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"A revelation of insight into the foundations of human suffering & transcendence. It not only lays out essential steps for inner freedom and joy but illuminates the way to true human potential." Paul Rademacher, author: A Spiritual Hitchhiker's Guide to the Universe

"The masterwork of a profoundly gifted healer of the soul. Dazzling, challenging, wondrously useful." Peggy Rubin, author: To Be and How To Be, Transforming Your Life Through Sacred Theatre

"Rewiring the Soul is one the best introductions to the spiritual life I've ever read. Not esoteric but real-world and practical. The implications are profound." Peter Shepherd, author: Daring To Be Yourself

Thursday, March 29, 2012

Get a Grip on Your Thoughts & Get a Grip on Your Life!



When your thoughts are allowed to do as they wish; when you are not in charge of them, you will generally find yourself in a position of being tortured by them. They come and go - seemingly of their own volition - and carry you in their relentless wake, often threatening to pull you under into a place that can only be likened to Dante's Inferno, an unending hell of servitude to those same thoughts. Furthermore, those same thoughts also bring about feelings that are typically negative, whether they are stressful, angry, impatient, painful or sad, or any other variation thereof.

Is this really something you want?

I imagine you are already shaking your head, because who would want something of this nature? Who would want to be tortured like this, and who would want to be held in the continual thrall of thoughts that are not ones that you would voluntarily have?

What can you do? Distracting yourself, or soothing yourself with addictions of any kind, ranging from drugs, alcohol and indiscriminate sex to rampant shopping, gambling, under- or over-eating, workaholic behavior or frantic socializing, are clearly not the answer, and yet, that is precisely what many people choose to do. And of course the result is never positive. It merely drags them down further.

Conversely, others seek spiritual answers, or meditate, or read many wonderful books, or go to numerous inspiring workshops. And yet, many of these people also find that this is not the answer. At least not if they are not yet consciously changing their lives by adopting some of the teachings they find in the books or workshops.

Change Your Inner Channel

Think about this: it’s such a wonderful thing to know, as you sit down in front of the TV, or turn on the radio in the car, that you are free to change channels whenever you want. Are they showing a violent film and you don’t enjoy violence? Is the news program concerned more with making you believe some ideological concept you are not in tune with? How about the music? Is it your kind? Prefer something different? Or is the chick flick a bit too smarmy for you?  Is the action movie not gripping in any other way than action?

You get the picture. It’s the simplest thing in the world to change to another channel or another radio station. Curiously we don’t seem to realize it’s also the same with our inner channel. We can change that in a flash … if we so decide.

Do you understand what this means? If you are upset, angry, impatient, judgmental, critical, filled with hate, thinking about revenge, suffering, low in spirits, or just having thoughts you don’t feel good about, you can change your inner channel.

Deciding to Become Conscious

And so, those who continue in their place of pain or chaos or desperation, eventually find themselves in a place where they know that they no longer wish to remain. And then they finally begin to make some changes. And one of these changes, that impacts enormously on the weight of those unbidden and tortuous thoughts, is the decision to become conscious. That is where you need to be in order to change the inner channel. Such a decision means that the one who now chooses your thoughts is you, as opposed to you being the one to whom the thoughts come. This alone can change the course of your life in an unparalleled fashion.

Are you choosing your thoughts today?
Are you choosing to become conscious today?

For more information about thoughts, choice, freedom and living a conscious life, have a look at my book Rewiring the Soul: Finding the Possible Self, available at Amazon as paperback or e-book for Kindle.


Click here to download the first chapter. The chapter on thoughts, titled: Thoughts: Portal to Awareness will most clearly answer the questions that may have arisen upon reading this post.

An Early Review (From Amazon):

"The masterwork of a profoundly gifted healer of the soul. Dazzling, challenging, wondrously useful."

Peggy Rubin, Director, Center for Sacred Theatre, Ashland, Oregon; author: To Be and How To Be, Transforming Your Life Through Sacred Theatre

Excerpt from an Interview:

Who is the book written for? Rewiring the Soul is written for anybody who suffers and I guess that means just about all of us! It is written for anybody who has not yet experienced enduring happiness and inner well-being; anybody who is reaching for inner peace; anybody whose life is not as they would wish it to be.

What can a reader expect to gain by reading this book? What makes it different from most other transformational or self-help books out there? So many wonderful teachers tell us about working on our spiritual selves. So many other wonderful teachers show us how to work on our psycho-emotional selves. But very few actually integrate the two. And Rewiring the Soul is my response to that challenge. Rewiring the Soul brings together the need to take your daily life in hand with the need to put your spiritual life in order as well. By daily life I mean your personal life, your professional life, the way you do or do not love yourself and all that such an attitude entails: conscious awareness, healthy boundaries, meaning in your life, recognizing you always have a choice, and taking responsibility for all your choices, etc., and by spiritual life I mean the inner connection to your eternal self.

If you have learned how to meditate, or do yoga, or whatever it is that you do, have you also learned how to observe yourself in the middle of an argument with your rebellious teenage son or your angry partner and hence choose to react differently because you have learned to love yourself enough to do so? If you have learned how to communicate more effectively with your children, spouse, friends, colleagues or employees, have you also learned how to be mindful and connect to yourself in meaningful ways to achieve that spiritual balance in your life?

While Rewiring the Soul is about so much more than that, those previous examples give an idea of what my book is about and how it does so in such a way that our psychological and spiritual selves nurture each other.

