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"A revelation of insight into the foundations of human suffering & transcendence. It not only lays out essential steps for inner freedom and joy but illuminates the way to true human potential." Paul Rademacher, author: A Spiritual Hitchhiker's Guide to the Universe

"The masterwork of a profoundly gifted healer of the soul. Dazzling, challenging, wondrously useful." Peggy Rubin, author: To Be and How To Be, Transforming Your Life Through Sacred Theatre

"Rewiring the Soul is one the best introductions to the spiritual life I've ever read. Not esoteric but real-world and practical. The implications are profound." Peter Shepherd, author: Daring To Be Yourself

Thursday, May 31, 2012

Winning 1000 Battles


Think of all the battles you fight everyday! Battles to get through traffic to work on time. Battles to ensure that your boss knows what a good job you are doing. Battles to ensure that your colleague knows how intelligent / innovative / enterprising / senior / advanced / fill-in-the-blank you are. Battles to let the waitress that serves your lunch know what a generous tipper you are. Battles to ensure others on the commuter train know what intelligent things you read, or how many digital devices you manage during the time you are there. Battles to ensure your children know how loving / kind / knowledgeable / sporty / young / strong / important / right you are. Battles to ensure your spouse knows how fill-in-the-blank you are. Battles to ensure that your neighbours know you are moving up in the world ... or manage to keep a greener, more lush-looking lawn than they do. Battles to ensure the others at the cocktail or dinner party understand how easily you move among them, how readily you make good /witty / intelligent conversation.

Are you getting my point? These battles are a daily, huge, up-hill climb. Many, if not most, are simply not important. But in our zeal to win these battles (for reasons too innumerable to mention here), we forget about the most important battle of all. Here is how the Buddha put it: It is better to conquer yourself than to win a thousand battles. Then the victory is yours. It cannot be taken from you, not by angels or by demons, heaven or hell.

Is the victory yours today?

For more about winning the inner victory, taking charge of your thoughts and emotions and about the self-transformational process - both in your outer life in the world, and in your inner life with your connection to your inner, divine self, have a look at my book Rewiring the Soul: Finding the Possible Self (paperback or e-book).

To download the first chapter, click here

From the Description on Amazon: Ask anyone, whatever their circumstances, if their life is vibrant, fulfilling, harmonious and happy. An honest reply is likely to be 'no', because to answer a truthful 'yes' is no mean feat. Only to grow psychologically and emotionally is not enough. And only to grow spiritually is not enough either. All three dimensions need to be developed in order to realize your full potential. If you are willing to assume total responsibility for the self and to start what is an on-going journey, you will quickly begin to glimpse the first fruits of the ultimate goal: inner well-being, freedom, peace, harmony and joy. This book sets out the pathway to self-mastery and self-discovery and walking that pathway will be the most exciting adventure of your life.



Wednesday, May 30, 2012

Choosing Where To Focus


As I turned the news on this morning, there was yet another banking crisis, a bailout, another story about good people losing their homes, not to mention many stories about poverty, hunger, murder, bombs and mistreatment of women in certain countries. All of these stories occupy much air time on our local and global news networks, and the one I'd like to concentrate on particularly is the financial crisis, the recession so many parts of the world are suffering from.

Rewind to October 2008. That's nearly four years ago. Forty-four months to be precise. Think about how many of those 1,320 days have been partially marred by your worry, fear, stress and concern about that banking crisis. You have listened to the pundits and the fear-mongerers, as well as to the well-meaning economists, analysts and journalists over and over again, and yet each time those talks, conversations and analyses come on the air, they only served to heighten your sense of concern.

How much difference to your life has listening to all those talks really made? Did you personally do something radically different due to all of it? Perhaps something relatively small, but the truth of the matter is that you were not able to do much about the overarching situation ... obviously! So what good has all that listening done you? On a scale of 1 - 10, where 1 is little to nothing, I would wager that many of us are closer to that number than any other from the point of view of what good the continual informing about the global recession has done for us. But ... it has created inner turmoil, depression and perhaps even anguish.

Therefore my point is this: bearing all of the above in mind, would it not make more sense to not continue listening to all those talk shows and commentaries on radio and TV? Would it not make more sense to use that time constructively to raise the state of our inner well-being? Would it not make more sense to contemplate what might be done to change - on our own little scale - some of what has caused all this havoc? Obviously, in the course of this, you need to educate yourself. Not only to understand what has happened in the world, but also to understand what happens inside of you.

Learn to choose where you focus your mind, thoughts and ideas, and observe how this affects your feeling state.

Here are several suggestions to implement this:
  1. Watch the documentary Thrive online. It contains much valuable information about what you can do about the current situation and it is available in 10 languages. There is no cost involved and it can be downloaded in any of those languages if you wish: http://www.thrivemovement.com/the_movie
  2. Watch Wayne Dyer's Wishes Fulfilled presentation. It's very uplifting and filled with wonderfully empowering ideas. See it here: http://lightworkers.org/node/156335 or here: http://vimeo.com/39394902
  3. Read my book Rewiring the Soul. It is also filled with empowering ideas. The first chapter is available as a free download here.

