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"A revelation of insight into the foundations of human suffering & transcendence. It not only lays out essential steps for inner freedom and joy but illuminates the way to true human potential." Paul Rademacher, author: A Spiritual Hitchhiker's Guide to the Universe

"The masterwork of a profoundly gifted healer of the soul. Dazzling, challenging, wondrously useful." Peggy Rubin, author: To Be and How To Be, Transforming Your Life Through Sacred Theatre

"Rewiring the Soul is one the best introductions to the spiritual life I've ever read. Not esoteric but real-world and practical. The implications are profound." Peter Shepherd, author: Daring To Be Yourself

Thursday, May 30, 2013

How's Your Envy Barometer?


That green-eyed monster may get you when you least expect it. Perhaps you think you've already dealt with it, and yet when you drive past that slight woman driving a Hummer, it gets you. Or perhaps when you read about the bio-chemist who just published his 123rd paper in yet another scientific journal, it gets you. Or perhaps when you see the toned body of that man or woman on the beach it gets you. Or perhaps when you go to the ballet and see the seemingly effortless and elegant ease with which the prima donna is able to make her pirouettes, it gets you.

You may feel it when you watch the weather channel and see that it's warm and sunny in that country where your friend lives. Or perhaps you feel it when you hear of the celebrity who has not only become rich and famous due to being a movie star, but is now also revered for his/her work with the poor, homeless, and hungry. Perhaps it rears its ugly head when you see the youthful skin on someone one-third your age, or when you see the vibrant health of someone 10 years older than yourself. And perhaps you feel it when you see the joy in another's life, the satisfaction they take in living as they do, although - perhaps - they have so much less than you.

No matter how envy arises in your mind and feelings, it has the power to make your life miserable. Be aware of your thoughts. I simply can't emphasize that enough. The more aware you are of your thoughts, the more of a chance you have of being in charge of them, as opposed to them being in charge of you. And doesn't it make sense that you want to be able to choose thoughts that promote your own well-being? It was the Buddha who said: He who envies others does not obtain peace of mind.



For more about being aware of your thoughts and how taking care of them will enhance your life and promote a different future, as well as bringing you joy, greater inner peace and freedom, have a look at my book Rewiring the Soul: Finding the Possible Self (paperback or Kindle).

To download the first chapter, click here
To see the Table of Contents click here

Reviews From the Back Cover:

A revelation of insight into the foundations of human suffering & transcendence. It not only lays out essential steps for inner freedom & joy but illuminates the way to true human potential. Dr. Kortsch is a spiritual master for our time. Paul Rademacher, Executive Director, The Monroe Institute; author: A Spiritual Hitchhiker's Guide to the Universe

"The masterwork of a profoundly gifted healer of the soul. Dazzling, challenging, wondrously useful." Peggy Rubin, Director, Center for Sacred Theatre, Ashland, Oregon; author: To Be and How To Be, Transforming Your Life Through Sacred Theatre

"The instruction manual on rewiring the soul. An in-depth guide on life, love, spiritual evolution & our integration within the universe." Michael Habernig & April Hannah; Producers: The Path- The Afterlife & The Path 11 Documentaries 

"Rewiring the Soul is one the best introductions to the spiritual life I've ever read. Not esoteric but real-world & practical. The implications are profound." Peter Shepherd; Founder Trans4mind.com; author: Daring To Be Yourself 

"The human being's directory to the soul. A breakthrough for those seeking practical assistance, those of a more mystical bent & every soul awaiting discovery." Toni Petrinovich, Ph.D.; author: The Call: Awakening the Angelic Human





My new book The Tao of Spiritual Partnership is now also available in print and Kindle formats.

To download the first chapter, click here
To see the Table of Contents click here

From the Description on Amazon: More exciting than any other kind of relationship you have ever known, spiritual partnership is a path, a Tao, available to you so that you may transform your life. Spiritual partnership becomes background music to daily life allowing you to enhance the process of your growth and evolution.

This ground-breaking book addresses:

• relationship patterns that hold you back from a truly fulfilled life
• the strong connection between sexuality and spiritual partnership
• communication leading to true connection & lasting transformation of your relationship

It is precisely at the problematic crossroads so often encountered in relationships that we are offered the opportunity to create a new foundation based on mutual complementarity rather than need; a free relationship between two people who want to be together, rather than two people who need to be together. Needing another, we are told, is the measure of love, but for a fully conscious individual nothing could be further from the truth. And therein lies part of the secret and healing power of spiritual partnerships. 


Praise for The Tao of Spiritual Partnership 

“All humans seek the illusive touch of another's Soul, which opens us to the sense of belonging to something bigger than the self. Dr. Kortsch has given us the true "tao" of relationship in this brilliant exploration of emotional tapestry. We will be grateful for this illumination of spiritual partnership for generations to come." 
Chris Griscom: Spiritual Leader, Author 

“Eloquently and comprehensive, showing how your primary love relationship may be a sacred vessel that transports you and your partner to a place of mutual healing and expansion.” 
Robert Schwartz: Author of Your Soul’s Gift: The Healing Power of the Life You Planned Before You Were Born 

"The Tao of Spiritual Partnership is a unique blend of wit and wisdom; Dr. Kortsch encourages us to take responsibility for our relationships, while recognizing and seizing the opportunities for our own personal spiritual growth." 
William Buhlman, Author of Adventures Beyond the Body 



Note: If you are wondering why this blog is now only appearing on alternate days (excluding Sat/Sun), it is because I also post on my other blog on the others days. That other blog is The Tao of Spiritual Partnership, so named for my new book. Click here to visit the blog and/or to sign up for the feed.

