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"A revelation of insight into the foundations of human suffering & transcendence. It not only lays out essential steps for inner freedom and joy but illuminates the way to true human potential." Paul Rademacher, author: A Spiritual Hitchhiker's Guide to the Universe

"The masterwork of a profoundly gifted healer of the soul. Dazzling, challenging, wondrously useful." Peggy Rubin, author: To Be and How To Be, Transforming Your Life Through Sacred Theatre

"Rewiring the Soul is one the best introductions to the spiritual life I've ever read. Not esoteric but real-world and practical. The implications are profound." Peter Shepherd, author: Daring To Be Yourself

Wednesday, October 31, 2012

Using the Tools


There is so much information available to us today ... in this year, this decade, this century, this millennium ... particularly information that allows us to live better lives, not only more productive lives, but much better lives on levels that go way beyond that.

We can be healthier, due to the information cutting-edge science is constantly feeding us. We can be more content and happier, less stressed, more in tune with ourselves, in a much better place inside ourselves, simply due to information that is constantly pouring out at us on so many levels.

Tools are available to us that no one would have - or could have - dreamed about a mere decade ago ... tools that allow us to resolve issues that in the last century were dealt with over years of treatment, and even then, more often than not, simply not resolved.

But we - here and now in this time of our history - have tools ... if we only go out looking for them.

Or ... if we already have them, if we've already received or found them ... if we would only stop procrastinating and use them.

Today it's about that. This post is about reminding you to use what you already have gleaned, rather than just reading it or hearing it and then not doing anything about it. There is so much, and yet we tend to sit back and vegetate.

I often think that part of the reason for this lack of initiative is that we are lazy and not disciplined when it comes to making changes - even positive changes - that can impact our lives.

I also often think it has to do with the fact that so many of us don't really allow the possibility of real change being possible enter our lives. We've been taught so long and so forcefully that change only comes with a price tag of hard work, that we are not excited about trying some of the tools we may have learned about at a workshop last weekend, or read about in a book or article the other day, or observed in a program on TV or on YouTube.

You might also like to listen to the audio file of a radio show I did about this topic some time ago,
I've Been to all the Seminars, and all the Workshops, and I've Read all the Books, But My Life is Still the Same... in order to hear more about this topic of our procrastination when it comes to not rushing out to make changes even when all the tools are already in our hands. (NOTE: Once you click on the above link, scroll down to the "Awareness & Consciousness" section and find the audio file ... in alphabetical order.)


For much more about how to consciously choose your thoughts and feelings, hence taking charge of them, and about becoming aware of the choices and attitudes you have at all times in order to transform your life, have a look at my book Rewiring the Soul: Finding the Possible Self (paperback or Kindle).

To download the first chapter, click here

From the Description on Amazon: Ask anyone, whatever their circumstances, if their life is vibrant, fulfilling, harmonious and happy. An honest reply is likely to be 'no', because to answer a truthful 'yes' is no mean feat. Only to grow psychologically and emotionally is not enough. And only to grow spiritually is not enough either. All three dimensions need to be developed in order to realize your full potential. If you are willing to assume total responsibility for the self and to start what is an on-going journey, you will quickly begin to glimpse the first fruits of the ultimate goal: inner well-being, freedom, peace, harmony and joy. This book sets out the pathway to self-mastery and self-discovery and walking that pathway will be the most exciting adventure of your life.



My new book The Tao of Spiritual Partnership is now available in paperback version. The Kindle e-book will be released near the end of November 2012.

To download the first chapter, click here

From the Description on Amazon: More exciting than any other kind of relationship you have ever known, spiritual partnership is a path, a Tao, available to you so that you may transform your life. Spiritual partnership becomes background music to daily life allowing you to enhance the process of your growth and evolution.

Praise for The Tao of Spiritual Partnership 

“All humans seek the illusive touch of another's Soul, which opens us to the sense of belonging to something bigger than the self. Dr. Kortsch has given us the true "tao" of relationship in this brilliant exploration of emotional tapestry. We will be grateful for this illumination of spiritual partnership for generations to come." 
Chris Griscom: Spiritual Leader, Author 

“Eloquently and comprehensive, showing how your primary love relationship may be a sacred vessel that transports you and your partner to a place of mutual healing and expansion.” 
Robert Schwartz: Author of Your Soul’s Gift: The Healing Power of the Life You Planned Before You Were Born 

"The Tao of Spiritual Partnership is a unique blend of wit and wisdom; Dr. Kortsch encourages us to take responsibility for our relationships, while recognizing and seizing the opportunities for our own personal spiritual growth." 
William Buhlman, Author of Adventures Beyond the Body 

Tuesday, October 30, 2012

The Bad Habit of Growing Old


When I was a little girl, being 35 was considered pretty old. When I was in my late teens, Jane Fonda yelled: 40 is beautiful! When I was in my early 20's I couldn't imagine having long hair after I turned 30 because dignified women of a certain age didn't do that. When I was in my 30's reaching the age of 50 seemed very old indeed. And yet now all of that has changed.

It hasn't changed just because I have changed in my process (and passage beyond) all of the above-mentioned ages, but because much of the world has changed as well, as we have come to realize that being chronologically old does not mean one is old, nor does it mean that one can no longer be physically and mentally fit.

But perhaps more important than everything else, is the realization that most of it has to do with an inner attitude - and that of course includes being very conscious, assuming responsibility for your own happiness and having some sense of purpose and meaning in your life. As long as that attitude - towards aging, towards always continuing to learn (and the endless neuroplasticity of the brain), even if you're 99, and towards life in general, remains young, there is no reason to be old. André Maurois wrote: Growing old is a bad habit which a busy man has no time to form.

