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"The masterwork of a profoundly gifted healer of the soul. Dazzling, challenging, wondrously useful." Peggy Rubin, author: To Be and How To Be, Transforming Your Life Through Sacred Theatre

"Rewiring the Soul is one the best introductions to the spiritual life I've ever read. Not esoteric but real-world and practical. The implications are profound." Peter Shepherd, author: Daring To Be Yourself

Thursday, June 27, 2013

Miracles, Anyone?


On days when you feel that life is not offering you what you seek, and that miracles are about as far from your world as Jupiter is from Mars, take a look at these quotes (by such an amazing variety of thinkers) and remind yourself that finding purpose in your life that resonates deeply within you, committing to it, and following its dictates with confidence - even when the world looks as you as though you had lost use of your senses - is what will allow you to find those miracles!

Follow your bliss and the universe will open doors where there were only walls. Joseph Campbell

I have learned that if one advances confidently in the direction of his dreams, and endeavors to live the life he has imagined, he will meet with a success unexpected in common hours. Henry David Thoreau

Until one is committed, there is hesitancy, the chance to draw back, always ineffectiveness. Concerning all acts of initiative (and creation), there is one elementary truth the ignorance of which kills countless ideas and splendid plans: that the moment one definitely commits oneself, then providence moves too. A whole stream of events issues from the decision, raising in one's favor all manner of unforeseen incidents, meetings and material assistance, which no man could have dreamt would have come his way. I learned a deep respect for one of Goethe's couplets:
Whatever you can do or dream you can, begin it.
Boldness has genius, power and magic in it.
W.H. Murray in The Scottish Himalaya Expedition

There are only two ways to live your life: one is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is. Albert Einstein.

I am realistic. I expect miracles. Wayne Dyer

According to Vedanta, there are only two symptoms of enlightenment, just two indications that a transformation is taking place within you toward a higher consciousness. The first symptom is that you stop worrying. Things don't bother you anymore. You become light-hearted and full of joy. The second symptom is that you encounter more and more meaningful coincidences in your life, more and more synchronicities. And this accelerates to the point where you actually experience the miraculous. Deepak Chopra

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Note: If you are wondering why this blog is now only appearing on alternate days (excluding Sat/Sun), it is because I also post on my other blog on the others days. That other blog is The Tao of Spiritual Partnership, so named for another one of my books. Click here to visit the blog and/or to sign up for the feed. 

My blog posts are also featured on Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn, Google+, Pinterest & you can find me on Instagram 

Tuesday, June 25, 2013

Exercising Free Will


Do you ever exercise free will in the past? How about in the future? Clearly not, because the only place you can exercise free will is in the present.

So let's examine what happens when you revisit the past in your mind.You rehash old material, you cry about old pain, or you minutely re-examine what you (or the other/s) could have done differently in order to have brought about a different outcome. Basically you are in automatic drone mode. You've gone down this path in your mind (and feelings) countless times before and you go there because some part of it (as Tolle might put it) 'seduces' you. You have a right, don't you, to feel bad about whatever it was, because it was so bad, so painful, so sad. None of this has anything to do with the kind of free will you exercise in the present. You are simply reliving the past.

Now let's examine what happens when you go to the future in your mind. Perhaps you are looking forward to something at thinking about it makes you 'lose' your present moment. Perhaps you are worrying about something. Perhaps you are stressed about what might happen. Perhaps, indeed, you are afraid of what might happen - on whatever level of your life. So again, basically you are in automatic drone mode because you are not exercising free will. You've gone down this path in your thoughts countless times before in some fashion, even though this particular future scenario may be a new one. You are lost to the present. None of this has anything to do with the kind of free will you exercise in the present. 

So again consider what was already stated at the beginning of this post: the only place you can exercise free will is in the present. If you remain present. Otherwise you are lost in a netherworld and a never-never land that consists of thoughts and feelings that you are not in charge of. Think about this very carefully. The more you exercise your free will by being present in the present, in the now, the more you live your life. It - as so much else is entirely your choice.


For more about exercising your free will and living in the present, and how this can move you to greater awareness, inner peace, well-being, and joy, have a look at my book Rewiring the Soul: Finding the Possible Self (paperback or Kindle).

To download the first chapter, click here
To see the Table of Contents click here

Reviews From the Back Cover:

"The masterwork of a profoundly gifted healer of the soul. Dazzling, challenging, wondrously useful." Peggy Rubin, Director, Center for Sacred Theatre, Ashland, Oregon; author: To Be and How To Be, Transforming Your Life Through Sacred Theatre

"Rewiring the Soul is one the best introductions to the spiritual life I've ever read. Not esoteric but real-world & practical. The implications are profound." Peter Shepherd; Founder Trans4mind.com; author: Daring To Be Yourself 

"The human being's directory to the soul. A breakthrough for those seeking practical assistance, those of a more mystical bent & every soul awaiting discovery." Toni Petrinovich, Ph.D.; author: The Call: Awakening the Angelic Human


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The Tao of Spiritual Partnership: Background Music in Daily Life That Can Enhance Your Growth


The Tao of Spiritual Partnership is also available in print and Kindle formats.

