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"A revelation of insight into the foundations of human suffering & transcendence. It not only lays out essential steps for inner freedom and joy but illuminates the way to true human potential." Paul Rademacher, author: A Spiritual Hitchhiker's Guide to the Universe

"The masterwork of a profoundly gifted healer of the soul. Dazzling, challenging, wondrously useful." Peggy Rubin, author: To Be and How To Be, Transforming Your Life Through Sacred Theatre

"Rewiring the Soul is one the best introductions to the spiritual life I've ever read. Not esoteric but real-world and practical. The implications are profound." Peter Shepherd, author: Daring To Be Yourself

Friday, September 28, 2012

Have You Considered Changing?


We all wish the world could be a better place. We look at the continual barrage of tragedy and horror served to us with breakfast on our television screens. We see the economic crisis swamp us with worry and stress, spiralling into a recession that has already been acknowledged by major government spokesmen as a fait accompli and no longer something that was merely hovering on the horizon.

We hear about the daily global numbers of children dying of hunger, millions of people dying of AIDS, dying of malaria, and we see the constant bloodshed. Ethnic cleansing, suicide bombers - there seems to be no end to it.

We turn off the news, sickened, or disgusted, or heart-broken, and mainly horrified that we seem so helpless to make a difference.

So we turn to our daily lives, and suddenly we face the banality of keeping up with the joneses, we realize we are throwing out perfectly good food in the trash, we realize our SUV guzzles gas, we realize our children are beginning to show inordinate interest in consumerism, we realize we spend more on one meal at a good restaurant than many people have to live on for an entire month or more, we face worrying about the dictates of this season's fashions according to an outrageously expensive glossy magazine, and we recognize that we have the beginnings of a conscience that is not feeling good, a conscience that is telling us we need to do something.

And so to assuage it, to make ourselves feel better, we send a check to one of the charities, or we sponsor a child in a country where our money stretches fifty-fold, or we do some volunteer work, or donate some of our time to a soup kitchen, and then - to further assuage that guilty conscience, we check in on the lives of people outside of our own orbit, who live on a distant edge of the universe as they travel in private jets, luxury yachts, vacation more than they work, and spend $8,000 for an evening bag, or $300,000 for a car and twenty million dollars for a new home.

Let's go back to the initial premise ... a world gone awry ... a world that needs to change to become better ...

So how about this: consider changing yourself. Begin there. That would be the example you can give to those whose lives you touch, and sooner or later some of those will also begin their own process of change, and the ripple effect will continue and snowball geometrically. Just like network marketing or pyramid schemes, except that in this case there really is a pot of gold at the end of the rainbow.

If all of us do our part, if all of us were to work on becoming better human beings, not just by spending more on charity, or giving more at church, or re-cycling and becoming more ecologically aware, or doing more volunteer work, or helping to raise more funds for yet more sick and hungry children, but by doing more to really work on ourselves so that we, as human beings, recognize that all of us here on this planet are truly one. All the afore-mentioned work is good, but it is simply not enough, and it has never been enough in order to substantially change the order of the world. We can not let another die of hunger, or disease, or bloodshed, nor can we allow that children in countries that are off our immediate horizons are raised without education. If we are truly all one, we have to work on all the parts in ourselves that do not believe that, and that perhaps do not want it to be true.

All of us need to look deep inside ourselves. This world will only change if we all begin that change by changing ourselves.

Gandhi said: You must be the change you want to see in the world.

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Photo: Ibiza, Spain



For much more about understanding how relatively easily you can begin to change the self, as well as about loving yourself and beginning the process of inner transformation, have a look at my book Rewiring the Soul: Finding the Possible Self, available at Amazon as a paperback or e-book for Kindle and all Kindle applications.

Click here to download the first chapter.

Reviews From the Back Cover:

A revelation of insight into the foundations of human suffering & transcendence. It not only lays out essential steps for inner freedom & joy but illuminates the way to true human potential. Dr. Kortsch is a spiritual master for our time. Paul Rademacher, Executive Director, The Monroe Institute; author: A Spiritual Hitchhiker's Guide to the Universe

"The masterwork of a profoundly gifted healer of the soul. Dazzling, challenging, wondrously useful." Peggy Rubin, Director, Center for Sacred Theatre, Ashland, Oregon; author: To Be and How To Be, Transforming Your Life Through Sacred Theatre

"The instruction manual on rewiring the soul. An in-depth guide on life, love, spiritual evolution & our integration within the universe." Michael Habernig & April Hannah; Producers: The Path- The Afterlife & The Path 11 Documentaries

"Rewiring the Soul is one the best introductions to the spiritual life I've ever read. Not esoteric but real-world & practical. The implications are profound." Peter Shepherd; Founder Trans4mind.com; author: Daring To Be Yourself

"The human being's directory to the soul. A breakthrough for those seeking practical assistance, those of a more mystical bent & every soul awaiting discovery." Toni Petrinovich, Ph.D.; author: The Call: Awakening the Angelic Human

Thursday, September 27, 2012

Marginally Better - And Much More!



It's not a competition - not a question of being better than someone else. It's the realization that you can make a difference to your inner state in order that you feel marginally better, simply by making some different choices:
  • are you aware of how you are feeling?
  • are you aware of how that state came about?
    • is it because of something someone did?
    • a sad or painful memory?
    • a failure to accomplish something?
    • a mood?
    • work?
    • the weather?
    • ill health?
    • relationship difficulties?
    • financial problems?
  • all of the above announce themselves to you by the way you are feeling, and once you examine that feeling, you will generally find it came about through a series of thoughts
  • now you have some choices to make:
    • do you want to continue reinforcing the bad feeling?
    • would you prefer to feel better?
  • In the second case, you can now choose to focus your attention elsewhere - not- to distract yourself, but to shift your energy.
  • This is the beginning
  • Becoming aware now gently starts forming part of your daily life
  • By making such choices you begin to also become aware of how much of your inner state of well-being lies in your own hands, and in particular, how much of that state of inner well-being lies in the choices you decide to make.