In a nutshell: neither the spiritual nor the psychological or emotional dimensions of your life will work if you neglect:

your inner connection to the eternal self while you seek happiness in the outer world

your happiness in the outer world while you seek the connection to the inner eternal self

It was Goethe who said "If everyone will sweep in front of their own door, soon the entire world will be clean". In Rewiring the Soul 'sweeping in front of your own door' means bringing yourself to the utmost point of inner and outer growth, creating progress in body, mind, and soul. This literally means that you have already begun to change the world because of how you are changing yourself.

Are there many exercises in the book? Not at all. This book does not mean hard work, or spending a lot of time doing specific things. It simply means that as you read - if you so desire - you begin to incorporate small changes into your daily life. And so it begins. And the quality of your life changes...

How did you come to write this book? For years the essential content of Rewiring the Soul was like a small, recurring voice in my head; it was always there, and simply would not leave me alone. I had dozens of excuses for not writing it: I was working on my Ph.D. in psychology, I was teaching at a state university, I had three sons, later I was occupied with moving back to Spain, I was setting up my private practice, I had a monthly newsletter to write in English and Spanish, I had a weekly one-hour radio show to broadcast, I had a daily blog post to write, I facilitated numerous workshops and gave frequent speeches, and apart from all of this busy activity and work, sometimes I even had a life. In short, I told myself the book would simply have to wait. But just as a splinter under your skin eventually needs to be seen to, I ultimately realized that the only way I was going to be able to honor the more and more loudly clamoring voice in my head - and heart - was to sit down and write the book.

And you know, that goes to meaning. We all need meaning in our lives, and although I had many things that gave much significance to my life already, the inner urging and excitement I felt each time I thought about Rewiring the Soul compelled me to write the book. Rumi puts it beautifully: "When you do things from your soul, you feel a river moving in you, a joy".




Wednesday, March 28, 2012

Being Out Dancing


Expressing joy as you dance is one of life's pleasures. Most of us know that. We dance as children when we are happy, and although generally we do so less as we grow older, when we do dance, we remember that joy of abandonment to the movement of the dance and the music. Sometimes it's simply music we hear inside ...

When you are angry, filled with resentment or pain, or bearing a grudge, the last thing in the world you feel like doing is dancing. And yet, in the words of American comedian and actor Buddy Hackett: Don't carry a grudge. While you're carrying the grudge, the other guy's out dancing.

What could be simpler to understand? Don't carry that anger around with you. Nor the pain. Nor the resentment. Nor the grudge. Letting go is simply a choice you can choose to make. There are many articles here on the blog (look under the labels of joy & happiness) and on my website about precisely this subject. Go out and dance instead of carrying that deadweight around with you. Be joyous. Live your life in the way it was intended to be lived.

For much more about choosing happiness, being present, living consciously, about being aware of your thoughts and feelings, how you react to others and how you love yourself, as well as about choosing to seek your inner well-being above all, in order that you may have a ripple effect on all those who come in contact with you, have a look at my book Rewiring the Soul: Finding the Possible Self, available at Amazon as a paperback or e-book for Kindle and all Kindle applications.

Click here to download the first chapter.

Reviews From the Back Cover:

A revelation of insight into the foundations of human suffering & transcendence. It not only lays out essential steps for inner freedom & joy but illuminates the way to true human potential. Dr. Kortsch is a spiritual master for our time. Paul Rademacher, Executive Director, The Monroe Institute; author: A Spiritual Hitchhiker's Guide to the Universe

"The masterwork of a profoundly gifted healer of the soul. Dazzling, challenging, wondrously useful." Peggy Rubin, Director, Center for Sacred Theatre, Ashland, Oregon; author: To Be and How To Be, Transforming Your Life Through Sacred Theatre

"The instruction manual on rewiring the soul. An in-depth guide on life, love, spiritual evolution & our integration within the universe." Michael Habernig & April Hannah; Producers: The Path- The Afterlife & The Path 11 Documentaries

"Rewiring the Soul is one the best introductions to the spiritual life I've ever read. Not esoteric but real-world & practical. The implications are profound." Peter Shepherd; Founder Trans4mind.com; author: Daring To Be Yourself

"The human being's directory to the soul. A breakthrough for those seeking practical assistance, those of a more mystical bent & every soul awaiting discovery." Toni Petrinovich, Ph.D.; author: The Call: Awakening the Angelic Human

Tuesday, March 27, 2012

The Trail of Your Life



Everything that has happened in a person's life, all the events, all the emotions, all the joys and sorrows, all the highs and low, expectations, disappointments, and all the people with whom the individual interacts, could be called the trail of a lifetime. It makes no difference what age the person is; it is simply the trail that is discernible behind the current now moment.

A lot of people refer to this as their baggage. And many people believe that they are their baggage. While that is true to the extent that you have become the person you are today due to all of these events, and particularly due to the thoughts and feelings and reactions you have had to these events, you do not, however, have to cling to that trail in order to define yourself.

Take the example of a woman who has been married several times to alcoholics. She may define herself as a victim of fate, or of weak men. She can choose, however, to define herself as the person who has finally decided to leave that behind and to work on herself in order to understand what exactly it was inside of her that caused her to be attracted to such men, in order to grow and advance in her life.

Another person may have lost his fortune due to a combination of bad luck and difficult events. If this person continues to live his loss throughout his current now moments over a period of years or


For much more about getting to know yourself, about the meaning of your life, about being aware, about doubt and moving forward and the way your thoughts and feelings about those subjects influence you and what to do about it, about inner well-being, inner growth and joy, have a look at my book Rewiring the Soul: Finding the Possible Self, available at Amazon as paperback or e-book for Kindle.