Tuesday, May 28, 2013

Another Year Begins


The years of our lives come and go, but if we don't occasionally sit back and take stock of what has transpired, we will find that much goes unnoticed. It's a bit like that saying 'the unexamined life is not worth living' that is ascribed both to Socrates and Plato. We examine our cars for minute scratches, we examine our faces for wrinkles, we examine our bank accounts, the contents of our closets, and the toned or not-so-toned state of our bodies, but we tend not to examine our lives.

And it's not about criticizing them, judging them, or finding them less-than-they-should-be, or anything negative at all. Rather, it's about seeing where we are located on our journey and where we have been that has brought us here, and whether the current course we are on will take us to where we in fact, want to go.

And so here I am, having just barely (a few hours ago) begun a new year of my life, and I'm taking stock. There is much that I am very pleased with. There are also areas of my life that I consider still need a great deal of work or revisiting, honing, polishing, and perhaps changing, always remembering to be flexible, to not stick rigidly to anything at all, to think out of the box, and to allow metamorphosis and transformation to take place. There are other things I've barely begun to scratch the surface of. Some goals are within sight, others are still so far away that I can scarcely imagine they will ever come to pass, but that stimulates me to further movement in their direction. (Remember to always have goals that are on a close horizon, as well as others that are so far off, that their horizon is almost not yet visible. That way when you reach the closer goals, you will have the others to keep you going after the euphoria of having achieved the earlier goals wears off). I'm also thinking of those who are no longer here, the friendships I loved and that moved through my life and left their mark and are now gone - but only for a while until we see each other again.

It's also a time for gratitude, for remembering, and for feeling joy at the love and friendship and kindness that forms part of my life today. And the gratitude is also for all those who have taught me - both individuals I know personally, as well as individuals I've been privileged to hear or read about and who by their example have enriched me - shown me, and offered me solace when I needed it, as well as gratitude for that which I learned through books from many who have been dead for long years. Their legacy has given so much to so many.

This is not meant to be a personal diary of my intimate life, and so I won't go into greater detail, but I do encourage you to understand - if you've read this far - that examining your life is another way of connecting with your Self, and connection of this nature has much to do with loving yourself.

Pema Chodron said: The future is completely open and we are writing it moment to moment.

Image: Tahiti, French Polinesia

For more about awareness about how having a life meaning and purpose will impact on the quality of your life and how you experience yourself, have a look at my book Rewiring the Soul: Finding the Possible Self (paperback or Kindle).

To download the first chapter, click here
To see the Table of Contents click here

Reviews From the Back Cover:

"The masterwork of a profoundly gifted healer of the soul. Dazzling, challenging, wondrously useful." Peggy Rubin, Director, Center for Sacred Theatre, Ashland, Oregon; author: To Be and How To Be, Transforming Your Life Through Sacred Theatre

"Rewiring the Soul is one the best introductions to the spiritual life I've ever read. Not esoteric but real-world & practical. The implications are profound." Peter Shepherd; Founder Trans4mind.com; author: Daring To Be Yourself 

"The human being's directory to the soul. A breakthrough for those seeking practical assistance, those of a more mystical bent & every soul awaiting discovery." Toni Petrinovich, Ph.D.; author: The Call: Awakening the Angelic Human





My new book The Tao of Spiritual Partnership is now also available in print and Kindle formats.

To download the first chapter, click here
To see the Table of Contents click here

From the Description on Amazon: More exciting than any other kind of relationship you have ever known, spiritual partnership is a path, a Tao, available to you so that you may transform your life. Spiritual partnership becomes background music to daily life allowing you to enhance the process of your growth and evolution.

This ground-breaking book addresses:

• relationship patterns that hold you back from a truly fulfilled life
• the strong connection between sexuality and spiritual partnership
• communication leading to true connection & lasting transformation of your relationship

It is precisely at the problematic crossroads so often encountered in relationships that we are offered the opportunity to create a new foundation based on mutual complementarity rather than need; a free relationship between two people who want to be together, rather than two people who need to be together. Needing another, we are told, is the measure of love, but for a fully conscious individual nothing could be further from the truth. And therein lies part of the secret and healing power of spiritual partnerships. 


Praise for The Tao of Spiritual Partnership 

“All humans seek the illusive touch of another's Soul, which opens us to the sense of belonging to something bigger than the self. Dr. Kortsch has given us the true "tao" of relationship in this brilliant exploration of emotional tapestry. We will be grateful for this illumination of spiritual partnership for generations to come." 
Chris Griscom: Spiritual Leader, Author 

“Eloquently and comprehensive, showing how your primary love relationship may be a sacred vessel that transports you and your partner to a place of mutual healing and expansion.” 


Robert Schwartz: Author of Your Soul’s Gift: The Healing Power of the Life You Planned Before You Were Born 



Note: If you are wondering why this blog is now only appearing on alternate days (excluding Sat/Sun), it is because I also post on my other blog on the others days. That other blog is The Tao of Spiritual Partnership, so named for my new book. Click here to visit the blog and/or to sign up for the feed.

Friday, May 24, 2013

Thank Your Problems For Their Gifts



There is no such thing as a problem without a gift for you in its hands. You seek problems because you need their gifts.
Richard Bach

Every situation, properly perceived, becomes an opportunity to heal.
A Course in Miracles

These quotes, both of which I've used occasionally on my Facebook Page Rewiring the Soul and on my Twitter account, are so illuminating - if we but take the time to think about them. And of course the more we think about them, the more we are able to put their wisdom to use in our lives in the way we perceive our problems or challenges.