For much more about how to consciously choose your thoughts and feelings, hence taking charge of them, and about becoming aware of the choices and attitudes you have at all times in order to transform your life, have a look at my book Rewiring the Soul: Finding the Possible Self (paperback or Kindle).

To download the first chapter, click here

From the Description on Amazon: Ask anyone, whatever their circumstances, if their life is vibrant, fulfilling, harmonious and happy. An honest reply is likely to be 'no', because to answer a truthful 'yes' is no mean feat. Only to grow psychologically and emotionally is not enough. And only to grow spiritually is not enough either. All three dimensions need to be developed in order to realize your full potential. If you are willing to assume total responsibility for the self and to start what is an on-going journey, you will quickly begin to glimpse the first fruits of the ultimate goal: inner well-being, freedom, peace, harmony and joy. This book sets out the pathway to self-mastery and self-discovery and walking that pathway will be the most exciting adventure of your life.



My new book The Tao of Spiritual Partnership is now available in paperback version. The Kindle version will be released near the end of November 2012.

To download the first chapter, click here

From the Description on Amazon: More exciting than any other kind of relationship you have ever known, spiritual partnership is a path, a Tao, available to you so that you may transform your life. Spiritual partnership becomes background music to daily life allowing you to enhance the process of your growth and evolution.

This ground-breaking book addresses:

• relationship patterns that hold you back from a truly fulfilled life
• the strong connection between sexuality and spiritual partnership
• communication leading to true connection & lasting transformation of your relationship

It is precisely at the problematic crossroads so often encountered in relationships that we are offered the opportunity to create a new foundation based on mutual complementarity rather than need; a free relationship between two people who want to be together, rather than two people who need to be together. Needing another, we are told, is the measure of love, but for a fully conscious individual nothing could be further from the truth. And therein lies part of the secret and healing power of spiritual partnerships. 


Praise for The Tao of Spiritual Partnership 

“All humans seek the illusive touch of another's Soul, which opens us to the sense of belonging to something bigger than the self. Dr. Kortsch has given us the true "tao" of relationship in this brilliant exploration of emotional tapestry. We will be grateful for this illumination of spiritual partnership for generations to come." 
Chris Griscom: Spiritual Leader, Author 

“Eloquently and comprehensive, showing how your primary love relationship may be a sacred vessel that transports you and your partner to a place of mutual healing and expansion.” 
Robert Schwartz: Author of Your Soul’s Gift: The Healing Power of the Life You Planned Before You Were Born 

"The Tao of Spiritual Partnership is a unique blend of wit and wisdom; Dr. Kortsch encourages us to take responsibility for our relationships, while recognizing and seizing the opportunities for our own personal spiritual growth." 
William Buhlman, Author of Adventures Beyond the Body 

"The Tao of Spiritual Partnership is an excellent guide to making your relationships blossom. Dr. Kortsch deftly shows the way to satisfying interactions with the loves of your life." 
Jim Wawro, Author of Awakening Counsel: A Practical Guide to Creating the Life You Want to Live. 

"Gabriella Kortsch takes us through a journey that covers most aspects of human relationships from new-born to adult, leading us into the power of spiritual partnerships. The importance of fulfillment of a life well-lived through understanding and practicing self-love is paramount and candidly expressed in this one-of-a-kind book. The promise "to love without needing" is profoundly delivered!" 
Ali R. Rodriguez: Business Coach Strategist, Co-Author of Mastering the Art of Success with Les Brown and Jack Canfield

Monday, October 29, 2012

Risks & Benefits


In which areas of your life do you take risks? Perhaps you like white water rafting in Costa Rica, or perhaps you enjoy parasailing. Perhaps you play the stock market, or perhaps you allow yourself to seek love even when there is no guarantee you will be loved back. Perhaps you open your own business during a time such as the current recession because you believe there is a niche for your product, or perhaps you decide to take some money you have inherited, using it to not only pay your tuition as you go back to school, but also to live on during those years as you re-engineer your life, in order that you may start a totally different career at your age.

What are the benefits for you in the taking of such risks? Isn't a part of it that it makes you feel alive as little else does? And another part of it is that you know that your existence has value, is allowing you to grow, is bringing you closer to purpose and meaning, and above all, is bringing you closer to yourself. Wouldn't it be devastating - having realized the benefits that risk can bring - to live a life of staid security in order to not deal with the risk that risk entails?

Paul Tillich wrote: He who risks and fails can be forgiven. He who never risks and never fails is a failure in his whole being.

For more information about dealing with your thoughts that may keep you from ever taking any healthy risks, have a look at my book Rewiring the Soul: Finding the Possible Self, available in paperback and e-book for Kindle format.

Click here to download the first chapter.

From the Reviews (see Amazon for many more):

In Rewiring the Soul, Gabriella Kortsch shows us in very practical ways how to lead a soul-guided, soul-infused life. With the wisdom of one who has traveled far and learned much, Dr. Kortsch blazes a path for all who have the courage to follow. The rewards for walking that path are great: an understanding of why we are here; an expanded awareness of who we really are; a new or heightened sense of purpose and meaning; and a deeper appreciation of life's many blessings. Highly recommended.

ROBERT SCHWARTZ, author, Your Soul's Plan: Discovering the Real Meaning of the Life You Planned Before You Were Born



Friday, October 26, 2012

Avoid the Naysayers


You had a really great idea. You told someone about it. They found a really good reason why it would never work. You killed your idea.

But a short while later someone else made your idea work.

You tell a friend about how much you are looking forward to your vacation. He smiles and tells you that you will need to be careful because when he went to the place you are going to, he got mugged, and the hotel overcharged him. Also the mosquitoes ravaged him. Your pleasure has been smudged. You worriedly wonder if you made a bad choice. You are no longer looking forward to your vacation without thinking negative thoughts.

