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"A revelation of insight into the foundations of human suffering & transcendence. It not only lays out essential steps for inner freedom and joy but illuminates the way to true human potential." Paul Rademacher, author: A Spiritual Hitchhiker's Guide to the Universe

"The masterwork of a profoundly gifted healer of the soul. Dazzling, challenging, wondrously useful." Peggy Rubin, author: To Be and How To Be, Transforming Your Life Through Sacred Theatre

"Rewiring the Soul is one the best introductions to the spiritual life I've ever read. Not esoteric but real-world and practical. The implications are profound." Peter Shepherd, author: Daring To Be Yourself

Friday, June 29, 2012

Time to Change Your Energy Level


If you are feeling bad in any way it's time to change your energy level. How you feel is something you can choose to change. Not because you pretend that whatever you are feeling bad about does not exist, but because:
  • you choose to look at it differently
  • you choose to focus elsewhere
  • you choose to think about it in another way
  • you choose to remain aware at all times (aware of yourself in all ways)
  • you choose to move beyond your current comfort zone
  • you choose not to remain at the energetic level at which you currently find yourself
  • you choose to move your energy higher
  • you choose to recognize that frequently how you feel derives from not having made the choice to forgive someone
  • you choose to take responsibility for how you feel at all times
  • you choose to be grateful at any given moment
  • you choose to move into the now
Feeling bad is a choice ... and you can choose to feel differently.

For much more about making choices that enhance your inner well-being, and about choosing your thoughts, have a look at my book Rewiring the Soul: Finding the Possible Self, available at Amazon as a paperback or e-book for Kindle and all Kindle applications.

Click here to download the first chapter.

Reviews From the Back Cover:

A revelation of insight into the foundations of human suffering & transcendence. It not only lays out essential steps for inner freedom & joy but illuminates the way to true human potential. Dr. Kortsch is a spiritual master for our time. Paul Rademacher, Executive Director, The Monroe Institute; author: A Spiritual Hitchhiker's Guide to the Universe

"The masterwork of a profoundly gifted healer of the soul. Dazzling, challenging, wondrously useful." Peggy Rubin, Director, Center for Sacred Theatre, Ashland, Oregon; author: To Be and How To Be, Transforming Your Life Through Sacred Theatre

"The instruction manual on rewiring the soul. An in-depth guide on life, love, spiritual evolution & our integration within the universe." Michael Habernig & April Hannah; Producers: The Path- The Afterlife & The Path 11 Documentaries

"Rewiring the Soul is one the best introductions to the spiritual life I've ever read. Not esoteric but real-world & practical. The implications are profound." Peter Shepherd; Founder Trans4mind.com; author: Daring To Be Yourself

"The human being's directory to the soul. A breakthrough for those seeking practical assistance, those of a more mystical bent & every soul awaiting discovery." Toni Petrinovich, Ph.D.; author: The Call: Awakening the Angelic Human



Image by Josephine Wall

Thursday, June 28, 2012

The Key to Your Happiness


Who holds the key to your happiness? Or perhaps I should ask what holds the key to your happiness? In the first instance, it is a specific (or more than one specific) human being that holds the key to your happiness. Perhaps your partner without whom you are incapable of being happy. Or your child, adult or small. Or perhaps your parent, or even a pet. In the second instance, it is a something that holds the key to your happiness. This can be something material, such as the balance in your bank account or portfolio, or the size and location of your home, or it could be your youth, your strength, your professional situation, your social position, and so on.

In all instances, you derive your happiness from an outer source, the key to your happiness lies without and not within.

Perhaps you can see the problem with that. People can let you down, leave you, or die. Material things can disappear, as can youth, professional and social positions. If any of that happens, and if the key to your happiness lies there, then what are you going to do? And please don't answer that then you will implement Plan B.

Recognizing that happiness first needs to come from the inside out is your path out of the above dilemma. Starting to walk on that path requires conscious awareness of a desire or intention to begin to love yourself. The more you love yourself, the more you will be able to find happiness on the inside and will notice - perhaps to your surprise - that you no longer need to find it on the outside, or at least, that you will no longer look for it on the outside.

In my book Rewiring the Soul I wrote the following: The less you love yourself the more likely it is that you believe another holds the key to your happiness.
      

Also visit my book website: www.gabriellakortsch.com where you may download excerpts or read quotations from any of my books.

Books by Dr. Gabriella Kortsch:


                         
                   
                                           

Wednesday, June 27, 2012

How Much Joy?



The joy expressed in the image above this post is frequently joy we associate with children (or animals), but not so often with ourselves. When is the last time you jumped like that? Or even if you are elderly or confined to a wheelchair, when is the last time you felt like jumping like that?

So what has happened to us? I certainly remember jumping for joy as a child and now, as a boomer, my jumps tend to be more in my head, but I feel great joy with simple things ... such as having a wonderful coffee in the morning in a spot with a fabulous view (and that can be the view out of my French windows), but it can also be the view I imagine myself seeing on my Facebook posts where over the past several weeks, I have posted myself enjoying a virtual coffee at a different spot in the world each day. I can also experience great joy as I unfold a newspaper in front of that coffee and settle down to read it (somehow, I have noticed, the joy is not as intense if the newspaper is virtual, in my smartphone, that allows me to view the world's press, along with the coffee, but the joy is not the same). Other things that bring me great joy are setting out for a weekend drive with a friend (even if it's a short one of 30 - 60 minutes) into the unknown, or into the countryside, or up into the mountains, or along the Mediterranean, here where I live. I also experience joy as I open a new book, drive to the airport to pick up one of my sons (that's one of the greatest joys!), or as I contemplate an upcoming holiday. Joy comes as well as I savor the aroma of freshly-baked bread (even if I don't partake), the perfume of jasmin, or the unmistakable childhood smells of freshly-mown grass.

