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"The masterwork of a profoundly gifted healer of the soul. Dazzling, challenging, wondrously useful." Peggy Rubin, author: To Be and How To Be, Transforming Your Life Through Sacred Theatre

"Rewiring the Soul is one the best introductions to the spiritual life I've ever read. Not esoteric but real-world and practical. The implications are profound." Peter Shepherd, author: Daring To Be Yourself

Thursday, November 28, 2013

How Do You Sum Up Your Choices?


My life contains a number of very bad choices. In the immediate hindsight, when things were going badly, or creating rather a great deal of difficulty, I said things like if I could do it over again, I'd do it differently. But that early conclusion changed with the benefit of longer hindsight.

Choices forge and hone us. Choices can make of you - like the proverbial rough diamond that is cut and polished and goes through extreme pressure and stress in order to become brilliant - an individual who has grown, progressed, and evolved precisely - and thanks to - those apparently occasional poor choices and their resulting aftermath. Choices can also make of you a very poor end product indeed. Much depends on what you choose to do once you realize you've made a bad choice. That choosing of your reaction to the bad choice is, of course, another choice, and with it, you lay the groundwork of the next part of your life - perhaps only a few hours or a day, or perhaps it will have repercussions that will be felt into the next decades of your life. And then, of course, more choices are made.

Perhaps none of this is news to you, but there is one little bit that we tend to forget: we think of the big choices as those that impact us the most but pay little attention to the small ones, those that we take many times a day.
  • where do you choose to let your thoughts go during your day ... many times a day?
  • what do you choose to read, listen to, or view during your day ... several times a day?
  • with whom to you choose to talk during your day ... many times a day?
  • what do you choose to talk about during your day ... many times a day?
  • how often do you choose to see beauty during your day ... many times a day?
  • how often do you choose to feel gratitude during your day ... many times a day?
  • how often do you choose to stay in silent mindfulness during your day ... many times a day?
  • how often do you choose to find joy in small things during your day ... many times a day?
  • how often do you choose to smile during your day ... many times a day?
  • how often do you choose to be kind, loving, generous, compassionate during your day ... many times a day?
As you see, these small choices during your day, every day, and many times a day, also form part of those choices that can make or break a life. As Camus said: life is the sum of all your choices.

Make good ones.

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Note: If you are wondering why this blog is now only appearing on alternate days (excluding Sat/Sun), it is because I also post on my other blog on the others days. That other blog is The Tao of Spiritual Partnership, so named for another one of my books. Click here to visit the blog and/or to sign up for the feed. 

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Tuesday, November 26, 2013

Nurturing Evermore and Greater Thoughts


Do you remember learning how to read at school? While each country will have followed different precepts, in my case a lot of it had to do with 'See Jane run'; 'See Jane's dog run'; and 'See Jane and Tom run'. I was devastated by the utter boredom of the thoughts implied in this learning how to read process.

Fast forward a few years. Obviously I had been reading many more exciting books: adventure, fairy tales, historical novels, but one fine day I stumbled across The Lion, the Witch, and the Wardrobe, and as you can imagine, I was awe-struck. The thoughts that swirled through my head thanks to ideas propagated on each page of this amazing book, were infinite, as they occupy me still, albeit on other levels now than then.

But here is the point: the 'see Jane run' type of thought kept readers on a given level. A wardrobe with a hidden door that led to magical kingdoms led readers to a very different level indeed. And in our lives it's quite a bit of the same. How much of your time do you spend mulling over mundane thoughts that keep you at a very basic energetic level? 

Routine forms part of all our lives, but just to offer a couple of examples of ways to walk through that proverbial hidden door and enter the magic kingdom: driving in your car, going over, in your mind, what you need to do today. You've actually already got it all down, you made a list, no real need to go over it all again. SO instead: listen to some TED-type seminars that really turn you on and make you enter new worlds because of the material that is being offered - all you have to do is get the podcasts into your system, or download them for MP3 listening in your car. Likewise seminars from any number of speakers and thinkers that have the capacity to transport you from your mundane thoughts to a world filled - in some fashion - with magic. And of course, this affects your energetic frequency and vibration. How could it not?