Make yourself feel marginally better - and much more - today!

For much more about consciously choosing your thoughts and feelings, and about becoming aware of the choices you have at all times in order to transform your life, have a look at my book Rewiring the Soul: Finding the Possible Self (paperback or Kindle).

To download the first chapter, click here

From the Description on Amazon: Ask anyone, whatever their circumstances, if their life is vibrant, fulfilling, harmonious and happy. An honest reply is likely to be 'no', because to answer a truthful 'yes' is no mean feat. Only to grow psychologically and emotionally is not enough. And only to grow spiritually is not enough either. All three dimensions need to be developed in order to realize your full potential. If you are willing to assume total responsibility for the self and to start what is an on-going journey, you will quickly begin to glimpse the first fruits of the ultimate goal: inner well-being, freedom, peace, harmony and joy. This book sets out the pathway to self-mastery and self-discovery and walking that pathway will be the most exciting adventure of your life.

Wednesday, September 26, 2012

Where Is Your Home?


I can imagine some of the answers flying in from all parts of the globe, indicating that your particular home is in Rome, or in Sussex, or Singapore, Christchurch, Nassau, or Rio. Other answers might specify that your home is where your family is, where you hang your hat, and where you feel at home. And of course all of those answers are correct.

I'm thinking of my favorite icons right now: Mandela and Frankl - favorite, because it was all taken away from them - one, when he was imprisoned on Robben Island for 27 years, and the other, when he was sent to the horrors of Auschwitz. Clearly, both men lost everything. They lost all those things that most of us would use as descriptors to indicate where our home is. They not only lost it all materially, but they also lost family. Mandela's mother and eldest son died while he languished on that island in plain view of Cape Town - just across the water - but he was not permitted to attend either funeral, and Frankl lost almost his entire family to the gas chambers.

And yet ... if I were able to ask either of them the question where was your home while you were going through that man-devised horror, I am certain that a portion of their answer would contain the following ideas: their home was inside themselves, in that place to which they had connected. In other words, their home was their connection to themselves, to their inner most self, to their soul.

But careful: words are said so easily, and yet I very much doubt that either of these two men were in such strong connection to themselves when they were first imprisoned that they would have been able to speak in those terms immediately. Building up such a connection requires time, practice, diligence, and patience, as well as faith in the connection itself and in its value.

Those of us who live 'normal' lives where we are not subject to political pursuit or racial genocide may not have many opportunities where we are forced into the development of such an inner connection in order to be able to go on and simply get through another day. In our 'normal' lives such development of an inner connection generally only happens after we have gone through a period of much suffering (for example, in our relationships, our finances, our health, or our profession), or if we have come to the realization that being aware is something we wish to strive for. Clearly, the more aware you are, even if there is no suffering, the more you will strive to achieve the inner connection and in so doing, the more you will have your home right there, inside of you, whether your outer home is as lovely as the one in the above image, or a modest dwelling at the edge of a small town; and whether your family is with you or not. Connecting to the self, recognizing the value of such a connection is one of the greatest things you can do for yourself.


For much more about connecting to your self and rewiring your soul, as well as  about living a conscious life, have a look at my book Rewiring the Soul: Finding the Possible Self, available at Amazon as paperback or e-book for Kindle.

To download the first chapter, click here


Praise for Rewiring the Soul 

"Gabriella Kortsch uses her talent and experience to write the instruction manual on rewiring the soul. An in-depth guide on life, love, spiritual evolution and our integration within the universe." MICHAEL HABERNIG & APRIL HANNAH; Producers, The Path: The Afterlife and The Path 11 Documentaries

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In Rewiring the Soul, Gabriella Kortsch shows us in very practical ways how to lead a soul-guided, soul-infused life. With the wisdom of one who has traveled far and learned much, Dr. Kortsch blazes a path for all who have the courage to follow. The rewards for walking that path are great: an understanding of why we are here; an expanded awareness of who we really are; a new or heightened sense of purpose and meaning; and a deeper appreciation of life's many blessings. Highly recommended." ROBERT SCHWARTZ, author, Your Soul's Plan: Discovering the Real Meaning of the Life You Planned Before You Were Born (yoursoulsplan.com)

"Rewiring the Soul is the human being's directory to the soul. This inspirational book asks you to simply open yourself to the possibility you are much more than you have considered yourself to be; in truth, you are spirit in form living a soul-directed life. It is a breakthrough for those seeking practical assistance, those of a more mystical bent, and every soul awaiting discovery. Read it cover to cover first; then place it close at hand to pick up every time your mind strays from your soul's message radiating from within the heart." TONI PETRINOVICH, Ph.D.; author, The Call: Awakening the Angelic Human 


"Rewiring the Soul is a thoughtful guide to the peace and joy that self-government through inner awareness brings. In the words of author Gabriella Kortsch, anyone's ideal 'possible human' becomes their actual reality by following the simple inner steps in this remarkable book." JIM WAWRO; author, Ask Your Inner Voice

"This meticulously researched and crafted book is clearly the masterwork of a profoundly gifted healer of the soul, one who thinks deeply, feels deeply, and cares deeply about the well-being of the world and its humankind. Reading it will change your life; beginning to live actively any of its ideas, principles, and suggestions will transform your life. And bring you safely and joyfully home to your true self, your soul. I found it dazzling, challenging, and wondrously useful." PEGGY RUBIN, Director, Center for Sacred Theatre, Ashland, Oregon; author, To Be and How To Be, Transforming Your Life Through Sacred Theatre.

