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Tuesday, April 30, 2013

Comparing Challenges - Don't Do It!



Your junior colleague at work simply has no idea how difficult it is for you to carry your own workload because he is single and does not have to deal with the extra constraints on his time as you do because of your spouse and children. You, however, have not taken into consideration the fact that he not only cares for his aging mother who suffers from Alzheimer's, but that he also has a younger sister he is supporting through college. He may - possibly - have an easier time with regards to how he handles the hours of his day as opposed to you, but he may have a much harder time of it financially, as he pays for his mother's care at the specialized home she lives in, as well as his sister's college tuition, on top of paying off his own student loans on a salary that is much lower than your own.

Your friend from college simply has no idea how difficult it is for you to deal with the fact that you have been diagnosed with MS. Life is so easy for her with her robust health. You, however, have not taken into consideration the fact that she has been out of work for over one year due to the economy, and is attempting to keep up a good front, as well as managing her life on savings that are rapidly dwindling as her partner is an intern doctor on very low pay. You've also not thought about the fact that she recently miscarried a baby that she very much wanted, and although in one way it's a blessing due to their precarious financial situation, she was nevertheless very shaken by her loss.

Your neighbor simply has no idea how difficult it is for you to cope with caring for your wife and children, keeping up the pace at work, plus taking on freelance design jobs in order to bring in some extra money, because he is a high-powered investment banker, and makes so much money that he just parked a new Porsche in his driveway. You sometimes shake with the unfairness of it all. You, however, have not taken into consideration the fact that he works nearly 100 hours each week, rarely sees his family during the day, and even on weekends, scarcely has time to be at home.

Your brother's wife simply has no idea how difficult it is for you to go to that job that you hate day after day because she works at her dream job. After college she had one lucky break after another and landed the job she had always wanted. You, however, have not taken into consideration the fact that she spent all the years she was at high school and college working continually in order to prepare herself to be ready for opportunities if and when they arose. She scarcely went out, she studied, she took extra credits, and she also worked while she was going through college in order to help with her tuition, but also in order to be able to train and intern at companies that could potentially offer her possibilities for the future. She sacrificed a great deal to reach her goal.

These examples serve to illustrate precisely what most of us do not think about when we are comparing the challenges we face with the lives of others who appear to have it easier than we do. Another variation on this theme, is that when we look at the challenges others face, we feel they are simple compared to ours, and don't take into consideration the fact that what may be simple for us is hard for them, and what may be hard for us, may be simple for them.

The moral of the story is to simply not compare. You don't know what it's like to stand in another's shoes, so focus on your challenges and their solutions. Begin by changing your attitude. Begin also by changing your thoughts, feelings, and how you look at the world. The world is a great place or a terrible one ... but which of the two it is depends on you and your attitude. So simple.


For more about awareness about your conscious - and not-so-conscious - attitude towards others, as well as your life, about the thoughts that create unhappiness and problems, and how to change this, have a look at my book Rewiring the Soul: Finding the Possible Self (paperback or Kindle).

To download the first chapter, click here
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Reviews From the Back Cover:

"The masterwork of a profoundly gifted healer of the soul. Dazzling, challenging, wondrously useful." Peggy Rubin, Director, Center for Sacred Theatre, Ashland, Oregon; author: To Be and How To Be, Transforming Your Life Through Sacred Theatre

"Rewiring the Soul is one the best introductions to the spiritual life I've ever read. Not esoteric but real-world & practical. The implications are profound." Peter Shepherd; Founder Trans4mind.com; author: Daring To Be Yourself 

"The human being's directory to the soul. A breakthrough for those seeking practical assistance, those of a more mystical bent & every soul awaiting discovery." Toni Petrinovich, Ph.D.; author: The Call: Awakening the Angelic Human





My new book The Tao of Spiritual Partnership is now also available in print and Kindle formats.

To download the first chapter, click here
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From the Description on Amazon: More exciting than any other kind of relationship you have ever known, spiritual partnership is a path, a Tao, available to you so that you may transform your life. Spiritual partnership becomes background music to daily life allowing you to enhance the process of your growth and evolution.

This ground-breaking book addresses:

• relationship patterns that hold you back from a truly fulfilled life
• the strong connection between sexuality and spiritual partnership
• communication leading to true connection & lasting transformation of your relationship

It is precisely at the problematic crossroads so often encountered in relationships that we are offered the opportunity to create a new foundation based on mutual complementarity rather than need; a free relationship between two people who want to be together, rather than two people who need to be together. Needing another, we are told, is the measure of love, but for a fully conscious individual nothing could be further from the truth. And therein lies part of the secret and healing power of spiritual partnerships. 


Praise for The Tao of Spiritual Partnership 

“All humans seek the illusive touch of another's Soul, which opens us to the sense of belonging to something bigger than the self. Dr. Kortsch has given us the true "tao" of relationship in this brilliant exploration of emotional tapestry. We will be grateful for this illumination of spiritual partnership for generations to come." 
Chris Griscom: Spiritual Leader, Author 

“Eloquently and comprehensive, showing how your primary love relationship may be a sacred vessel that transports you and your partner to a place of mutual healing and expansion.” 


Robert Schwartz: Author of Your Soul’s Gift: The Healing Power of the Life You Planned Before You Were Born 



Note: If you are wondering why this blog is now only appearing on alternate days (excluding Sat/Sun), it is because I also post on my other blog on the others days. That other blog is The Tao of Spiritual Partnership, so named for my new book. Click here to visit the blog and/or to sign up for the feed.

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