You're not in your car? Perhaps you're shaving, putting on your make-up, cooking, puttering, waiting in traffic, waiting in line at a bureaucratic institution that exists merely to let the rest of us mortals know that our time is no longer ours, or perhaps you're waiting at a doctor's office, at the bank, on hold with one of those corporations that - just like the bureaucracies - believes that its mission in life is to make us realize our time is no longer our own. In all of these instances, if you have come prepared with some material of the type I've recommended here, you can not only use your time to remove yourself from the mundane nightmare (Sartre might have termed it a Huis Clos) those situations sometimes subject us to, but literally transport yourself to another plane, another level of being thanks to the thoughts those talks and seminars are exposing you to.

It was Benjamin Disraeli who said: Nurture great thoughts, for you will never go higher than your thoughts, and it is so very true that this is a matter that lies in your hands and in your head, and how you choose the level of thoughts on which you keep yourself.

Note: TED seminars as well as seminars by a varied number of speakers can be accessed on my left sidebar under links, especially the links with an asterix. Or go directly to the TED site, or even to YouTube and search for people that inspire you


Books by Dr. Gabriella Kortsch:
 
Rewiring the Soul

Click here to download the first chapter.
To see the Table of Contents click here

Reviews From the Back Cover:

"The masterwork of a profoundly gifted healer of the soul. Dazzling, challenging, wondrously useful." Peggy Rubin, Director, Center for Sacred Theatre, Ashland, Oregon; author: To Be and How To Be, Transforming Your Life Through Sacred Theatre

"Rewiring the Soul is one the best introductions to the spiritual life I've ever read. Not esoteric but real-world & practical. The implications are profound." Peter Shepherd; Founder Trans4mind.com; author: Daring To Be Yourself 

"The human being's directory to the soul. A breakthrough for those seeking practical assistance, those of a more mystical bent & every soul awaiting discovery." Toni Petrinovich, Ph.D.; author: The Call: Awakening the Angelic Human

The Tao of Spiritual Partnership

To download the first chapter, click here
To see the Table of Contents click here

Praise for The Tao of Spiritual Partnership

“All humans seek the illusive touch of another's Soul, which opens us to the sense of belonging to something bigger than the self. Dr. Kortsch has given us the true "tao" of relationship in this brilliant exploration of emotional tapestry. We will be grateful for this illumination of spiritual partnership for generations to come."
Chris Griscom: Spiritual Leader, Author (among others) of: Ecstasy is a New Frequency

“Eloquently and comprehensive, showing how your primary love relationship may be a sacred vessel that transports you and your partner to a place of mutual healing and expansion.” 

Robert Schwartz: Author of Your Soul’s Gift: The Healing Power of the Life You Planned Before You Were Born 


The Power of Your Heart: Loving the Self 


My new book: The Power of Your Heart: Loving the Self, is just out. Here is a brief excerpt from the Introduction:

It is your right to live a life of love. It is your right to understand that loving yourself first is not a selfish way of behavior, but one that allows you to live that life of love. However, it's highly probable that you never got the instruction manual explaining exactly how to accomplish this. Possibly your family - and it may have been a loving family - considered loving the self an act of selfishness. Or perhaps the members of your family simply didn't practice loving the self, and of course, what you didn't see - what was not shown to you - while you were growing up, meant that you just didn't learn how to apply it to yourself. The closer you are able to move towards loving yourself, the closer you will be to living a life of love - quite independently of whether you are in a love relationship or not. A life of love can be lived with or without a partnership, because a life of love implies that you know that it all begins with you by loving the self. The more clearly you understand how to love yourself, the more clearly you will see that it is very hard - if not impossible - to love others in ways that are unrelated to fulfilling any of your needs. Loving yourself first is - for so many of us - one of the hardest things we will ever learn how to do. But know this: the benefits affect you in every particle of your being - body, mind, and soul - and are greater than you will ever be able to imagine.


Note: If you are wondering why this blog is now only appearing on alternate days (excluding Sat/Sun), it is because I also post on my other blog on the others days. That other blog is The Tao of Spiritual Partnership, so named for another one of my books. Click here to visit the blog and/or to sign up for the feed.

