to do with the fact that I knew nothing had really changed, despite all the reading, despite this latest great book, despite all the workshops, retreats, and seminars.

And so I knew I had to do something different. And the something different had nothing to do with reading another book or attending another weekend retreat. It had to do with me. And suddenly I knew – as I sat there on my sun-drenched terrace with the open book in my lap – I simply had to decide to choose one of the dozens of techniques, philosophies, or methods I had been reading and learning about, and begin following its precepts. I knew as surely as I knew my name that it really did not matter which method I chose, as long as I began. The rest would fall into place.

And so I began.

To download the remainder of this excerpt from my book Rewiring the Soul, click here

Books by Dr. Gabriella Kortsch:
 
Rewiring the Soul

Click here to download the first chapter.
To see the Table of Contents click here

Reviews From the Back Cover:

"The masterwork of a profoundly gifted healer of the soul. Dazzling, challenging, wondrously useful." Peggy Rubin, Director, Center for Sacred Theatre, Ashland, Oregon; author: To Be and How To Be, Transforming Your Life Through Sacred Theatre

"Rewiring the Soul is one the best introductions to the spiritual life I've ever read. Not esoteric but real-world & practical. The implications are profound." Peter Shepherd; Founder Trans4mind.com; author: Daring To Be Yourself 

"The human being's directory to the soul. A breakthrough for those seeking practical assistance, those of a more mystical bent & every soul awaiting discovery." Toni Petrinovich, Ph.D.; author: The Call: Awakening the Angelic Human

The Tao of Spiritual Partnership

To download the first chapter, click here
To see the Table of Contents click here

Praise for The Tao of Spiritual Partnership

“All humans seek the illusive touch of another's Soul, which opens us to the sense of belonging to something bigger than the self. Dr. Kortsch has given us the true "tao" of relationship in this brilliant exploration of emotional tapestry. We will be grateful for this illumination of spiritual partnership for generations to come."
Chris Griscom: Spiritual Leader, Author (among others) of: Ecstasy is a New Frequency

“Eloquent and comprehensive, showing how your primary love relationship may be a sacred vessel that transports you and your partner to a place of mutual healing and expansion.” 

Robert Schwartz: Author of Your Soul’s Gift: The Healing Power of the Life You Planned Before You Were Born 


The Power of Your Heart: Loving the Self 


My new book: The Power of Your Heart: Loving the Self, is just out. Click here to download an excerpt. 
Here is a brief excerpt from the Introduction:

It is your right to live a life of love. It is your right to understand that loving yourself first is not a selfish way of behavior, but one that allows you to live that life of love. However, it's highly probable that you never got the instruction manual explaining exactly how to accomplish this. Possibly your family - and it may have been a loving family - considered loving the self an act of selfishness. Or perhaps the members of your family simply didn't practice loving the self, and of course, what you didn't see - what was not shown to you - while you were growing up, meant that you just didn't learn how to apply it to yourself. The closer you are able to move towards loving yourself, the closer you will be to living a life of love - quite independently of whether you are in a love relationship or not. A life of love can be lived with or without a partnership, because a life of love implies that you know that it all begins with you by loving the self. The more clearly you understand how to love yourself, the more clearly you will see that it is very hard - if not impossible - to love others in ways that are unrelated to fulfilling any of your needs. Loving yourself first is - for so many of us - one of the hardest things we will ever learn how to do. But know this: the benefits affect you in every particle of your being - body, mind, and soul - and are greater than you will ever be able to imagine.


Note: If you are wondering why this blog is now only appearing on alternate days (excluding Sat/Sun), it is because I also post on my other blog on the others days. That other blog is The Tao of Spiritual Partnership, so named for another one of my books. Click here to visit the blog and/or to sign up for the feed.

Tuesday, February 11, 2014

Suffering is Optional


In a weekly group that has been meeting with me for a number of years, I recently recounted the story I had heard elsewhere (I believe it was in a Wayne Dyer seminar years ago) of a man who had lost his wife of many years to a terminal illness. The day after the funeral he was seen dancing. Of course, many who saw this or heard of it were horrified. How could he do this so quickly after his beloved wife's death?  His answer? Eventually I would have recovered from her death. All I did was to decide that 'eventually' was now.

That is not a facetious answer. Rather, it is a choice. The more you are responsible for yourself, your SELF, your words, thoughts, emotions, actions, and reactions, the more you are able to consciously choose that which serves you - and your world - best. Would that old man have shown greater love for his deceased wife by grieving for months or even years? Or did he show immense love by realizing he served the energy of the global community best by bringing his energy back to a level where it did not detract from, but rather added to the already existing energy on our planet?