Click here to download the first chapter.

From the Description on Amazon:

Ask anyone, whatever their circumstances, if their life is vibrant, fulfilling, harmonious and happy. An honest reply is likely to be 'no', because to answer a truthful 'yes' is no mean feat. Only to grow psychologically and emotionally is not enough. And only to grow spiritually is not enough either. All three dimensions need to be developed in order to realize your full potential. If you are willing to assume total responsibility for the self and to start what is an on-going journey, you will quickly begin to glimpse the first fruits of the ultimate goal: inner well-being, freedom, peace, harmony and joy. This book sets out the pathway to self-mastery and self-discovery and walking that pathway will be the most exciting adventure of your life.

Rewiring the Soul' provides a user-friendly roadmap for personal transformation. Using conversational style, it guides the reader to an understanding of life's problems and how they can be resolved, deliberately including the reader's connection to his own soul and spiritual growth. Based on common sense and the author's work as an integral psychotherapist as well as lessons gleaned from teaching and personal experiences, all interwoven with current findings from neuroscience, positive psychology, quantum physics and Buddhism, 'Rewiring the Soul' signposts the path to resolving everyday life and its problems while converging with the inner quest for connection with the soul. This process allows life to take on a revolutionary new meaning: resolving personal and interpersonal issues while keeping the inner connection to the soul in mind leads to unprecedented growth that is simply not possible if psycho-emotional matters and spiritual concerns are not combined.




Monday, March 26, 2012

Your Attention to Bad Things



Here's a great quote from Abraham: What holds bad things in your life is always your attention to those bad things, always.
This is very simple to comprehend and apply in a meaningful way to your life ... if you are worried about something, or if you are in pain about something, you will only bring more of it into your life by remaining in that frame of mind ... or ... expressed, in other words ... by remaining in that vibrational frequency.

Remaining in a specific vibrational frequency refers to not changing how you feel at any given moment, because your feelings are what dictate your inner energy ... the frequency at which your being as a whole is vibrating.

So of course what has to be changed is how you feel, if you want to get to another level of vibrational frequency. And you change how you feel, by moving your thoughts into another direction, another direction where you have a greater chance of feeling better.

This is a topic that a great many of my posts keep hammering on about, because it is so important: if you can learn this, can figure out how to apply it to your life, you will create many important changes to the state of your well being. Think of it as changing direction 180 degrees from the worried or painful place in which you find yourself, to the place of greater good feeling where you could be. You might like to bring up a joyous memory, or you might like to think about something you are trying to bring about in your life, the completion of which would bring a state of good feeling and satisfaction to you, and as you consider this scenario, your feelings of worry and pain subside. From that better vibrational place you will be able to make much better decisions about your worry or your pain, simply because you will be in a better place.

Apply this always and watch the changes.

For more about how you choose to view your world, about relationships, love and emotions, about choice, about self-responsibility, and about the self-transformational process - both in your outer life in the world, and in your inner life with your connection to your inner, divine self, have a look at my book Rewiring the Soul: Finding the Possible Self

To download the first chapter of the book, click here

From the Description of Rewiring the Soul on Amazon:

Ask anyone, whatever their circumstances, if their life is vibrant, fulfilling, harmonious and happy. An honest reply is likely to be 'no', because to answer a truthful 'yes' is no mean feat. Only to grow psychologically and emotionally is not enough. And only to grow spiritually is not enough either. All three dimensions need to be developed in order to realize your full potential. If you are willing to assume total responsibility for the self and to start what is an on-going journey, you will quickly begin to glimpse the first fruits of the ultimate goal: inner well-being, freedom, peace, harmony and joy. This book sets out the pathway to self-mastery and self-discovery and walking that pathway will be the most exciting adventure of your life.


Thursday, March 22, 2012

The Habit of Not Quitting


The way a child learns how to walk is always an excellent analogy. One fine day the toddler gets up from a crawling position on the ground and stands, clutching carefully on to the furniture and conveniently placed adult knees. After that, the first few tentative and wobbly steps are taken, arms outspread, wide grin on the face in the view of such an accomplishment. And then ... down they go ... only to stand again with grim determination. Repeat the above scene. And again and again and again. Finally: success.

Have you ever seen a child that quits? There may be some who decide to take a bit more time and then start again, but quitting and giving up just is not part of the scenario. Healthy toddlers learn how to walk perfectly because they don't quit.

However, as time goes on, quitting when things don't work as well as expected, may happen. And that is when is becomes very important to start paying attention to what is going on. Perhaps you - the adult - needs to step in and converse with your child, or - if this is something you are observing in yourself, already an adult, then you are the one you need to talk to. Vince Lombardi said: Once you learn to quit, it becomes a habit. The easy way out becomes a habit. And that is something that doesn't serve us well. It's not even so much about the ultimate success, as about how we feel about ourselves when we quit.

Admittedly, there are some things that simply have to be left alone. Perhaps you simply have not got the talent to become a concert pianist or world class tennis player. Perhaps your head is better suited to run a business than to write novels. But once those basic talents have been assessed, quitting before time is a process that can erode us inside in very insidious ways. Nixon said: A man is not finished when he is defeated. He is finished when he quits.