The Soul doesn't get sick but it does need nourishment; if not it seems as if our life starves to death. This wonderful book by Dr. Gabriella Kortsch is definitely healthy "Soul food". It becomes clear that as the personality endeavors to "rewire" the Soul, it is its own energy or conscious awareness that is elevated to that higher level where the invisible becomes visible and experienced as peace, joy, love and freedom. A treat to enjoy and celebrate." ERIC ROLF; author, Soul Medicine: The Heart of Healing.

"Rewiring the Soul is a revelation of insight into the foundations of human suffering and transcendence. It not only lays out the essential steps for inner freedom and joy but it also illuminates the way to true human potential: the stunning and dynamic "Possible Self." Written with clarity, compassion and wisdom, this chronicle is not one of mere speculation, but arises from the depths of hard won personal experience. Gabriella Kortsch is a spiritual master for our time." PAUL RADEMACHER, Executive Director, The Monroe Institute; author, A Spiritual Hitchhiker's Guide to the Universe

"I thought I could pick just one chapter to write a review, but I couldn't .... I was glued to the chair as I read Rewiring the Soul ... a literary, in-depth masterpiece to the human psyche, behavior and ultimate transformation. Exquisitely written, beautifully executed." ALI R. RODRIGUEZ, Business Coach, co-author, Mastering the Art of Success with Jack Canfield and Mark Victor Hansen

"A glance at the contents of Rewiring the Soul will tell you much about the values promoted: awareness, freedom, peace and love. I fully agree with the author that it is all about re-connecting with our authentic 'loving self': it is only then that we can deeply transform our life while also inspiring a transformation in the lives of others! Through this powerful book, Gabriella Kortsch honestly shares her love of serving the inner potential and the spiritual growth of human beings with passion, joy and commitment." ELISABETTA FRANZOSO; International Speaker, Coach, author, Stella's Mum Gets Her Groove Back: A True Story


"Rewiring the Soul is one the best introductions to the spiritual life I've ever read. Not esoteric but real-world and practical. Read it and Soul is no longer just a dogma, nor hypothesis, it is made real and as much a part of your being as your toes. We usually shut off our inner voice, yet by recognizing this aspect of ourselves we begin to discover our essential nature, our intuitive truth, and that becomes our loving guide. The author illustrates the limitations of living only as the mind's Ego, and demonstrates in practical terms how we can transcend this by awakening a conscious viewpoint, following the path of our intuition and feelings, no longer separated from our body and the reality around us, and integrating at last our Soul's inner guidance and wellspring of love. The implications are profound." PETER SHEPHERD; Founder Trans4mind - trans4mind.com; author, Daring To Be Yourself

"This book is a gift to humanity, a valuable tool in aiding seekers to accomplish mastery of their own lives. Gabriella Kortsch provides clear steps to help people find peace in a practical and powerful way. She does not ask you to give up anything other then what no longer serves you. Brilliantly written!" 
HILLARY RAIMO; Author & Radio Host




Tuesday, September 25, 2012

Squeezing Each Moment For What It's Worth


What are you thinking right now? What are you feeling right now? Quick ... think of the answer to those two questions.

More often than not whatever the thoughts or the feelings you were having, they were actively contributing to lessening the potential enjoyment of your moment - or the potential to be able to see your moment as a growth experience instead of an experience filled with anger, pain or desolation.

I'm not in Hawaii on vacation, you say? I'm at work. My boss just gave me more files to complete so I'll have to stay longer. Or perhaps: My father is ill. Or maybe even: I just failed the bar exam.

Sometimes I think readers will want to crucify me for repeating this so often, but it's a truth that changes nothing in your life until you assimilate it and begin to live by its precepts: what happens on the outside matters much less than what happens in your heart, mind and spirit with regards to those outer circumstances. In other words, it is solely your reaction to external events that predicts how the event will affect you. This is a choice; a decision you make. And once you make that choice, you are in a position to squeeze each moment for what it's worth, because you will come from a very different inner perspective than the one that is unhappy and resists whatever is occurring.


Image: Hilo, Hawaii

For much more about consciously choosing your thoughts and feelings, and about becoming aware of the choices you have at all times in order to transform your life, have a look at my book Rewiring the Soul: Finding the Possible Self (paperback or Kindle).

To download the first chapter, click here

From the Description on Amazon: Ask anyone, whatever their circumstances, if their life is vibrant, fulfilling, harmonious and happy. An honest reply is likely to be 'no', because to answer a truthful 'yes' is no mean feat. Only to grow psychologically and emotionally is not enough. And only to grow spiritually is not enough either. All three dimensions need to be developed in order to realize your full potential. If you are willing to assume total responsibility for the self and to start what is an on-going journey, you will quickly begin to glimpse the first fruits of the ultimate goal: inner well-being, freedom, peace, harmony and joy. This book sets out the pathway to self-mastery and self-discovery and walking that pathway will be the most exciting adventure of your life.

Monday, September 24, 2012

Recognizing Wealth


Most people have heard the story of the man who left his rather humble home in the village to go out into the world to seek riches. In some versions of the story he does, indeed, find riches, and in other versions he does not. But in all versions, when he finally returns home, he digs up the garden to plant corn, or he goes into the cellar to look for something that was left there, or he does something totally different but that leads him to the same situation as the garden or cellar version: he finds great riches, that have been there all along in his own small and very humble home. Enormous wealth was there all along. He had simply never recognized it. He had not even been able to imagine it. And yet, all he had to do was look there as opposed to outside in the world.