Think back: what have you learned from the major problems in your life? I lost my mother at the age of 19, long before I was anywhere near being prepared - if one ever is - for such an event. Furthermore it happened while I was traveling abroad and she was there one moment, and gone the next when the phone call came. What did I learn? To make every moment count. To use such a devastating situation to grow and understand more about life so that her death would not be in vain. I became so much more of a self-responsible human being due to that. I also learned how important it was to never neglect an opportunity to tell those that we love, that we do indeed love them.

Then my only brother died when I was 23. I went to the funeral with my eldest son of barely three weeks in my arms. More devastation. He too, just as my mother, had died of cancer. What did I learn? The above lesson was reinforced. I learned about the fragility of life and the need to live it at its fullest as long as you have it. I grew a few more inches.

Scarcely 18 months later when my second son was less than one month old, I was diagnosed with breast cancer. In the end it was a false alarm, but until I knew that, it had caused me to take a look at my own mortality. What did I learn? That my own mortality scared me much less than the well-being of my children. That I knew I could deal with this. It showed me another portion of my strength.

About two years later, my third son, then nine months old, was found at the bottom of the pool. It appeared he had drowned and for several very frightening and long drawn-out minutes, it appeared he had died. Fortunately, in the end, all was well, and after a rigorous battery of neurological tests, despite having been under water for about 5 minutes, he has been tested to a near genius IQ. What did I learn? That I was able to keep my head in an emergency. That I did what was necessary to manage a situation that was totally out of control. It showed me a portion of my strength. 

Only a little later, with those three very small boys of 6, 4 and 2, I went through a very contentious and acrimonious separation and custody battle with my spouse. It was everything but pretty. I was alone, without my family of origin (they were mainly dead), not in my country of birth, and with very few friends other than those that had befriended me via my spouse. I had never worked. I had no money. And even though I was the one that left, I was deeply, terribly alone. And frightened. So what did I learn? That I was very strong, that I was a survivor, that I was flexible in ways I had never even imagined - a flexibility that allowed me to turn my life around, and above all, I learned to see through other people's eyes and I learned to forgive. The lesson of forgiving, when based on a desire to clear the past of its hold on you, is perhaps one of the most important lessons we can learn in life.

After that there were many more lessons to learn, many more difficult moments. Perhaps one of the most significant was just over seven years ago when I was diagnosed with cancer again. This time it was the real deal. No false alarm. In the end all was well, but not before going through a very difficult inner process. What did I learn? That the mind is at least as important as the body in a process of healing. That my inner strength was serving me very well. That love is crucial to the process.

Obviously your problems will be different from mine. Better or worse is not a comparison that is germane to this post, because problems are what we make of them. Perhaps what for me was horrendous at some point of my path, for someone else would have been easier, or vice versa, what I was able to bear with relative inner ease, for others would be insurmountable. Problems and challenges are subjective, but we can all look for the gifts in our problems. Because, as Bach says, we have them because we need their gifts.

Photo Credit: Francesco Marino




For more about being aware of your thoughts, habits, and exactly what you do every day, and how that will enhance your life and promote a different future, as well as bringing you joy, greater inner peace and freedom, have a look at my book Rewiring the Soul: Finding the Possible Self (paperback or Kindle).

To download the first chapter, click here
To see the Table of Contents click here

Reviews From the Back Cover:

A revelation of insight into the foundations of human suffering & transcendence. It not only lays out essential steps for inner freedom & joy but illuminates the way to true human potential. Dr. Kortsch is a spiritual master for our time. Paul Rademacher, Executive Director, The Monroe Institute; author: A Spiritual Hitchhiker's Guide to the Universe

"The masterwork of a profoundly gifted healer of the soul. Dazzling, challenging, wondrously useful." Peggy Rubin, Director, Center for Sacred Theatre, Ashland, Oregon; author: To Be and How To Be, Transforming Your Life Through Sacred Theatre

"The instruction manual on rewiring the soul. An in-depth guide on life, love, spiritual evolution & our integration within the universe." Michael Habernig & April Hannah; Producers: The Path- The Afterlife & The Path 11 Documentaries 

"Rewiring the Soul is one the best introductions to the spiritual life I've ever read. Not esoteric but real-world & practical. The implications are profound." Peter Shepherd; Founder Trans4mind.com; author: Daring To Be Yourself 

"The human being's directory to the soul. A breakthrough for those seeking practical assistance, those of a more mystical bent & every soul awaiting discovery." Toni Petrinovich, Ph.D.; author: The Call: Awakening the Angelic Human





My new book The Tao of Spiritual Partnership is now also available in print and Kindle formats.

To download the first chapter, click here
To see the Table of Contents click here

From the Description on Amazon: More exciting than any other kind of relationship you have ever known, spiritual partnership is a path, a Tao, available to you so that you may transform your life. Spiritual partnership becomes background music to daily life allowing you to enhance the process of your growth and evolution.

This ground-breaking book addresses:

• relationship patterns that hold you back from a truly fulfilled life
• the strong connection between sexuality and spiritual partnership
• communication leading to true connection & lasting transformation of your relationship

It is precisely at the problematic crossroads so often encountered in relationships that we are offered the opportunity to create a new foundation based on mutual complementarity rather than need; a free relationship between two people who want to be together, rather than two people who need to be together. Needing another, we are told, is the measure of love, but for a fully conscious individual nothing could be further from the truth. And therein lies part of the secret and healing power of spiritual partnerships. 