The naysayers, the negative thinkers, who often call themselves realists, nevertheless tend to emanate a negative energy over whatever it is that you are planning, if you listen to them. Understand that your own energy and emotions are affected by the people you associate with, and unless you are very strong within yourself, their negative effect on you may cause you to back out of something you had been very positive about, and that may very well have come to a good conclusion.

Naysayers tend to get their strength by deflating or taking away the strength of others. Not because they are terrible people, but because their modus vivendi feeds on looking at the glass as being half full. It's their habit, their ingrained way of thinking. They could change it if they became aware of what causes it and made the conscious choice to change. Don't let them push you into becoming one of them.

And don't let them cause you to abandon your dream.


For much more about how to consciously choose your thoughts and feelings, hence taking charge of them, and about becoming aware of the choices you have at all times in order to transform your life, have a look at my book Rewiring the Soul: Finding the Possible Self (paperback or Kindle).

To download the first chapter, click here

From the Description on Amazon: Ask anyone, whatever their circumstances, if their life is vibrant, fulfilling, harmonious and happy. An honest reply is likely to be 'no', because to answer a truthful 'yes' is no mean feat. Only to grow psychologically and emotionally is not enough. And only to grow spiritually is not enough either. All three dimensions need to be developed in order to realize your full potential. If you are willing to assume total responsibility for the self and to start what is an on-going journey, you will quickly begin to glimpse the first fruits of the ultimate goal: inner well-being, freedom, peace, harmony and joy. This book sets out the pathway to self-mastery and self-discovery and walking that pathway will be the most exciting adventure of your life.

Thursday, October 25, 2012

Another Day of Loving


How much loving is there in your life? And by loving I mean all the variations of love we know:
  • love for children
  • love for parents
  • love for partners
  • love for friends
  • love for yourself
  • love for beauty
  • love for the vicarious thrill of doing whatever you enjoy most
  • love for awe-inspiring dawns and spectacular sunsets
  • love for refreshing rain and silent snowfall
  • love for brilliant sunshine and love for velvet nights
  • but also love for life and all those who share it with you ... we are all one.
The Buddha said: Until he has unconditional and unbiased love for all beings, man will not find peace. 

And Kahlil Gibran said: Wake at dawn with a winged heart and give thanks for another day of loving.

Let's choose to make this another day of loving.


For much more about love, as well as becoming aware of your inner self, and of transforming the way you look at and live your life, have a look at my book Rewiring the Soul: Finding the Possible Self (paperback or Kindle).

To download the first chapter, click here

Reviews From the Back Cover:

A revelation of insight into the foundations of human suffering & transcendence. It not only lays out essential steps for inner freedom & joy but illuminates the way to true human potential. Dr. Kortsch is a spiritual master for our time. Paul Rademacher, Executive Director, The Monroe Institute; author: A Spiritual Hitchhiker's Guide to the Universe

"The masterwork of a profoundly gifted healer of the soul. Dazzling, challenging, wondrously useful." Peggy Rubin, Director, Center for Sacred Theatre, Ashland, Oregon; author: To Be and How To Be, Transforming Your Life Through Sacred Theatre

"The instruction manual on rewiring the soul. An in-depth guide on life, love, spiritual evolution & our integration within the universe." Michael Habernig & April Hannah; Producers: The Path- The Afterlife & The Path 11 Documentaries

"Rewiring the Soul is one the best introductions to the spiritual life I've ever read. Not esoteric but real-world & practical. The implications are profound." Peter Shepherd; Founder Trans4mind.com; author: Daring To Be Yourself

"The human being's directory to the soul. A breakthrough for those seeking practical assistance, those of a more mystical bent & every soul awaiting discovery." Toni Petrinovich, Ph.D.; author: The Call: Awakening the Angelic Human

Wednesday, October 24, 2012

Are Clouds Affecting You?


Clouds in our life don't just appear with inclement weather, obviously. Any life worth living, has its fair measure of the sort of cloud that may cause us to believe that things are hopeless and bleak. Clouds may appear in the guise of financial difficulties, health issues, the pain that love occasions, or any number of other clouds. But here's the thing: what happens after the clouds show up in your life - and especially what happens inside of you - is actually of greater importance than the cloud itself.

Your initial reaction to a cloud may be one of dismay, fear, anger, or any other negative emotion. Such a reaction is human. It's normal. We understand it. But this reaction can be - if you so choose - very brief, if you then decide that your main priority is not to continue with the reaction, but to regain some measure of inner balance. Such a decision would mean that for the next few minutes you would be maintaining some kind of inner dialogue in order to regain this inner balance, and you would also - hopefully - be making good use of some of the 'muscles' you have created since starting to read this blog: muscles that allow you to remain very aware at all times, and very conscious of the fact that your inner well-being is your responsibility. Your inner well-being lies in your hands and not in the outer circumstances of your life.

There is much material on this blog that will help you move in this direction, if you so choose.


And of course, for much more about all these subjects, as well as becoming aware of your inner self, and of transforming the way you look at and live your life, have a look at my book Rewiring the Soul: Finding the Possible Self (paperback or Kindle).