In some fashion we can all apply this to our own lives. We may or may not have found success and riches in the outer world, but when we begin to scratch at the surface of our own being, of our own self, and when we begin to connect with our own soul, we begin to fathom the magnitude of riches inherent in the self - riches that are not immediately visible to the naked eye, but they are rapidly visible to the inner eye and inner knowing. In the connection to the self you see the treasure, and you recognize that the treasure you have sought out there lies in you because it is you - the eternal you.

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Also visit my book website: www.gabriellakortsch.com where you may download excerpts or read quotations from any of my books. My latest book Emotional Unavailability & Neediness: Two Sides of the Same Coin is available globally on Amazon in print & Kindle. You can also obtain it (or any of my other books) via Barnes & Noble.

Books by Dr. Gabriella Kortsch (English). Available globally in paperback or Kindle e-book versions


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DEINE SEELE UND DU
  

Angefangen mit Rewiring the Soul - auf Deutsch: Deine Seele und Du, jetzt weltweit erhaltbar als Taschenbuch oder Kindle E-Book (Blog hier), werden auch meine anderen Bücher in Zukunft auf Deutsch bei Amazon erhaltbar sein.

Libros por Gabriella Kortsch (español) ... próximamente en Amazon en versión bolsillo y E-Libro para Kindle


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Friday, September 21, 2012

Developing That 'Pick-Me-Up' Muscle


Have you ever tried keeping track of how many times a day you have a negative thought? Or keeping track how many times a day you go to the kitchen and open the fridge when it's actually not a meal time? Or keeping track of how many times a day you find yourself wishing for the time to go by so that __________ can finally happen?

All of those moments - each time you do one of the above activities or have those thoughts - you strengthen a habit and you strengthen a neural pathway in your pre-frontal cortex sector of your brain. I'm assuming that none of this surprises you and that you possibly already knew it all.

So you also know that if you start working out at a gym, you will develop muscles that were nearly non-existent prior to starting, and were certainly quite flaccid as opposed to how strong they become in time and with some effort.

It's no different when you want to develop a 'pick-me-up' muscle. Each time you catch yourself going down the road of negative thoughts, each time you find yourself seeking comfort for some relatively undefined not good feeling by finding something to eat, each time you wish your life away by not living in the present moment, are all times at which you can be developing the 'pick-me-up' muscle simply by choosing to change. You can choose to change your thoughts:


For much more information about your thoughts, feelings, choice, freedom and about living a conscious life, have a look at my book Rewiring the Soul: Finding the Possible Self, available at Amazon as paperback or e-book for Kindle.


Click here to download the first chapter.
A Review (From Amazon):

"The masterwork of a profoundly gifted healer of the soul. Dazzling, challenging, wondrously useful." Peggy Rubin, Director, Center for Sacred Theatre, Ashland, Oregon; author: To Be and How To Be, Transforming Your Life Through Sacred Theatre

Excerpt from an Interview:

Who is the book written for? Rewiring the Soul is written for anybody who suffers and I guess that means just about all of us! It is written for anybody who has not yet experienced enduring happiness and inner well-being; anybody who is reaching for inner peace; anybody whose life is not as they would wish it to be.

What can a reader expect to gain by reading this book? What makes it different from most other transformational or self-help books out there? So many wonderful teachers tell us about working on our spiritual selves. So many other wonderful teachers show us how to work on our psycho-emotional selves. But very few actually integrate the two. And Rewiring the Soul is my response to that challenge. Rewiring the Soul brings together the need to take your daily life in hand with the need to put your spiritual life in order as well. By daily life I mean your personal life, your professional life, the way you do or do not love yourself and all that such an attitude entails: conscious awareness, healthy boundaries, meaning in your life, recognizing you always have a choice, and taking responsibility for all your choices, etc., and by spiritual life I mean the inner connection to your eternal self.

If you have learned how to meditate, or do yoga, or whatever it is that you do, have you also learned how to observe yourself in the middle of an argument with your rebellious teenage son or your angry partner and hence choose to react differently because you have learned to love yourself enough to do so? If you have learned how to communicate more effectively with your children, spouse, friends, colleagues or employees, have you also learned how to be mindful and connect to yourself in meaningful ways to achieve that spiritual balance in your life?

While Rewiring the Soul is about so much more than that, those previous examples give an idea of what my book is about and how it does so in such a way that our psychological and spiritual selves nurture each other.

In a nutshell: neither the spiritual nor the psychological or emotional dimensions of your life will work if you neglect:
  • your inner connection to the eternal self while you seek happiness in the outer world
  • your happiness in the outer world while you seek the connection to the inner eternal self

It was Goethe who said "If everyone will sweep in front of their own door, soon the entire world will be clean". In Rewiring the Soul 'sweeping in front of your own door' means bringing yourself to the utmost point of inner and outer growth, creating progress in body, mind, and soul. This literally means that you have already begun to change the world because of how you are changing yourself.

Are there many exercises in the book? Not at all. This book does not mean hard work, or spending a lot of time doing specific things. It simply means that as you read - if you so desire - you begin to incorporate small changes into your daily life. And so it begins. And the quality of your life changes...

How did you come to write this book? For years the essential content of Rewiring the Soul was like a small, recurring voice in my head; it was always there, and simply would not leave me alone. I had dozens of excuses for not writing it: I was working on my Ph.D. in psychology, I was teaching at a state university, I had three sons, later I was occupied with moving back to Spain, I was setting up my private practice, I had a monthly newsletter to write in English and Spanish, I had a weekly one-hour radio show to broadcast, I had a daily blog post to write, I facilitated numerous workshops and gave frequent speeches, and apart from all of this busy activity and work, sometimes I even had a life. In short, I told myself the book would simply have to wait. But just as a splinter under your skin eventually needs to be seen to, I ultimately realized that the only way I was going to be able to honor the more and more loudly clamoring voice in my head - and heart - was to sit down and write the book.