Thursday, November 21, 2013

Patience and Forbearance as Teachers


It's been one of those days: the electricity company has told me that if I make the changes to my contract that I wish to make (which would result in an approximate 50% reduction in my monthly electricity bill), it will cost a great deal of money as I will have to change the installation both in my home, as well as on the external meter. Several calls later - to the same company, but different employees - I now have four different versions of what will happen if I insist on making the changes. I call a competitor. They tell me such changes would cost next to nothing and would not require any kind of new installation. I call the original company again, a different employee, of course, answers the phone, and once more I explain what I want. Again, the same story. I mention that in that case I will move to the competitor. Immediately I am told that I will be passed to someone else. This new person, very courteously informs me that the changes I want are totally feasible, and furthermore, will cost - next to nothing.

All this has taken up some 6-7 hours of my time over the course of 3 days. I have been very aware over the course of the multiple calls that my impatience, not to mention anger levels had risen exponentially. So I made a game of it, deciding to regard it as a lesson not only in patience, but also in forbearance. While not exactly friendly, as the calls and differing stories mounted, I remained courteous and patient.

In the midst of it all, the company that is repainting sections of the facade of my community, and who had said they did not need to enter my home, did have to enter, and furthermore, it happened just as firewood was being delivered and the aforesaid electricity company was calling to set up a time to make the changes to my fuse box.

It all required patience. And again, I made a game of it, deciding to regard it as a lesson not only in patience, but also in forbearance.

Was it fun? Not exactly. But here is what I gained from it: I maintained my inner calm. I felt in charge of myself. And once everyone had finished and left, that calm inner state did give me a sense of well-being (and in some small way, as sense of accomplishment).

Use those moments of impending impatience as teachers instead of foes, and you and your inner self will benefit from them. You will find yourself in a slightly better place than before, and the next time you are called on to use your patience and forbearance, it will comes just that bit more readily


Books by Dr. Gabriella Kortsch:
 
Rewiring the Soul

Click here to download the first chapter.
To see the Table of Contents click here

Reviews From the Back Cover:

"The masterwork of a profoundly gifted healer of the soul. Dazzling, challenging, wondrously useful." Peggy Rubin, Director, Center for Sacred Theatre, Ashland, Oregon; author: To Be and How To Be, Transforming Your Life Through Sacred Theatre

"Rewiring the Soul is one the best introductions to the spiritual life I've ever read. Not esoteric but real-world & practical. The implications are profound." Peter Shepherd; Founder Trans4mind.com; author: Daring To Be Yourself 

"The human being's directory to the soul. A breakthrough for those seeking practical assistance, those of a more mystical bent & every soul awaiting discovery." Toni Petrinovich, Ph.D.; author: The Call: Awakening the Angelic Human

The Tao of Spiritual Partnership

To download the first chapter, click here
To see the Table of Contents click here

Praise for The Tao of Spiritual Partnership

“All humans seek the illusive touch of another's Soul, which opens us to the sense of belonging to something bigger than the self. Dr. Kortsch has given us the true "tao" of relationship in this brilliant exploration of emotional tapestry. We will be grateful for this illumination of spiritual partnership for generations to come."
Chris Griscom: Spiritual Leader, Author (among others) of: Ecstasy is a New Frequency

“Eloquently and comprehensive, showing how your primary love relationship may be a sacred vessel that transports you and your partner to a place of mutual healing and expansion.” 

Robert Schwartz: Author of Your Soul’s Gift: The Healing Power of the Life You Planned Before You Were Born 


The Power of Your Heart: Loving the Self 


My new book: The Power of Your Heart: Loving the Self, is just out. Here is a brief excerpt from the Introduction:

It is your right to live a life of love. It is your right to understand that loving yourself first is not a selfish way of behavior, but one that allows you to live that life of love. However, it's highly probable that you never got the instruction manual explaining exactly how to accomplish this. Possibly your family - and it may have been a loving family - considered loving the self an act of selfishness. Or perhaps the members of your family simply didn't practice loving the self, and of course, what you didn't see - what was not shown to you - while you were growing up, meant that you just didn't learn how to apply it to yourself. The closer you are able to move towards loving yourself, the closer you will be to living a life of love - quite independently of whether you are in a love relationship or not. A life of love can be lived with or without a partnership, because a life of love implies that you know that it all begins with you by loving the self. The more clearly you understand how to love yourself, the more clearly you will see that it is very hard - if not impossible - to love others in ways that are unrelated to fulfilling any of your needs. Loving yourself first is - for so many of us - one of the hardest things we will ever learn how to do. But know this: the benefits affect you in every particle of your being - body, mind, and soul - and are greater than you will ever be able to imagine.