To download the first chapter, click here

Reviews From the Back Cover:

A revelation of insight into the foundations of human suffering & transcendence. It not only lays out essential steps for inner freedom & joy but illuminates the way to true human potential. Dr. Kortsch is a spiritual master for our time. Paul Rademacher, Executive Director, The Monroe Institute; author: A Spiritual Hitchhiker's Guide to the Universe

"The masterwork of a profoundly gifted healer of the soul. Dazzling, challenging, wondrously useful." Peggy Rubin, Director, Center for Sacred Theatre, Ashland, Oregon; author: To Be and How To Be, Transforming Your Life Through Sacred Theatre

"The instruction manual on rewiring the soul. An in-depth guide on life, love, spiritual evolution & our integration within the universe." Michael Habernig & April Hannah; Producers: The Path- The Afterlife & The Path 11 Documentaries

"Rewiring the Soul is one the best introductions to the spiritual life I've ever read. Not esoteric but real-world & practical. The implications are profound." Peter Shepherd; Founder Trans4mind.com; author: Daring To Be Yourself

"The human being's directory to the soul. A breakthrough for those seeking practical assistance, those of a more mystical bent & every soul awaiting discovery." Toni Petrinovich, Ph.D.; author: The Call: Awakening the Angelic Human

Tuesday, October 23, 2012

Reaching For the Sky



Today’s premise concerns ways of thinking and feeling about our own future. You know the old adage by James Allen: As a man thinketh in his heart, so shall he be. And the Buddha put it slightly differently: We are what we think. All that we are arises with our thoughts. With our thoughts we make the world.

So as you move into your new day, week, months and year, think of those two quotes and recognize that if you are not reaching and stretching, you may never reach the sky. And one of the ways to reach and stretch is by lifting your thoughts to other places than those which are your usual places. Where do your thoughts normally go? How do you normally think?

What do you say when someone asks you how you are? Or how things are going? Do you say the truth when things are not going well? Or do you pretend they are ok?

Here’s the thing: if you pretend they are ok, you leave no room for talking about the truth, but if you tell the truth, you must be very careful how you word it. This is not about the person to whom you are talking, but about yourself … what words are being engraved in your mind, heart and soul as you speak?

·         Things are tough right now at my office, they’re laying people off left and right
·         I’ve had a flu for weeks and can’t seem to get over it
·         Everyone has had to take pay cuts in my department, and since my wife was laid off from her job last summer, we’ve been having trouble making ends meet
·         I’ve been trying to get an exhibition together, but I can’t find a sponsor (or I am having a hard time   being inspired in my painting)
·         My husband and I have been seeing a therapist but our marriage really seems doomed

Clearly, all of these statements may be spot on for your particular situation, but you see, when you phrase your predicament in those kinds of terms, you are setting – so to speak – the current situation in stone. You leave no room for improvement in the way you phrase your answers. And hence – perhaps – you limit the room for improvement in your mind.

Here are some alternatives to the above sentences and before you call me a Pollyanna, or falsely positive thinker, give me a chance to offer you my thoughts please:

·         Due to the current climate in the workforce, I’ve been taking some free online courses to prepare myself for a horizontal move in my field, should the need arise. I’ve had a careful look at my CV and I’ve been networking and meeting a lot of very interesting contacts

·         I’ve been researching on the internet to see if there are some alternative methods available that might help me get over this flu that has been hanging on, and for the past few days I’ve seen a marked improvement thanks to this remedy that involves orange juice and cayenne pepper

·         My wife and I have been looking into selling organic produce from our garden at the local farmer’s market. I help her on the actual sale days on weekends, and she takes care of the gardening because she has extra free time right now due to getting laid off. Things are tight, but we are getting along fine

·         I’ve been attending free lectures at the local community college as an auditing student to find new inspiration for paintings for the exhibition I want to organize, and not only am I finding myself coming up with some great new ideas, but I’ve also met a professor whose wife owns a local gallery and we’re going to get together for coffee next week to see if the exhibition could be held there

·         My wife and I have been seeing a therapist about our problems, and nothing much was happening, but one day talking about it, we both realized we had been pretending to ourselves that therapy wasn’t working, when what was really happening, was that we weren’t actually implementing any of the suggestions the therapist was offering, so since then, we’ve been working on that and although we aren’t out of the woods, we are beginning to see that maybe there is hope for us after all

So I’m confident that you can see the difference in the two types of phrasing, and yet both are essentially about the same issue … it’s just that in the second set of phrases, the way the problem is expressed leaves room for improvement, solutions, and success in your mind.

The story you tell yourself – about anything at all – has a great deal to do with the eventual outcome. This is totally in your hands. You choose your stories. But in order to come up with stories that form part of the second set of phrases, you must be conscious and aware. You must have assumed responsibility for your own well-being. And so, at the beginning of this new year, we come full circle: make a priority of yourself. Find inner freedom by reaching for the sky, by remaining conscious and by willingly taking on responsibility for absolutely everything you think, feel, say and do.

What story are you telling yourself today?

For more information about how you can take the state of your energy into your own hands, via your feelings and thoughts (all of which can change our body), and in so doing, affect our mind and spirit, and for more about love and loving the self and self-transformation, have a look at my book Rewiring the Soul: Finding the Possible Self, available in paperback and e-book for Kindle format.

Click here to download the first chapter.

From the Reviews (see Amazon for many more):

In Rewiring the Soul, Gabriella Kortsch shows us in very practical ways how to lead a soul-guided, soul-infused life. With the wisdom of one who has traveled far and learned much, Dr. Kortsch blazes a path for all who have the courage to follow. The rewards for walking that path are great: an understanding of why we are here; an expanded awareness of who we really are; a new or heightened sense of purpose and meaning; and a deeper appreciation of life's many blessings. Highly recommended.

ROBERT SCHWARTZ, author, Your Soul's Plan: Discovering the Real Meaning of the Life You Planned Before You Were Born



Monday, October 22, 2012

Setting Yourself Free To Fly


Many of us think that if we were free to fly - figuratively speaking - in our lives, it would mean that we have no responsibilities and that possibly we would have a good deal of money meaning that we would not need to work, and that therefore we could just do as we please: i.e., we could fly.