Tuesday, May 29, 2012

Curbing Your Impatience


Sitting on a sled at the top of a hill in the late summer will not make the snow come more quickly, nor will watering a seed in the ground make the oak tree appear more rapidly, nor will opening a chrysalis help the butterfly emerge more quickly. We know this. You don't really need me to tell you.

But we often forget this in our own process. We want definitive results long before we have learned how to add and subtract and we want wings long before we learn how to walk, let alone run. Our lives are a process of growth, sometimes slowly, sometimes in greater spurts, but immediate growth all the way takes place for no one. Remember how long Olympic contenders train and practice. Remember how long a concert pianist has lessons and endless hours of practice. So too, it is with the evolution of our selves throughout the course of our lives.

Nietzsche put it beautifully: He who would learn to fly one day must first learn to stand and walk and run and climb and dance; one cannot fly into flying.

Let's love ourselves enough to give ourselves time to learn how to stand and walk and run and climb and dance before we fly ... but let's definitely not stop until we do know how to fly!


For more about learning how to evolve and learning how to fly, taking charge of your thoughts and emotions and about the self-transformational process - both in your outer life in the world, and in your inner life with your connection to your inner, divine self, have a look at my book Rewiring the Soul: Finding the Possible Self (paperback or e-book).

To download the first chapter, click here

From the Description on Amazon: Ask anyone, whatever their circumstances, if their life is vibrant, fulfilling, harmonious and happy. An honest reply is likely to be 'no', because to answer a truthful 'yes' is no mean feat. Only to grow psychologically and emotionally is not enough. And only to grow spiritually is not enough either. All three dimensions need to be developed in order to realize your full potential. If you are willing to assume total responsibility for the self and to start what is an on-going journey, you will quickly begin to glimpse the first fruits of the ultimate goal: inner well-being, freedom, peace, harmony and joy. This book sets out the pathway to self-mastery and self-discovery and walking that pathway will be the most exciting adventure of your life.



Wednesday, May 23, 2012

The Light in the Crack

Where are you broken? Where are you hurting? What part of you is cracked? You may agree, that over time, it is precisely there - in that devastated part of you - that you have gained insight and growth. By attempting to understand, by finding ways of dealing with the pain, heartbreak or suffering, the roadblocks, the barriers and naysayers, the negativity that invades you, the mountains that seem to loom in front of you ... by learning how to deal with this lucidly, consciously, and not by the road of building defense mechanisms, you eventually find some light.

Leonard Cohen epxressed it beautifully: There is a crack in everything. That's how the light gets in.

Be grateful for the cracks. They are not your enemies but your enlighteners.


For much more information about dealing with your challenges, thoughts, choice, freedom and living a conscious life, have a look at my book Rewiring the Soul: Finding the Possible Self, available at Amazon as paperback or e-book for Kindle.


Click here to download the first chapter.

An Early Review (From Amazon):

"The masterwork of a profoundly gifted healer of the soul. Dazzling, challenging, wondrously useful."

Peggy Rubin, Director, Center for Sacred Theatre, Ashland, Oregon; author: To Be and How To Be, Transforming Your Life Through Sacred Theatre

Excerpt from an Interview:

Who is the book written for? Rewiring the Soul is written for anybody who suffers and I guess that means just about all of us! It is written for anybody who has not yet experienced enduring happiness and inner well-being; anybody who is reaching for inner peace; anybody whose life is not as they would wish it to be.

What can a reader expect to gain by reading this book? What makes it different from most other transformational or self-help books out there? So many wonderful teachers tell us about working on our spiritual selves. So many other wonderful teachers show us how to work on our psycho-emotional selves. But very few actually integrate the two. And Rewiring the Soul is my response to that challenge. Rewiring the Soul brings together the need to take your daily life in hand with the need to put your spiritual life in order as well. By daily life I mean your personal life, your professional life, the way you do or do not love yourself and all that such an attitude entails: conscious awareness, healthy boundaries, meaning in your life, recognizing you always have a choice, and taking responsibility for all your choices, etc., and by spiritual life I mean the inner connection to your eternal self.

If you have learned how to meditate, or do yoga, or whatever it is that you do, have you also learned how to observe yourself in the middle of an argument with your rebellious teenage son or your angry partner and hence choose to react differently because you have learned to love yourself enough to do so? If you have learned how to communicate more effectively with your children, spouse, friends, colleagues or employees, have you also learned how to be mindful and connect to yourself in meaningful ways to achieve that spiritual balance in your life?

While Rewiring the Soul is about so much more than that, those previous examples give an idea of what my book is about and how it does so in such a way that our psychological and spiritual selves nurture each other.