Note: If you are wondering why this blog is now only appearing on alternate days (excluding Sat/Sun), it is because I also post on my other blog on the others days. That other blog is The Tao of Spiritual Partnership, so named for another one of my books. Click here to visit the blog and/or to sign up for the feed.

Tuesday, November 19, 2013

The Language You Use Changes Your Well-Being


What language do we use to express ourselves inside our heads - our self-talk - about ourselves and what we do and what we plan? Specifically, which words are we using during this self-talk?

Further, what language do we use to express ourselves verbally, when in conversation with others? What words are we hearing ourselves say over and over again?

Are they words that serve to empower us, or do we use words that weaken us, and that lower our energetic frequency? Think about it: when your young child makes a mistake, do you encourage, bolster and support him or her, so that they will try again, with the belief that next time they will do better, or succeed? Or do you cut them down, criticize and belittle them?

Now: in a similar situation, how do you speak to yourself?

What about when you run into a snag during your day? Not necessarily a mountain, just a little snag, but one that is enough to lower your energy ... if you allow it by the messages you send yourself.

Do you say things like:
  • Not again!
  • I really could have done without this!
  • Why does stuff like this always happen to me?
  • I just knew it couldn't continue as smoothly as it had been going...
  • Wouldn't you know it ... just when things were going so well.
  • Typical ... my usual bad luck.
Or do you watch your language and say things like:
  • let's see ... how do we solve this in the best way?
  • what's the quickest way to get around this?
  • wow ... now that I think about it, this is actually good, because it let me see a new perspective. Without it, I would never have come to this conclusion ... which is actually much better in the long term
  • so this is what Ford meant when he said that failure is the opportunity to begin again more intelligently
  • if Lincoln / Edison / Einstein / Ford could pick themselves up, so can I!
  • so this is what Kennedy meant when he said "Only those who dare to fail greatly can achieve greatly"
The point is not so much that you use words of this nature verbatim, but that you remember their general gist when you need to in order that you maintain your inner energy - your inner sense of purpose - in a good place, rather than going down because of the language you use.

I often refer to energy from the point of view of how you feel inside, of the frequency at which your inner state of being is vibrating, and there are many articles about this subject here on the blog (click on the label below). In order to maintain this energy at an optimum level at all times, it is expedient to take good care of that energy. If you want to maintain a toned body, with strong muscles, it is clear that you must do something about that body and those muscles. It's the same thing with this energy I'm referring to. Many, many things - many easy things - can be done, as long as they are done frequently (as you would exercise frequently in order to maintain a toned body), in order to maintain such a state of good energy. Again, I recommend that you have a look at the posts about energy on this blog, and in particular, these:
Books by Dr. Gabriella Kortsch:

Rewiring the Soul

Click here to download the first chapter.
To see the Table of Contents click here

Reviews From the Back Cover:

"The masterwork of a profoundly gifted healer of the soul. Dazzling, challenging, wondrously useful." Peggy Rubin, Director, Center for Sacred Theatre, Ashland, Oregon; author: To Be and How To Be, Transforming Your Life Through Sacred Theatre

"Rewiring the Soul is one the best introductions to the spiritual life I've ever read. Not esoteric but real-world & practical. The implications are profound." Peter Shepherd; Founder Trans4mind.com; author: Daring To Be Yourself 

"The human being's directory to the soul. A breakthrough for those seeking practical assistance, those of a more mystical bent & every soul awaiting discovery." Toni Petrinovich, Ph.D.; author: The Call: Awakening the Angelic Human

The Tao of Spiritual Partnership

To download the first chapter, click here
To see the Table of Contents click here

Praise for The Tao of Spiritual Partnership

“All humans seek the illusive touch of another's Soul, which opens us to the sense of belonging to something bigger than the self. Dr. Kortsch has given us the true "tao" of relationship in this brilliant exploration of emotional tapestry. We will be grateful for this illumination of spiritual partnership for generations to come."
Chris Griscom: Spiritual Leader, Author (among others) of: Ecstasy is a New Frequency

“Eloquently and comprehensive, showing how your primary love relationship may be a sacred vessel that transports you and your partner to a place of mutual healing and expansion.” 