Praise for The Tao of Spiritual Partnership 

“All humans seek the illusive touch of another's Soul, which opens us to the sense of belonging to something bigger than the self. Dr. Kortsch has given us the true "tao" of relationship in this brilliant exploration of emotional tapestry. We will be grateful for this illumination of spiritual partnership for generations to come." 
Chris Griscom: Spiritual Leader, Author 

“Eloquently and comprehensive, showing how your primary love relationship may be a sacred vessel that transports you and your partner to a place of mutual healing and expansion.” 
Robert Schwartz: Author of Your Soul’s Gift: The Healing Power of the Life You Planned Before You Were Born 

"The Tao of Spiritual Partnership is a unique blend of wit and wisdom; Dr. Kortsch encourages us to take responsibility for our relationships, while recognizing and seizing the opportunities for our own personal spiritual growth." 
William Buhlman, Author of Adventures Beyond the Body 



Note: If you are wondering why this blog is now only appearing on alternate days (excluding Sat/Sun), it is because I also post on my other blog on the others days. That other blog is The Tao of Spiritual Partnership, so named for my new book. Click here to visit the blog and/or to sign up for the feed.

Wednesday, May 22, 2013

Having a Winning Hand


My part Viennese grandmother taught me how to play solitaire at a very young age. I still have her original cards, well-worn and tiny, as some of her games required two packs, and they had to fit on the gleaming Biedermeier table (that she very generously bequeathed to me), where she played. As I grew competent, she taught me new games that required higher and higher skill sets and more sophisticated strategy and reasoning. I absolutely loved playing them.

So now, with my laptop, mobile and tablet, I occasionally play solitaire on one of those devices, although it's never anywhere near as entertaining because many of the games are very simple, and those that are less so, are restricted to whatever is available on that device and none are nearly as wicked as the ones she taught me so very long ago.

However, yesterday I decided to have a game on my new tablet, and as I had not yet done so before, I went to the 'Settings' in order to ensure it would play as I like it to, and much to my amazement, it offered as one of the possibilities: 'Deal a Winning Hand'. Indeed! A winning hand, no less. That of course implies, that no matter what happens, I will win. What a concept! Far from pleasing me, it made me deplore a world that is hellbent on figuring out ways to have winning hands before any of the action takes place, and it made me pity  individuals who are born in such a world.

How will we - as a species - learn anything at all, if the cards are always stacked in our favor? Certainly, we may reap benefits and rewards easily, but how will they make us feel? I can imagine that you're thinking that you would feel absolutely wonderful and that you would love to climb to the top or win medals and prizes, or make a lot of money, or become famous just like that, but what you are not considering is that you would not have learned anything at all other than a concept of entitlement. You would feel no pride in your accomplishments. You would not learn that some things have to be achieved bit by bit, not immediately and that you might have to fall and pick yourself up again - and again, and again - before you finally brought yourself to that goal. You would not know the glorious ecstasy of satisfaction gained from a job well done, nor would you ever experience the strengthening of your back bone as you stood firm, chin high, shoulders back in order to try yet once again to see if this time you managed to have the winning hand ... but on your own terms and thanks to your own perseverance, planning, belief in your purpose and goal, and thanks to your ingenuity.

Image: Frank W. Benson (1862-1951) Girl Playing Solitaire 1909

For more about awareness about how having a life meaning and purpose will impact on the quality of your life and how you experience yourself, have a look at my book Rewiring the Soul: Finding the Possible Self (paperback or Kindle).

To download the first chapter, click here
To see the Table of Contents click here

Reviews From the Back Cover:

"The masterwork of a profoundly gifted healer of the soul. Dazzling, challenging, wondrously useful." Peggy Rubin, Director, Center for Sacred Theatre, Ashland, Oregon; author: To Be and How To Be, Transforming Your Life Through Sacred Theatre

"Rewiring the Soul is one the best introductions to the spiritual life I've ever read. Not esoteric but real-world & practical. The implications are profound." Peter Shepherd; Founder Trans4mind.com; author: Daring To Be Yourself 

"The human being's directory to the soul. A breakthrough for those seeking practical assistance, those of a more mystical bent & every soul awaiting discovery." Toni Petrinovich, Ph.D.; author: The Call: Awakening the Angelic Human





My new book The Tao of Spiritual Partnership is now also available in print and Kindle formats.

To download the first chapter, click here
To see the Table of Contents click here

From the Description on Amazon: More exciting than any other kind of relationship you have ever known, spiritual partnership is a path, a Tao, available to you so that you may transform your life. Spiritual partnership becomes background music to daily life allowing you to enhance the process of your growth and evolution.

This ground-breaking book addresses:

• relationship patterns that hold you back from a truly fulfilled life
• the strong connection between sexuality and spiritual partnership
• communication leading to true connection & lasting transformation of your relationship

It is precisely at the problematic crossroads so often encountered in relationships that we are offered the opportunity to create a new foundation based on mutual complementarity rather than need; a free relationship between two people who want to be together, rather than two people who need to be together. Needing another, we are told, is the measure of love, but for a fully conscious individual nothing could be further from the truth. And therein lies part of the secret and healing power of spiritual partnerships. 