To download the first chapter, click here
To see the Table of Contents click here

From the Description on Amazon: More exciting than any other kind of relationship you have ever known, spiritual partnership is a path, a Tao, available to you so that you may transform your life. Spiritual partnership becomes background music to daily life allowing you to enhance the process of your growth and evolution.

This ground-breaking book addresses:

• relationship patterns that hold you back from a truly fulfilled life
• the strong connection between sexuality and spiritual partnership
• communication leading to true connection & lasting transformation of your relationship

It is precisely at the problematic crossroads so often encountered in relationships that we are offered the opportunity to create a new foundation based on mutual complementarity rather than need; a free relationship between two people who want to be together, rather than two people who need to be together. Needing another, we are told, is the measure of love, but for a fully conscious individual nothing could be further from the truth. And therein lies part of the secret and healing power of spiritual partnerships. 


Praise for The Tao of Spiritual Partnership 

“All humans seek the illusive touch of another's Soul, which opens us to the sense of belonging to something bigger than the self. Dr. Kortsch has given us the true "tao" of relationship in this brilliant exploration of emotional tapestry. We will be grateful for this illumination of spiritual partnership for generations to come." 
Chris Griscom: Spiritual Leader, Author 

“Eloquently and comprehensive, showing how your primary love relationship may be a sacred vessel that transports you and your partner to a place of mutual healing and expansion.” 

Robert Schwartz: Author of Your Soul’s Gift: The Healing Power of the Life You Planned Before You Were Born 


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The Power of Your Heart: Loving the Self


My new book: The Power of Your Heart: Loving the Self, is due out later this year. Here is a brief excerpt from the Introduction:

It is your right to live a life of love. It is your right to understand that loving yourself first is not a selfish way of behavior, but one that allows you to live that life of love. However, it's highly probable that you never got the instruction manual explaining exactly how to accomplish this. Possibly your family - and it may have been a loving family - considered loving the self an act of selfishness. Or perhaps the members of your family simply didn't practice loving the self, and of course, what you didn't see - what was not shown to you - while you were growing up, meant that you just didn't learn how to apply it to yourself. The closer you are able to move towards loving yourself, the closer you will be to living a life of love - quite independently of whether you are in a love relationship or not. A life of love can be lived with or without a partnership, because a life of love implies that you know that it all begins with you by loving the self. The more clearly you understand how to love yourself, the more clearly you will see that it is very hard - if not impossible - to love others in ways that are unrelated to fulfilling any of your needs. Loving yourself first is - for so many of us - one of the hardest things we will ever learn how to do. But know this: the benefits affect you in every particle of your being - body, mind, and soul - and are greater than you will ever be able to imagine.



Note: If you are wondering why this blog is now only appearing on alternate days (excluding Sat/Sun), it is because I also post on my other blog on the others days. That other blog is The Tao of Spiritual Partnership, so named for my new book. Click here to visit the blog and/or to sign up for the feed.

Friday, June 21, 2013

Reaching For the Sky


Today’s post is about ways of thinking and feeling about our own future, about what we’d like to change, what else we’d like to achieve, and how we would like to live, if only we could.. You know the old adage by James Allen: As a man thinketh in his heart, so shall he be. And the Buddha put it slightly differently: We are what we think. All that we are arises with our thoughts. With our thoughts we make the world.