And you know, that goes to meaning. We all need meaning in our lives, and although I had many things that gave much significance to my life already, the inner urging and excitement I felt each time I thought about Rewiring the Soul compelled me to write the book. Rumi puts it beautifully: "When you do things from your soul, you feel a river moving in you, a joy".

Thursday, September 20, 2012

Welcome to the Magic


Having never learned how to do magic tricks, the art of it nevertheless fascinates me. Watching great magicians - current and of other epochs - is something I thoroughly enjoy. But I learned early on in life that magic can happen inside if only you seek and allow it. The first time I became aware of it was as still quite a young child, when I connected to an inner vibration and excitement. And I felt that inner sense of being excited - almost as though the most wonderful butterflies were floating around my tummy region - just by thinking about what I thought I might do with my life. Of course I was just a kid. Who knew, back then, whether what I was thinking would happen or not. What I did know, however, was that the feeling inside of me spelled adventure of a kind I had never experienced.

Over the years the feeling arose at times. Not very frequently, but each time it did, it was magic. And I recognized it. And finally I realized that it arose when I was following what I would now call my life meaning, as opposed to doing other things that might have been easier or more lucrative or more glamorous.

So my suggestion to you today is that you find the magic inside and welcome it, recognizing that it arises to excite you and make you vibrate in ways you otherwise don't, because with it you are connecting to your own meaning, purpose, and in some fashion, to your soul.


Image: 'Jungle' (Ignacio Martel)



For much more about your life purpose, about meaning, and about becoming aware of the value of paying attention to the whispering of your soul in order to lead a fulfilled life, have a look at my book Rewiring the Soul: Finding the Possible Self (paperback or Kindle).

To download the first chapter, click here

From the Description on Amazon: Ask anyone, whatever their circumstances, if their life is vibrant, fulfilling, harmonious and happy. An honest reply is likely to be 'no', because to answer a truthful 'yes' is no mean feat. Only to grow psychologically and emotionally is not enough. And only to grow spiritually is not enough either. All three dimensions need to be developed in order to realize your full potential. If you are willing to assume total responsibility for the self and to start what is an on-going journey, you will quickly begin to glimpse the first fruits of the ultimate goal: inner well-being, freedom, peace, harmony and joy. This book sets out the pathway to self-mastery and self-discovery and walking that pathway will be the most exciting adventure of your life.

Wednesday, September 19, 2012

Recognizing the Vampires


Most of us have vampires in our lives. They may not drain us of our blood, but they do drain us of our energy and emotional well-being. Sometimes we fail to recognize them for what they are because they come in the guise of helpless - almost lovable - people that populate our lives. Occasionally we do recognize them but have no idea how to deal with them. And frequently we only recognize them when they have already spent a good amount of time draining us, as said, of our energy and emotional well-being.

Some easy-to-recognize examples are:
  • the friend who calls every day to re-hash the latest drama in his/her life. You want to be a good friend, but you are beginning to dread the calls
  • the person with whom you had an affair who threatens to harm themselves if you leave them
  • a teen who tells you that unless you help with their homework, they will fail the class (this is not about 'normal' helping, but of going above and beyond because the teen is not choosing to take any initiative)
  • the friend who wants to live life through you ... so they want to know every detail of your life and because you began this relationship by feeling flattered that someone wants to know so much about you, you complied, but now, months or even years later, you feel so drained, that you just want out, but of course that makes you feel guilty
Most of these scenarios have to do with unhealthy boundaries. And unhealthy boundaries are always linked to a lack of self-love. Recognizing the vampires is not so hard: Feel a tightening in your gut? A restriction in your chest? A queasiness? An uneasiness? These body sensations, as well as what follows, which is taken from the way we feel, gives you a hint that you might be in the presence of an emotional or energetic vampire. Remember: the way your body feels when you spend time with someone, and your feelings in the emotional sense of the word, are always indicators of something going on that you want to investigate. It may not always mean you are faced with a person of the type I have been describing, but it certainly warrants some careful consideration.

  • Guilty (we feel guilty as we ask ourselves how we can possibly be feeling some of the things we are feeling, if this person is being so good to us or so helpful and hospitable.)
  • Drained and sapped
  • Tired and weak
  • Unenthusiastic (or if we were enthusiastic earlier in the day, after a bit of time in their presence, our enthusiasm is gone)
  • Pushed and pulled in directions you don’t want to go (ever heard of subliminal manipulation?)
  • You may even feel befuddled, less clear in your head, as if you had been mildly drugged
 For much more about this topic, please read my article Emotional and Energetic Vampires (Note: you will need to sign up to gain access).


For much more about creating healthy boundaries, and about loving yourself, have a look at my book Rewiring the Soul: Finding the Possible Self, available at Amazon as a paperback or e-book for Kindle and all Kindle applications.

Click here to download the first chapter.