As you see, my joys are simple. I could list others that cost money or are complicated and involved to achieve, but the fact is, because my joys are so simple to attain, I can have them every day. And having joy every day, mentally jumping for joy every single day, should be on your to-do list in the same taken-for-granted way as you brush your teeth and have a shower. Abraham states: The standard of success in life isn't the things. It isn't the money or the stuff, it is absolutely the amount of joy you feel and I totally agree.

Are you feeeling joy today?

For more about finding joy, about learning how to take charge of your thoughts and emotions and about the self-transformational process - both in your outer life in the world, and in your inner life with your connection to your inner, divine self, have a look at my book Rewiring the Soul: Finding the Possible Self (paperback or e-book).

To download the first chapter, click here

From the Description on Amazon: Ask anyone, whatever their circumstances, if their life is vibrant, fulfilling, harmonious and happy. An honest reply is likely to be 'no', because to answer a truthful 'yes' is no mean feat. Only to grow psychologically and emotionally is not enough. And only to grow spiritually is not enough either. All three dimensions need to be developed in order to realize your full potential. If you are willing to assume total responsibility for the self and to start what is an on-going journey, you will quickly begin to glimpse the first fruits of the ultimate goal: inner well-being, freedom, peace, harmony and joy. This book sets out the pathway to self-mastery and self-discovery and walking that pathway will be the most exciting adventure of your life.



Tuesday, June 26, 2012

Can You Observe Your Thoughts?


Thinking, and knowing you think is most definitely not the same thing as observing your thoughts. In the first case, you have a problem, for example, and you worry about it, you go over all its details, you think about how it might get solved, you stress that it might not, and then you continue thinking about it from another angle, in order to see whether perhaps you have left something out.

In the second case, you have the thoughts, but as you become aware of them, you allow them to float by. You notice them, you realize they are coming from somewhere, but you do not take them as being you. In the other instance, you identified with them.

Let's imagine you get up and as you look out the window, you are thinking about your neighbour who is building an addition to his house. Your thoughts flit from how much noise and dust it will create on your street, to how much it will cost him, to how is it possible that he has that extra cash lying around now, in the middle of the recession, to why don't I have that extra cash lying around, to oh my God, how am I going to pay for the repair on the roof that needs doing before winter, to this is certainly not going to be the year I get a raise at work, and on and on.

Do you see how in the example of this last paragraph your thoughts, with which you are identifying yourself, take you (but it is they who take you, not you who takes you), from place to place to place, and if you let it go on, you might reach the evening, and still be thinking about something that began with the neighbour's addition on the house.

Why do your thoughts take you into all these mental places? Because you are not aware of them. They pass through your mind in a mindless way. They take over because you are sitting to one side. Your mind is being used by these thoughts, but you are not participating in a conscious way.

If, on the other hand, you practice being aware of your thoughts (and the mindfulness walk I write about so frequently is one great way to help you get there), then you can allow them to pass by, but your aware participation means that you are able to let go of them and move to other, much more life-giving thoughts. Perhaps thoughts of gratitude, of beauty, of pleasure in your life, of wonder, of awe, in other words, thoughts of all that which is capable of enriching your inner well-being.

But this is up to you. It can't be done unless you actively and consciously participate. Are you observing your thoughts today?



For much more about gratitude, mindfulness, and beauty, as well as about making choices that enhance your inner well-being, and about choosing your thoughts, have a look at my book Rewiring the Soul: Finding the Possible Self, available at Amazon as a paperback or e-book for Kindle and all Kindle applications.

Click here to download the first chapter.

Reviews From the Back Cover:

A revelation of insight into the foundations of human suffering & transcendence. It not only lays out essential steps for inner freedom & joy but illuminates the way to true human potential. Dr. Kortsch is a spiritual master for our time. Paul Rademacher, Executive Director, The Monroe Institute; author: A Spiritual Hitchhiker's Guide to the Universe

"The masterwork of a profoundly gifted healer of the soul. Dazzling, challenging, wondrously useful." Peggy Rubin, Director, Center for Sacred Theatre, Ashland, Oregon; author: To Be and How To Be, Transforming Your Life Through Sacred Theatre

"The instruction manual on rewiring the soul. An in-depth guide on life, love, spiritual evolution & our integration within the universe." Michael Habernig & April Hannah; Producers: The Path- The Afterlife & The Path 11 Documentaries

"Rewiring the Soul is one the best introductions to the spiritual life I've ever read. Not esoteric but real-world & practical. The implications are profound." Peter Shepherd; Founder Trans4mind.com; author: Daring To Be Yourself

"The human being's directory to the soul. A breakthrough for those seeking practical assistance, those of a more mystical bent & every soul awaiting discovery." Toni Petrinovich, Ph.D.; author: The Call: Awakening the Angelic Human



Image by Josephine Wall

Monday, June 25, 2012

Envy & Jealousy: Breeding-Grounds for Unhappiness


Your friend shows up in a new Audi Spider that you've secretly coveted for years, another friend has dropped 20 pounds, something that you've been trying to do unsucessfully for such a long time, and yet another just landed a deal to expand his/her business that will net millions over the next few years. You read about someone you've never even heard of who signed a record deal recently and now the hit single on the first CD has hit the charts not nationally, but globally ... it went viral. Your best friend of many years never seems to stop going out, another continually fills your ears with how wonderful life is, and a third can't stop talking about the children or grandchildren and how intelligent or successful or proactive they are. An acquaintance met a wealthy widow/widower and is now getting married, the son/daughter of another friend was just promoted to Vice President of the company he/she works for, your golfing neighbour just started going out with an incredibly gorgeous woman about 20 years younger than you, and of course the list of all the good stuff that happens to others goes on and on. And not only does it go on and on, but it's been happening that way every since you can remember. Always.