Praise for The Tao of Spiritual Partnership 

“All humans seek the illusive touch of another's Soul, which opens us to the sense of belonging to something bigger than the self. Dr. Kortsch has given us the true "tao" of relationship in this brilliant exploration of emotional tapestry. We will be grateful for this illumination of spiritual partnership for generations to come." 
Chris Griscom: Spiritual Leader, Author 

“Eloquently and comprehensive, showing how your primary love relationship may be a sacred vessel that transports you and your partner to a place of mutual healing and expansion.” 


Robert Schwartz: Author of Your Soul’s Gift: The Healing Power of the Life You Planned Before You Were Born 



Note: If you are wondering why this blog is now only appearing on alternate days (excluding Sat/Sun), it is because I also post on my other blog on the others days. That other blog is The Tao of Spiritual Partnership, so named for my new book. Click here to visit the blog and/or to sign up for the feed.

Monday, May 20, 2013

Changing a Little Each Day


Want to write a book? It's the dream of many, but some are dismayed by the amount of time it may take to write that many words, never mind figuring out how exactly to put those words together intelligently and in ways that a reader might want to read them. But if you decide to write only 500 words every day, you will have written 70,000 words in 140 days, and that is a typical length for a non-fiction book. That's 20 weeks, or 5 months. Changing something (writing 500 words) a little every day, can change your life. But you may need to examine the perimeters of your comfort zone.

When someone wants to lose weight, it takes doing something a bit differently every day. That something might be eating a little less, or making better food choices, or exercising (a bit) every day, or a combination thereof. The crucial point however, is that something (albeit small) is changed every day.Changing something (taking a 20-minute walk) a little every day, can change your life. But you may need to examine the perimeters of your comfort zone.

Want to learn a new language? Going to classes is a great idea, but probably you do have time to go to class once a week, but you don't have time for an immersion course over a period of several months, so to really change your life in this regard, you can use your digital devices to bring the language to you during those 'dead' moments every day, perhaps when you drive your car to work, when you shave, or put on your make-up, or when you're in the kitchen cooking. This could be in the form of news in that language (search the internet until you find a web-friendly TV channel that offers news and tune to that channel on a daily basis for 10 minutes. You'll be amazed how quickly your ears attune to the nuances of the language). Another thing you can do is watch trailers of movies you've already seen in your language of choice. Since you already know what the movie is about, you'll understand. Changing something (listening 10 minutes to a news program in your chosen language) a little every day, can change your life. But you may need to examine the perimeters of your comfort zone.

What about someone who want to live a richer, more meaningful life? Perhaps you imagine a life filled with greater spiritual significance (for you), that leads you to connect more closely with yourself. How many hours do you spend watching TV every day? How much time do you spend listening to - often - inane radio shows filled with even more inane commercials, every day? Or how much time do you spend reading sports magazines or romance novels? Change any one of those - or even just a fraction of any one of those - and you will be giving your mind, heart, and soul another kind of nourishment and nurturing that will indeed lead you to a richer, more meaningful life. Changing something a little every day, can change your life. But you may need to examine the perimeters of your comfort zone. It was Mike Murdock who wrote: You will never change your life until you change something you do daily. 

And remember the Chinese Proverb that says the same although in very different words: The best time to plant a tree was 20 years ago. The next best time is now.


For more about being aware of your thoughts, habits, and exactly what you do every day, and how that will enhance your life and promote a different future, as well as bringing you joy, greater inner peace and freedom, have a look at my book Rewiring the Soul: Finding the Possible Self (paperback or Kindle).

To download the first chapter, click here
To see the Table of Contents click here

Reviews From the Back Cover:

A revelation of insight into the foundations of human suffering & transcendence. It not only lays out essential steps for inner freedom & joy but illuminates the way to true human potential. Dr. Kortsch is a spiritual master for our time. Paul Rademacher, Executive Director, The Monroe Institute; author: A Spiritual Hitchhiker's Guide to the Universe

"The masterwork of a profoundly gifted healer of the soul. Dazzling, challenging, wondrously useful." Peggy Rubin, Director, Center for Sacred Theatre, Ashland, Oregon; author: To Be and How To Be, Transforming Your Life Through Sacred Theatre

"The instruction manual on rewiring the soul. An in-depth guide on life, love, spiritual evolution & our integration within the universe." Michael Habernig & April Hannah; Producers: The Path- The Afterlife & The Path 11 Documentaries 

"Rewiring the Soul is one the best introductions to the spiritual life I've ever read. Not esoteric but real-world & practical. The implications are profound." Peter Shepherd; Founder Trans4mind.com; author: Daring To Be Yourself 

"The human being's directory to the soul. A breakthrough for those seeking practical assistance, those of a more mystical bent & every soul awaiting discovery." Toni Petrinovich, Ph.D.; author: The Call: Awakening the Angelic Human





My new book The Tao of Spiritual Partnership is now also available in print and Kindle formats.

To download the first chapter, click here
To see the Table of Contents click here

From the Description on Amazon: More exciting than any other kind of relationship you have ever known, spiritual partnership is a path, a Tao, available to you so that you may transform your life. Spiritual partnership becomes background music to daily life allowing you to enhance the process of your growth and evolution.

This ground-breaking book addresses:

• relationship patterns that hold you back from a truly fulfilled life
• the strong connection between sexuality and spiritual partnership
• communication leading to true connection & lasting transformation of your relationship

It is precisely at the problematic crossroads so often encountered in relationships that we are offered the opportunity to create a new foundation based on mutual complementarity rather than need; a free relationship between two people who want to be together, rather than two people who need to be together. Needing another, we are told, is the measure of love, but for a fully conscious individual nothing could be further from the truth. And therein lies part of the secret and healing power of spiritual partnerships. 