And while there is some truth to that concept, I believe it actually works in a slightly different way. First, let's look at people who do indeed live in the above-described manner. You probably know some yourself, or at least, you know of some. Have you not noticed that they become indolent? They are often moody or bored. They somehow don't seem to enjoy their lives as much as you might imagine while you are looking at that kind of life from the other side of the fence. There is a lackluster quality to them.

Now let's examine what happens if you live a life of discipline (and we could enumerate any number of very wealthy celebrities who seem to live a fairy tale life, but yet, who work extremely hard), and you then use the momentum that discipline gives you, in order to fly. Your joy, your satisfaction, your excitement with regards to the part of your life that allows you to fly would be quite different from the feelings the people in my first example demonstrate.

Could the difference in the second instance be due to the fact that the very discipline itself allows you to experience emotions with regards to the flying that you could not feel, were your entire life one of flying? Could it be that we need the juxtaposition of the two: discipline and flying, in order to truly be free? And that without meaning, life holds only a scant chance to enjoy the flying, and that without some measure of discipline, there is no meaning? Julie Andrews put it this way: Some people regard discipline as a chore. For me, it is a kind of order that sets me free to fly.

Image: Pyramid of the Sun, Teotihuacan, Mexico


For much more information about finding meaning in your life, about your attitudes and thoughts and the choices you make in order to live a conscious life, have a look at my book Rewiring the Soul: Finding the Possible Self, available at Amazon as paperback or e-book for Kindle.


Click here to download the first chapter.


A Review (From Amazon):

"The masterwork of a profoundly gifted healer of the soul. Dazzling, challenging, wondrously useful." Peggy Rubin, Director, Center for Sacred Theatre, Ashland, Oregon; author: To Be and How To Be, Transforming Your Life Through Sacred Theatre

Excerpt from an Interview:

Who is the book written for? Rewiring the Soul is written for anybody who suffers and I guess that means just about all of us! It is written for anybody who has not yet experienced enduring happiness and inner well-being; anybody who is reaching for inner peace; anybody whose life is not as they would wish it to be.

What can a reader expect to gain by reading this book? What makes it different from most other transformational or self-help books out there? So many wonderful teachers tell us about working on our spiritual selves. So many other wonderful teachers show us how to work on our psycho-emotional selves. But very few actually integrate the two. And Rewiring the Soul is my response to that challenge. Rewiring the Soul brings together the need to take your daily life in hand with the need to put your spiritual life in order as well. By daily life I mean your personal life, your professional life, the way you do or do not love yourself and all that such an attitude entails: conscious awareness, healthy boundaries, meaning in your life, recognizing you always have a choice, and taking responsibility for all your choices, etc., and by spiritual life I mean the inner connection to your eternal self.

If you have learned how to meditate, or do yoga, or whatever it is that you do, have you also learned how to observe yourself in the middle of an argument with your rebellious teenage son or your angry partner and hence choose to react differently because you have learned to love yourself enough to do so? If you have learned how to communicate more effectively with your children, spouse, friends, colleagues or employees, have you also learned how to be mindful and connect to yourself in meaningful ways to achieve that spiritual balance in your life?

While Rewiring the Soul is about so much more than that, those previous examples give an idea of what my book is about and how it does so in such a way that our psychological and spiritual selves nurture each other.

In a nutshell: neither the spiritual nor the psychological or emotional dimensions of your life will work if you neglect:
  • your inner connection to the eternal self while you seek happiness in the outer world
  • your happiness in the outer world while you seek the connection to the inner eternal self

It was Goethe who said "If everyone will sweep in front of their own door, soon the entire world will be clean". In Rewiring the Soul 'sweeping in front of your own door' means bringing yourself to the utmost point of inner and outer growth, creating progress in body, mind, and soul. This literally means that you have already begun to change the world because of how you are changing yourself.

Are there many exercises in the book? Not at all. This book does not mean hard work, or spending a lot of time doing specific things. It simply means that as you read - if you so desire - you begin to incorporate small changes into your daily life. And so it begins. And the quality of your life changes...

How did you come to write this book? For years the essential content of Rewiring the Soul was like a small, recurring voice in my head; it was always there, and simply would not leave me alone. I had dozens of excuses for not writing it: I was working on my Ph.D. in psychology, I was teaching at a state university, I had three sons, later I was occupied with moving back to Spain, I was setting up my private practice, I had a monthly newsletter to write in English and Spanish, I had a weekly one-hour radio show to broadcast, I had a daily blog post to write, I facilitated numerous workshops and gave frequent speeches, and apart from all of this busy activity and work, sometimes I even had a life. In short, I told myself the book would simply have to wait. But just as a splinter under your skin eventually needs to be seen to, I ultimately realized that the only way I was going to be able to honor the more and more loudly clamoring voice in my head - and heart - was to sit down and write the book.

And you know, that goes to meaning. We all need meaning in our lives, and although I had many things that gave much significance to my life already, the inner urging and excitement I felt each time I thought about Rewiring the Soul compelled me to write the book. Rumi puts it beautifully: "When you do things from your soul, you feel a river moving in you, a joy".

Friday, October 19, 2012

Happiness: Has it Become a Science or is it a Question of Luck?


Are we born more prone to be happy or sad? Is it a question of genes? Does our environment make a difference? Our socio-economic status, the level of our intelligence, our emotional satisfaction, or the state of our physical health? Or could it be that we can decide how happy or unhappy we are?

Happiness and Our Bodies

According to recent psychological research, people who show the highest results in tests of happiness, optimism and contentment
·         Develop about 50% more anti-bodies than average when subjected to flu vaccines
·         Have a reduced risk of cardio-vascular disease
·         Show a lower index of pulmonary disease
·         Show a lower incidence of diabetes
·         Have less hypertension than individuals who are less content
·         And as indicated in a 2004 study carried out in Holland, further reduced their risk of death by 50% over a period of nine years

Clearly, the neurochemistry of happiness, in other words, how the brain looks and reacts if you are happy, has a great deal to say about your physical health and even the length of your life.

