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"A revelation of insight into the foundations of human suffering & transcendence. It not only lays out essential steps for inner freedom and joy but illuminates the way to true human potential." Paul Rademacher, author: A Spiritual Hitchhiker's Guide to the Universe

"The masterwork of a profoundly gifted healer of the soul. Dazzling, challenging, wondrously useful." Peggy Rubin, author: To Be and How To Be, Transforming Your Life Through Sacred Theatre

"Rewiring the Soul is one the best introductions to the spiritual life I've ever read. Not esoteric but real-world and practical. The implications are profound." Peter Shepherd, author: Daring To Be Yourself

Monday, November 12, 2012

Putting An End to the Suffering


So many people are suffering about something that occurred weeks, months, years, and even decades ago. Each time they think about whatever happened; each time they remember the events, they go through the same hurt as they did during the originating moment, if not more. Each time they focus on it, the pain is drilled even more deeply into their psyche and simultaneously, each time their attention is given to that moment - once again - the entire dynamic around it becomes stronger and stronger, and hence much harder to release.

People often say that they are unable to let go of pain because it was - precisely - so painful. We get that. We understand. And yet we all know other people who have also gone though great pain and yet were somehow able to let go of it. What is the difference between the two sets of people? Why can the first set not let go of the pain, but the second set can?

Many authors have written about this. Chris Griscom refers to it as the emotional body and writes that it 'sticks' to us until we make changes in our recognition and understanding of how it got there in the first place. Eckhart Tolle calls it the pain body and states that although it hurts, we cling to it (even wallow in it) because it has become so familiar to us. Caroline Myss talks about woundology and that often people refuse to let go of their wounds because they (the wounds and the whole dynamic around them: the conversations, etc.) have become their identity. Who would they be without them?

But all these explanations carry one essential element in them, and that is the manner in which change is produced. It is a choice we can consciously make. Oh, not all at once; not all in one day, but gently, bit by bit, with awareness and intention. Did the thought about 'my pain' just pop back into my head? Am I beginning to feel the familiar surge of pain? This is where you make the choice. Not that you will no longer feel the pain; not that you will no longer think these thoughts (going about it that way would not solve anything), but that you will choose - just now - to focus elsewhere. Just for this moment. Perhaps you'll choose to focus on beauty, on gratitude, perhaps you'll choose to practice (briefly) mindfulness (see previous articles about all these topics), but if you will make that conscious choice now, today, at the moment that the pain beckoned you once again, you will begin the process of eroding its strength in you. So simple.

Because after that, all you do, is repeat this process over and over and over until you begin to notice that the pain or the thoughts about the pain arise much less frequently. This is how you can put an end to your suffering ... simply by choosing to do so.


Note: If you are wondering why this blog is now only appearing on alternate days (excluding Sat/Sun), it is because I also post on my other blog on the others days. That other blog is The Tao of Spiritual Partnership, so named for my new book. Click here to visit the blog and/or to sign up for the feed.


For more about ending pain in your life and about becoming aware of the choices and attitudes you have at all times in order to transform your life, have a look at my book Rewiring the Soul: Finding the Possible Self (paperback or Kindle).

To download the first chapter, click here

Reviews From the Back Cover:

A revelation of insight into the foundations of human suffering & transcendence. It not only lays out essential steps for inner freedom & joy but illuminates the way to true human potential. Dr. Kortsch is a spiritual master for our time. Paul Rademacher, Executive Director, The Monroe Institute; author: A Spiritual Hitchhiker's Guide to the Universe

"The masterwork of a profoundly gifted healer of the soul. Dazzling, challenging, wondrously useful." Peggy Rubin, Director, Center for Sacred Theatre, Ashland, Oregon; author: To Be and How To Be, Transforming Your Life Through Sacred Theatre

"The instruction manual on rewiring the soul. An in-depth guide on life, love, spiritual evolution & our integration within the universe." Michael Habernig & April Hannah; Producers: The Path- The Afterlife & The Path 11 Documentaries

"Rewiring the Soul is one the best introductions to the spiritual life I've ever read. Not esoteric but real-world & practical. The implications are profound." Peter Shepherd; Founder Trans4mind.com; author: Daring To Be Yourself

"The human being's directory to the soul. A breakthrough for those seeking practical assistance, those of a more mystical bent & every soul awaiting discovery." Toni Petrinovich, Ph.D.; author: The Call: Awakening the Angelic Human





My new book The Tao of Spiritual Partnership is now also available in paperback format. The Kindle version will be released near the end of November 2012.

To download the first chapter, click here

From the Description on Amazon: More exciting than any other kind of relationship you have ever known, spiritual partnership is a path, a Tao, available to you so that you may transform your life. Spiritual partnership becomes background music to daily life allowing you to enhance the process of your growth and evolution.

This ground-breaking book addresses:

• relationship patterns that hold you back from a truly fulfilled life
• the strong connection between sexuality and spiritual partnership
• communication leading to true connection & lasting transformation of your relationship

It is precisely at the problematic crossroads so often encountered in relationships that we are offered the opportunity to create a new foundation based on mutual complementarity rather than need; a free relationship between two people who want to be together, rather than two people who need to be together. Needing another, we are told, is the measure of love, but for a fully conscious individual nothing could be further from the truth. And therein lies part of the secret and healing power of spiritual partnerships. 


Praise for The Tao of Spiritual Partnership 

“All humans seek the illusive touch of another's Soul, which opens us to the sense of belonging to something bigger than the self. Dr. Kortsch has given us the true "tao" of relationship in this brilliant exploration of emotional tapestry. We will be grateful for this illumination of spiritual partnership for generations to come." 
Chris Griscom: Spiritual Leader, Author 

“Eloquently and comprehensive, showing how your primary love relationship may be a sacred vessel that transports you and your partner to a place of mutual healing and expansion.” 
Robert Schwartz: Author of Your Soul’s Gift: The Healing Power of the Life You Planned Before You Were Born 

"The Tao of Spiritual Partnership is a unique blend of wit and wisdom; Dr. Kortsch encourages us to take responsibility for our relationships, while recognizing and seizing the opportunities for our own personal spiritual growth." 
William Buhlman, Author of Adventures Beyond the Body 

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