In a nutshell: neither the spiritual nor the psychological or emotional dimensions of your life will work if you neglect:
  • your inner connection to the eternal self while you seek happiness in the outer world
  • your happiness in the outer world while you seek the connection to the inner eternal self

It was Goethe who said "If everyone will sweep in front of their own door, soon the entire world will be clean". In Rewiring the Soul 'sweeping in front of your own door' means bringing yourself to the utmost point of inner and outer growth, creating progress in body, mind, and soul. This literally means that you have already begun to change the world because of how you are changing yourself.

Are there many exercises in the book? Not at all. This book does not mean hard work, or spending a lot of time doing specific things. It simply means that as you read - if you so desire - you begin to incorporate small changes into your daily life. And so it begins. And the quality of your life changes...

How did you come to write this book? For years the essential content of Rewiring the Soul was like a small, recurring voice in my head; it was always there, and simply would not leave me alone. I had dozens of excuses for not writing it: I was working on my Ph.D. in psychology, I was teaching at a state university, I had three sons, later I was occupied with moving back to Spain, I was setting up my private practice, I had a monthly newsletter to write in English and Spanish, I had a weekly one-hour radio show to broadcast, I had a daily blog post to write, I facilitated numerous workshops and gave frequent speeches, and apart from all of this busy activity and work, sometimes I even had a life. In short, I told myself the book would simply have to wait. But just as a splinter under your skin eventually needs to be seen to, I ultimately realized that the only way I was going to be able to honor the more and more loudly clamoring voice in my head - and heart - was to sit down and write the book.

And you know, that goes to meaning. We all need meaning in our lives, and although I had many things that gave much significance to my life already, the inner urging and excitement I felt each time I thought about Rewiring the Soul compelled me to write the book. Rumi puts it beautifully: "When you do things from your soul, you feel a river moving in you, a joy".

Tuesday, May 22, 2012

The Greatest Quality in Life



You take decisions often every day, don't you? Some are easy, some less so, but you know all about taking decisions, and then sticking to them. You might decide to move to another city due to a fantastic job offer, you might decide to stop smoking, you might decide to incorporate some physical activity into your life, you might decide to spend more quality time with your kids, or you might decide to stop straightening your hair, and let it out in all its curly glory.

Imagine taking a decision one day to be happy.

The ability to enjoy life, the ability to be happy, is, from my point of view, the greatest quality in life. With this one quality your life becomes - ipso facto - better, more enjoyable, increasing in satisfaction and daily contentment. What can go wrong, if you have decided - in advance - to always be happy, no matter what?

Imagine waking up in the morning and saying to yourself, no matter what happens today, no matter who does their best to frustrate or anger me, I will not stray from my path of feeling good about my life. No one will have the power to make me leave that path. No event will cause me to leave that path. This means that you correct your feelings, your reactions, at their very inception...in other words, if you notice that something is occurring that is threatening to make you go in another direction, you literally decide to choose another alternative at that moment, because you know - you are aware of the fact - that you have this choice.

You have the choice because in the end it always depends on your own decisions much more than on absolutely anything else. I repeat this over and over again, because in psychology, just as in marketing, it typically requires that a concept is heard or read nine times before it totally sinks in, and this concept of how you feel at any time, and how you react to events, is truly your choice.

A wonderful book I have often mentioned by Barry Neil Kaufman is Happiness is a Choice, in which the author points the reader in the direction discussed in this article today. Another book along similar lines, although from a slightly different perspective, is Wayne Dyer's The Power of Intention, and finally - same idea, but in another direction altogether, by celular biologist Dr. Bruce Lipton, The Biology of Belief: Unleashing the Power of Consciousness, Matter, and Miracles.

In an earlier post (Abraham I: The Astonishing Power of Emotions) I wrote:

Much has been written here on the blog about the importance of your energy and your vibrational frequency, as well as on my website (e.g., my March 2006 newsletter: Intentional Focus: Your Happiness, Your Success, & the Law of Attraction, and my article The Energy Barometer, Make Your Mind Body Connection Work For You, first published in May 2006).

The importance of how you feel is so great that its effect on the quality of your life can not be stated often enough. Pay attention to how you feel, and if you do not feel good - vibrationally - do what it takes to feel good, shift your energy, recognizing that not feeling good is not a place in which you have to stay. Understand that choice forms a great part of that (Making Choices: Taking Responsibility For Our Lives).

Much of what I write about on my website and this blog, much of what I teach in my workshops and speaking engagements, is focused in that direction, in order to give you ideas and inspiration about how to go about this.

Go about your morning, your day, your life with a new decision to give yourself the greatest quality in life ... deciding to live a content life ... no matter what ... simply because you so decide.

For more about the conscious decision to be happy, taking charge of your thoughts and emotions and about the self-transformational process - both in your outer life in the world, and in your inner life with your connection to your inner, divine self, have a look at my book Rewiring the Soul: Finding the Possible Self (paperback or e-book).