Reviews From the Back Cover:

A revelation of insight into the foundations of human suffering & transcendence. It not only lays out essential steps for inner freedom & joy but illuminates the way to true human potential. Dr. Kortsch is a spiritual master for our time. Paul Rademacher, Executive Director, The Monroe Institute; author: A Spiritual Hitchhiker's Guide to the Universe

"The masterwork of a profoundly gifted healer of the soul. Dazzling, challenging, wondrously useful." Peggy Rubin, Director, Center for Sacred Theatre, Ashland, Oregon; author: To Be and How To Be, Transforming Your Life Through Sacred Theatre

"The instruction manual on rewiring the soul. An in-depth guide on life, love, spiritual evolution & our integration within the universe." Michael Habernig & April Hannah; Producers: The Path- The Afterlife & The Path 11 Documentaries

"Rewiring the Soul is one the best introductions to the spiritual life I've ever read. Not esoteric but real-world & practical. The implications are profound." Peter Shepherd; Founder Trans4mind.com; author: Daring To Be Yourself

"The human being's directory to the soul. A breakthrough for those seeking practical assistance, those of a more mystical bent & every soul awaiting discovery." Toni Petrinovich, Ph.D.; author: The Call: Awakening the Angelic Human

Tuesday, September 18, 2012

Paying Attention to the Whispers


The voices that whisper to you when you are thinking of attempting something new, perhaps quite challenging, and with an element of risk, may say:
  • it's too hard
  • you don't know how to do that
  • he/she tried and failed, so why would you be able to succeed at it?
  • you'll look ridiculous if you fail
And so you may listen to those whispers, insidious and annihilating of hopes and dreams and stop before you even begin. Flavia Weedn wrote: Cut not the wings of your dreams, for they are the heartbeat and the freedom of your soul.

Be aware that the whispers are thoughts that you can combat. The whispers come from the same part of you that criticizes, judges, and belittles others; the part of you that needs to be right; the part of you that is always comparing in an attempt to see on which part of the heap you are positioned. The whispers originate in your ego. But that is not the real you. The real you knows how to vibrate with joy, is filled with hopes and dreams, and can - if you stop the sound of the ego long enough - believe in you; it can love you, and it can be filled with courage in order to attempt the seemingly impossible.

Drown out the whispers and begin to listen to the other voice, the voice that speaks from your soul.


For much more about the ego, about becoming aware of your thoughts, and about examining the self, have a look at my book Rewiring the Soul: Finding the Possible Self (paperback or Kindle).

To download the first chapter, click here

From the Description on Amazon: Ask anyone, whatever their circumstances, if their life is vibrant, fulfilling, harmonious and happy. An honest reply is likely to be 'no', because to answer a truthful 'yes' is no mean feat. Only to grow psychologically and emotionally is not enough. And only to grow spiritually is not enough either. All three dimensions need to be developed in order to realize your full potential. If you are willing to assume total responsibility for the self and to start what is an on-going journey, you will quickly begin to glimpse the first fruits of the ultimate goal: inner well-being, freedom, peace, harmony and joy. This book sets out the pathway to self-mastery and self-discovery and walking that pathway will be the most exciting adventure of your life.

Monday, September 17, 2012

Knowing But Not Paying Attention


Some years ago I wrote an article for my monthly newsletter Introducing Our Second and Third Brains: We Do Think With Our Heart and Instinct (and it is also available in Spanish as Presentando Nuestro Segundo y Tercer Cerebro), in which I explained that research has now proven that we have neurons (the type of cell we have in our brain), not only in the brain, but also in the gut (the intestine) and the heart (the actual organ in your chest).

At the end of the article I suggest that we should henceforth, knowing that this is so, make use of all three of these "brains" in a balanced way, when it comes to making decisions, instead of mainly allowing our rational brain to be the decisive force. I point out, that with brain scanning equipment, it has been possible to determine that sometimes the information reaches one of the other brains first, and only then, is fed to the brain inside our skull, from that other, second, or third brain.

And that, of course, tells us, that what we know instinctively, is coming to us through the neurons in the gut, and so our gut feelings are giving us knowledge that we generally ignore.

So we know something and we don't pay attention. We would not do that with our rational brains. Or at least, we would not do that with such ease, with such carelessness. We would consider carefully whether we could afford to ignore such information as that which our rational brain - the neurons in the brain inside our skull - is feeding us.

But when the information we receive is instinctual or emotional, we pay scant attention.

I know many articles have been written about intuition. I don't really want to go to the place that helps you identify how to be more intuitive. I merely want you to recognize that what we have known so long metaphysically ... that intuition (or gut feelings) are of value, we now know scientifically.

Don't ignore your own inner knowing ... pay attention to all that valuable information you are receiving from your other brains.

And if you don't recognize their language very well, because you have rarely paid attention to them, begin the process of familiarizing yourself with them. Imagine having an old VW from the 60's in your garage, which works quite well, and you are in fact, quite happy with it, and then discovering you also have a Porsche ... wouldn't you want to use it too? Even if you now had to learn how to handle it ... so very differently from the VW?

Image: Aspen, Colorado

For much more about paying attention to all your inner knowing, about choosing your thoughts, and about using a state of continual awareness in order to enhance your inner well-being on all levels, have a look at my book Rewiring the Soul: Finding the Possible Self, available at Amazon as a paperback or e-book for Kindle and all Kindle applications.

Click here to download the first chapter.