And although a part of you is happy (truly happy) for them, there is another part of you that is envious, or feels jealousy, depending on the situation. You're aware of it. You don't particuarly like feeling envy or jealousy, but there it is, it pops up all the time when you hear of the good fortune that happens to others. These thoughts are the breeding-ground for your unhappiness. The more they (the thoughts) occur, the more your habit of having those thoughts and hence your unhappiness grows.

Here's what you can do: first, become aware (as you probably already are) that this is happening. Acknowledge that is does you no good. The bacteria of those thoughts continually spread to infest you with unhappiness. Clearly, the thoughts must be tackled. Probably you are thinking that since they pop up unannounced and not because you 'will' them into being, there is little you can do about them. But there is. They have become a habit that started years, perhaps even decades ago. And all you have to do is rid yourself of that habit, much as you might rid yourself of the habit of exploring a chipped corner of a tooth in your mouth with your tongue. At the beginning you would simply explore, but as time goes by, your tongue develops a very sore spot on the place where it hits the chipped tooth. It hurts. So now you pull back consciously each time your tongue wants to go there, and soon enough, your tongue stops doing it. You do this because you engage your conscious mind into stopping the process because of the pain it produces.

In the case of the thoughts of envy and jealousy that lead to unhappiness, you do exactly the same thing. As you hear of the wonderful thing that is happening to someone else, and you notice the thoughts of envy or jealousy arising, you have a short inner dialogue. You ask yourself whether you wish to pursue that thought. Probably the answer is no, because you are already aware of the fact that those thoughts only lead you to unhappiness. You may need to have a brief battle, because it may be that a part of you wishes to engage in the thought (what Eckhart Tolle would call the pain body), but you can win that battle, just as you were able to win the battle over your tongue.

So now you had the thought, but you curtailed it. It lost a bit of its strength. You go on to something else. The next time envy or jealousy arise, you do exactly the same. And again and again and again. As you do this, the strength of the neural pathways that have to do with this particular habit will diminish. Eventually the habit will cease. All you have to do is remain conscious enough to practice this. And of course you have to want it. It's that easy.

For more about finding calm and being at peace, about learning how to take charge of your thoughts and emotions and about the self-transformational process - both in your outer life in the world, and in your inner life with your connection to your inner, divine self, have a look at my book Rewiring the Soul: Finding the Possible Self (paperback or e-book).

To download the first chapter, click here

From the Description on Amazon: Ask anyone, whatever their circumstances, if their life is vibrant, fulfilling, harmonious and happy. An honest reply is likely to be 'no', because to answer a truthful 'yes' is no mean feat. Only to grow psychologically and emotionally is not enough. And only to grow spiritually is not enough either. All three dimensions need to be developed in order to realize your full potential. If you are willing to assume total responsibility for the self and to start what is an on-going journey, you will quickly begin to glimpse the first fruits of the ultimate goal: inner well-being, freedom, peace, harmony and joy. This book sets out the pathway to self-mastery and self-discovery and walking that pathway will be the most exciting adventure of your life.



Friday, June 22, 2012

Secret Attractions


Have you ever given any thought to why you attract things you fear more often than those that you love? Or why you attract things you don't want more than those that you do want? Why do you attract failure more often than you attract success?

Next question: how much time (just approximately) do you spend (per day) on thoughts that have to do with things that you fear or do not want? And how much time (approximately) do you spend (per day) on thoughts that have to do with things you love or want?

Which is stronger in you? Which prevails? Which do you spend more thought-time and energy on? Simple, isn't, it, when you look at it like that. From the wonderful writer who stated the well-known quote: As a man thinketh, so shall he be, James Allen also stated this: The soul attracts that which it secretly harbors; that which it loves, and also that which it fears.

What are you attracting into your life?

For much more about choosing your thoughts in order to live a better life, as well as about making choices that enhance your inner well-being, and about feeling good about the self, have a look at my book Rewiring the Soul: Finding the Possible Self, available at Amazon as a paperback or e-book for Kindle and all Kindle applications.

Click here to download the first chapter.

Reviews From the Back Cover:

A revelation of insight into the foundations of human suffering & transcendence. It not only lays out essential steps for inner freedom & joy but illuminates the way to true human potential. Dr. Kortsch is a spiritual master for our time. Paul Rademacher, Executive Director, The Monroe Institute; author: A Spiritual Hitchhiker's Guide to the Universe

"The masterwork of a profoundly gifted healer of the soul. Dazzling, challenging, wondrously useful." Peggy Rubin, Director, Center for Sacred Theatre, Ashland, Oregon; author: To Be and How To Be, Transforming Your Life Through Sacred Theatre

"The instruction manual on rewiring the soul. An in-depth guide on life, love, spiritual evolution & our integration within the universe." Michael Habernig & April Hannah; Producers: The Path- The Afterlife & The Path 11 Documentaries

"Rewiring the Soul is one the best introductions to the spiritual life I've ever read. Not esoteric but real-world & practical. The implications are profound." Peter Shepherd; Founder Trans4mind.com; author: Daring To Be Yourself

"The human being's directory to the soul. A breakthrough for those seeking practical assistance, those of a more mystical bent & every soul awaiting discovery." Toni Petrinovich, Ph.D.; author: The Call: Awakening the Angelic Human

Image: El Arco, Cabo San Lucas, Baja California         

Thursday, June 21, 2012

Can You Forgive?


 All the Baggage and the Old Wounds  

When your father walked out on you, your siblings, and your mother, your life changed drastically. Now, decades later, it still lives on in your mind, as you remember how difficult things were, and how - about 15 months after he left - you caught a glimpse of him one day on the street in the company of another woman, much younger and less stressed-looking than your mother, who had a baby in her arms. Your father had just hugged her and kissed the baby, and you felt such agony. You also felt rage. And you remember it to this day. How could you forget how he affected all your lives?