Praise for The Tao of Spiritual Partnership 

“All humans seek the illusive touch of another's Soul, which opens us to the sense of belonging to something bigger than the self. Dr. Kortsch has given us the true "tao" of relationship in this brilliant exploration of emotional tapestry. We will be grateful for this illumination of spiritual partnership for generations to come." 
Chris Griscom: Spiritual Leader, Author 

“Eloquently and comprehensive, showing how your primary love relationship may be a sacred vessel that transports you and your partner to a place of mutual healing and expansion.” 
Robert Schwartz: Author of Your Soul’s Gift: The Healing Power of the Life You Planned Before You Were Born 

"The Tao of Spiritual Partnership is a unique blend of wit and wisdom; Dr. Kortsch encourages us to take responsibility for our relationships, while recognizing and seizing the opportunities for our own personal spiritual growth." 
William Buhlman, Author of Adventures Beyond the Body 



Note: If you are wondering why this blog is now only appearing on alternate days (excluding Sat/Sun), it is because I also post on my other blog on the others days. That other blog is The Tao of Spiritual Partnership, so named for my new book. Click here to visit the blog and/or to sign up for the feed.

Thursday, May 16, 2013

Living a Life of Tenacity


The toddler who decides to get up on his legs and walk is tenacious. He may not be thinking that his goal is to walk, because he does not yet think along those lines, but he does see mommy cheering him on, or a delicious candy tempting him on the table that is just over there, or a toy he'll be able to grab, if he manages to walk over to that table. So he has a goal in mind and his tenacity to keep himself on his sturdy, albeit as yet shaky little legs, is fueled by that goal. So on he goes. And he gets up over and over again, if he stumbles and falls.

An 11-year-old aspiring ballerina has the tenacity to keep up with a grueling practice schedule, on top of taking care of her school work, because she has a goal in mind. Her tenacity will have to last years, if she aspires to get somewhere in her chosen vocation.

A young Rafael Nadal must have exhibited enormous tenacity as he practiced tennis every day in his native Mallorca, long before he became a household word, because he too, aspired to a great goal: to become a tennis great.

I could continue on with any number of examples, but what is very clear, is that we can not only learn from those who are famous, and who have actually gone on to achieve their goals, but also from that tottering toddler who is simply learning to walk. His tenacity should be a model for us to base our lives upon.

What are your goals? How much are you willing to give for them? How much stick-to-it-ive-ness do you have? Are you able to put your elbows down on the table and stay there in order to do or learn whatever it is you need to do? Are you able to get up early in the morning in order to work out, or practice, or meditate, or learn, or study, or write, or paint, or play an instrument because you can't at other times during your day but you want this so much that you are willing to give up that extra hour of sleep in order to do it? How great is your tenacity?

Here's one point to consider: all of those who went on to greatness (including the toddler whose greatness is that he learned how to walk), had someone or more than one someone, who cheered them on, who coached them, who made them accountable to their practice or work, who inspired and motivated them when they felt like giving up. However, not all of us have someone like that. Therefore, to have a practice of motivating and inspiring yourself is of enormous benefit and also very, very necessary if you really want to reach your goals. It was Zig Ziglar who said: People often say that motivation doesn't last. Well, neither does bathing - that's why we recommend it daily.

So it's clear that if you want to live a life of tenacity, you have to find a way of keeping yourself tenacious, by being motivated. And in order to remain motivated, if you don't have a group of people who do it for you (a coach, a teacher, a partner, a friend, etc.), and even if you do, you would do well by beginning to look about you in this marvelous age we live and use the internet for precisely that.

While I am in my kitchen, preparing a meal, or while I am in my bathroom putting on my make-up, or while I am in my car driving somewhere, even if it's only a few minutes away, I am listening to something on a laptop or tablet or audio or MP3 player that motivates, inspires, and interests me. I use that time to do this because it's typically 'dead' time, that people may use to talk on the phone, listen to the radio or TV, but without any particular sense of purpose ... in other words, what we normally do with that 'dead' time, does not inspire and motivate us. What I then listen to as described above, doesn't necessarily have to do with my specific goals at all, as long as it motivates and inspires and interests me, and as long as it is capable of keeping my inner energy high in a place where I will be able to continue to be tenacious about moving towards my goals. There are many articles about this topic here on my blog and on my website for you to look at, but the easiest way to get started is to check out sites like:
You will find much to inspire and motivate you here, just take a look around. But it's only the tip of the iceberg ... there is so much more, and there's enough to last you as long as you need, want and like. Much of it is downloadable, so you can take it to your car, and many of the videos can easily be converted to MP3's for easier listening - again - in your car. If you don't know how to do this (and believe me, it is very, very simple), ask a techie friend to show you. But do remember, in order to be tenacious like our tottering toddler, you need to keep yourself motivated and inspired, and if you don't have a group of cheerleaders to do that for you (and most of us don't), then this is such a simple and magnificent way to do it. It was Louis Pasteur who said: Let me tell you the secret that has led me to my goal: my strength lies solely in my tenacity.


For more about awareness about keeping your inner energy high, and how this will impact on your goals and life, have a look at my book Rewiring the Soul: Finding the Possible Self (paperback or Kindle).