Robert Schwartz: Author of Your Soul’s Gift: The Healing Power of the Life You Planned Before You Were Born 


The Power of Your Heart: Loving the Self 


My new book: The Power of Your Heart: Loving the Self, is just out. Here is a brief excerpt from the Introduction:

It is your right to live a life of love. It is your right to understand that loving yourself first is not a selfish way of behavior, but one that allows you to live that life of love. However, it's highly probable that you never got the instruction manual explaining exactly how to accomplish this. Possibly your family - and it may have been a loving family - considered loving the self an act of selfishness. Or perhaps the members of your family simply didn't practice loving the self, and of course, what you didn't see - what was not shown to you - while you were growing up, meant that you just didn't learn how to apply it to yourself. The closer you are able to move towards loving yourself, the closer you will be to living a life of love - quite independently of whether you are in a love relationship or not. A life of love can be lived with or without a partnership, because a life of love implies that you know that it all begins with you by loving the self. The more clearly you understand how to love yourself, the more clearly you will see that it is very hard - if not impossible - to love others in ways that are unrelated to fulfilling any of your needs. Loving yourself first is - for so many of us - one of the hardest things we will ever learn how to do. But know this: the benefits affect you in every particle of your being - body, mind, and soul - and are greater than you will ever be able to imagine.


Note: If you are wondering why this blog is now only appearing on alternate days (excluding Sat/Sun), it is because I also post on my other blog on the others days. That other blog is The Tao of Spiritual Partnership, so named for another one of my books. Click here to visit the blog and/or to sign up for the feed.

Thursday, November 14, 2013

The Writer


Recently several friends and clients have spoken to me about writing. They like it, they want to do it, either by writing a blog, or articles for online magazines, or by writing a book, and they feel anxious about what they've done to this point. Some have been writing journals or memoirs, even autobiographies, and are realizing they may have produced work that could constitute something of value for their families, others have written poetry, and others still have written simply to get things off their chest (as I often recommend), and in so doing have not only realized that it has helped make them feel better, and perhaps even grow to become more closely acquainted and connected with themselves, but it has also shown them how much they actually enjoy the writing process.

In my own life, apart from the fact that I evidently write a great deal (three published books, a monthly newsletter article in English & Spanish since 2006, and daily blog posts for nearly that long), I've found that the writing process frequently clarifies ideas and feelings that have been simmering and sitting just under the surface. As I begin to bring them onto paper (or my laptop screen), I have Aha! moments of recognition, joy, and more often than not, greater understanding than before - not only of my world, but also of myself. For me, writing is a valued friend, a tool, and a frequent catalyst.

And then - because I read voraciously (as most writers do) in numerous fields - I came across a Writer's Manifesto by Jeff Goins, via the bestselling author and blogger Seth Godin. The bottom line of this very readable manifesto is that writers write for another reason than getting published, or for recognition, accolades, fame, or notoriety. They do it because they cannot not write. They do it because they are compelled to create, to wonder, to dream, and to express.

Click here to download and read the entire manifesto. It's definitely worth your time. And it reminds us all about that which is really important in a life well-lived: a purpose and meaning, rather than a gain.