When you found your high school love - the first girl you ever went to bed with - making out with your best buddy - you were both on the basketball team - something shrivelled up inside of you and died. With that one act she took away your self-esteem. It took you years to work your way out of that. And your best buddy. After a shoving match with him after having found the two of them there, you never spoke to him again. And you never found a friend again with whom you shared the way you used to with him - before you realized what a traitor he was. Even when you ran into that first girl friend again recently, now that you're both in your forties and you saw how she had gained weight and lost her youthful sparkle and attraction, you felt no sense of satisfaction, only pain in the memory of what happened that devastating day.

When your wife left you, taking with her not only the kids, but also the silver and the antiques, you felt impotent with rage. When she furthermore got sole custody because that’s how the system works, you were beside yourself. And of course she also got alimony and child support. Whenever you think about that, you can still feel your blood boil.

Common Thread

Have you noticed the common thread that runs through each of these vignettes? You remember what happened with a great deal of emotion, almost as though you were reliving the painful incident.

What's new about that, you may ask. Of course I relive the painful moment. How else could I react? Do you expect me to forget it?

Not exactly. Although there is an element of forgetting it involved in what I am about to write.

Hanging on to the Old Memories - Hanging on For Dear Life

What I'd like you to think about is this: by remembering, by bringing it back into your mind over and over again - even though you only do it once a week or once a month - you maintain the freshness of the pain. Reliving a painful situation in your mind is tantamount to reliving it in reality ... have you not noticed how the tears can flow again and again, or the red-hot anger can flare over and over ... even though decades have passed?

Of course, you say, of course the tears flow or the anger flares. After all, what happened was very painful...

Your Thoughts Attract

Let's switch to another topic for a moment: you've read about The Law of Attraction, the power of intention, heard about the movie or book The Secret, etc. Maybe you've even read some of the multitude of books about the subject. If so, you know the insistence of all these authors on one central philosophy: what you think about becomes your reality ... thoughts become things ... as a man thinketh, so shall he be ... and of course, all of these authors are encouraging you to imagine in your head, to visualize, or create scenarios in your head to the point where you can literally feel yourself inside of them, and feel the emotion or excitement that would be part of your life if your "scenario" were already a reality. They are basically stating that by so doing, that "scenario" you are so vividly imagining will eventually become a part of your life. That is the power of the law of attraction.

Here’s a verbatim excerpt from a previous article of mine:

The Importance of Forgiving & the Law of Attraction

Once you can forgive, the unfinished business from the past transforms into a mere memory that no longer carries any negative connotations to pull your power away from the present. It is at this point that you can begin to take cellular responsibility for yourself, i.e. you will no longer be harming your body in all senses of the word by keeping that negative power in the past.

Caroline Myss (from whose work I have borrowed the term cellular responsibility) pointed out almost a decade ago in 1999 in The Science of Medical Intuition, together with Dr. Norman Shealy, that it is also at this point that you can begin to create and manifest. In other words, no matter how much visualization and affirmation you are doing, those of you who have been vicariously reading everything you can get your hands on about the Law of Attraction or The Secret, you will not be able to create, until you pull your power into the present. Forgiving those who have trespassed you is one of the biggest steps towards that goal.

Quotes about forgiving by Caroline Myss:
  • By far the strongest poison to the human spirit is the inability to forgive oneself or another person. It disables a person's emotional resources. The challenge is to refine our capacity to love others as well as ourselves and to develop the power of forgiveness.
  • Forgiveness is no longer an option but a necessity for healing.
  • One of the greatest struggles of the healing process is to forgive both yourself and others and to stop expending valuable energy on the past hurts.
  • In order to heal oneself, we must learn how to forgive.
  • Forgive and call back the energy wasted on past events.
  • The act of forgiveness is the act of returning to present time. And that's why when one has become a forgiving person, and has managed to let go of the past, what they've really done is they've shifted their relationship with time.

Choosing Your Thoughts – Choosing Your Feelings

Now let's back track to our original subject. You reliving and remembering painful or traumatic experiences from the past to the point of physical manifestations such as tears of bursts of anger. Is that not the same as what I've just discussed in the previous paragraph, but in a negative version? You keep thinking about - visualizing - imagining - that event from the past to the point of making it a reality in your present life in the sense of how it affects you. In other words, it affects you as much as it might if it were actually happening now. So you have made it into a part of your current reality.

Is that what you want? Is that how you want to live your life?

Nothing stops you from hanging on to your anger or your pain, but only the decision to make new choices stops you from continuing on this desperate treadmill of pain. Making a new choice would be to say to yourself that for your sake, for your peace of mind, you will forgive whoever it was that treated you so badly, so that you can live a good life now. So that you no longer have to continue to relive the pain.

That is all it takes: a choice of dealing with the past differently. You decide, you choose, and your life changes. It is literally as simple as that. So when you get the old thoughts that lead you to the pain you literally say to them no, not today, thanks, I've got better stuff to do than to let you bother me again. Instead of you I'm going to think about what I want to accomplish, or I'm going to shift my energy or I’m going to focus on what is good in my life (even if it’s only the fresh, clean air where you live, or the lush vegetation, or the vibrant city about you, or the great libraries, or the football you can watch on TV). And by focusing on what is good in my life, I can begin to let go of the pain, I can begin to forgive, because from the place of feeling better, by re-focusing, I can understand that I don’t want to be in the place of pain, in the place where I hang on to all that hurt in the past. I know that the only reason it hurts now is because I am not letting go of it. So I choose to let go, to forgive, and to move on.

Do it for yourself, and not only you will benefit, but all those whose lives you touch.

Wednesday, June 20, 2012

The Inner Calm


The image accompanying today's post symbolizes calmness. You can easily imagine being calm in such a setting. Now also imagine walking through this setting and allowing the calm to fill your mind, viewing the amazing hues that the sunslight gives the earth and the green. You would be undertaking a mindfulness walk, if you were doing that, and although you may not have such a path in your particular neighbourhood, what you probably do have, is some place where you can walk and observe, hear, or smell, perhaps even touch or taste beauty.