Consider those two quotes and recognize that if you are not reaching and stretching, you may never reach the sky. And one of the ways to reach and stretch is by lifting your thoughts to other places than those which are your usual places. Where do your thoughts normally go? How do you normally think?
What do you say when someone asks you how you are? Or how things are going? Do you say the truth when things are not going well? Or do you pretend they are OK?
Here’s the thing: if you pretend they are OK, you leave no room for talking about the truth, but if you tell the truth, you must be very careful how you word it. This is not about the person to whom you are talking, but about yourself … what words are being engraved in your mind, heart and soul as you speak?
  • Things are tough right now at my office, they’re laying people off left and right
  • I've had a flu for weeks and can’t seem to get over it
  • Everyone has had to take pay cuts in my department, and since my wife was laid off from her job last summer, we've been having trouble making ends meet
  • I've been trying to get an exhibition together, but I can’t find a sponsor (or I am having a hard time being inspired in my painting)
  • My husband and I have been seeing a therapist but our marriage really seems doomed
Clearly, all of these statements may be spot on for your particular situation, but you see, when you phrase your predicament in those kinds of terms, you are setting – so to speak – the current situation in stone. You leave no room for improvement in the way you phrase your answers. And hence – perhaps – you limit the room for improvement in your mind.
Here are some alternatives to the above sentences and before you call me a Pollyanna, or falsely positive thinker, give me a chance to offer you my thoughts please:
  • Due to the current climate in the workforce, I've been taking some free online courses to prepare myself for a horizontal move in my field, should the need arise. I've had a careful look at my CV and I've been networking and meeting a lot of very interesting contacts
  • I've been researching on the internet to see if there are some alternative methods available that might help me get over this flu that has been hanging on, and for the past few days I've seen a marked improvement thanks to this remedy that involves orange juice and cayenne pepper
  • My wife and I have been looking into selling organic produce from our garden at the local farmer’s market. I help her on the actual sale days on weekends, and she takes care of the gardening because she has extra free time right now due to getting laid off. Things are tight, but we are getting along fine
  • I've been attending free lectures at the local community college as an auditing student to find new inspiration for paintings for the exhibition I want to organize, and not only am I finding myself coming up with some great new ideas, but I've also met a professor whose wife owns a local gallery and we’re going to get together for coffee next week to see if the exhibition could be held there
  • My wife and I have been seeing a therapist about our problems, and nothing much was happening, but one day talking about it, we both realized we had been pretending to ourselves that therapy wasn't working, when what was really happening, was that we weren't actually implementing any of the suggestions the therapist was offering, so since then, we've been working on that and although we aren't out of the woods, we are beginning to see that maybe there is hope for us after all
So I’m confident that you can see the difference in the two types of phrasing, and yet both are essentially about the same issue … it’s just that in the second set of phrases, the way the problem is expressed leaves room for improvement, solutions, and success in your mind.

The story you tell yourself – about anything at all – has a great deal to do with the eventual outcome. This is totally in your hands. You choose your stories. But in order to come up with stories that form part of the second set of phrases, you must be conscious and aware. You must have assumed responsibility for your own well-being. And so, at the beginning of this new year, we come full circle: make a priority of yourself. Find inner freedom by reaching for the sky, by remaining conscious and by willingly taking on responsibility for absolutely everything you think, feel, say and do.


For more about how planting your self-talk and your thoughts can move you to greater awareness, inner peace, well-being, success, and joy, have a look at my book Rewiring the Soul: Finding the Possible Self (paperback or Kindle).

To download the first chapter, click here
To see the Table of Contents click here

Reviews From the Back Cover:

"The masterwork of a profoundly gifted healer of the soul. Dazzling, challenging, wondrously useful." Peggy Rubin, Director, Center for Sacred Theatre, Ashland, Oregon; author: To Be and How To Be, Transforming Your Life Through Sacred Theatre

"Rewiring the Soul is one the best introductions to the spiritual life I've ever read. Not esoteric but real-world & practical. The implications are profound." Peter Shepherd; Founder Trans4mind.com; author: Daring To Be Yourself 

"The human being's directory to the soul. A breakthrough for those seeking practical assistance, those of a more mystical bent & every soul awaiting discovery." Toni Petrinovich, Ph.D.; author: The Call: Awakening the Angelic Human


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The Tao of Spiritual Partnership: Background Music in Daily Life That Can Enhance Your Growth


The Tao of Spiritual Partnership is also available in print and Kindle formats.

To download the first chapter, click here
To see the Table of Contents click here

From the Description on Amazon: More exciting than any other kind of relationship you have ever known, spiritual partnership is a path, a Tao, available to you so that you may transform your life. Spiritual partnership becomes background music to daily life allowing you to enhance the process of your growth and evolution.

This ground-breaking book addresses:

• relationship patterns that hold you back from a truly fulfilled life
• the strong connection between sexuality and spiritual partnership
• communication leading to true connection & lasting transformation of your relationship

It is precisely at the problematic crossroads so often encountered in relationships that we are offered the opportunity to create a new foundation based on mutual complementarity rather than need; a free relationship between two people who want to be together, rather than two people who need to be together. Needing another, we are told, is the measure of love, but for a fully conscious individual nothing could be further from the truth. And therein lies part of the secret and healing power of spiritual partnerships. 


Praise for The Tao of Spiritual Partnership 

“All humans seek the illusive touch of another's Soul, which opens us to the sense of belonging to something bigger than the self. Dr. Kortsch has given us the true "tao" of relationship in this brilliant exploration of emotional tapestry. We will be grateful for this illumination of spiritual partnership for generations to come." 
Chris Griscom: Spiritual Leader, Author 

“Eloquently and comprehensive, showing how your primary love relationship may be a sacred vessel that transports you and your partner to a place of mutual healing and expansion.” 