Why does the child not give up? Isn't it because he is totally convinced that he will succeed? Isn't it also because he has others (parents, family, etc.) cheering him on? Isn't it also because he generally has protective measures around him so that if and when he falls, the injury won't be very bad? Isn't it also because he may take the time to rest between attempts? Isn't it also because he may totally forget - for a few minutes or several days - about his concerted effort and get involved with his toys? And finally, isn't it also because he will have several magnificent rewards when he succeeds? (His own feelings about his accomplishment and the praise of those who stand around him).

So let's learn from that process almost all of us went through, much as though we don't actually recall it:
  • be convinced that you can succeed
  • get someone who will cheer you on (mastermind groups, accountability partners, etc.)
  • set up some protective mechanisms (financial, psychological, etc.) in case of momentary setbacks
  • take time out to rest, relax and refresh yourself between bouts. If you can't afford a vacation to the Caribbean or the ski slopes, perhaps you can catch up on some inspiring reading, see some TED videos on the internet, or drive out into the country to stimulate yourself with impressive views and then have a simple picnic or treat yourself to lunch at an old-fashioned restaurant that serves home-cooking
  • ensure you have a few other interests that serve as both relaxants and stimulants while you fill up your own tank to get ready for the next attempt
  • surround yourself with people who believe in you and learn to believe in yourself (i.e., love yourself)
The idea inherent in the very lost words above: loving yourself, is perhaps the most important point of today's post. Without self love, it will be easier for you to develop the habit of quitting. So perhaps the best place to begin is there: learn to love yourself better. There are numerous articles about this topic on my website and here on the blog under the label of  'self-love'

For more information about loving the self, about getting to know yourself, about the meaning of your life, about being aware, about doubt and moving forward and the way your thoughts and feelings about those subjects influence you and what to do about it, about inner well-being, inner growth and joy, have a look at my book Rewiring the Soul: Finding the Possible Self, available at Amazon as paperback or e-book for Kindle.


Click here to download the first chapter.

From the Description on Amazon:

Ask anyone, whatever their circumstances, if their life is vibrant, fulfilling, harmonious and happy. An honest reply is likely to be 'no', because to answer a truthful 'yes' is no mean feat. Only to grow psychologically and emotionally is not enough. And only to grow spiritually is not enough either. All three dimensions need to be developed in order to realize your full potential. If you are willing to assume total responsibility for the self and to start what is an on-going journey, you will quickly begin to glimpse the first fruits of the ultimate goal: inner well-being, freedom, peace, harmony and joy. This book sets out the pathway to self-mastery and self-discovery and walking that pathway will be the most exciting adventure of your life.

Rewiring the Soul' provides a user-friendly roadmap for personal transformation. Using conversational style, it guides the reader to an understanding of life's problems and how they can be resolved, deliberately including the reader's connection to his own soul and spiritual growth. Based on common sense and the author's work as an integral psychotherapist as well as lessons gleaned from teaching and personal experiences, all interwoven with current findings from neuroscience, positive psychology, quantum physics and Buddhism, 'Rewiring the Soul' signposts the path to resolving everyday life and its problems while converging with the inner quest for connection with the soul. This process allows life to take on a revolutionary new meaning: resolving personal and interpersonal issues while keeping the inner connection to the soul in mind leads to unprecedented growth that is simply not possible if psycho-emotional matters and spiritual concerns are not combined.

Wednesday, March 21, 2012

Determination, Accomplishment, and Satisfaction


Reaching a goal is not necessarily what gives you satisfaction. Fully accomplishing a task is not necessarily where you find joy. Part of it - part of the satisfaction and joy you achieve, you receive on your way there when you get out on a daily basis and take the - perhaps quite minute - steps that are necessary to take today in order to get to that goal that you want to reach next week, in five months or in several years.

You all know the story about someone being congratulated on their 'overnight' success. They answer: thanks, it only took 20 years. But that is not the part other people see.

George Lorimer said: You've got to get up every morning with determination if you're going to go to bed with satisfaction. That holds true for just about anything you set out to do. Studying for a degree at university? It will take a minimum of 3 or 4 years, depending on your country and educational system. That's just for an undergraduate degree, not to mention masters and doctoral degrees that take much longer. So during that time what keeps you going? Part of it is your determination to do each day the bit that corresponds to that day in order to get to the end of the current semester, study the texts, write your papers, make your presentations, take your exams, and achieve a grade that will allow you to move to the next level. But that is precisely what gifts you with satisfaction with yourself on that daily basis. If all you think about is the end result, not even the degree, but the professional position such a degree will allow you to have, you will not only - in some fashion - waste those years for lack of enjoyment and satisfaction, but you will also deny yourself the daily satisfaction you are meant to have.

Leonardo da Vinci said: People of accomplishment rarely sat back and let things happen to them. They went out and happened to things. And of course, what they did, as they were 'happening' to things, was not accomplish a goal at that very moment, but to take the daily steps to get there. And feel satisfaction for it.

We have an average lifespan of approximately 78 years in the Western world. Assuming a child has a relatively decent childhood and family environment, it can be filled with much joy every day simply because of the wonder and amazement it experiences with every new thing it sees and smells and hears and learns about. It can seize satisfaction from every moment all day long.

That gift, however, tends to be taken from us at some point in our childhood due to the kind of socialization we receive in the home, our churches and our schools. We forget how to enjoy the moment, and we forget how to enjoy the journey. This literally means that years and decades of our lives are spent looking towards the future, towards a goal, but not living and enjoying the moment.

This is about recapturing that, about remembering how to 'get out and happen to things', about remembering how to feel determined, and about remembering how to get satisfaction from all we do, as we move towards our accomplishments.