To download the first chapter, click here

From the Description on Amazon: Ask anyone, whatever their circumstances, if their life is vibrant, fulfilling, harmonious and happy. An honest reply is likely to be 'no', because to answer a truthful 'yes' is no mean feat. Only to grow psychologically and emotionally is not enough. And only to grow spiritually is not enough either. All three dimensions need to be developed in order to realize your full potential. If you are willing to assume total responsibility for the self and to start what is an on-going journey, you will quickly begin to glimpse the first fruits of the ultimate goal: inner well-being, freedom, peace, harmony and joy. This book sets out the pathway to self-mastery and self-discovery and walking that pathway will be the most exciting adventure of your life.



Monday, May 21, 2012

Facing the Sunshine


Some people are tired of the continual insistence on positivity that has appeared, particularly since the late 90's, some are truly inspired and motivated by it, others state - and rightly so in some cases - that such insistence on positivity keeps us from examining our more difficult feelings, but I believe there is also another angle to all of this that we must not forget and therefore must consciously acknowledge due to the potential high-reaching benefit it may have for all of us.

More than positivity, an attitude that determines that facing the sunshine may be better not only for my current state of mind, inner sense of well-being (and hence that of those whose lives touch mine), and also for the physiological condition of the very cells of my body, but over and above all of that, may also be extraordinarily influential (as demonstrated in neuro-scientific study after study), in changing the nature of the neural pathways in my brain.

I remember the world looking in horror (well, some of the world) in the mid to late 60's and early 70's at those women who were talking about building muscles. I mean, some gasped, they wanted toned thighs ... what could be less feminine than hard muscles in a woman's thighs? Well, obviously, not only did women in general adapt this new way of seeing their bodies, but it became clear that toned muscles helped the conditon of overall health in almost every arena of one's being.

Fathering men - husbands who chose to stay home with the baby instead of the wife - caused consternation at first, as did (and occasionally still do) women who chose not to have children, not to mention more obvious examples of racial bigotry that have fallen by the wayside in numerous countries, as well as gender and creed biases, to mention only a few. The more that large portions of the world begin to change their minds about how to think about some of these examples, the more we, as a global community change.

So back to our topic of facing the sunshine: being positive has a proven impact on neural pathways in the pre-frontal cortex, the state of those neural pathways has an impact on our way of being and feeling, and the more each of us becomes a human being filled with light and compassion (in some respects a consequence of facing the sunshine), the more our global community stands a chance of truly evolving on levels we can now only imagine.

How are you deciding to face the sunshine today?

For much more about enhancing your neural pathways, gratitude, mindfulness, and beauty, as well as about making choices that enhance your inner well-being, and about feeling good about the self, have a look at my book Rewiring the Soul: Finding the Possible Self, available at Amazon as a paperback or e-book for Kindle and all Kindle applications.

Click here to download the first chapter.

Reviews From the Back Cover:

A revelation of insight into the foundations of human suffering & transcendence. It not only lays out essential steps for inner freedom & joy but illuminates the way to true human potential. Dr. Kortsch is a spiritual master for our time. Paul Rademacher, Executive Director, The Monroe Institute; author: A Spiritual Hitchhiker's Guide to the Universe

"The masterwork of a profoundly gifted healer of the soul. Dazzling, challenging, wondrously useful." Peggy Rubin, Director, Center for Sacred Theatre, Ashland, Oregon; author: To Be and How To Be, Transforming Your Life Through Sacred Theatre

"The instruction manual on rewiring the soul. An in-depth guide on life, love, spiritual evolution & our integration within the universe." Michael Habernig & April Hannah; Producers: The Path- The Afterlife & The Path 11 Documentaries

"Rewiring the Soul is one the best introductions to the spiritual life I've ever read. Not esoteric but real-world & practical. The implications are profound." Peter Shepherd; Founder Trans4mind.com; author: Daring To Be Yourself

"The human being's directory to the soul. A breakthrough for those seeking practical assistance, those of a more mystical bent & every soul awaiting discovery." Toni Petrinovich, Ph.D.; author: The Call: Awakening the Angelic Human

Friday, May 18, 2012

Remaining Conscious




What is being conscious? What does it mean when we are not conscious? Why are we not conscious? And how can we remain conscious?

Being Conscious

Over the millennia being conscious has been defined in many ways by many seekers, masters, enlightened beings, philosophers and spiritual or mystical organizations.