Robert Schwartz: Author of Your Soul’s Gift: The Healing Power of the Life You Planned Before You Were Born 


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The Power of Your Heart: Loving the Self


My new book: The Power of Your Heart: Loving the Self, is due out later this year. Here is a brief excerpt from the Introduction:

It is your right to live a life of love. It is your right to understand that loving yourself first is not a selfish way of behavior, but one that allows you to live that life of love. However, it's highly probable that you never got the instruction manual explaining exactly how to accomplish this. Possibly your family - and it may have been a loving family - considered loving the self an act of selfishness. Or perhaps the members of your family simply didn't practice loving the self, and of course, what you didn't see - what was not shown to you - while you were growing up, meant that you just didn't learn how to apply it to yourself. The closer you are able to move towards loving yourself, the closer you will be to living a life of love - quite independently of whether you are in a love relationship or not. A life of love can be lived with or without a partnership, because a life of love implies that you know that it all begins with you by loving the self. The more clearly you understand how to love yourself, the more clearly you will see that it is very hard - if not impossible - to love others in ways that are unrelated to fulfilling any of your needs. Loving yourself first is - for so many of us - one of the hardest things we will ever learn how to do. But know this: the benefits affect you in every particle of your being - body, mind, and soul - and are greater than you will ever be able to imagine.



Note: If you are wondering why this blog is now only appearing on alternate days (excluding Sat/Sun), it is because I also post on my other blog on the others days. That other blog is The Tao of Spiritual Partnership, so named for my new book. Click here to visit the blog and/or to sign up for the feed.

Wednesday, June 19, 2013

Waiting for Someone to Bring You Flowers?


Teaching a man how to fish as opposed to 'giving' him fish to eat, means he will always be able to feed himself. You already knew that. Understanding as well that by planting your own garden you need not wait for anyone to bring you flowers, is a vital path to growth.

How does joy enter your life? Or peace and harmony? Inner well-being? How about happiness (different in my understanding from joy)? Delight? Excitement? These are all flowers with which you can decorate your own soul and form part of your path to growth and freedom, but if you wait for them to land at your doorstep in the guise of another person who brings them to you, you may wait an entire lifetime.

Think for a moment of the many heroes in the world - past and present - people you may know of personally or others who are famous, who have forged ahead in their lives to bring flowers into their own existence. They may have had tremendous challenges to overcome, but chose not to wait for others to bring them solutions. They may have not known how to continue, but chose not to wait for others to urge them on. They may have often despaired, but chose not to wait for others to lift their spirits. 

What they did choose, was to become gardeners. Gardeners of their lives and their souls. They knew if there were to be flowers in their lives, they had to plant a garden themselves, and so they moved ahead, removing the boulders and stones from the land, pulling out weeds, turning the soil over to prepare it to receive the seeds and plantlings, and finally and with great care and love, begin the planting, planning well which plants required greater shade or more sunlight, and where to water frequently and where less. They knew they might lose some plants to bugs or disease, but they carried on, knowing that the final result would please the eye and nourish the soul.

So plant your own garden and decorate your own soul, instead of waiting for someone to bring your flowers. Unknown


For more about how planting your own 'garden' can move you to greater awareness, inner peace, well-being, and joy, have a look at my book Rewiring the Soul: Finding the Possible Self (paperback or Kindle).

To download the first chapter, click here
To see the Table of Contents click here

Reviews From the Back Cover:

"The masterwork of a profoundly gifted healer of the soul. Dazzling, challenging, wondrously useful." Peggy Rubin, Director, Center for Sacred Theatre, Ashland, Oregon; author: To Be and How To Be, Transforming Your Life Through Sacred Theatre

"Rewiring the Soul is one the best introductions to the spiritual life I've ever read. Not esoteric but real-world & practical. The implications are profound." Peter Shepherd; Founder Trans4mind.com; author: Daring To Be Yourself 

"The human being's directory to the soul. A breakthrough for those seeking practical assistance, those of a more mystical bent & every soul awaiting discovery." Toni Petrinovich, Ph.D.; author: The Call: Awakening the Angelic Human


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The Tao of Spiritual Partnership: Background Music in Daily Life That Can Enhance Your Growth


The Tao of Spiritual Partnership is also available in print and Kindle formats.

To download the first chapter, click here
To see the Table of Contents click here

From the Description on Amazon: More exciting than any other kind of relationship you have ever known, spiritual partnership is a path, a Tao, available to you so that you may transform your life. Spiritual partnership becomes background music to daily life allowing you to enhance the process of your growth and evolution.

This ground-breaking book addresses:

• relationship patterns that hold you back from a truly fulfilled life
• the strong connection between sexuality and spiritual partnership
• communication leading to true connection & lasting transformation of your relationship

It is precisely at the problematic crossroads so often encountered in relationships that we are offered the opportunity to create a new foundation based on mutual complementarity rather than need; a free relationship between two people who want to be together, rather than two people who need to be together. Needing another, we are told, is the measure of love, but for a fully conscious individual nothing could be further from the truth. And therein lies part of the secret and healing power of spiritual partnerships. 