Simply do this every day. Take 15 minutes. Allow the beauty of one thing to fill you. Feel gratitude for the presence of this thing in your life. Feel the peace this moment of gratitude gives you, because in that moment of gratitude and observation of beauty, you are fully present, in the here and now, and not in your thoughts that generally take you to the past and future, provoking a sense of stress, pain, worry, or fear. Even if those thoughts are only causing you to feel irritated, envious, or annoyed, they are nevertheless robbing you of your inner calm. Repeat this process until the 15 minutes are up. A daily walk of this nature will not only begin to make inner calm a natural part of your life, but it will literally change your brain's neural pathways, and each time you repeat the walk, you will make this new way of being ... this peaceful and calm way, no matter what the outer circumstances ... will grow stronger.

One of the major goals you could gift yourself with, is to pursue inner calm. It will not buy you a bigger car, larger home, more important position at work, or greater fame, but it will give you something much more valuable: and that is peace. Paramahansa Yogananda said: Remain calm, serene, always in command of yourself. You will then find out how easy it is to get along.

Are you getting along? Are you at peace?

For more about finding calm and being at peace, about learning how to take charge of your thoughts and emotions and about the self-transformational process - both in your outer life in the world, and in your inner life with your connection to your inner, divine self, have a look at my book Rewiring the Soul: Finding the Possible Self (paperback or e-book).

To download the first chapter, click here

From the Description on Amazon: Ask anyone, whatever their circumstances, if their life is vibrant, fulfilling, harmonious and happy. An honest reply is likely to be 'no', because to answer a truthful 'yes' is no mean feat. Only to grow psychologically and emotionally is not enough. And only to grow spiritually is not enough either. All three dimensions need to be developed in order to realize your full potential. If you are willing to assume total responsibility for the self and to start what is an on-going journey, you will quickly begin to glimpse the first fruits of the ultimate goal: inner well-being, freedom, peace, harmony and joy. This book sets out the pathway to self-mastery and self-discovery and walking that pathway will be the most exciting adventure of your life.



Tuesday, June 19, 2012

Striking the First Blow


How swift are you on your feet? To re-think the argument, I mean, and get that first blow in ... figuratively speaking, of course. It takes mental agility and speed, and it can elevate your adrenaline, as you consider how well you have dealt that blow. The sparring can be stimulating, especially as you see how your adversary is pushed further and further back against the wall. The first strike can be verbal, and can devastate, breaking your opponent's arguments in half, even if you maintain all the norms of social courtesy. A wonderful Chinese proverb states: He who strikes the first blow admits he's lost the argument. 

How often do you lose the argument?

For much more about finding the divine in your daily life, about gratitude, mindfulness, and beauty, as well as about making choices that enhance your inner well-being, and about feeling good about the self, have a look at my book Rewiring the Soul: Finding the Possible Self, available at Amazon as a paperback or e-book for Kindle and all Kindle applications.

Click here to download the first chapter.

Reviews From the Back Cover:

A revelation of insight into the foundations of human suffering & transcendence. It not only lays out essential steps for inner freedom & joy but illuminates the way to true human potential. Dr. Kortsch is a spiritual master for our time. Paul Rademacher, Executive Director, The Monroe Institute; author: A Spiritual Hitchhiker's Guide to the Universe

"The masterwork of a profoundly gifted healer of the soul. Dazzling, challenging, wondrously useful." Peggy Rubin, Director, Center for Sacred Theatre, Ashland, Oregon; author: To Be and How To Be, Transforming Your Life Through Sacred Theatre

"The instruction manual on rewiring the soul. An in-depth guide on life, love, spiritual evolution & our integration within the universe." Michael Habernig & April Hannah; Producers: The Path- The Afterlife & The Path 11 Documentaries

"Rewiring the Soul is one the best introductions to the spiritual life I've ever read. Not esoteric but real-world & practical. The implications are profound." Peter Shepherd; Founder Trans4mind.com; author: Daring To Be Yourself

"The human being's directory to the soul. A breakthrough for those seeking practical assistance, those of a more mystical bent & every soul awaiting discovery." Toni Petrinovich, Ph.D.; author: The Call: Awakening the Angelic Human

Monday, June 18, 2012

Conquering Thoughts



For years I've been collecting quotations that mean something to me, and it has always struck my fancy that great thinkers said exactly the same thing about the concept that can be resumed in these words: you are what you think.

This is so simple, it's been said throughout the millennia, and yet we seem to find it so difficult to adhere to.

Why?

At first glance, we might say that we find it difficult because it requires effort, but at second glance I would say that another reason has more to do with the fact that we tend to buy into the mindset that has us believing that our salvation lies outside ourselves, when, of course, as I so often discuss here and in my newsletter and website, our salvation, our inner peace and freedom, lie totally within ourselves.

And hence the difficulty. We look and look and search, going on life-long quests, expecting to find it out there, the god of success will save us, the god of prestige will save us, the god of physical beauty will save us, the god of consumerism will save us, the god of academia and the intellectual life will save us, the god of spirituality and om-ing will save us, the god of ecological awareness will save us, and then, sometimes, if we are lucky, we finally do realize that all those things can make a difference to our lives but since they don't save us, we have to look elsewhere, and only then do we start the inner search.

Some of those collected quotes about the topic are here:

Marcus Aurelius
If you are distressd by anything external, the pain is not due to the thing itself but to your own estimate of it; and this you have the power to revoke at any moment.

Samuel Butler
Not only is nothing good or ill but thinking makes it so, but nothing is at all, except in so far as thinking has made it so.

Joseph Campbell
That's what known as Hermetic Gnosticism - bodhi in Sanskrit. Change the perspective of your eyes, and you see the whole world before you now is radiant.