For much more about being present, living consciously, about being aware of your thoughts and feelings, how you react to others and how you love yourself, as well as about choosing to seek your inner well-being above all, in order that you may have a ripple effect on all those who come in contact with you, have a look at my book Rewiring the Soul: Finding the Possible Self, available at Amazon as a paperback or e-book for Kindle and all Kindle applications.

Click here to download the first chapter.

Reviews From the Back Cover:

A revelation of insight into the foundations of human suffering & transcendence. It not only lays out essential steps for inner freedom & joy but illuminates the way to true human potential. Dr. Kortsch is a spiritual master for our time. Paul Rademacher, Executive Director, The Monroe Institute; author: A Spiritual Hitchhiker's Guide to the Universe

"The masterwork of a profoundly gifted healer of the soul. Dazzling, challenging, wondrously useful." Peggy Rubin, Director, Center for Sacred Theatre, Ashland, Oregon; author: To Be and How To Be, Transforming Your Life Through Sacred Theatre

"The instruction manual on rewiring the soul. An in-depth guide on life, love, spiritual evolution & our integration within the universe." Michael Habernig & April Hannah; Producers: The Path- The Afterlife & The Path 11 Documentaries

"Rewiring the Soul is one the best introductions to the spiritual life I've ever read. Not esoteric but real-world & practical. The implications are profound." Peter Shepherd; Founder Trans4mind.com; author: Daring To Be Yourself

"The human being's directory to the soul. A breakthrough for those seeking practical assistance, those of a more mystical bent & every soul awaiting discovery." Toni Petrinovich, Ph.D.; author: The Call: Awakening the Angelic Human

Tuesday, March 20, 2012

Liars in Our Lives


Surely the most dreadful thing about the liars in our lives is the fact that they do exactly what their description implies: they tell us untruths about something. If we then believe whatever they have lied about, we have incorrect information about something and will proceed on the basis of that incorrect information. Hence we take decisions that are wrong, we may walk down paths that lead us to destinations we were not looking for and conversely - will not lead us to the place we wanted to get to.

What if those liars in our lives were frequently our own fears that feed us with false information? They tell us:
  • that will never work
  • you'll never be able to do that
  • if you try that, you'll fail
  • if you try that, you'll fail and look ridiculous in front of your friends
  • that is much too hard
  • that is much too advanced
  • no one has ever done that before, so it can't possibly be of any value
It was Kipling who said. Of all the liars in the world, sometimes the worst are your own fears. And of course, if we listen to those fears as listed above, we may be convinced by something which may in fact, be a blatant lie.
  • It might work (ask Richard Branson when he started up Virgin Airlines)
  • you might be able to do it (ask Edison when he tried hundreds of times to make a light bulb)
  • if you try that, you might succeed (ask Bethany Hamilton, who got back up on a surf board to compete professionally after losing one of her arms to a shark)
  • if you try that, it might work, and you won't look ridiculous in front of your friends (how about asking Bill Gates, when he left Harvard and set up shop in his parents' garage?)
  • that just might not be too hard (ask Mandela when he began 28 years of prison in Robben Island)
  • that might not be too advanced (ask any researcher on the cutting edge of any given discipline)
  • even though no one has done that before, it just might be  of value (ask film director James Cameron as he ventures into deep underwater photography that has never been successfully done before).
So it bears mentioning that our own fears might be our own worst enemy and certainly might be the liars in our lives. Perhaps we all need to take a look at those fears we harbour and ask ourselves how much of what they are saying to us is a lie.


For more about fear and courage, about taking risks, about balance, happiness and focusing on what serves your inner well-being, as well as on reconnecting with your soul, have a look at my book Rewiring the Soul: Finding the Possible Self, available in paperback and e-Book for Kindle formats.

Click here to download the first chapter.

Product Description from Amazon

Ask anyone, whatever their circumstances, if their life is vibrant, fulfilling, harmonious and happy. An honest reply is likely to be 'no', because to answer a truthful 'yes' is no mean feat. Only to grow psychologically and emotionally is not enough. And only to grow spiritually is not enough either. All three dimensions need to be developed in order to realize your full potential. If you are willing to assume total responsibility for the self and to start what is an on-going journey, you will quickly begin to glimpse the first fruits of the ultimate goal: inner well-being, freedom, peace, harmony and joy. This book sets out the pathway to self-mastery and self-discovery and walking that pathway will be the most exciting adventure of your life.





Monday, March 19, 2012

The Prepared Mind



What will you do when opportunity waltzes into your life? If it's ever happened, if it's ever come knocking, you know that there is generally very little warning, and that you can either seize it or not, but decisions need to be taken very quickly. Arthur Brisbane wrote that opportunity comes like a snail, and once it has passed you it changes into a fleet rabbit and is gone. And while taking the decisions the opportunity offers may not be so hard, what is often much harder is a two-fold issue:
  1. being prepared in the sense that your inner mindset is flexible enough to accomodate such rapid, unexpected events
  2. being prepared in the sense that while you have been hoping and waiting for such an opportunity to arrive at your doorstep, you have been creating it, by honing your skills, augmenting your knowledge, increasing your talents: in other words, you have been working for such a moment to arrive without knowing whether it ever would, by enriching yourself in all ways possible
Louis Pasteur said: Chance favors the prepared mind.

How are you preparing your mind?



For much more about getting to know yourself, about the meaning of your life, about being aware, about doubt and moving forward and the way your thoughts and feelings about those subjects influence you and what to do about it, about inner well-being, inner growth and joy, have a look at my book Rewiring the Soul: Finding the Possible Self, available at Amazon as paperback or e-book for Kindle.