·         It has been defined as: subjectivity, awareness, the ability to experience or to feel, wakefulness, having a sense of selfhood

·         John Locke (1690) defined it as the perception of what passes in a man’s own mind

·         Stuart Sutherland (1989) wrote in the MacMillan Dictionary of Psychology about being conscious: The having of perceptions, thoughts, and feelings; awareness. The term is impossible to define except in terms that are unintelligible without a grasp of what consciousness means. Many fall into the trap of equating consciousness with self-consciousness—to be conscious it is only necessary to be aware of the external world. Consciousness is a fascinating but elusive phenomenon: it is impossible to specify what it is, what it does, or why it has evolved

·         Some seek to define it in purely Newtonian and mechanistic terms, i.e. that it all comes down to something physical

·         The mystical psychiatrist Richard Maurice Bucke distinguished between three types of consciousness: Simple Consciousness, awareness of the body, possessed by many animals; Self Consciousness, awareness of being aware, possessed only by humans; and Cosmic Consciousness, awareness of the life and order of the universe, possessed only by humans who are enlightened

·         Ken Wilber described consciousness as a spectrum with ordinary awareness at one end, and more profound types of awareness at higher levels (Source)

So to simplify and for the purposes of this article, we could say that being conscious implies being aware of the self at all times, or at the very least, intending and attempting to be aware of the self, in such a way that no matter what occurs, this awareness is never lost in the waves of events in a lifetime. On another scale, being conscious also implies an acute awareness of a self that goes beyond the physical body with which we are clothed - an awareness of an eternal self that does not cease to exist when the body does.

Not Being Conscious

So evidently it follows that when you are not conscious you are not aware of yourself. You might notice – be conscious of - getting sick, although something like a back ache or a stiff neck might not make itself noticeable for a while either, simply because you would have less awareness about your physical self as well. You might not notice something like a gut feeling, an intuition, or even if you did, your awareness of it might be so reduced, that you simply would not pay attention to it.

On another level, you would not notice your SELF in daily interaction with others. You would notice the things they said or did to you, but you would not have sufficient consciousness to be aware of your own inner reactions to that, in order to then be able to choose other, perhaps less toxic reactions because that kind of choice is only possible when you are fully conscious.

You would not notice your egoic self (we might describe that as the part of you that sees everything first and foremost from its own point of view) intruding in everyday activities when, for example, you might be insisting on being right, whether or not you were, and even if you were, despite the fact that going to those lengths to show that you were right, might break a particular relationship asunder, or at least, damage it, as in the kind of damage vested upon relationships with our partners and children in such situations, your egoic self would make you insist on showing you were right…

You simply might not hear something kind your partner, parent or child just said, because closely attached (in verbal distance) to the kind words, were other words your mind has latched upon that you now interpret as being critical, harsh or cruel, and even if they were, the fact is, that due to a lack of full awareness or consciousness, you have merely heard and reacted to the more negative words.

Not being conscious has ramifications that spread themselves like grasping, strangling tentacles into every sector of our lives, literally cutting off the oxygen that allows us to live a healthy existence filled with inner freedom and well-being. Being partially conscious is helpful but not nearly enough.

Why Are We Not Conscious?

This has a number of quite logical answers:

·         We may not be aware of another kind of existence other than our ‘sleeping’ one

·         We may be aware, but have not yet taken any kind of decision to become more conscious

·         We may be aware, but do not desire to take any kind of decision to become more conscious

·         We may have taken the decision, but do not follow through on it with practice and discipline and a continual reminding of ourselves

·         We may have taken the decision, and are even following through on it, but only to a degree, and hence, despite our best intentions  – simply because we are still too weak in that arena – continually forget to practice remaining conscious

How Can We Remain Conscious?

Remaining conscious involves intent, choice and practice.

Intent means that your intention is to remain conscious. If you intend to lose weight, you will be paying attention to a number of things such as the kind of food you have in your house, the amount of food you have on your plate, and all the food choices you make throughout your day every day.

Intending to remain conscious works in a similar fashion. You pay attention to things such as your body and how it reacts, your emotions and how they are reacting, your inner energy and the level it is at.

Choice means that you choose to remain conscious. If you choose to lose weight, you will choose to purchase certain foods and not others, you will choose to eat certain foods in public places and not others, and you will choose to say no to bad food choices when someone offers them to you.

Choosing to remain conscious works in a similar fashion. You choose to do certain things that will promote remaining conscious. You may do some mindfulness exercises, such as a 15-minute mindfulness walk every day* that will promote the growth of new neural pathways that will literally help you remain conscious.

Practice means that you practice remaining conscious. If you practice losing weight, you will attune your body to a new way of eating, because you are using this new way over and over until it becomes a habit.

Practicing to remain conscious works in a similar fashion. You practice certain activities and new thought patterns because you know full well that what is not practiced does not become a habit, and if it does not become a habit, nothing will change.

Remaining conscious is truly a full-time activity, although it does not actually take much time. It takes a habit of mindfulness, expressed in your daily intent, your daily choices, and what you practice on a daily basis. Also see Consciousness is a Full-time Job


*15-Minute Mindfulness Walk: choose a time, during daylight hours when you can walk unimpeded, on your own, for 15 minutes. Start by focusing on the beauty around you, whether this is beauty you see, smell, hear, taste or touch. When you do this, also allow yourself to feel gratitude for whatever it is you are perceiving with one or more of your senses. This brings you into the present moment, allowing your mind to be still. Then do it again, by noticing something else, and again, feel the gratitude. Try to continue doing this for the entire 15 minutes. If at one point you realize your thoughts have wandered off to your worries or past pain, or just everyday problems, don’t get annoyed with yourself. Simply pull yourself back to noticing beauty again until your 15 minutes are up.