Epictetus
We are not troubled by things, but by the opinions we have of things.

Seneca
A man who suffers before it is necessary, suffers more than is necessary.

Albert Schweitzer
The greatest discovery of any generation is that human beings can alter their lives by altering their attitudes of mind.

Richard Bach
Break the chains of your thinking and you will break the chains of your body.

The Buddha
All that we are is the result of what we have thought.

Deepak Chopra
The rishis said that life is built up by your participation in it. Nothing is good or bad, hard or soft, painful or pleasant, except as you live it.

Ralph Waldo Emerson
Nothing can bring you peace but yourself.

James Allen
As a man thinketh, so is he.

Elizabeth Haich"...my doubts are weakening me, paralyzing me. But doubt is a thought. So I must conquer my thoughts in order to master doubt."

Jon Kabat-Zinn
If you want the future to be different, it's the quality of this moment that needs tending and attention.

Ruby Nelson
The only person you are responsible for changing is yourself.

Louise L. Hay
It's only a thought and a thought can be changed.

Diane K. Osbon
We cannot cure the world of sorrows, but we can choose to live in joy.


For more about learning how to take charge of your thoughts and emotions and about the self-transformational process - both in your outer life in the world, and in your inner life with your connection to your inner, divine self, have a look at my book Rewiring the Soul: Finding the Possible Self (paperback or e-book).

To download the first chapter, click here

From the Description on Amazon: Ask anyone, whatever their circumstances, if their life is vibrant, fulfilling, harmonious and happy. An honest reply is likely to be 'no', because to answer a truthful 'yes' is no mean feat. Only to grow psychologically and emotionally is not enough. And only to grow spiritually is not enough either. All three dimensions need to be developed in order to realize your full potential. If you are willing to assume total responsibility for the self and to start what is an on-going journey, you will quickly begin to glimpse the first fruits of the ultimate goal: inner well-being, freedom, peace, harmony and joy. This book sets out the pathway to self-mastery and self-discovery and walking that pathway will be the most exciting adventure of your life.



Friday, June 15, 2012

Irritation Is Illuminating


Do this exercise quickly: make a list of habits and character traits of others that most annoy you. Even perhaps some others with whom you haven't got a particular relationship, but when that kind of person shows up at the office, in the neighbourhood, or at a dinner party, you can feel your annoyance engorging, your hackles rise, your irritation increases, and in general, you just know that you very much dislike having a person like that around you.

Perhaps some of the habits and traits you dislike look like this (and of course there are hundreds more):
  • being weak and helpless
  • always being helpful
  • never helping
  • always being gay and joyous
  • always being pessimistic
  • knowing more than others
  • knowing very little
  • being domineering
  • being loud
  • being quiet
  • being subservient
  • being harsh
  • being abrupt
  • being overly explanatory
  • complaining
  • self-involved
  • impatient
Now here's the thing: any behavior or attitude or trait or habit of another that evokes affect (emotion) in me, tells me something about me, and not about the other. That is to say: the other may be any of the above things (or other, far worse things), but the point of this little exercise is to make you see that as soon as an emotion of annoyance, irritation, etc., arises within you, it is telling you something about you, as opposed to proving that the other is a this or a that. If you were not involved in this, none of your emotions would surface. The whole thing simply would not matter to you. The fact that your emotions do surface, means it does matter to you because there is something in you that is affected by this behavior of the other, that you need to take a look at. Because the inner place in which you wish to be is a place where the behavior of others does not have the power to affect you in this way. Not because you do not care, but because you are in a place of inner awareness and balance. Therefore, it means that when these emotions arise, they should be taken as indications of something in me that I need to look at, and hence, they can be illuminating and helpful to my own growth. Jung put it like this: Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves.

What is irritating you about another person today? And what do you intend to do about it?

For much more information about dealing with your irritations, challenges, thoughts, choice, freedom and living a conscious life, have a look at my book Rewiring the Soul: Finding the Possible Self, available at Amazon as paperback or e-book for Kindle.


Click here to download the first chapter.

An Early Review (From Amazon):

"The masterwork of a profoundly gifted healer of the soul. Dazzling, challenging, wondrously useful." Peggy Rubin, Director, Center for Sacred Theatre, Ashland, Oregon; author: To Be and How To Be, Transforming Your Life Through Sacred Theatre

Excerpt from an Interview:

Who is the book written for? Rewiring the Soul is written for anybody who suffers and I guess that means just about all of us! It is written for anybody who has not yet experienced enduring happiness and inner well-being; anybody who is reaching for inner peace; anybody whose life is not as they would wish it to be.

What can a reader expect to gain by reading this book? What makes it different from most other transformational or self-help books out there? So many wonderful teachers tell us about working on our spiritual selves. So many other wonderful teachers show us how to work on our psycho-emotional selves. But very few actually integrate the two. And Rewiring the Soul is my response to that challenge. Rewiring the Soul brings together the need to take your daily life in hand with the need to put your spiritual life in order as well. By daily life I mean your personal life, your professional life, the way you do or do not love yourself and all that such an attitude entails: conscious awareness, healthy boundaries, meaning in your life, recognizing you always have a choice, and taking responsibility for all your choices, etc., and by spiritual life I mean the inner connection to your eternal self.

If you have learned how to meditate, or do yoga, or whatever it is that you do, have you also learned how to observe yourself in the middle of an argument with your rebellious teenage son or your angry partner and hence choose to react differently because you have learned to love yourself enough to do so? If you have learned how to communicate more effectively with your children, spouse, friends, colleagues or employees, have you also learned how to be mindful and connect to yourself in meaningful ways to achieve that spiritual balance in your life?

While Rewiring the Soul is about so much more than that, those previous examples give an idea of what my book is about and how it does so in such a way that our psychological and spiritual selves nurture each other.