Books by Dr. Gabriella Kortsch:

Rewiring the Soul

Click here to download the first chapter.
To see the Table of Contents click here

Reviews From the Back Cover:

"The masterwork of a profoundly gifted healer of the soul. Dazzling, challenging, wondrously useful." Peggy Rubin, Director, Center for Sacred Theatre, Ashland, Oregon; author: To Be and How To Be, Transforming Your Life Through Sacred Theatre

"Rewiring the Soul is one the best introductions to the spiritual life I've ever read. Not esoteric but real-world & practical. The implications are profound." Peter Shepherd; Founder Trans4mind.com; author: Daring To Be Yourself 

"The human being's directory to the soul. A breakthrough for those seeking practical assistance, those of a more mystical bent & every soul awaiting discovery." Toni Petrinovich, Ph.D.; author: The Call: Awakening the Angelic Human

The Tao of Spiritual Partnership

To download the first chapter, click here
To see the Table of Contents click here

Praise for The Tao of Spiritual Partnership

“All humans seek the illusive touch of another's Soul, which opens us to the sense of belonging to something bigger than the self. Dr. Kortsch has given us the true "tao" of relationship in this brilliant exploration of emotional tapestry. We will be grateful for this illumination of spiritual partnership for generations to come."
Chris Griscom: Spiritual Leader, Author (among others) of: Ecstasy is a New Frequency

“Eloquently and comprehensive, showing how your primary love relationship may be a sacred vessel that transports you and your partner to a place of mutual healing and expansion.” 

Robert Schwartz: Author of Your Soul’s Gift: The Healing Power of the Life You Planned Before You Were Born 


The Power of Your Heart: Loving the Self 


My new book: The Power of Your Heart: Loving the Self, is just out. Here is a brief excerpt from the Introduction:

It is your right to live a life of love. It is your right to understand that loving yourself first is not a selfish way of behavior, but one that allows you to live that life of love. However, it's highly probable that you never got the instruction manual explaining exactly how to accomplish this. Possibly your family - and it may have been a loving family - considered loving the self an act of selfishness. Or perhaps the members of your family simply didn't practice loving the self, and of course, what you didn't see - what was not shown to you - while you were growing up, meant that you just didn't learn how to apply it to yourself. The closer you are able to move towards loving yourself, the closer you will be to living a life of love - quite independently of whether you are in a love relationship or not. A life of love can be lived with or without a partnership, because a life of love implies that you know that it all begins with you by loving the self. The more clearly you understand how to love yourself, the more clearly you will see that it is very hard - if not impossible - to love others in ways that are unrelated to fulfilling any of your needs. Loving yourself first is - for so many of us - one of the hardest things we will ever learn how to do. But know this: the benefits affect you in every particle of your being - body, mind, and soul - and are greater than you will ever be able to imagine.


Note: If you are wondering why this blog is now only appearing on alternate days (excluding Sat/Sun), it is because I also post on my other blog on the others days. That other blog is The Tao of Spiritual Partnership, so named for another one of my books. Click here to visit the blog and/or to sign up for the feed.

Tuesday, November 12, 2013

Giving Your Genes a New Message


                Creating a new environment for your genes is not the foolish thought of a New Age wannabe. Cellular biologist Bruce Lipton has talked about the fallacy of genetic determinism (i.e., what you get from the family gene pool does not have to determine what happens to you, and he demonstrated this decades ago in the lab), molecular biologist Candace Pert has said that every thought creates a molecule (i.e., what you think about literally creates the molecules of your body, and hence you begin to understand that it is of paramount importance that you learn how to be in charge of your thoughts and the feelings they generate), and biochemist Sondra Barret has demonstrated that you can change the expression of your genes (without altering their encoded structure) by the use of simple tools such as sound, energy, movement, and vibration.

                If I had written something like this a mere 10 years ago, you might have laughed all the way to your delete button. Even the mind-body concept has only been around several decades. But now we are beginning to wake up. Not only do we have strange stories by someone like Norman Cousins who wrote Anatomy of an Illness in the 70's (Cousins had been told to take care of his affairs and go home as he was about to die. Instead of complying, he asked for movie reels from friends in the industry, movies to make him laugh, and laugh he did, because contrary to medical expectations, he survived for many years), but we now have many others such as Bernie Siegel, MD, who speaks of miracles caused by such simple changes like bringing purpose and meaning to your life, love, laughter, and friendship, having a pet, learning to enjoy nature, and learning how to love the self, Larry Dossey, MD, who has written about the miraculous healing power of prayer, Herb Benson, MD, who wrote about the healing power of the relaxation response, and the numerous books and articles that have been written - such as this May 2013 example from Harvard Magazine - about the healing outcome of the placebo effect. And biologist Rupert Sheldrake (most known for his construct morphic fields), has written about the inter-connectedness of all, which is, of course, one of the broad themes we hear coming out of quantum physics, emulating, we might say, ancient Buddhist teachings.

