We all know how a sneeze can start in stages. First you feel a small tickle. At that point it is often possible to thwart the sneeze in its stride and totally stop it from coming. However, as the small tickle progresses to a much greater itch, it becomes more and more impossible to prevent its outburst, and eventually a full-blown sneeze (or a smaller, ladylike one - not my case, btw) will emerge.
And although you have not deliberately created the sneeze, the description serves as an analogy for how you can create and find laughter in your life. How often do you smile? I know that's not laughter, but it's kind of like laughter's waiting room. Smiling is a real choice. You can smile at a new day, you can smile at the people you live with, you can smile at the sun, at the rain, at the wind moving the branches of the tree outside your window. You can smile at the dog or the cat, and you can smile at your breakfast. After all, why not? If you can choose to frown at all these people and things, you can also choose to smile at them.
You probably know that the muscles you move in the mere act of smiling, even if the smile is fake, create a chemical reaction in your brain that causes you to feel better. Isn't that alone already a good reason to smile?
And once you are smiling, aren't the chances that you may laugh already elevated, as opposed to when you are not smiling?
Although I've not lived there since I was five, I'm of Prussian background, and jokes and smiles that others find amusing, are not necessarily ones that make me crack up. So when my sons are doubled over at some comedy or a clip on YouTube, I may not be, but I know perfectly well exactly what makes me laugh. So obviously, in the same way that I might search out a new book or documentary on a topic that interests me, I can search out movies or online clips or books that make me laugh. And I might choose to do this on a regular basis in order to enjoy laughter in my life.
Another thing to do is to begin to learn how to laugh at yourself in given situations instead of taking yourself so seriously. This is a very healing mechanism and as you practice it, you may find that others find you to be a much nicer person. Embarrassing moments - in hindsight - can be hilarious, especially if you tell them to others, where you are - so to speak - the butt of the joke.
Diaphragmatic laughter, i.e., belly laughter, is not only fun, but creates magic for your immune system, your emotional well-being, as well as many other parameters in your physical health. Seek it out, and remember that by deliberately doing some of the other things pointed out in this post, you will be much more able to enjoy it in your life on a frequent basis.
Finding laughter in your life is not a question of good luck or funny friends, but as so much else, a question of choice. When you look at something from a harried, stressed, annoyed, or angry point of view, ask yourself if you couldn't turn it around 180 degrees and find something funny about it. Remember that the more you use certain 'psychological' muscles - in this instance laughter - the more they are available to you.
For more about exercising your free will and living with conscious choice, and how this can move you to greater awareness, inner peace, well-being, and joy, have a look at my book Rewiring the Soul: Finding the Possible Self (paperback or Kindle).
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Reviews From the Back Cover:
"The masterwork of a profoundly gifted healer of the soul. Dazzling, challenging, wondrously useful." Peggy Rubin, Director, Center for Sacred Theatre, Ashland, Oregon; author: To Be and How To Be, Transforming Your Life Through Sacred Theatre
"Rewiring the Soul is one the best introductions to the spiritual life I've ever read. Not esoteric but real-world & practical. The implications are profound." Peter Shepherd; Founder Trans4mind.com; author: Daring To Be Yourself
"The human being's directory to the soul. A breakthrough for those seeking practical assistance, those of a more mystical bent & every soul awaiting discovery." Toni Petrinovich, Ph.D.; author: The Call: Awakening the Angelic Human
The Tao of Spiritual Partnership: Background Music in Daily Life That Can Enhance Your Growth
The Tao of Spiritual Partnership is also available in print and Kindle formats.
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From the Description on Amazon: More exciting than any other kind of relationship you have ever known, spiritual partnership is a path, a Tao, available to you so that you may transform your life. Spiritual partnership becomes background music to daily life allowing you to enhance the process of your growth and evolution.
This ground-breaking book addresses:
• relationship patterns that hold you back from a truly fulfilled life
• the strong connection between sexuality and spiritual partnership
• communication leading to true connection & lasting transformation of your relationship
It is precisely at the problematic crossroads so often encountered in relationships that we are offered the opportunity to create a new foundation based on mutual complementarity rather than need; a free relationship between two people who want to be together, rather than two people who need to be together. Needing another, we are told, is the measure of love, but for a fully conscious individual nothing could be further from the truth. And therein lies part of the secret and healing power of spiritual partnerships.
Praise for The Tao of Spiritual Partnership
“All humans seek the illusive touch of another's Soul, which opens us to the sense of belonging to something bigger than the self. Dr. Kortsch has given us the true "tao" of relationship in this brilliant exploration of emotional tapestry. We will be grateful for this illumination of spiritual partnership for generations to come."
Chris Griscom: Spiritual Leader, Author
“Eloquently and comprehensive, showing how your primary love relationship may be a sacred vessel that transports you and your partner to a place of mutual healing and expansion.”
Robert Schwartz: Author of Your Soul’s Gift: The Healing Power of the Life You Planned Before You Were Born
The Power of Your Heart: Loving the Self
My new book: The Power of Your Heart: Loving the Self, is due out later this year. Here is a brief excerpt from the Introduction:
It is your right to live a life of love. It is your right to understand that loving yourself first is not a selfish way of behavior, but one that allows you to live that life of love. However, it's highly probable that you never got the instruction manual explaining exactly how to accomplish this. Possibly your family - and it may have been a loving family - considered loving the self an act of selfishness. Or perhaps the members of your family simply didn't practice loving the self, and of course, what you didn't see - what was not shown to you - while you were growing up, meant that you just didn't learn how to apply it to yourself. The closer you are able to move towards loving yourself, the closer you will be to living a life of love - quite independently of whether you are in a love relationship or not. A life of love can be lived with or without a partnership, because a life of love implies that you know that it all begins with you by loving the self. The more clearly you understand how to love yourself, the more clearly you will see that it is very hard - if not impossible - to love others in ways that are unrelated to fulfilling any of your needs. Loving yourself first is - for so many of us - one of the hardest things we will ever learn how to do. But know this: the benefits affect you in every particle of your being - body, mind, and soul - and are greater than you will ever be able to imagine.
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