In a nutshell: neither the spiritual nor the psychological or emotional dimensions of your life will work if you neglect:
  • your inner connection to the eternal self while you seek happiness in the outer world
  • your happiness in the outer world while you seek the connection to the inner eternal self

It was Goethe who said "If everyone will sweep in front of their own door, soon the entire world will be clean". In Rewiring the Soul 'sweeping in front of your own door' means bringing yourself to the utmost point of inner and outer growth, creating progress in body, mind, and soul. This literally means that you have already begun to change the world because of how you are changing yourself.

Are there many exercises in the book? Not at all. This book does not mean hard work, or spending a lot of time doing specific things. It simply means that as you read - if you so desire - you begin to incorporate small changes into your daily life. And so it begins. And the quality of your life changes...

How did you come to write this book? For years the essential content of Rewiring the Soul was like a small, recurring voice in my head; it was always there, and simply would not leave me alone. I had dozens of excuses for not writing it: I was working on my Ph.D. in psychology, I was teaching at a state university, I had three sons, later I was occupied with moving back to Spain, I was setting up my private practice, I had a monthly newsletter to write in English and Spanish, I had a weekly one-hour radio show to broadcast, I had a daily blog post to write, I facilitated numerous workshops and gave frequent speeches, and apart from all of this busy activity and work, sometimes I even had a life. In short, I told myself the book would simply have to wait. But just as a splinter under your skin eventually needs to be seen to, I ultimately realized that the only way I was going to be able to honor the more and more loudly clamoring voice in my head - and heart - was to sit down and write the book.

And you know, that goes to meaning. We all need meaning in our lives, and although I had many things that gave much significance to my life already, the inner urging and excitement I felt each time I thought about Rewiring the Soul compelled me to write the book. Rumi puts it beautifully: "When you do things from your soul, you feel a river moving in you, a joy".

Thursday, June 14, 2012

Where Is Your Ego Leading You Just Now?


Your ego mainly takes over your life when you are not remembering to be conscious. Since it's a question of practice, you simply may not yet have done enough of that. But here are some typical examples of what may happen:
  • you find yourself getting very annoyed at the car ahead of you when the light turns green and they take all of 3 seconds to realize it and only then begin to shift their gears
  • you find that you are still annoyed at them when you manage to overtake them
  • perhaps you give them a sidelong glance
  • perhaps you wave your hand at them in annoyance
  • perhaps you give them the finger
  • you find yourself angry that you are now risking getting to work late
  • when you do prepare to slide into your parking slot just barely in time, you find someone else has taken it
  • your anger increases
  • as you enter your office (or cubicle), you find a load of messages on your desk ... people have been calling for the past 10 minutes.
  • you increase your feeling of being annoyed, you continue feeling angry, and a measure of guilt is added to the equation
  • and it's only 9 am
In all of this you have not taken the fact that you could have set the alarm clock 10 minutes earlier and hence left the house 10 minutes earlier and hence avoided your inner feelings of stress into account.

And furthermore, in all of this you have not come to consciousness once. Because if you had, you would have remembered that you have a choice about all of these inner reactions of your ego that want to always be right, that like to place the blame out there, and that does not want to look iinside and make changes. You could have switched off from your ego, or set your ego to one side, or recognized that it is your ego that was taking over and that you prefer to be in charge and not your ego.

Remaining conscious is critical to your state of inner well-being. And you will only get there by practicing.


For more about becoming and remaining conscious and taking charge of your thoughts and emotions and about the self-transformational process - both in your outer life in the world, and in your inner life with your connection to your inner, divine self, have a look at my book Rewiring the Soul: Finding the Possible Self (paperback or e-book).

To download the first chapter, click here

From the Description on Amazon: Ask anyone, whatever their circumstances, if their life is vibrant, fulfilling, harmonious and happy. An honest reply is likely to be 'no', because to answer a truthful 'yes' is no mean feat. Only to grow psychologically and emotionally is not enough. And only to grow spiritually is not enough either. All three dimensions need to be developed in order to realize your full potential. If you are willing to assume total responsibility for the self and to start what is an on-going journey, you will quickly begin to glimpse the first fruits of the ultimate goal: inner well-being, freedom, peace, harmony and joy. This book sets out the pathway to self-mastery and self-discovery and walking that pathway will be the most exciting adventure of your life.



Tuesday, June 12, 2012

Your Daily Shower


Would you think of going without your daily shower? Without brushing your teeth? Without combing your hair? Maybe that is as far as your daily personal hygiene activities go - but those are probably (unless you are bald) the very minimum that you do. And of course, you do it because it's a habit and because you want to be clean and look presentable. All great reasons.

So now what about what you do about being motivated on a daily basis? Zig Ziglar said that many people believe that motivation does not work because it does not last. Well, he continued, neither does bathing. Which is why we suggest you do it on a daily basis.

Made you smile, didn't it? It almost seems counter-intuitive, but it's so obvious. You need to moitvate yourself every day, not just once and then think that it will hold you in that place for many weeks or months. Workshops and retreats about motivation are great, but what you do with yourself and your head on a daily basis is in fact, much more important. So this blog and my Facebook Page by the same name, as well as my Twitter account can serve as tools to help you remain in that place of motivation. But what you choose is not as important as that you do choose something to keep you on track.

Are you having that daily shower?


For much more about finding the divine in your daily life, about gratitude, mindfulness, and beauty, as well as about making choices that enhance your inner well-being, and about feeling good about the self, have a look at my book Rewiring the Soul: Finding the Possible Self, available at Amazon as a paperback or e-book for Kindle and all Kindle applications.

Click here to download the first chapter.