                The idea of giving your genes a new message is very important to understand. Your health and well-being may well depend on it. Let's say you have a gene that predisposes you to a specific disease or cancer (such as Angelina Jolie who recently shared her story in this NY Times Op-Ed). Genetic determinism teaches (and the greater part of the scientific and medical community continues to adhere to this belief, as did pre-Renaissance Europe believe that the earth was flat), that we are controlled by our genes. In some ways, such a conviction causes us to believe that we are the victims of our genes because genetic determinism signifies that it is absolutely impossible to escape from what our genes determine for us at birth. This means that we have no chance of being in control of these genes that literally have power over our lives. Furthermore, we have all been taught to believe that when a gene 'runs' in the family, we carry an elevated chance of contracting whatever condition or disease to which the gene in question is related. And if we have no control over these genes that came with us at birth, then it stands to reason - or so we believe - that we need someone out there to help us or rescue us. The medical community has benefited enormously from this erroneous belief, and while some researchers are demonstrating over and over again that it is indeed, an erroneous belief, this information is not trickling down to the man and woman on the street with any kind of palpable urgency. And so nothing changes, because we continue to believe that genes control our health.

                Epigenetics is the new discipline that so many of the scientists mentioned in this article talk about, a discipline that examines what there is 'above' the genes ('epi' means above, so the word epigenetics comes to signify 'controlled by something above the genes') - in other words, what controls the genes.

                And what has been discovered in the field of epigenetics is mind-blowing. Simply put, it is the environment in which the genes are found that determines the expression of those genes, and not the genes themselves. And this is determined to a great degree by you and the many choices you make.


                Food, water, exercise, fresh air, etc., are easily-understood concepts when it comes to thinking about your own environment, but let's broaden them. Here are some other fundamentals to look at in your own gene environment (and remember, it is the brain - all your brains** - that interpret the environment in order to regulate the body's chemistry that controls the cells' genetic expression). I offer such an extensive list in order that you realize how important the expression of each item on this list - the way you use them to influence your particular environment - may be to your health and to your genetic expression (in no particular order):

·         the gratitude you feel
·         the people you spend time with in general
·         the personal relationships in your life
·         your connection to your inner self
·         the ease with which you remain present (in the NOW)
·       the people with whom you surround yourself when you are sick, and the conversations - and facial  expressions - you allow in your presence
·     your beliefs (of all kinds, not just religious beliefs. For example, your belief that you are capable, worthy, and valuable … or not.)
·         the animals in your life
·         how well do you have your ego in hand? Are you even aware of it?
·         the love you share with others
·         your capacity to ask for help
·         your capacity to not need to be right
·         your love for yourself
·      the amount of laughter, joy, and happiness in your life (remember: this depends on you, not on the  events)
·         are your boundaries healthy?
·         your healthy expression of all emotions
·         your perceived significance or meaning and purpose in your life
·         the amount of responsibility you take for yourself on all levels
·         your habit of self-reflection
·         your continual quest to not live your life as a 'role'
·         the choices you make when it comes to reacting to outer events
·         your hobbies
·         the harmony in your home (not only people and conversations, but also, for example,  the décor)
·         the amount of stress in your life
·         how aware are you of your own thoughts and how they impact on your life?
·         what have you done to change those thoughts or how you deal with them?
·         have you learned how to relax?
·         how needy are you?
·        your pro-activity about your own health - do you allow others (doctors, well-meaning others, etc.) to make decisions for you, or do you take an active participatory part in deciding what will happen when you need treatment of some kind by keeping yourself informed, or by doing some research about whatever it is you may have?
·         have you learned how to forgive and let go of the past?
·         how well do you nurture your inner and outer self?
·         how judgmental and critical of others (and of circumstances) are you?
·         the type of conversations you tend to have
·         the type of mechanisms you use to deal with (and clean up) your fears
·         the type of books, magazines, and newspapers you tend to read
·         the type of things you tend to watch on television or at the cinema
·         your self-dialogue (what do you typically tell yourself?)
·         your connection to nature

(Note: You will find articles about most of these subjects on my website and blogs, as well as much more detailed information in all of my books).