Plasticity of the Brain & Adult Neurogenesis

Neuroscientists have found that the brain is highly plastic, meaning that depending on the type of experiences it undergoes, it is capable of rewiring itself. Depending on an individual’s activities – both physical and intellectual - the brain can grow new connections or dendrites between cells – and has been proven to be capable of adult neurogenesis, or new cell growth after adulthood, contrary to all prior research – and thus to become more active, even in old age. Even negative experiences can be beneficial, according to Richard Davidson from the University of Wisconsin’s Laboratory for Affective Neuroscience. Therefore, not only can the brain reach higher levels of happiness, but – as Davidson published in 2004 - it can deliberately induce a state of happiness.

Are Depression and Happiness Emotional States Beyond Our Control?

Most people believe that depression and happiness are emotional states beyond their control. Breakthrough data – happily - shows otherwise.

The New York Times and Time Magazine have been publishing fascinating research on what is being called the new science of happiness. The American Psychological Association (APA) has been receiving and bestowing grants in order to study the elusive mystery of what does and does not make people satisfied with life.

What Makes Us Happy?

So let’s cut to the chase: what exactly makes us happy according to the latest research?

Wealth? Once our basic needs are met, additional income does little to raise one’s sense of satisfaction with life.

Good Education or High IQ? Much as they are assets to have in a lifetime, neither does much to raise one’s sense of satisfaction with life either.

Youth? Not this one either. In actual fact, research indicates that older people are more typically satisfied with their lives than the young, and the young have been found to be sad more frequently than the older populations.

How About Marriage? Here research indicates that by and large married individuals are generally happier than singles, but this may be caused by the fact that they were happier to begin with.

Sunshine? Further studies show us that this also is not what makes us happy.

How About Religious Faith or Spirituality? In this case research demonstrates that religious faith or spirituality truly does appear to lift our spirits, although it is not conclusive whether this is due to the spiritual part or the community part that spiritual and religious practice imply.

What About Friends? A 2002 study clearly indicates that friends belong to the strongest contributing factors to happiness. Thus it becomes clear that close connections to friends, family and community, as well as a desire to spending quality time with them, highly influences an individual’s state of happiness. More recently, in October 2006, Daniel Goleman’s article in the New York Times addresses the biology of emotional healing. He refers to “emotional contagion, the tendency of one person to catch the feelings of another, particularly if strongly expressed” and the possibility that this further explains why family and friends contribute to our happiness and not only emotional, but also physical well-being.

Most Important Components of Happiness

Martin Seligman, author of Authentic Happiness, has demonstrated through his research that there are three components of happiness:

  • Pleasure: what makes me feel good. (See also Flow by M. Csikszentmihalyi)
  • Engagement: how deeply I am involved with my family, work, romance and hobbies.
  • Meaning: using my personal strengths to serve some greater purpose. (For further information on engagement and meaning, also see my article Finding a Meaning for Your Life)
 How Can We Become Happier?

One of the most compelling issues in happiness research is how much our happiness is under our own control. Do we influence it, is it due to genetics, or is it pure luck? Specifically, what can we do to become happier?

  • Keeping a Gratitude Journal. Amazingly, the most important component to maintaining and/or raising our level of happiness is accomplished by keeping a gratitude journal. By writing down - on a daily basis - five things we are grateful for (the blue sky, the fresh smell of a baby’s skin, a delicious cup of latte, having beautiful eyes, being capable of thinking on one’s feet, etc.), physical health is improved, energy levels are raised, even pain and fatigue can be relieved.
  • Performing acts of altruism and kindness gives a significant boost to test subjects.
  • Figuring out your strengths and finding new ways to use them (see Seligman’s website www.reflectivehappiness.com for testing yourself)
  • Having or developing a capacity for love and kindness is another factor that raises levels of happiness, hence it is in your own interest that you consciously work on these aspects of your personality
  • You can consciously work on changing your DNA (for research on this topic see also my September 2005 Newsletter DNA Can Change According to the Feelings of the Individual)
  • Water crystals and the body’s molecules show similar results as the above indicated DNA research (see work by Masuru Emoto: The Hidden Messages in Water, also mentioned in the film What the Bleep Do We Know?, and work by Candace Pert: The Molecules of Emotion).
  • Emotional-energetic barometer (see also my article The Energy Barometer: Make Your Mind Body Connection Work For You ).
  • Using mind-body observation leads to greater consciousness and awareness of the self which leads to a greater capacity to use the information you are receiving in your own benefit and in raising your levels of happiness. 
Is Happiness Luck or is it up to us?

So, going back to our original question, contained within the title of this article: has happiness become a science, or is it a question of luck, we are now definitively in a position to say, that while it has become more and more the focus of much concentrated academic and scientific research, more than ever, happiness is in the hands of the individual, in your hands, depending on what you do, how you think, how you react, and above all, how conscious and aware you are of yourself in those moments when you feel less than happy and when you could actually begin to change that and make yourself rise to another level of feeling (see also my March 2006 Newsletter: Intentional Focus: Your Happiness, Your Success, and the Law of Attraction).

The knowledge that your happiness is in your hands, that you have choices to make, is the beginning of a new way of looking at your well-being, and how you go about your days and your life. In it, as in all other aspects of becoming conscious and aware, lies freedom.


For much more about choosing happiness in your life and how to go about getting there, about how to consciously choose your thoughts and feelings, hence taking charge of them, and about becoming aware of the choices you have at all times in order to transform your life, have a look at my book Rewiring the Soul: Finding the Possible Self (paperback or Kindle).