Reviews From the Back Cover:

A revelation of insight into the foundations of human suffering & transcendence. It not only lays out essential steps for inner freedom & joy but illuminates the way to true human potential. Dr. Kortsch is a spiritual master for our time. Paul Rademacher, Executive Director, The Monroe Institute; author: A Spiritual Hitchhiker's Guide to the Universe

"The masterwork of a profoundly gifted healer of the soul. Dazzling, challenging, wondrously useful." Peggy Rubin, Director, Center for Sacred Theatre, Ashland, Oregon; author: To Be and How To Be, Transforming Your Life Through Sacred Theatre

"The instruction manual on rewiring the soul. An in-depth guide on life, love, spiritual evolution & our integration within the universe." Michael Habernig & April Hannah; Producers: The Path- The Afterlife & The Path 11 Documentaries

"Rewiring the Soul is one the best introductions to the spiritual life I've ever read. Not esoteric but real-world & practical. The implications are profound." Peter Shepherd; Founder Trans4mind.com; author: Daring To Be Yourself

"The human being's directory to the soul. A breakthrough for those seeking practical assistance, those of a more mystical bent & every soul awaiting discovery." Toni Petrinovich, Ph.D.; author: The Call: Awakening the Angelic Human

Monday, June 11, 2012

Pay Attention to the Mental Noise


Have you ever found yourself reacting to something personal that someone posted on Facebook, Twitter or LinkedIn (or any other social media site)? And by reacted, I mean that somewhere inside of you there was something that was not feeling good. Not because you were maligned or denigrated, but perhaps you felt less popular, less admired, less chic, less informed, less something because of the post you read.

Have you ever despaired of answering all the emails you receive in a timely fashion? Have you ever breathed a sigh of relief when something happens to your hard drive and they all disappear?

Have you ever felt overwhelmed by information:
  • when you check an online newspaper and an article you find of interest, simply keeps leading you to more and more information?
  • when you search for something on any one of the popular search engines, and find not 10 pages that will supply you with the needed information, but 785,000 pages that will do so, all in the click of your mouse?
  • when you receive yet another one of those newsletters in your INBOX (that you had happily subscribed to when you found it), but mentally groan in pain, wondering whn on earth you are going to find the time to read it?
And while all this is going on, you are fielding land line and mobile phone calls, you are text messaging, you are downloading something on one of your devices, you are Skyping someone, you are WhatsApping someone, you are converting documents to pdf, you are scanning photos in order to improve their color, and you are also (strangely enough) watching the tournament at Roland Garros on TV.

All of this is mental noise. When do you ever turn it off? When do you have a relationship with yourself, instead of with the devices (which I thoroughly love myself ... I'm NOT putting them down, just putting them in their place)? When do you have time to have a relationship with your spouse, your children, your parents, your friends, if your eyes are always on some device or another?

Try to pay attention to this mental noise that is separating you from you. And when you succeed in paying attention to it, find a silent place within. Reconnect with yourself. Don't allow the magnificence of what we as a global society have created, keep you from you.


Friday, June 8, 2012

Designing a Life



Imagine great artists such as Monet who have worked on enormous canvases, or others such as Diego de Rivera who have created murals that span entire walls of buildings, or others yet, such as Michelangelo, who painted the ceiling of a magnificent chapel. Then think of some of the world's great pieces of literature - one that springs instantly to mind is Lawrence Durrell's Alexandria Quartet (a languorous, lilting film was made of the first book Justine with a very young Anouk Aimée, Dirk Bogarde and Michael York): four long volumes that took its author many years to conceive and write. Or think of Proust's 7-volume In Search of Lost Time, Conrad, Simone de Beauvoir and Madariaga to name only a few.

Obviously these artists first had a glimmer of an idea and that idea was then somehow fleshed out, perhaps sketches were made, notes were taken in order to ultimately come up with the final opus. I simply can't imagine, and certainly don't believe, that their works were made up, higgledy-piggledy, on the spur of the moment, with each brush-stroke or written word simply arising from the ether with no planning and forethought.

And yet, this is how we often live our lives. Rather than designing and planning them, we may live them in hodge-podge fashion, allowing the events of the moment to determine what will occur next. You may object that much of life is unexpected, and I totally concur. Despite all our efforts at planning, many things do happen in life that throw us off course. But let's look at our artists again. Both painters and writers may find that a portion of the painting or book acquires a life of its own and it now leads the artist down a totally new and unexpected avenue ... as our lives do. So what does the artist do? He shows flexibility in considering whether the new path is worthwhile traversing and may go there. Or not. But he maintains his main objective in mind. He knows where he wants to go with his work - in large part because he has a plan. So despite the byways, red herrings, spilled paint, lost manuscripts and other assorted artistic anomalies, he perseveres and finds his way towards his goal.

Should we not take a lesson from that for our own lives? Do we not occasionally get thrown off course too easily? Designing and planning well - at whatever point in your life you determine to do this - means that while events (or lack of events) may threaten to undo you, you can still hold to that master plan and find your way back to the strong threads that tie it together.

Are you designing and planning well?


For more about bringing yourself into a place where you are able to design and plan your life, about becoming and remaining conscious and taking charge of your thoughts and emotions and about the self-transformational process - both in your outer life in the world, and in your inner life with your connection to your inner, divine self, have a look at my book Rewiring the Soul: Finding the Possible Self (paperback or e-book).

To download the first chapter, click here

From the Description on Amazon: Ask anyone, whatever their circumstances, if their life is vibrant, fulfilling, harmonious and happy. An honest reply is likely to be 'no', because to answer a truthful 'yes' is no mean feat. Only to grow psychologically and emotionally is not enough. And only to grow spiritually is not enough either. All three dimensions need to be developed in order to realize your full potential. If you are willing to assume total responsibility for the self and to start what is an on-going journey, you will quickly begin to glimpse the first fruits of the ultimate goal: inner well-being, freedom, peace, harmony and joy. This book sets out the pathway to self-mastery and self-discovery and walking that pathway will be the most exciting adventure of your life.