                Let's go back to my earlier assertion that 'it is the environment in which the genes are found that determines the expression of those genes, and not the genes themselves'. And let's say you have just had a negative health diagnosis. Now is the time to go through the list above and ask yourself some serious questions about each of the points. And then immediately after that, begin to make changes in all the areas that you see as lacking or under-developed. You change your environment and you change the expression of your genes even when you have already had a diagnosis. I've written about this elsewhere, but I am living proof of this (as are countless other individuals) after my own cancer diagnosis some seven years ago. I changed a great deal about my inner and outer environment and the cellular expression of my body changed.

                And if you have not had a negative health diagnosis, but want to live your best possible life, do the same: look at the list, ask yourself some serious questions, and begin to make changes - no matter what your age or condition. Your genes do not determine your fate. You and the environment you choose for yourself do. Please tell everyone you know. Show them the websites I've embedded in this article. Most of the scientists and doctors mentioned have audios and videos available for listening at no charge, either on their own websites, or on YouTube. Encourage your loved ones to read and inform themselves in order to become more autonomous about their health. And as I have stated in numerous articles on my website and blogs, a wonderful place to start is by loving yourself* because it allows so many of the other items in the above list to begin to fall into place automatically. Do this for yourself, your family, and all those you love.

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*My new book The Power of Your Heart: Loving the Self - just out - deals with this subject in much greater detail.



This article is dedicated to all those who are no longer here, who formed a part of my life, some of whom were not privy to the information contained herein: IK, MK, WK, MAM, HK, HDK, OA, AS, SdP, IA, RvR, IM, BT, MBT, AW, MCCS, SlC.


Please note that this article does not intend to imply that if you are sick and are not healing that you are at fault. It merely expresses the opinion that we can take a much more active role in our healing than most individuals do, not, however, that doing these things guarantees a return from sickness to health. Sometimes other lessons are there to be learned, and they may not include healing.


Books by Dr. Gabriella Kortsch:

Rewiring the Soul

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"The masterwork of a profoundly gifted healer of the soul. Dazzling, challenging, wondrously useful." Peggy Rubin, Director, Center for Sacred Theatre, Ashland, Oregon; author: To Be and How To Be, Transforming Your Life Through Sacred Theatre

"Rewiring the Soul is one the best introductions to the spiritual life I've ever read. Not esoteric but real-world & practical. The implications are profound." Peter Shepherd; Founder Trans4mind.com; author: Daring To Be Yourself 

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The Tao of Spiritual Partnership

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“All humans seek the illusive touch of another's Soul, which opens us to the sense of belonging to something bigger than the self. Dr. Kortsch has given us the true "tao" of relationship in this brilliant exploration of emotional tapestry. We will be grateful for this illumination of spiritual partnership for generations to come."
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Robert Schwartz: Author of Your Soul’s Gift: The Healing Power of the Life You Planned Before You Were Born 


The Power of Your Heart: Loving the Self 


My new book: The Power of Your Heart: Loving the Self, is just out. Here is a brief excerpt from the Introduction:

It is your right to live a life of love. It is your right to understand that loving yourself first is not a selfish way of behavior, but one that allows you to live that life of love. However, it's highly probable that you never got the instruction manual explaining exactly how to accomplish this. Possibly your family - and it may have been a loving family - considered loving the self an act of selfishness. Or perhaps the members of your family simply didn't practice loving the self, and of course, what you didn't see - what was not shown to you - while you were growing up, meant that you just didn't learn how to apply it to yourself. The closer you are able to move towards loving yourself, the closer you will be to living a life of love - quite independently of whether you are in a love relationship or not. A life of love can be lived with or without a partnership, because a life of love implies that you know that it all begins with you by loving the self. The more clearly you understand how to love yourself, the more clearly you will see that it is very hard - if not impossible - to love others in ways that are unrelated to fulfilling any of your needs. Loving yourself first is - for so many of us - one of the hardest things we will ever learn how to do. But know this: the benefits affect you in every particle of your being - body, mind, and soul - and are greater than you will ever be able to imagine.


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