For more about becoming and remaining conscious and taking charge of your thoughts and emotions and about the self-transformational process - both in your outer life in the world, and in your inner life with your connection to your inner, divine self, have a look at my book Rewiring the Soul: Finding the Possible Self (paperback or e-book).

To download the first chapter, click here

From the Description on Amazon: Ask anyone, whatever their circumstances, if their life is vibrant, fulfilling, harmonious and happy. An honest reply is likely to be 'no', because to answer a truthful 'yes' is no mean feat. Only to grow psychologically and emotionally is not enough. And only to grow spiritually is not enough either. All three dimensions need to be developed in order to realize your full potential. If you are willing to assume total responsibility for the self and to start what is an on-going journey, you will quickly begin to glimpse the first fruits of the ultimate goal: inner well-being, freedom, peace, harmony and joy. This book sets out the pathway to self-mastery and self-discovery and walking that pathway will be the most exciting adventure of your life.



Thursday, May 17, 2012

Value the Pressure in Your Life


Who were you before those difficult patches in your life? Perhaps more carefree, but also less strong. Who were you before you went through that divorce? Perhaps more innocent, but also less confident. Who were you before you lost your job? Perhaps you took everything for granted, but you were also less knowledgeable about just how much you were capable of doing. Who were you before that daunting diagnosis at the doctor's office? Perhaps less aware of the fragility of life, but also less appreciative of the marvel of life in all our everyday moments.

With all difficulty in our lives we always have choices. Certainly, the easiest one, the default one many of us might choose before having undergone some of the pressure, would be to say that we don't really 'need' (or wish for) problems. However, another choice is to understand and assimilate the old Thomas Carlyle adage: No pressure. No diamonds. If that becomes part of your internalized repertoire, you will not have any difficulty in looking at that next bump (or mountain) that appears in your path and realizing that it too will serve the process of polishing you - the you that will become that which you may be - to an even higher state of brilliance.



For much more about overcoming difficulty, about being present, about having a conscious relationship with yourself and living consciously, about being aware of your thoughts and feelings, and about how you love, respect and admire yourself, have a look at my book Rewiring the Soul: Finding the Possible Self, available at Amazon.

Click here to download the first chapter.

Reviews From Amazon:

"The Soul doesn't get sick but it does need nourishment; if not it seems as if our life starves to death. This wonderful book by Dr. Gabriella Kortsch is definitely healthy "Soul food". It becomes clear that as the personality endeavors to "rewire" the Soul, it is its own energy or conscious awareness that is elevated to that higher level where the invisible becomes visible and experienced as peace, joy, love and freedom. A treat to enjoy and celebrate."
ERIC ROLF; author, Soul Medicine: The Heart of Healing

"Rewiring the Soul is a thoughtful guide to the peace and joy that self-government through inner awareness brings. In the words of author Gabriella Kortsch, anyone's ideal 'possible human' becomes their actual reality by following the simple inner steps in this remarkable book."
JIM WAWRO; author, Ask Your Inner Voice

"This book is a gift to humanity, a valuable tool in aiding seekers to accomplish mastery of their own lives. Gabriella Kortsch provides clear steps to help people find peace in a practical and powerful way. She does not ask you to give up anything other then what no longer serves you. Brilliantly written!"
HILLARY RAIMO; Author & Radio Host

"I thought I could pick just one chapter to write a review, but I couldn't .... I was glued to the chair as I read Rewiring the Soul ... a literary, in-depth masterpiece to the human psyche, behavior and ultimate transformation. Exquisitely written, beautifully executed."
ALI R. RODRIGUEZ, Business Coach, co-author, Mastering the Art of Success



Wednesday, May 16, 2012

Decorating From the Inside Out


We have stringent habits of hygiene for our bodies, teeth and hair. We spend much time ensuring our hair and face look good before we hit the road. We spend exorbitant amounts of money on the latest fashion - not only to look good - but also to look as though we belong (i.e., fashionable). And so we decorate ourselves on the outside.

Do you see how ludicrous that is? Oh, I don't mean that it's ludicrous or wrong to be clean and dress well, but that it's ludicrous that we start our decorating process from the outside, as opposed to from the inside.

We want our lives to be filled with peace and harmony, but we only spend a fraction of the time that we spend on that outer decorating process as compared to the time we spend on the inner one. Decorating yourself from the inside out literally means that the intention to work magic on the inside must be strong, and that this intention translates into time and consistency spent on that inner decoration.