To download the first chapter, click here
To see the Table of Contents click here

Reviews From the Back Cover:

"The masterwork of a profoundly gifted healer of the soul. Dazzling, challenging, wondrously useful." Peggy Rubin, Director, Center for Sacred Theatre, Ashland, Oregon; author: To Be and How To Be, Transforming Your Life Through Sacred Theatre

"Rewiring the Soul is one the best introductions to the spiritual life I've ever read. Not esoteric but real-world & practical. The implications are profound." Peter Shepherd; Founder Trans4mind.com; author: Daring To Be Yourself 

"The human being's directory to the soul. A breakthrough for those seeking practical assistance, those of a more mystical bent & every soul awaiting discovery." Toni Petrinovich, Ph.D.; author: The Call: Awakening the Angelic Human





My new book The Tao of Spiritual Partnership is now also available in print and Kindle formats.

To download the first chapter, click here
To see the Table of Contents click here

From the Description on Amazon: More exciting than any other kind of relationship you have ever known, spiritual partnership is a path, a Tao, available to you so that you may transform your life. Spiritual partnership becomes background music to daily life allowing you to enhance the process of your growth and evolution.

This ground-breaking book addresses:

• relationship patterns that hold you back from a truly fulfilled life
• the strong connection between sexuality and spiritual partnership
• communication leading to true connection & lasting transformation of your relationship

It is precisely at the problematic crossroads so often encountered in relationships that we are offered the opportunity to create a new foundation based on mutual complementarity rather than need; a free relationship between two people who want to be together, rather than two people who need to be together. Needing another, we are told, is the measure of love, but for a fully conscious individual nothing could be further from the truth. And therein lies part of the secret and healing power of spiritual partnerships. 


Praise for The Tao of Spiritual Partnership 

“All humans seek the illusive touch of another's Soul, which opens us to the sense of belonging to something bigger than the self. Dr. Kortsch has given us the true "tao" of relationship in this brilliant exploration of emotional tapestry. We will be grateful for this illumination of spiritual partnership for generations to come." 
Chris Griscom: Spiritual Leader, Author 

“Eloquently and comprehensive, showing how your primary love relationship may be a sacred vessel that transports you and your partner to a place of mutual healing and expansion.” 


Robert Schwartz: Author of Your Soul’s Gift: The Healing Power of the Life You Planned Before You Were Born 



Note: If you are wondering why this blog is now only appearing on alternate days (excluding Sat/Sun), it is because I also post on my other blog on the others days. That other blog is The Tao of Spiritual Partnership, so named for my new book. Click here to visit the blog and/or to sign up for the feed.

Tuesday, May 14, 2013

Deciding to Live in a Friendly Universe


Have you ever noticed that when you are not in the best of moods, or when you are upset or resentful or angry about something, you seem to find more people who actually create even more of those feelings in you? Almost as though a tuning fork were set to ensure that those people with negative feelings that exactly match yours cross your path that day at exactly the same time as you are there! As a matter of fact, when I was younger this happened at a certain point with such frequency that I deliberately started paying attention to it. It had grabbed, you might say, my attention, because it was happening too often to be put down to mere coincidence. Was, I asked myself, the universe playing with me?

As I became aware of all of this, I also began noticing that when I was in a good place inside, I seemed to bring more people with that kind of mood, or inner vibration into my sphere during that day. It also seemed to be a lot more difficult to make me lose my cool, to become upset about anything, or to engage in hostility or negativity.

So, I thought, this must mean that depending on how I feel, and perhaps on what I emanate, just by virtue of what can be seen or felt by those who are in my vicinity, I attract a whole different kind of experience or person into my life. Therefore it appeared not to be a bad idea to decide that I live in a friendly universe, a term I have borrowed from Einstein and Wayne Dyer. A universe in which it is just as easy to run into friendly people as it is to run into angry people, just as easy to run into helpful people as it is to run into impatient and unkind people, just as easy to run into positive and joyful people, as it is to run into negative and unhappy people.

And although the connection is wide, as I revisited this topic in order to write today's article, that immediately made me think of a book titled Brain Rules by neuroscientist John Medina, who after writing many chapters jam-packed with near clinical detail about the brain and how to best understand how it works and how to deal with it, expresses wonder and amazement near the end of the book describing his young son one day as he accompanies him to his nursery school. They were walking a short distance that would have taken Medina father a few minutes to cover, but because he was escorting the small child, it took much longer. But mainly it took so long - and this was the source of the father's wonder - because his son stopped at every blade of grass, as if to observe its growth, or to examine how it had emerged from a minute crack in the cement of the sidewalk, or to become totally absorbed in the inspection of an ant as it shouldered its load of a bread crumb on its way to the underground anthill, following a long line of its brethren. He - Medina - realized his child was much more present than he himself tended to be, and although he does not use the term mindfulness in his book, I do, because I believe that is what a child does, and what we adults tend not to do, and hence find it so much harder to decide that we are living in a friendly universe.

As we arise in the morning, we already make decisions about the day in question:
·         oh no, it's raining
·         oh no, it's not raining
·         oh no, it's so cold
          oh no, it's so hot
And the problem is not the condition of the weather, but our inner resistance to what is. Krishnamurti said that the secret to his happiness was not minding what happens, and I have repeated this frequently in workshops, talks and other articles, because I truly believe it contains endless wisdom. It does not mean becoming apathetic, but it does mean accepting what is, finding inner balance and peace with regards to that, and only then deciding what needs to be done about it, rather than embarking on reactions and actions based on a feeling of resistance to what is.