What happens when you see someone going through a hard time or suffering? You feel bad for them, right? How does that help them? Feeling compassion for another who is dealing with some difficult cards that life has dealt him or her is worlds removed from making yourself feel bad so that somehow, some way, the other gets better from your bad or sad feelings. If this were truly so, we could all go take classes and learn how to feel really, really and terribly bad so that the ills of the world would improve, right? As stated in the example of the man who was dancing the night after his wife's death, the choices we make about our feelings have the capacity to contribute or detract from the overall energetic frequency of the world. That includes our feelings in difficult situations. When you find yourself deciding to feel bad about something difficult that is happening to another, remember that such a decision detracts and reduces the overall energetic frequency of the world. You've heard - by now - of the concept taken from the wisdom of most of the ancient thinkers, writer, and teachers, as well as from quantum physics, that we are all one. If you can even begin to accept the mere possibility of this being so, then you will quickly understand that your personal energetic frequency, and my personal energetic frequency, and that of all the other beings in this world contribute towards our global energy. And we can all understand that raising that global energy is most definitely an undertaking worth striving for. Just think: would a global community whose overall energy were much higher than it currently is even consider tolerating things like war, hunger, child slavery, sexual exploitation, lack of water, or no access to education? Therefore it stands to reason that you could choose maintain your own personal energetic frequency in as good a place as possible. And that includes what you choose to do with it when you see suffering in others. In some ways, refraining from feeling bad in those situations, is related to what the Buddhists call compassionate detachment. One of the greatest things you can do to make the world a better place - and we can all do this - is to choose to maintain your own energetic frequency high. And that takes us to the concept of suffering being optional.

A child falls and scrapes its knee. The fright and pain cause him to cry. Mother/father comes running, hugs him, kisses the knee, and finds a cookie (and/or antiseptic cream and a band-aid). Miraculously the crying and fright stop. Part of the reason has to do with the parent's safe and enveloping arms. Part of it is the distraction of the coveted cookie. And part of it is (although with a small child there is generally nothing 'conscious' about this) a choice that is made to pay more attention to the good thing (mother/father's arms, hug, kiss, cookie), than to the bad thing (falling and scraping the knee).

Let this small and simple analogy serve to help you make good choices when you are suffering. You may not have anyone around to comfort you (think Nelson Mandela at Robben Island for 27 years), you may not be getting a cookie (think Viktor Frankl in Auschwitz during the Holocaust), but you always have a choice about how you think about what is happening to you. And therein lies freedom. It was actually Frankl who realized during his own suffering and famously stated: Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of human freedoms - to choose one's attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one's own way. 

And the Buddha said: Pain is inevitable but suffering is optional.

Also visit my new website: www.gabriellakortsch.com where you may download excerpts or read quotations from any of my books.

Books by Dr. Gabriella Kortsch:
 
Rewiring the Soul

Click here to download the first chapter.
To see the Table of Contents click here

Reviews From the Back Cover:

"The masterwork of a profoundly gifted healer of the soul. Dazzling, challenging, wondrously useful." Peggy Rubin, Director, Center for Sacred Theatre, Ashland, Oregon; author: To Be and How To Be, Transforming Your Life Through Sacred Theatre

"Rewiring the Soul is one the best introductions to the spiritual life I've ever read. Not esoteric but real-world & practical. The implications are profound." Peter Shepherd; Founder Trans4mind.com; author: Daring To Be Yourself 

"The human being's directory to the soul. A breakthrough for those seeking practical assistance, those of a more mystical bent & every soul awaiting discovery." Toni Petrinovich, Ph.D.; author: The Call: Awakening the Angelic Human

The Tao of Spiritual Partnership

To download the first chapter, click here
To see the Table of Contents click here

Praise for The Tao of Spiritual Partnership

“All humans seek the illusive touch of another's Soul, which opens us to the sense of belonging to something bigger than the self. Dr. Kortsch has given us the true "tao" of relationship in this brilliant exploration of emotional tapestry. We will be grateful for this illumination of spiritual partnership for generations to come."
Chris Griscom: Spiritual Leader, Author (among others) of: Ecstasy is a New Frequency

“Eloquent and comprehensive, showing how your primary love relationship may be a sacred vessel that transports you and your partner to a place of mutual healing and expansion.” 

Robert Schwartz: Author of Your Soul’s Gift: The Healing Power of the Life You Planned Before You Were Born 


The Power of Your Heart: Loving the Self 


My new book: The Power of Your Heart: Loving the Self, is just out. Click here to download an excerpt. 
Here is a brief excerpt from the Introduction:

It is your right to live a life of love. It is your right to understand that loving yourself first is not a selfish way of behavior, but one that allows you to live that life of love. However, it's highly probable that you never got the instruction manual explaining exactly how to accomplish this. Possibly your family - and it may have been a loving family - considered loving the self an act of selfishness. Or perhaps the members of your family simply didn't practice loving the self, and of course, what you didn't see - what was not shown to you - while you were growing up, meant that you just didn't learn how to apply it to yourself. The closer you are able to move towards loving yourself, the closer you will be to living a life of love - quite independently of whether you are in a love relationship or not. A life of love can be lived with or without a partnership, because a life of love implies that you know that it all begins with you by loving the self. The more clearly you understand how to love yourself, the more clearly you will see that it is very hard - if not impossible - to love others in ways that are unrelated to fulfilling any of your needs. Loving yourself first is - for so many of us - one of the hardest things we will ever learn how to do. But know this: the benefits affect you in every particle of your being - body, mind, and soul - and are greater than you will ever be able to imagine.


Note: If you are wondering why this blog is now only appearing on alternate days (excluding Sat/Sun), it is because I also post on my other blog on the others days. That other blog is The Tao of Spiritual Partnership, so named for another one of my books. Click here to visit the blog and/or to sign up for the feed.