Click here to download the first chapter.

From the Description on Amazon:

Ask anyone, whatever their circumstances, if their life is vibrant, fulfilling, harmonious and happy. An honest reply is likely to be 'no', because to answer a truthful 'yes' is no mean feat. Only to grow psychologically and emotionally is not enough. And only to grow spiritually is not enough either. All three dimensions need to be developed in order to realize your full potential. If you are willing to assume total responsibility for the self and to start what is an on-going journey, you will quickly begin to glimpse the first fruits of the ultimate goal: inner well-being, freedom, peace, harmony and joy. This book sets out the pathway to self-mastery and self-discovery and walking that pathway will be the most exciting adventure of your life.

Rewiring the Soul' provides a user-friendly roadmap for personal transformation. Using conversational style, it guides the reader to an understanding of life's problems and how they can be resolved, deliberately including the reader's connection to his own soul and spiritual growth. Based on common sense and the author's work as an integral psychotherapist as well as lessons gleaned from teaching and personal experiences, all interwoven with current findings from neuroscience, positive psychology, quantum physics and Buddhism, 'Rewiring the Soul' signposts the path to resolving everyday life and its problems while converging with the inner quest for connection with the soul. This process allows life to take on a revolutionary new meaning: resolving personal and interpersonal issues while keeping the inner connection to the soul in mind leads to unprecedented growth that is simply not possible if psycho-emotional matters and spiritual concerns are not combined.




Friday, March 16, 2012

Living Without Bitterness and Resentment




I've often wondered if those people whose lives are filled with bitterness and resentment could just see for a moment in time what their lives would be like without the bitterness and the resentment (and the ensuing pain), whether they would then take the step towards making the choice of putting the bitterness and resentment behind them.

Because that is really what it's all about...making a different choice.

It's not so much about being compassionate towards the person (or insitution) who did whatever it was to them; it's also not so much about letting by-gones be by-gones. Much more than that it's about recognizing that you can continue to identify with whatever it was that threw your life out of balance at some point in the past (yesterday or a quarter of a century ago), and that caused much pain then, which is why the bitterness and resentment arose, or you can decide that you simply are no longer that person. That you choose to be a person without bitterness and resentment for you. For your own good. For your own inner freedom and growth. And particularly in order to make space inside of you.

As you choose to turn your back on the bitterness and resentment, you no longer need to use up energy - psychic energy - (psychological energy) to maintain those feelings. So now your energy can be channeled towards totally different - life-giving - endeavours.

It's about forgiving (see also Can You Forgive?) and getting your power and your whole self  back (see also Cellular Responsibility: Getting Your Power Back).

It's about life meaning and how much that is a life-giving force in your existence (see also Finding a Meaning For Your Life).

More than anything, it's about you, and your love for yourself (see also Love Yourself First and Loving Yourself: A Roadmap).

 

For more information about living with freedom as opposed to living with bitterness and resentment, about being aware, about inner well-being, inner growth and joy, see my book Rewiring the Soul: Finding the Possible Self, available at Amazon as paperback or e-book for Kindle.

Click here to download the first chapter.

From the Description on Amazon:

Ask anyone, whatever their circumstances, if their life is vibrant, fulfilling, harmonious and happy. An honest reply is likely to be 'no', because to answer a truthful 'yes' is no mean feat. Only to grow psychologically and emotionally is not enough. And only to grow spiritually is not enough either. All three dimensions need to be developed in order to realize your full potential. If you are willing to assume total responsibility for the self and to start what is an on-going journey, you will quickly begin to glimpse the first fruits of the ultimate goal: inner well-being, freedom, peace, harmony and joy. This book sets out the pathway to self-mastery and self-discovery and walking that pathway will be the most exciting adventure of your life.

Rewiring the Soul' provides a user-friendly roadmap for personal transformation. Using conversational style, it guides the reader to an understanding of life's problems and how they can be resolved, deliberately including the reader's connection to his own soul and spiritual growth. Based on common sense and the author's work as an integral psychotherapist as well as lessons gleaned from teaching and personal experiences, all interwoven with current findings from neuroscience, positive psychology, quantum physics and Buddhism, 'Rewiring the Soul' signposts the path to resolving everyday life and its problems while converging with the inner quest for connection with the soul. This process allows life to take on a revolutionary new meaning: resolving personal and interpersonal issues while keeping the inner connection to the soul in mind leads to unprecedented growth that is simply not possible if psycho-emotional matters and spiritual concerns are not combined.



Thursday, March 15, 2012

Giving Up the Need to Be Right


I can just imagine your annoyance as you ask: Did you say giving up the need to be right? So, in other words, you’re saying that when I am right, I should not insist on being right? I should not bother making sure the other person knows exactly how right I am? Or I should forget about proving my point when we don’t see eye to eye?


What Happens When You Give Up the Need to Be Right?

 

Here’s the deal: when you give up the need to be right, many things change:

 

  • It’s impossible to argue with you
  • You can keep your cool no matter what
  • Others come to realize that you know that your opinion is not more important than theirs. That goes a long way to improving communication
  • Your ego is no longer invested in proving anything to the other person
  • You feel great no matter what the other person decides to believe
  • You don’t need to convince anyone of anything
  • You can keep your belief about whatever it is you are right about, but you don’t need to be bothered about proving it to the other person
  • No more power struggles
  • You give up the need to control others’ behavior, thoughts, actions and reactions
  • In a nutshell, your life becomes a lot easier – just like that!
Obviously I’m not talking about things that are easily checked, such as the capital of a country, or the metric equivalent of one yard. I’m talking about opinions, ideas, ideologies, religions, philosophies, ways of living one’s life, in other words, all those ephemeral, evanescent things that populate our lives, our thinking and feeling, and yet that have no true right or wrong.