To download the first chapter, click here

From the Description on Amazon: Ask anyone, whatever their circumstances, if their life is vibrant, fulfilling, harmonious and happy. An honest reply is likely to be 'no', because to answer a truthful 'yes' is no mean feat. Only to grow psychologically and emotionally is not enough. And only to grow spiritually is not enough either. All three dimensions need to be developed in order to realize your full potential. If you are willing to assume total responsibility for the self and to start what is an on-going journey, you will quickly begin to glimpse the first fruits of the ultimate goal: inner well-being, freedom, peace, harmony and joy. This book sets out the pathway to self-mastery and self-discovery and walking that pathway will be the most exciting adventure of your life.

Thursday, October 18, 2012

Where Peace Begins


This is not a post about world peace. It's just about peace between you and whomever you do not have peace with. A friend, a spouse, a child, a parent, a neighbour, a colleague. You may be right or the other person may be right in whatever it is that is causing strife between you two, but as long as there is no focus on the real issue which is peace, nothing will change between the two of you and a lack of peace will continue to reign.

In my article Giving Up the Need to Be Right, I wrote: 
  • "Imagine you are the parent of a teenager who is pushing your buttons. Clearly, you have to show your child how wrong he/she is and how right you are; clearly you have to show your child – if necessary by anger – that he/she must change because they are wrong and you are right … or do you? What would happen if you let go of the need to be right, and you kept your eye instead on the love between the two of you? Keeping your eyes on the love instead of on the need to be right will promote the health of the relationship much more than proving you are right would, but much more than that, by keeping your eye on the love (even if it’s the partially buried love, or the forgotten love, or hidden love), you will be showing your child so many things."
Keeping your eyes on the love (in the case of a person who is close to you, or keeping your eyes on peace in the case of someone who is less close to you, is fundamentally important if you want peace to begin. Your ego (and the other party's ego) is not what is important, but rather, you could choose to focus on love and/or peace.

And today I ran across an old quote from Mother Teresa that seems so appropriate: Peace begins with a smile.

Are you smiling today?

For much more about the ego, peace, as well as becoming aware of your inner self, and of transforming the way you look at and live your life, have a look at my book Rewiring the Soul: Finding the Possible Self (paperback or Kindle).

To download the first chapter, click here

Reviews From the Back Cover:

A revelation of insight into the foundations of human suffering & transcendence. It not only lays out essential steps for inner freedom & joy but illuminates the way to true human potential. Dr. Kortsch is a spiritual master for our time. Paul Rademacher, Executive Director, The Monroe Institute; author: A Spiritual Hitchhiker's Guide to the Universe

"The masterwork of a profoundly gifted healer of the soul. Dazzling, challenging, wondrously useful." Peggy Rubin, Director, Center for Sacred Theatre, Ashland, Oregon; author: To Be and How To Be, Transforming Your Life Through Sacred Theatre

"The instruction manual on rewiring the soul. An in-depth guide on life, love, spiritual evolution & our integration within the universe." Michael Habernig & April Hannah; Producers: The Path- The Afterlife & The Path 11 Documentaries

"Rewiring the Soul is one the best introductions to the spiritual life I've ever read. Not esoteric but real-world & practical. The implications are profound." Peter Shepherd; Founder Trans4mind.com; author: Daring To Be Yourself

"The human being's directory to the soul. A breakthrough for those seeking practical assistance, those of a more mystical bent & every soul awaiting discovery." Toni Petrinovich, Ph.D.; author: The Call: Awakening the Angelic Human

Wednesday, October 17, 2012

What Will It Take To Get You From Here To There?


People have often asked me how I manage to do everything I do (private practice, authoring two books (the second one will be released next week, October 25th), a monthly newsletter in English and Spanish with a feature article, daily blog posts, workshop facilitation, active social networking, public speaking, leading a weekly support group, keeping a broad eye on new publications in varying fields I am interested in and that impact on my own work, etc.). Or they may ask me how to do a specific thing of the different things I do. When I answer by indicating that much of it is 'stick-to-it-iveness', another portion is not giving up because at times it may seem too hard or too much, and another part is simply setting out a list of tasks that ensure that I will reach a specific goal in any one of the different arenas to which I dedicate myself, I often hear: oh, but that is too much work.

And that is the implied answer to the question in the title of today's blog post: what will it take to get you from here to there? It is - pure and simple - dedication, perseverance, and hard work.


For much more about meaning in your life and how to go about getting there, about how to consciously choose your thoughts and feelings, hence taking charge of them, and about becoming aware of the choices you have at all times in order to transform your life, have a look at my book Rewiring the Soul: Finding the Possible Self (paperback or Kindle).

To download the first chapter, click here

From the Description on Amazon: Ask anyone, whatever their circumstances, if their life is vibrant, fulfilling, harmonious and happy. An honest reply is likely to be 'no', because to answer a truthful 'yes' is no mean feat. Only to grow psychologically and emotionally is not enough. And only to grow spiritually is not enough either. All three dimensions need to be developed in order to realize your full potential. If you are willing to assume total responsibility for the self and to start what is an on-going journey, you will quickly begin to glimpse the first fruits of the ultimate goal: inner well-being, freedom, peace, harmony and joy. This book sets out the pathway to self-mastery and self-discovery and walking that pathway will be the most exciting adventure of your life.

Tuesday, October 16, 2012

Changing Your Fate


Role models and examples do help us. We can gather courage from them. We can tell ourselves: if they could, so can I. And so today I will mention a few note-worthy individuals who were unable to change their fate, and yet who not only survived, but became, I venture to say, better people for it. because of the fact that they changed their attitude in the face of their 'fate'.