So if we embark on our day with an attitude of acceptance, and then go to the wonder and joy of the child, perhaps we will hear the brilliant birdsong as we open the window, or see the ray of sunshine amidst the grey, as it attempts to slice a cloud in half. And as we do so, we notice our inner energetic vibration being in a good place, and we are aware of the fact, not only due to research in a multitude of disciplines, but also because of how we feel on this more visceral, physical level, that our inner mindset is also affecting the state of our cells, our very biology.

And so we progress throughout our day, looking for the many reasons that the universe is indeed a friendly place, filled with events, and sights, and people and moments that can quicken our heart with joy and well-being … if only we decide.

You get to decide whether you live in a hostile or a friendly universe. You can decide what each of the things that happen every day mean. You get to decide whether your life is good or bad no matter how it may look on the outside...remember what I've said so often about Viktor Frankl or Nelson Mandela or the innumerous others who have gone through great suffering, and yet have made a choice about how their life is going, and especially how they are going to look at it, think about it, and hence, feel about it, and react to it.

It's also true that the more you look for reasons to believe that things are going against you, and that people don't like you or accept you, the less you will be disappointed in your expectations...

And don't forget that your thoughts - as molecular and cellular biology show us (see these posts on that subject) really do become things, so the manner in which you view your world and think about it is of great importance.

As I've pointed out so frequently: you choose.

You can choose to wake up in the morning and be grateful for the new day and new opportunities. You can choose to remember to be grateful to five people every day about something that happened with them, and to make a habit of this - without fail - in order to help keep your mind on that instead of what you didn't like. You can choose to find something in what you didn't like that is of value to you and your life, even if it is learning how to choose not to react negatively in the face of adversity.

You choose.

So start choosing the way that is of use to you, instead of the way that simply increments the negative; start choosing to live in a friendly universe.

You choose.

Image: Amalfi Coast, Ravello, Italy

For more about being aware of your thoughts and habits and how that will enhance your life and promote a different future, as well as bringing you joy, greater inner peace and freedom, have a look at my book Rewiring the Soul: Finding the Possible Self (paperback or Kindle).

To download the first chapter, click here
To see the Table of Contents click here

Reviews From the Back Cover:

A revelation of insight into the foundations of human suffering & transcendence. It not only lays out essential steps for inner freedom & joy but illuminates the way to true human potential. Dr. Kortsch is a spiritual master for our time. Paul Rademacher, Executive Director, The Monroe Institute; author: A Spiritual Hitchhiker's Guide to the Universe

"The masterwork of a profoundly gifted healer of the soul. Dazzling, challenging, wondrously useful." Peggy Rubin, Director, Center for Sacred Theatre, Ashland, Oregon; author: To Be and How To Be, Transforming Your Life Through Sacred Theatre

"The instruction manual on rewiring the soul. An in-depth guide on life, love, spiritual evolution & our integration within the universe." Michael Habernig & April Hannah; Producers: The Path- The Afterlife & The Path 11 Documentaries 

"Rewiring the Soul is one the best introductions to the spiritual life I've ever read. Not esoteric but real-world & practical. The implications are profound." Peter Shepherd; Founder Trans4mind.com; author: Daring To Be Yourself 

"The human being's directory to the soul. A breakthrough for those seeking practical assistance, those of a more mystical bent & every soul awaiting discovery." Toni Petrinovich, Ph.D.; author: The Call: Awakening the Angelic Human





My new book The Tao of Spiritual Partnership is now also available in print and Kindle formats.

To download the first chapter, click here
To see the Table of Contents click here

From the Description on Amazon: More exciting than any other kind of relationship you have ever known, spiritual partnership is a path, a Tao, available to you so that you may transform your life. Spiritual partnership becomes background music to daily life allowing you to enhance the process of your growth and evolution.

This ground-breaking book addresses:

• relationship patterns that hold you back from a truly fulfilled life
• the strong connection between sexuality and spiritual partnership
• communication leading to true connection & lasting transformation of your relationship

It is precisely at the problematic crossroads so often encountered in relationships that we are offered the opportunity to create a new foundation based on mutual complementarity rather than need; a free relationship between two people who want to be together, rather than two people who need to be together. Needing another, we are told, is the measure of love, but for a fully conscious individual nothing could be further from the truth. And therein lies part of the secret and healing power of spiritual partnerships. 


Praise for The Tao of Spiritual Partnership 

“All humans seek the illusive touch of another's Soul, which opens us to the sense of belonging to something bigger than the self. Dr. Kortsch has given us the true "tao" of relationship in this brilliant exploration of emotional tapestry. We will be grateful for this illumination of spiritual partnership for generations to come." 
Chris Griscom: Spiritual Leader, Author 

“Eloquently and comprehensive, showing how your primary love relationship may be a sacred vessel that transports you and your partner to a place of mutual healing and expansion.” 
Robert Schwartz: Author of Your Soul’s Gift: The Healing Power of the Life You Planned Before You Were Born 

"The Tao of Spiritual Partnership is a unique blend of wit and wisdom; Dr. Kortsch encourages us to take responsibility for our relationships, while recognizing and seizing the opportunities for our own personal spiritual growth." 
William Buhlman, Author of Adventures Beyond the Body 



Note: If you are wondering why this blog is now only appearing on alternate days (excluding Sat/Sun), it is because I also post on my other blog on the others days. That other blog is The Tao of Spiritual Partnership, so named for my new book. Click here to visit the blog and/or to sign up for the feed.