 

So what’s the point of it?

 

Being Right & Letting Love Be the Final Determinant

 

Imagine you are the parent of a teenager who is pushing your buttons. Clearly, you have to show your child how wrong he/she is and how right you are; clearly you have to show your child – if necessary by anger – that he/she must change because they are wrong and you are right … or do you? What would happen if you let go of the need to be right, and you kept your eye instead on the love between the two of you? Keeping your eyes on the love instead of on the need to be right will promote the health of the relationship much more than proving you are right would, but much more than that, by keeping your eye on the love (even if it’s the partially buried love, or the forgotten love, or hidden love), you will be showing your child so many things:

 

  • That love is more important than being right
  • That when love is given priority, other things become less important
  • If you show your child at each and every step of the way that you will choose love before the need to prove how right you are, your relationship will improve
  • At the beginning of such a process, you might say to your teen: I know you think what you are saying is right, and I know that normally I react like this (whatever ‘this’ is), but I’ve decided that I love you too much to continue doing this, and so I just want you to know that I love you, and that I am determined not to fight with you anymore. Our relationship is too important to me. Such words will not cure your relationship like magic, but it will certainly begin the process of change.
  • What is also of supreme importance here is that you begin to look at your relationship with your child (even an adult child) as an indicator about you, rather than an indicator about him or her. So instead of thinking it’s all their fault, and if only they would change, all would be well, think instead, what can I do to change my way of dealing with this situation? Ask yourself how you can look at the difficulty from the point of view of your attitude in each problematic situation (see also Claiming Responsibility For the Self). So I am not saying that your child should be allowed to be rude, take drugs, or attempt to take over the household with his whims, but I am saying that when any of the things happen that tend to happen, and that make life so miserable, you could stand back, assess the situation instead of reacting to your buttons having been pushed, and begin to choose how to react, from a position of love and compassion, and from a place where you have decided in advance that you will not fight over who is right or wrong, but that you will do your utmost to promote understanding, trust, and love. (See also The Absolutely Best Way of Helping Your Children Grow Into Excellent Adults).
And if you’re the teen, battling with a parent over who is right, take the same message to heart … if your parent is not reacting as I have indicated above (and you can imagine that most do not react that way, because they never learned about this – they might never even have learned about the idea of standing back and looking at the self), then you can be the one to do so, if you are willing to give up the need to be right. And if you are willing to let love be more important than proving you are right…

 

On another note, we might imagine you are the husband or wife, or life partner embroiled in a bitter battle with your partner about some issue or many issues. Apply the same principles as indicated above.
And in all instances, please do remember that healthy boundaries are important, and that putting love first never means you should let anyone walk all over you, or mistreat you, and to refresh your memory, you may wish to read Do Your Relationship Boundaries Contribute to Your Well-Being?

 

You Can Still Be Right!!!


However, giving up the need to be right does not mean - by any stretch of the imagination - that you have to accept what the other person takes to be right as yours. In other words, just because you are ok with not proving to others that you are right, or with not bending them to your will (see also Controlling Ourselves, Our Lives, and the People in Them), you continue to know that you are right. And you allow others to continue in their own belief. And whatever is right for you, is something that you adhere to. So I am not advocating that you go over to another’s belief.
Let’s take another example: you vote Democrat and the other party votes Republican (or whatever opposing parties your country has). If you decide you need to convince the other person of how wrong they are and how right you are, you will probably never see eye to eye and you may even need to end the relationship. If, however, you can allow them their belief in the rightness of their convictions and how they vote, and you maintain your own belief, all can be well. But let’s say you decide on that path and the other person wants to prove to you how wrong you are … do you understand how impossible it will be for them to argue with you if you refuse to engage?
Ask yourself this: exactly why is it so important to convince the other person that you are right?

What will change? Because you do realize that if they feel just as you do, and believe that it is crucial to convince you of how right they are, you are at an impossible impasse, unless one of you is stronger than the other. If you are the parent, or the boss, or the one with the money, or the one who manipulates better, or the one who needs the other one less emotionally (see also Emotional Unavailability: An Introduction), then of course you will probably win.

But here’s what will happen next: you will have a lot of resentment on your hands which will, eventually, explode. That’s how revolutions and coup d’états come about, not to mention acrimonious divorces and bad relationships between parents and children. Resentment from having to give in to a stronger party can be poisonous.

 

What can you do if you are married to someone who wants to do things a given way and you do not? Do you get divorced? Do you give in? Or do you find a win-win solution where each party may need to give up part of what they believed in, in exchange for a solution that works for both? This is only possible if both parties are willing to give up the need to be right about their way of doing it, and agree that there could be a third way, one that gives each of the partners a degree of satisfaction. And by the way, this is never ‘not’ possible.

 

Here’s another thing: once you give up the need to be right, you start listening to what others have to say … really listening, instead of impatiently waiting for them to stop talking, so that you can have your turn (to talk about all the things you are thinking about while they are talking). And not only do you start listening, you start to become interested in what they are saying even if you don’t think it’s right, because by giving up the need to be right, you begin to see others in a new light, a light of generosity, non-judgement and non-criticism. That space, where you can accept them as they are as opposed to wanting them to be your way, is a sacred space because it’s one of the steps that leads you towards the understanding that we are all one and therein lies another kind of freedom, not only on the individual level, but also on the global one.