How does your house come to be as beautiful as it is? Probably one of the reasons is because you have devoted time and love to it, even if you did it on a shoestring and went from garage sale to flea market in order to find beautiful pieces that you then restored. Devotion, love and time are elements that you also require for the inner process. You simply would not expect your hair, your clothes, your face, your body, etc. to look good without some effort, and so you also can not expect your inner self to shine without time, love and devotion.

Think of your inner self as the part of you that will never grow old. As the part of you that will always be. Doesn't it make more sense to spend at least as much love, time and devotion on decorating that part of yourself, as you do on the outer part? Isn't that who you really are? Or do you actually believe that you are the wrinkles (or perhaps no wrinkles yet) on your face, or the designer label of clothing you wear? And if that inner part is who you really are, then that part of you deserves attention, time, devotion and love. Care for it at least as much as you care for the state of your skin or hair or nails. Grow it, decorate it, and care for it every single day of your life. Having a good hair day is great. Having a good life of inner peace, joy, harmony and freedom is priceless.


For more about seeking the connection to the self, about self-discovery and self-love, and about taking charge of your thoughts and emotions and about the self-transformational process - both in your outer life in the world, and in your inner life with your connection to your inner, divine self, have a look at my book Rewiring the Soul: Finding the Possible Self (paperback or e-book).

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Tuesday, May 15, 2012

Your Choice of Reaction to Stress


When faced with a problem with your car, your computer, or an article of clothing, you know where to go to get it resolved. If you are given a puzzle to solve, you would probably be able to figure out how to go about it. Depending on the degree of difficulty, you might not find the answer, but you would have a good idea about the method. However, when faced with stress, we tend not to go about it in the same way.

We toss and turn endlessly in our beds at night, we go over the issue in our minds incessantly, mulling about this and that aspect of it, we tell our friends and acquaintances about it, in the vain hope that they, perhaps, might know the solution, but generally speaking, our stress not only continues, but it grows exponentially. And we feel worse.

The reason for this is simple. We cultivate our stress, so to speak. We wine it and dine it. We become overly friendly with it, we allow it to invade our personal space, we invite it along to all our activities, both work and social, and we never allow our stress to spend any time on its own. We feed it breakfast, lunch and dinner, and we drive it back and forth with us in our cars. We take showers with it and we take it to the cinema. We even invite it along into our dreams.

This is a choice.

Please read that again. This is a choice. Cultivating your stress is a choice you make with the first thought and feeling you have about it when it occurs in your life - and what life is free of stress? - and then we make that choice over and over again as we carry it along with us. Hans Selye, a pioneering endocrinologist, who did a great deal of work on the initial stages of understanding the mind-body connection, said: It's not stress that kills us. It is our reaction to it.

What are other choices we can make in our reactions to stress (apart from the obvious such as yoga, massage, meditation, etc.)?
  1. Be aware of your feelings and thoughts. This requires some discipline and stick-to-it-iveness. Put some post-it's up on your bathroom mirror and fridge to help yourself remember to be aware.
  2. As you gain more and more awareness, you are able to stop stress thoughts in their tracks and deliberately move your attention to something different (not because you are pretending the stress does not exist, but because you are choosing when to think about it, and then, to do so pro-actively, brainstorming, consulting experts, etc.), and I always recommend finding beauty in your immediate surroundings and then allowing yourself to feel gratitude for the existence of that beauty in your life. This gives you momentary peace, as it removes you from the treadmill of past and future, and situates you firmly in the present. Do this often enough over the course of a day and you will be actively changing neural pathways in your brain that will make this kind of reaction (beauty and gratitude) a default reaction instead of the stress reaction.
  3. Begin a 'mindfulness' walk on a daily basis. Make it last a mere 15 minutes. Do it alone without the company of humans or animals. Become aware of beauty. Feel gratitude for it. Become aware of another cloud, or flower, or perfumed jasmine, or the warmth of the sun on your cheeks, the cooling freshness of the breeze on your neck, the contagious laughter of a child, and again, feel gratitude. Do this over and over for the duration of the walk. You won't make it for more than a few minutes at the beginning, as your thoughts will take over, but if you persist, you will make it longer and longer, and this will change your life. It will change your neural real estate and it will change how you feel about life. Most importantly, it will help you make magnificent new and life-giving choices instead of life-robbing choices when faced with stress.

For much more about gratitude, mindfulness, and beauty, as well as about making choices that enhance your inner well-being, and about feeling good about the self, have a look at my book Rewiring the Soul: Finding the Possible Self, available at Amazon as a paperback or e-book for Kindle and all Kindle applications.