Praise for The Tao of Spiritual Partnership 

“All humans seek the illusive touch of another's Soul, which opens us to the sense of belonging to something bigger than the self. Dr. Kortsch has given us the true "tao" of relationship in this brilliant exploration of emotional tapestry. We will be grateful for this illumination of spiritual partnership for generations to come." 
Chris Griscom: Spiritual Leader, Author 

“Eloquently and comprehensive, showing how your primary love relationship may be a sacred vessel that transports you and your partner to a place of mutual healing and expansion.” 

Robert Schwartz: Author of Your Soul’s Gift: The Healing Power of the Life You Planned Before You Were Born 

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The Power of Your Heart: Loving the Self


My new book: The Power of Your Heart: Loving the Self, is due out later this year. Here is a brief excerpt from the Introduction:

It is your right to live a life of love. It is your right to understand that loving yourself first is not a selfish way of behavior, but one that allows you to live that life of love. However, it's highly probable that you never got the instruction manual explaining exactly how to accomplish this. Possibly your family - and it may have been a loving family - considered loving the self an act of selfishness. Or perhaps the members of your family simply didn't practice loving the self, and of course, what you didn't see - what was not shown to you - while you were growing up, meant that you just didn't learn how to apply it to yourself. The closer you are able to move towards loving yourself, the closer you will be to living a life of love - quite independently of whether you are in a love relationship or not. A life of love can be lived with or without a partnership, because a life of love implies that you know that it all begins with you by loving the self. The more clearly you understand how to love yourself, the more clearly you will see that it is very hard - if not impossible - to love others in ways that are unrelated to fulfilling any of your needs. Loving yourself first is - for so many of us - one of the hardest things we will ever learn how to do. But know this: the benefits affect you in every particle of your being - body, mind, and soul - and are greater than you will ever be able to imagine.



Note: If you are wondering why this blog is now only appearing on alternate days (excluding Sat/Sun), it is because I also post on my other blog on the others days. That other blog is The Tao of Spiritual Partnership, so named for my new book. Click here to visit the blog and/or to sign up for the feed.

Monday, June 17, 2013

Keeping the Demons at Bay


How do you deal with your demons? There's hardly anyone who hasn't got some. Perhaps they're due to those traumatic childhood memories. Or maybe they weren't traumatic, just not very nice, such as your mother who never stopped judging and criticizing you. Or perhaps it was your father who expected so much of you, that you wound up never being good enough. How about the schoolyard bully that left your self-confidence and self-esteem in the dungeons? Did your best friend from first grade betray you and forsake your company for that other kid whose toys were shinier, or cookies better, or whose mom allowed them to stay up until midnight on sleepovers?

Whatever your demons are, they tend to plague you, and so obviously, you have had to find ways to deal with them. That might be in having a drink (or several) too many on too many occasions in order to feel less unloved, or insecure. It might be that you never drink, but you work too much, losing your feelings of inadequacy in that work. Or perhaps you take too many walks to the refrigerator, or help yourself with a little white pill that takes off the edge, or perhaps you spend too many hours at the gym every week (or perhaps those hours are spent at mass), or you run marathons just a smidgen too often. This means that red flags are a-waving, indicating that you are using these - or other - activities in order to tamp down the anxiety, perhaps even panic inside of you. You use them to deal with low-grade depressions, with fear, and any number of other emotions that assail you - and probably have assailed you since you were small - that you simply don't know what to do with.

The red flags speak another kind of message as well: they tell you that you have not yet connected with yourself. They tell you that self-love is missing. They tell you that they (the red flags) are there, in order that you begin to change something in your life so that those anxiety-ridding activities no longer be necessary, but also in order that you realize that as long as you depend on those activities, you are never dealing with the underlying issues. And don't worry - the word 'issues' doesn't mean that you need to go see a therapist or embark on a lifelong analysis of yourself. It simply means that you need to begin by picking up your courage, leaving your comfort zone, and beginning to become aware. There are countless posts here and on my other blog and articles on my website about these subjects, so start there. But here is the most important reason why you should start to clean up your act: as long as you do not rid yourself of the mechanisms you have used to this point in your life that help you deal with your fears, anxieties, or feelings of inadequacy: you will not be able to truly be yourself. You will not be able to accomplish most of what you could accomplish, because most of your energy will be used to take care of those negative feelings - those demons. They splinter you, they fragment you, and they keep you tied to the past. Isn't that reason enough to start with this process? So that the phoenix can arise from the ashes of those demons?