Reviews From the Back Cover:

A revelation of insight into the foundations of human suffering & transcendence. It not only lays out essential steps for inner freedom & joy but illuminates the way to true human potential. Dr. Kortsch is a spiritual master for our time. Paul Rademacher, Executive Director, The Monroe Institute; author: A Spiritual Hitchhiker's Guide to the Universe

"The masterwork of a profoundly gifted healer of the soul. Dazzling, challenging, wondrously useful." Peggy Rubin, Director, Center for Sacred Theatre, Ashland, Oregon; author: To Be and How To Be, Transforming Your Life Through Sacred Theatre

"The instruction manual on rewiring the soul. An in-depth guide on life, love, spiritual evolution & our integration within the universe." Michael Habernig & April Hannah; Producers: The Path- The Afterlife & The Path 11 Documentaries

"Rewiring the Soul is one the best introductions to the spiritual life I've ever read. Not esoteric but real-world & practical. The implications are profound." Peter Shepherd; Founder Trans4mind.com; author: Daring To Be Yourself

"The human being's directory to the soul. A breakthrough for those seeking practical assistance, those of a more mystical bent & every soul awaiting discovery." Toni Petrinovich, Ph.D.; author: The Call: Awakening the Angelic Human

Wednesday, September 12, 2012

Show Your Best Side


There are three ways of looking at this story:
  1. You have sides you may not wish to be seen so you don't show them. Perhaps you are impatient, or lack knowledge in a given field. Perhaps you don't like to admit you really can't be bothered reading books, or perhaps you prefer solitude to mad partying. Perhaps you are shy or perhaps you feel most comfortable in old-fashioned clothing as opposed to designer labels. Perhaps you think it's a waste of time to go to church, and would prefer to be playing video games, or perhaps you think playing video games is an utter waste of time and brain power, and would much prefer to be working on some complicated algebraic formula in a lab.
  2. All of the above (and many more examples we could use) may mean that there are some elements of your character that you might like to polish and hone: perhaps learning how to be more patient is a good example, or perhaps it might be good if you became more knowledgeable in that field you know so little about. And perhaps you could take some classes to learn about being more self-confident.
  3. This final side to my story has to do with the best you. Who is that best you? Is it the one that plays most profitably to the audience, by doing what is expected and excelling at the game of life, or is the best you the one who has come to know itself, to recognize its strengths - whether they play well to the audience or not - and who then gently foments those strengths over the course of a lifetime? A best self who feels exceedingly well in its skin, whether than skin is appreciated by the audience or not. A best self who is confident in the knowledge that by living an aware, full and transparent life based on your own compassion and integrity, as well as you desire to do no harm, it will have indeed shown its best side.
This is a choice. What are you choosing today?



For much more about making choices, about becoming aware, and about examining the self, have a look at my book Rewiring the Soul: Finding the Possible Self (paperback or Kindle).

To download the first chapter, click here

From the Description on Amazon: Ask anyone, whatever their circumstances, if their life is vibrant, fulfilling, harmonious and happy. An honest reply is likely to be 'no', because to answer a truthful 'yes' is no mean feat. Only to grow psychologically and emotionally is not enough. And only to grow spiritually is not enough either. All three dimensions need to be developed in order to realize your full potential. If you are willing to assume total responsibility for the self and to start what is an on-going journey, you will quickly begin to glimpse the first fruits of the ultimate goal: inner well-being, freedom, peace, harmony and joy. This book sets out the pathway to self-mastery and self-discovery and walking that pathway will be the most exciting adventure of your life.

Tuesday, September 11, 2012

Our Joys



Poetry can often be inspiring, and today this crossed my desk:

Our joys as winged dreams do fly; why then should sorrow last? Since grief but aggravates thy loss, grieve not for what is past.

Thomas Percy, English poet 1729-1811

Grieve not for what is past ... our joys as winged dreams do fly ... doesn't it make sense that we behave the same way with our grief as we do with our joy? As the poet - Thomas Percy - says, our joys tend to leave us very quickly. And yet we dwell on our sorrows.

This is in fact, an unusually interesting statement about the human condition. We have a much greater tendency to stay with those aspects of our lives that are not bright and clear, that do not have sunshine and warmth, and tend to bring on the clouds swollen with rain. Why do we do this? Is it just a wired into us? Wired into our hearts? Wired into our brains?

I don't think so. This may very well be due to what part Eckhart Tolle calls the pain body, and what Chris Griscom calls the emotional body. I've written about this in the past, so I'll just briefly reiterate the basic points:
  • the pain body is seductive
  • the emotional body has an emotionally sticky quality that we find hard to pull away from
  • both pain body and emotional body are familiar to us because they represent pain, difficulties, and hardships that we have been subject to in the past
  • this very familiarity based on the amount of time we have spent revisiting those difficult moments, is what causes us to field the seductive pull
  • once we give in to the seductive pull into the pain or the negative emotions via our memory needs, we tend to wallow in the pain, much as pigs wallow in mud
  • why?
  • Because we prefer the familiarity
  • if we spent as much time revisiting our joyful moments as we do our painful ones, we might find - ironically - that we experience greater familiarity with our joy than with our pain - and wouldn't that be a wonderful state of mind to be in...
Have you ever considered why the sum total of your life very possibly seems to have an uneven tipping of the scale in favor of the negative? Could it not be simply because of where you spend much of your mental time? And don't you agree that where you spend much of your mental time is a matter of choice? And if it is a matter of choice, why not spend more time with your memories of the joyful moments, as opposed to memories of the painful ones? It really is that easy.


For much more information about joy, happiness and success, about your thoughts, choices, inner freedom and about living a conscious life, have a look at my book Rewiring the Soul: Finding the Possible Self, available at Amazon as paperback or e-book for Kindle.


Click here to download the first chapter.
A Review (From Amazon):

"The masterwork of a profoundly gifted healer of the soul. Dazzling, challenging, wondrously useful." Peggy Rubin, Director, Center for Sacred Theatre, Ashland, Oregon; author: To Be and How To Be, Transforming Your Life Through Sacred Theatre

Excerpt from an Interview:

Who is the book written for? Rewiring the Soul is written for anybody who suffers and I guess that means just about all of us! It is written for anybody who has not yet experienced enduring happiness and inner well-being; anybody who is reaching for inner peace; anybody whose life is not as they would wish it to be.