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A revelation of insight into the foundations of human suffering & transcendence. It not only lays out essential steps for inner freedom & joy but illuminates the way to true human potential. Dr. Kortsch is a spiritual master for our time. Paul Rademacher, Executive Director, The Monroe Institute; author: A Spiritual Hitchhiker's Guide to the Universe

"The masterwork of a profoundly gifted healer of the soul. Dazzling, challenging, wondrously useful." Peggy Rubin, Director, Center for Sacred Theatre, Ashland, Oregon; author: To Be and How To Be, Transforming Your Life Through Sacred Theatre

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Monday, May 14, 2012

Reaching For the Sky


 
Today’s premise concerns ways of thinking and feeling about our own future. You know the old adage by James Allen: As a man thinketh in his heart, so shall he be. And the Buddha put it slightly differently: We are what we think. All that we are arises with our thoughts. With our thoughts we make the world.

So as you move into your new day, week, months and year, think of those two quotes and recognize that if you are not reaching and stretching, you may never reach the sky. And one of the ways to reach and stretch is by lifting your thoughts to other places than those which are your usual places. Where do your thoughts normally go? How do you normally think?

What do you say when someone asks you how you are? Or how things are going? Do you say the truth when things are not going well? Or do you pretend they are ok?

Here’s the thing: if you pretend they are ok, you leave no room for talking about the truth, but if you tell the truth, you must be very careful how you word it. This is not about the person to whom you are talking, but about yourself … what words are being engraved in your mind, heart and soul as you speak?

·         Things are tough right now at my office, they’re laying people off left and right
·         I’ve had a flu for weeks and can’t seem to get over it
·         Everyone has had to take pay cuts in my department, and since my wife was laid off from her job last summer, we’ve been having trouble making ends meet
·         I’ve been trying to get an exhibition together, but I can’t find a sponsor (or I am having a hard time   being inspired in my painting)
·         My husband and I have been seeing a therapist but our marriage really seems doomed

Clearly, all of these statements may be spot on for your particular situation, but you see, when you phrase your predicament in those kinds of terms, you are setting – so to speak – the current situation in stone. You leave no room for improvement in the way you phrase your answers. And hence – perhaps – you limit the room for improvement in your mind.

Here are some alternatives to the above sentences and before you call me a Pollyanna, or falsely positive thinker, give me a chance to offer you my thoughts please:

·         Due to the current climate in the workforce, I’ve been taking some free online courses to prepare myself for a horizontal move in my field, should the need arise. I’ve had a careful look at my CV and I’ve been networking and meeting a lot of very interesting contacts

·         I’ve been researching on the internet to see if there are some alternative methods available that might help me get over this flu that has been hanging on, and for the past few days I’ve seen a marked improvement thanks to this remedy that involves orange juice and cayenne pepper

·         My wife and I have been looking into selling organic produce from our garden at the local farmer’s market. I help her on the actual sale days on weekends, and she takes care of the gardening because she has extra free time right now due to getting laid off. Things are tight, but we are getting along fine

·         I’ve been attending free lectures at the local community college as an auditing student to find new inspiration for paintings for the exhibition I want to organize, and not only am I finding myself coming up with some great new ideas, but I’ve also met a professor whose wife owns a local gallery and we’re going to get together for coffee next week to see if the exhibition could be held there

·         My wife and I have been seeing a therapist about our problems, and nothing much was happening, but one day talking about it, we both realized we had been pretending to ourselves that therapy wasn’t working, when what was really happening, was that we weren’t actually implementing any of the suggestions the therapist was offering, so since then, we’ve been working on that and although we aren’t out of the woods, we are beginning to see that maybe there is hope for us after all

So I’m confident that you can see the difference in the two types of phrasing, and yet both are essentially about the same issue … it’s just that in the second set of phrases, the way the problem is expressed leaves room for improvement, solutions, and success in your mind.

The story you tell yourself – about anything at all – has a great deal to do with the eventual outcome. This is totally in your hands. You choose your stories. But in order to come up with stories that form part of the second set of phrases, you must be conscious and aware. You must have assumed responsibility for your own well-being. And so, at the beginning of this new year, we come full circle: make a priority of yourself. Find inner freedom by reaching for the sky, by remaining conscious and by willingly taking on responsibility for absolutely everything you think, feel, say and do.

What story are you telling yourself today?

For more information about how you can take the state of your energy into your own hands, via your feelings and thoughts (all of which can change our body), and in so doing, affect our mind and spirit, and for more about love and loving the self and self-transformation, have a look at my book Rewiring the Soul: Finding the Possible Self, available in paperback and e-book for Kindle format.

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From the Reviews (see Amazon for many more):

In Rewiring the Soul, Gabriella Kortsch shows us in very practical ways how to lead a soul-guided, soul-infused life. With the wisdom of one who has traveled far and learned much, Dr. Kortsch blazes a path for all who have the courage to follow. The rewards for walking that path are great: an understanding of why we are here; an expanded awareness of who we really are; a new or heightened sense of purpose and meaning; and a deeper appreciation of life's many blessings. Highly recommended.

ROBERT SCHWARTZ, author, Your Soul's Plan: Discovering the Real Meaning of the Life You Planned Before You Were Born