For more information about living an aware life and about connecting to yourself in order to achieve inner well-being, inner growth and joy, have a look at my book Rewiring the Soul: Finding the Possible Self, available at Amazon as paperback or e-book for Kindle.

Click here to download the first chapter.

From the Description on Amazon:

Ask anyone, whatever their circumstances, if their life is vibrant, fulfilling, harmonious and happy. An honest reply is likely to be 'no', because to answer a truthful 'yes' is no mean feat. Only to grow psychologically and emotionally is not enough. And only to grow spiritually is not enough either. All three dimensions need to be developed in order to realize your full potential. If you are willing to assume total responsibility for the self and to start what is an on-going journey, you will quickly begin to glimpse the first fruits of the ultimate goal: inner well-being, freedom, peace, harmony and joy. This book sets out the pathway to self-mastery and self-discovery and walking that pathway will be the most exciting adventure of your life.

Rewiring the Soul' provides a user-friendly roadmap for personal transformation. Using conversational style, it guides the reader to an understanding of life's problems and how they can be resolved, deliberately including the reader's connection to his own soul and spiritual growth. Based on common sense and the author's work as an integral psychotherapist as well as lessons gleaned from teaching and personal experiences, all interwoven with current findings from neuroscience, positive psychology, quantum physics and Buddhism, 'Rewiring the Soul' signposts the path to resolving everyday life and its problems while converging with the inner quest for connection with the soul. This process allows life to take on a revolutionary new meaning: resolving personal and interpersonal issues while keeping the inner connection to the soul in mind leads to unprecedented growth that is simply not possible if psycho-emotional matters and spiritual concerns are not combined.



My new book The Tao of Spiritual Partnership is now also available in print and Kindle formats.

To download the first chapter, click here
To see the Table of Contents click here

From the Description on Amazon: More exciting than any other kind of relationship you have ever known, spiritual partnership is a path, a Tao, available to you so that you may transform your life. Spiritual partnership becomes background music to daily life allowing you to enhance the process of your growth and evolution.

This ground-breaking book addresses:

• relationship patterns that hold you back from a truly fulfilled life
• the strong connection between sexuality and spiritual partnership
• communication leading to true connection & lasting transformation of your relationship

It is precisely at the problematic crossroads so often encountered in relationships that we are offered the opportunity to create a new foundation based on mutual complementarity rather than need; a free relationship between two people who want to be together, rather than two people who need to be together. Needing another, we are told, is the measure of love, but for a fully conscious individual nothing could be further from the truth. And therein lies part of the secret and healing power of spiritual partnerships. 


Praise for The Tao of Spiritual Partnership 

“All humans seek the illusive touch of another's Soul, which opens us to the sense of belonging to something bigger than the self. Dr. Kortsch has given us the true "tao" of relationship in this brilliant exploration of emotional tapestry. We will be grateful for this illumination of spiritual partnership for generations to come." 
Chris Griscom: Spiritual Leader, Author 

“Eloquently and comprehensive, showing how your primary love relationship may be a sacred vessel that transports you and your partner to a place of mutual healing and expansion.” 


Robert Schwartz: Author of Your Soul’s Gift: The Healing Power of the Life You Planned Before You Were Born 





My new book: The Power of Your Heart: Loving the Self, is due out later this year.












Note: If you are wondering why this blog is now only appearing on alternate days (excluding Sat/Sun), it is because I also post on my other blog on the others days. That other blog is The Tao of Spiritual Partnership, so named for my new book. Click here to visit the blog and/or to sign up for the feed.

Thursday, June 13, 2013

Don't Waste the Pain


Most of what happens to us in life tends to serve a purpose. Guilt, for example, (about which I've written) helps us to learn valuable lessons that teach us not to repeat whatever it was we did that caused us to feel guilty. Shame - if we are conscious enough to give it some thought - may teach us to work on our self-esteem. Resentment and anger of a certain kind, when others run all over us, may teach us to learn about boundaries.

But the pain I wanted to address today can go far beyond the above examples. There is the much-commented upon pain of a man such as Nelson Mandela while he was so  unjustly imprisoned for well over two decades in Robben Island by the apartheid regime, or the well-documented pain in his best-selling book Man's Search For Meaning by Victor Frankl, the Holocaust survivor who lost almost his entire family in Auschwitz, or again, the much photographed and video-filmed pain of Christopher Reeve, perhaps the most famous Superman of all, who was relegated to a wheelchair due to a fall from a horse that caused him to become a paraplegic. These are drastic kinds of pain. What about the pain of a mother who loses her child to hunger in sub-Saharan Africa? Or the pain of those who lost limbs in the recent Boston bombings? Or the daily pain of Syrians as they see not only their homeland destroyed, but their very homes, families, and livelihoods destroyed in acts of despicable violence. What of the pain of a young girl with a genetic disorder causing her to go blind? Or the pain of a young man's loss of his beloved grandparent?