What can a reader expect to gain by reading this book? What makes it different from most other transformational or self-help books out there? So many wonderful teachers tell us about working on our spiritual selves. So many other wonderful teachers show us how to work on our psycho-emotional selves. But very few actually integrate the two. And Rewiring the Soul is my response to that challenge. Rewiring the Soul brings together the need to take your daily life in hand with the need to put your spiritual life in order as well. By daily life I mean your personal life, your professional life, the way you do or do not love yourself and all that such an attitude entails: conscious awareness, healthy boundaries, meaning in your life, recognizing you always have a choice, and taking responsibility for all your choices, etc., and by spiritual life I mean the inner connection to your eternal self.

If you have learned how to meditate, or do yoga, or whatever it is that you do, have you also learned how to observe yourself in the middle of an argument with your rebellious teenage son or your angry partner and hence choose to react differently because you have learned to love yourself enough to do so? If you have learned how to communicate more effectively with your children, spouse, friends, colleagues or employees, have you also learned how to be mindful and connect to yourself in meaningful ways to achieve that spiritual balance in your life?

While Rewiring the Soul is about so much more than that, those previous examples give an idea of what my book is about and how it does so in such a way that our psychological and spiritual selves nurture each other.

In a nutshell: neither the spiritual nor the psychological or emotional dimensions of your life will work if you neglect:
  • your inner connection to the eternal self while you seek happiness in the outer world
  • your happiness in the outer world while you seek the connection to the inner eternal self

It was Goethe who said "If everyone will sweep in front of their own door, soon the entire world will be clean". In Rewiring the Soul 'sweeping in front of your own door' means bringing yourself to the utmost point of inner and outer growth, creating progress in body, mind, and soul. This literally means that you have already begun to change the world because of how you are changing yourself.

Are there many exercises in the book? Not at all. This book does not mean hard work, or spending a lot of time doing specific things. It simply means that as you read - if you so desire - you begin to incorporate small changes into your daily life. And so it begins. And the quality of your life changes...

How did you come to write this book? For years the essential content of Rewiring the Soul was like a small, recurring voice in my head; it was always there, and simply would not leave me alone. I had dozens of excuses for not writing it: I was working on my Ph.D. in psychology, I was teaching at a state university, I had three sons, later I was occupied with moving back to Spain, I was setting up my private practice, I had a monthly newsletter to write in English and Spanish, I had a weekly one-hour radio show to broadcast, I had a daily blog post to write, I facilitated numerous workshops and gave frequent speeches, and apart from all of this busy activity and work, sometimes I even had a life. In short, I told myself the book would simply have to wait. But just as a splinter under your skin eventually needs to be seen to, I ultimately realized that the only way I was going to be able to honor the more and more loudly clamoring voice in my head - and heart - was to sit down and write the book.

And you know, that goes to meaning. We all need meaning in our lives, and although I had many things that gave much significance to my life already, the inner urging and excitement I felt each time I thought about Rewiring the Soul compelled me to write the book. Rumi puts it beautifully: "When you do things from your soul, you feel a river moving in you, a joy".

Monday, September 10, 2012

Finding the Sunshine In Your Life


Days can often appear to be grey. I was watching a film recently in which the protagonist, a young woman, was in the most spectacular landscape - a brilliantly azure beach with some boulders in remarkable formation jutting out of the sand - and she was absolutely oblivious to the feast of nature surrounding her. Her day was grey. Why? Because she was undergoing a very difficult emotional situation and so she paid scant if any attention at all to what was around her. She was not aware and she was most certainly not living in the present moment. She was living in her thoughts.

Many times after encouraging clients to pay greater attention to the beauty that surrounds them when they drive away from my office to whatever their destination may be, they return on the following visit and comment with what astonishment they realized what immense and wonderful beauty was there for them to see once they started consciously observing, instead of focusing on their thoughts.

So you see, on the basis of these two small examples, how much damage your thoughts do to you if you are not paying attention to being conscious. Yes: paying attention to being conscious. That is the only way you can live in the present, and if you live in the present, you will always be able to find beauty and sunshine in your life, no matter your outer circumstances, because by being aware, you can choose other thoughts, even if your name is Nelson Mandela, and you are spending 27 years of your life on a prison island. Choosing other thoughts gives you inner peace and inner freedom.


For much more about being conscious, about choosing your thoughts, and about using a state of continual awareness in order to enhance your inner well-being on all levels, have a look at my book Rewiring the Soul: Finding the Possible Self, available at Amazon as a paperback or e-book for Kindle and all Kindle applications.

Click here to download the first chapter.

Reviews From the Back Cover:

A revelation of insight into the foundations of human suffering & transcendence. It not only lays out essential steps for inner freedom & joy but illuminates the way to true human potential. Dr. Kortsch is a spiritual master for our time. Paul Rademacher, Executive Director, The Monroe Institute; author: A Spiritual Hitchhiker's Guide to the Universe

"The masterwork of a profoundly gifted healer of the soul. Dazzling, challenging, wondrously useful." Peggy Rubin, Director, Center for Sacred Theatre, Ashland, Oregon; author: To Be and How To Be, Transforming Your Life Through Sacred Theatre

"The instruction manual on rewiring the soul. An in-depth guide on life, love, spiritual evolution & our integration within the universe." Michael Habernig & April Hannah; Producers: The Path- The Afterlife & The Path 11 Documentaries

"Rewiring the Soul is one the best introductions to the spiritual life I've ever read. Not esoteric but real-world & practical. The implications are profound." Peter Shepherd; Founder Trans4mind.com; author: Daring To Be Yourself

"The human being's directory to the soul. A breakthrough for those seeking practical assistance, those of a more mystical bent & every soul awaiting discovery." Toni Petrinovich, Ph.D.; author: The Call: Awakening the Angelic Human