Nelson Mandela: you know his story, and I have certainly mentioned him often enough, but I always glean courage from his situation. What for many is a lifetime - 27 years - in prison in a tiny island is only a portion of what he endured. Hard labor. No privileges. Poor treatment. No perspectives for a good outcome. His mother and eldest son died while he was there and permission was not granted for him to attend their funerals. And yet he persevered inside of himself because of the attitude he chose. He wanted to be prepared should his future hold the possibility of him getting out of there. And ... the rest is history.

Victor Frankl: the author of (among others) Man's Search For Meaning, who lived hopeless and helpless years in Auschwitz. All family members but one sister were lost to the gas chambers. And yet he too persevered inside of himself because of the attitude he chose. He wanted to be prepared should his future hold the possibility of him getting out of there.

Christopher Reeve: one time Superman of the cinematic skies, imprisoned in a wheelchair after falling from a horse, quadriplegic and utterly dependent on others in a nigh hopeless situation. After a period of dark adjustment, which we imagine the others - in their own way - also went through, he persevered inside of himself because of the attitude he chose. He wanted to be prepared should his future hold the possibility of him getting out of that wheelchair.

Sabriye Tenberken: author of My Path Leads to Tibet, lost her sight at age 12 due to a retinal disease. She went on to learn braille and took courses in Tibetan Studies at university in Germany. Upon realizing that braille did not exist in the Tibetan language and that blind children (and adults) were often ostracized in that society, she invented braille for that language, and went on to open schools for the blind in Tibet (remember, she was blind and German, and she did all of this there, in Tibet, despite that). Clearly, she persevered inside of herself because of the attitude she chose. She prepared herself for a future that was not at all what one would have expected knowing her 'fate'.

Many people have written wonderful statements about fate and attitude, but today I like one from Amy Tan:
If you can't change your fate, change your attitude.


For much more information about your attitudes and thoughts and the choices you make in order to live a conscious life, have a look at my book Rewiring the Soul: Finding the Possible Self, available at Amazon as paperback or e-book for Kindle.


Click here to download the first chapter.
A Review (From Amazon):

"The masterwork of a profoundly gifted healer of the soul. Dazzling, challenging, wondrously useful." Peggy Rubin, Director, Center for Sacred Theatre, Ashland, Oregon; author: To Be and How To Be, Transforming Your Life Through Sacred Theatre

Excerpt from an Interview:

Who is the book written for? Rewiring the Soul is written for anybody who suffers and I guess that means just about all of us! It is written for anybody who has not yet experienced enduring happiness and inner well-being; anybody who is reaching for inner peace; anybody whose life is not as they would wish it to be.

What can a reader expect to gain by reading this book? What makes it different from most other transformational or self-help books out there? So many wonderful teachers tell us about working on our spiritual selves. So many other wonderful teachers show us how to work on our psycho-emotional selves. But very few actually integrate the two. And Rewiring the Soul is my response to that challenge. Rewiring the Soul brings together the need to take your daily life in hand with the need to put your spiritual life in order as well. By daily life I mean your personal life, your professional life, the way you do or do not love yourself and all that such an attitude entails: conscious awareness, healthy boundaries, meaning in your life, recognizing you always have a choice, and taking responsibility for all your choices, etc., and by spiritual life I mean the inner connection to your eternal self.

If you have learned how to meditate, or do yoga, or whatever it is that you do, have you also learned how to observe yourself in the middle of an argument with your rebellious teenage son or your angry partner and hence choose to react differently because you have learned to love yourself enough to do so? If you have learned how to communicate more effectively with your children, spouse, friends, colleagues or employees, have you also learned how to be mindful and connect to yourself in meaningful ways to achieve that spiritual balance in your life?

While Rewiring the Soul is about so much more than that, those previous examples give an idea of what my book is about and how it does so in such a way that our psychological and spiritual selves nurture each other.

In a nutshell: neither the spiritual nor the psychological or emotional dimensions of your life will work if you neglect:
  • your inner connection to the eternal self while you seek happiness in the outer world
  • your happiness in the outer world while you seek the connection to the inner eternal self

It was Goethe who said "If everyone will sweep in front of their own door, soon the entire world will be clean". In Rewiring the Soul 'sweeping in front of your own door' means bringing yourself to the utmost point of inner and outer growth, creating progress in body, mind, and soul. This literally means that you have already begun to change the world because of how you are changing yourself.

Are there many exercises in the book? Not at all. This book does not mean hard work, or spending a lot of time doing specific things. It simply means that as you read - if you so desire - you begin to incorporate small changes into your daily life. And so it begins. And the quality of your life changes...

How did you come to write this book? For years the essential content of Rewiring the Soul was like a small, recurring voice in my head; it was always there, and simply would not leave me alone. I had dozens of excuses for not writing it: I was working on my Ph.D. in psychology, I was teaching at a state university, I had three sons, later I was occupied with moving back to Spain, I was setting up my private practice, I had a monthly newsletter to write in English and Spanish, I had a weekly one-hour radio show to broadcast, I had a daily blog post to write, I facilitated numerous workshops and gave frequent speeches, and apart from all of this busy activity and work, sometimes I even had a life. In short, I told myself the book would simply have to wait. But just as a splinter under your skin eventually needs to be seen to, I ultimately realized that the only way I was going to be able to honor the more and more loudly clamoring voice in my head - and heart - was to sit down and write the book.

And you know, that goes to meaning. We all need meaning in our lives, and although I had many things that gave much significance to my life already, the inner urging and excitement I felt each time I thought about Rewiring the Soul compelled me to write the book. Rumi puts it beautifully: "When you do things from your soul, you feel a river moving in you, a joy".