We all know the meaning of the word pain. We've all been there. So today's message is this: don't waste it. Use it carefully. Honor it. (But don't go down the erroneous path of dwelling on it and creating or exponentially growing a pain body - see the tags below this post for more about that). Do become conscious of the fact that pain is one of the greatest ways we have for achieving growth. Most spiritually enlightened individuals have gone through their share of deep pain. Take a look at some of their lives. Obviously we can all achieve growth without pain, but pain is also an experience that can be put to excellent use - bearing in mind, if you are feeling pain - that you might as well make something worthwhile of it, as opposed to merely suffering. This is your choice, and how you choose will determine whether the experience ultimately enriches you, or whether it leaves you weak and limp. Don't waste the pain. It has much to teach you.


For more about how working with your pain can move you to greater awareness, inner peace, well-being, and joy, have a look at my book Rewiring the Soul: Finding the Possible Self (paperback or Kindle).

To download the first chapter, click here
To see the Table of Contents click here

Reviews From the Back Cover:

"The masterwork of a profoundly gifted healer of the soul. Dazzling, challenging, wondrously useful." Peggy Rubin, Director, Center for Sacred Theatre, Ashland, Oregon; author: To Be and How To Be, Transforming Your Life Through Sacred Theatre

"Rewiring the Soul is one the best introductions to the spiritual life I've ever read. Not esoteric but real-world & practical. The implications are profound." Peter Shepherd; Founder Trans4mind.com; author: Daring To Be Yourself 

"The human being's directory to the soul. A breakthrough for those seeking practical assistance, those of a more mystical bent & every soul awaiting discovery." Toni Petrinovich, Ph.D.; author: The Call: Awakening the Angelic Human





My new book The Tao of Spiritual Partnership is now also available in print and Kindle formats.

To download the first chapter, click here
To see the Table of Contents click here

From the Description on Amazon: More exciting than any other kind of relationship you have ever known, spiritual partnership is a path, a Tao, available to you so that you may transform your life. Spiritual partnership becomes background music to daily life allowing you to enhance the process of your growth and evolution.

This ground-breaking book addresses:

• relationship patterns that hold you back from a truly fulfilled life
• the strong connection between sexuality and spiritual partnership
• communication leading to true connection & lasting transformation of your relationship

It is precisely at the problematic crossroads so often encountered in relationships that we are offered the opportunity to create a new foundation based on mutual complementarity rather than need; a free relationship between two people who want to be together, rather than two people who need to be together. Needing another, we are told, is the measure of love, but for a fully conscious individual nothing could be further from the truth. And therein lies part of the secret and healing power of spiritual partnerships. 


Praise for The Tao of Spiritual Partnership 

“All humans seek the illusive touch of another's Soul, which opens us to the sense of belonging to something bigger than the self. Dr. Kortsch has given us the true "tao" of relationship in this brilliant exploration of emotional tapestry. We will be grateful for this illumination of spiritual partnership for generations to come." 
Chris Griscom: Spiritual Leader, Author 

“Eloquently and comprehensive, showing how your primary love relationship may be a sacred vessel that transports you and your partner to a place of mutual healing and expansion.” 


Robert Schwartz: Author of Your Soul’s Gift: The Healing Power of the Life You Planned Before You Were Born 



Note: If you are wondering why this blog is now only appearing on alternate days (excluding Sat/Sun), it is because I also post on my other blog on the others days. That other blog is The Tao of Spiritual Partnership, so named for my new book. Click here to visit the blog and/or to sign up for the feed.

Tuesday, June 11, 2013

Your Ambition Vs the Comfort Zone of Others


Ambition and friendly nay-sayers and their comfort zones are all closely related. So is ambition and less friendly nay-sayers and their fear of your success. Mark Twain put it well: Keep away from people who try to belittle your ambitions.

You know how it goes. You have an idea. Or a project. Or a dream. And you tell someone about it. And their reaction is to tell you all the reasons why it will be so very hard. Or why it won't work. Or why you in particular are not the most suitable person to do it. They may - if they are your friends - speak to you in dulcet tones with well-meaning words. They have your best interests at heart. And if they are not your friends they may literally - with a smile on their face - shred your ambitions to pieces from the loftiness of their wisdom, place in life, position, etc. But as they speak, your heart sinks. You lose your impetus and your dream seems to evanesce into the fog of nothingness.

WHAT on earth just happened? There are two possibilities and they may both be combined in some fashion:
  1. Your dream, plan, project was still too weak in your mind and vision, and hence, on speaking of it, it was easy to demolish. It had not yet taken on enough power inside of you and therefore you were not strong enough to maintain the vision in the face of opposition. These people might wish to maintain their comfort zone which may include your place in it, i.e., how "small" you remain, in order that they need not stretch, the way you are threatening to do. It's not that they don't wish you success, but if you achieve it, then how will they look? Or what will they have to do to keep up? Worst of all, they'll have to leave their comfort zone. And so, for them, it's easier if you don't grow and achieve. Or, conversely, others may fear your success more from the position of envy and greed or any other of those horrible emotions that so populate our world.
  2. The other possibility is that you give another's opinion of your dream, plan, or project more validity than your own. Sometimes that is good. If you wish to be a concert pianist and have worked hard for years and are now standing before a jury of respected pianists in their own right and they tell you that while you play magnificently, you will in all likelihood never make it to the place to which you aspire, then you may need to accept that opinion. But if you are at the beginning of your dream, before all the hard work has taken place and a parent or teacher or friend or neighbour shoots the dream down, or tells you how hard it will be and how much you will have to sacrifice, then listen to your heart, as the Quiche Maya say in the Popul Vuh, their sacred book: When you must choose between two different paths, ask yourself which of them comes from the heart. When you choose the path of the heart, you will never be wrong.
What is your dream? Are you allowing someone to take it away from you? Or to give up on it? Or are you brave enough to follow your heart? Follow your bliss, said Joseph Campbell, and the universe will open doors where there were only walls.


For more information about living out your dream, the meaning of your life, about being aware, about doubt and moving forward and the way your thoughts and feelings about those subjects influence you and what to do about it, about inner well-being, inner growth and joy, have a look at my book Rewiring the Soul: Finding the Possible Self, available at Amazon as paperback or e-book for Kindle.

Click here to download the first chapter.

From the Description on Amazon:

Ask anyone, whatever their circumstances, if their life is vibrant, fulfilling, harmonious and happy. An honest reply is likely to be 'no', because to answer a truthful 'yes' is no mean feat. Only to grow psychologically and emotionally is not enough. And only to grow spiritually is not enough either. All three dimensions need to be developed in order to realize your full potential. If you are willing to assume total responsibility for the self and to start what is an on-going journey, you will quickly begin to glimpse the first fruits of the ultimate goal: inner well-being, freedom, peace, harmony and joy. This book sets out the pathway to self-mastery and self-discovery and walking that pathway will be the most exciting adventure of your life.

Rewiring the Soul' provides a user-friendly roadmap for personal transformation. Using conversational style, it guides the reader to an understanding of life's problems and how they can be resolved, deliberately including the reader's connection to his own soul and spiritual growth. Based on common sense and the author's work as an integral psychotherapist as well as lessons gleaned from teaching and personal experiences, all interwoven with current findings from neuroscience, positive psychology, quantum physics and Buddhism, 'Rewiring the Soul' signposts the path to resolving everyday life and its problems while converging with the inner quest for connection with the soul. This process allows life to take on a revolutionary new meaning: resolving personal and interpersonal issues while keeping the inner connection to the soul in mind leads to unprecedented growth that is simply not possible if psycho-emotional matters and spiritual concerns are not combined.



My new book The Tao of Spiritual Partnership is now also available in print and Kindle formats.

To download the first chapter, click here
To see the Table of Contents click here

From the Description on Amazon: More exciting than any other kind of relationship you have ever known, spiritual partnership is a path, a Tao, available to you so that you may transform your life. Spiritual partnership becomes background music to daily life allowing you to enhance the process of your growth and evolution.

This ground-breaking book addresses:

• relationship patterns that hold you back from a truly fulfilled life
• the strong connection between sexuality and spiritual partnership
• communication leading to true connection & lasting transformation of your relationship

It is precisely at the problematic crossroads so often encountered in relationships that we are offered the opportunity to create a new foundation based on mutual complementarity rather than need; a free relationship between two people who want to be together, rather than two people who need to be together. Needing another, we are told, is the measure of love, but for a fully conscious individual nothing could be further from the truth. And therein lies part of the secret and healing power of spiritual partnerships. 


Praise for The Tao of Spiritual Partnership 

“All humans seek the illusive touch of another's Soul, which opens us to the sense of belonging to something bigger than the self. Dr. Kortsch has given us the true "tao" of relationship in this brilliant exploration of emotional tapestry. We will be grateful for this illumination of spiritual partnership for generations to come." 
Chris Griscom: Spiritual Leader, Author 

“Eloquently and comprehensive, showing how your primary love relationship may be a sacred vessel that transports you and your partner to a place of mutual healing and expansion.” 


Robert Schwartz: Author of Your Soul’s Gift: The Healing Power of the Life You Planned Before You Were Born 



Note: If you are wondering why this blog is now only appearing on alternate days (excluding Sat/Sun), it is because I also post on my other blog on the others days. That other blog is The Tao of Spiritual Partnership, so named for my new book. Click here to visit the blog and/or to sign up for the feed.