For much more about relationships, living consciously, about being aware of your thoughts and feelings, how you react to others and how you love yourself, as well as about choosing to seek your inner well-being above all, in order that you may have a ripple effect on all those who come in contact with you, have a look at my book Rewiring the Soul: Finding the Possible Self, available at Amazon as a paperback or e-book for Kindle and all Kindle applications.

Click here to download the first chapter.

Reviews From the Back Cover:

A revelation of insight into the foundations of human suffering & transcendence. It not only lays out essential steps for inner freedom & joy but illuminates the way to true human potential. Dr. Kortsch is a spiritual master for our time. Paul Rademacher, Executive Director, The Monroe Institute; author: A Spiritual Hitchhiker's Guide to the Universe

"The masterwork of a profoundly gifted healer of the soul. Dazzling, challenging, wondrously useful." Peggy Rubin, Director, Center for Sacred Theatre, Ashland, Oregon; author: To Be and How To Be, Transforming Your Life Through Sacred Theatre

"The instruction manual on rewiring the soul. An in-depth guide on life, love, spiritual evolution & our integration within the universe." Michael Habernig & April Hannah; Producers: The Path- The Afterlife & The Path 11 Documentaries

"Rewiring the Soul is one the best introductions to the spiritual life I've ever read. Not esoteric but real-world & practical. The implications are profound." Peter Shepherd; Founder Trans4mind.com; author: Daring To Be Yourself

"The human being's directory to the soul. A breakthrough for those seeking practical assistance, those of a more mystical bent & every soul awaiting discovery." Toni Petrinovich, Ph.D.; author: The Call: Awakening the Angelic Human

Wednesday, March 14, 2012

Being Kind by Becoming Happy


The people we love the most are the ones we are generally highly motivated to help. If they can live better lives thanks to us, and if it is in our power to make a reality of that, then we will do whatever it takes to bring it about. If we have sufficient financial means to improve their lives, we will do so. If we have more information about health issues that will make a difference in the quality of their lives, for example, we will share that with them. If we can ease a burden by taking on some of their daily chores, we will do so. If we can lend a empathic ear when they are suffering, we will gladly do so. Clearly, none of us has any difficulty in grasping what we are willing to do to improve the lot of our loved ones.

Nevertheless, amazingly, many are not aware of the simple fact that the happier you yourself are, the more you can improve the lives of others. Brian Tracy wrote: The kindest thing you can do for the people you care about is to become a happy, joyous person. And in order for you to be happy, the best road to follow is that of loving the self. This requires learning how to be aware in order to catch thoughts and feelings that create unhappiness and dis-ease, and it also requires being willing to take on the responsibility for the self in all senses of the word. If I don't make myself responsible for how I feel, for example, no matter what the circumstances, obviously I won't be taking good care of myself, I won't be loving myself, and ultimately, I certainly won't be happy.

I've penned numerous articles on this and related topics, most of them are available on my website on the Articles Page:
  • Claiming Responsibility for the Self
  • Consciousness is a Full-time Job
  • Does Happiness Continue to Elude You?
  • Do You Dance?
  • Do You Vibrate to a Tune That Serves You Well?
  • Enthusiasm & Feeling Blah Can't Live in the Same Place!
  • Happiness: Has it Become a Science or is it a Question of Luck?
  • Keeping Your Energy High
  • Looking in All the Right Places
  • and many, many more
What are you doing today to work on your well-being in order to be able to be kind to others?

For much more about happiness, living consciously, about being aware of your thoughts and feelings, how you react to others and how you love yourself, as well as about choosing to seek your inner well-being above all, in order that you may have a ripple effect on all those who come in contact with you, have a look at my book Rewiring the Soul: Finding the Possible Self, available at Amazon as a paperback or e-book for Kindle and all Kindle applications.

Click here to download the first chapter.

Reviews From the Back Cover:

A revelation of insight into the foundations of human suffering & transcendence. It not only lays out essential steps for inner freedom & joy but illuminates the way to true human potential. Dr. Kortsch is a spiritual master for our time. Paul Rademacher, Executive Director, The Monroe Institute; author: A Spiritual Hitchhiker's Guide to the Universe

"The masterwork of a profoundly gifted healer of the soul. Dazzling, challenging, wondrously useful." Peggy Rubin, Director, Center for Sacred Theatre, Ashland, Oregon; author: To Be and How To Be, Transforming Your Life Through Sacred Theatre

"The instruction manual on rewiring the soul. An in-depth guide on life, love, spiritual evolution & our integration within the universe." Michael Habernig & April Hannah; Producers: The Path- The Afterlife & The Path 11 Documentaries

"Rewiring the Soul is one the best introductions to the spiritual life I've ever read. Not esoteric but real-world & practical. The implications are profound." Peter Shepherd; Founder Trans4mind.com; author: Daring To Be Yourself

"The human being's directory to the soul. A breakthrough for those seeking practical assistance, those of a more mystical bent & every soul awaiting discovery." Toni Petrinovich, Ph.D.; author: The Call: Awakening the Angelic Human

Tuesday, March 13, 2012

Who Are You?



















Ever asked the person closest to you that question? Ever realized that the person closest to you is actually a stranger in some ways? Ever come to the conclusion that what you believed about that person has nothing to do with reality? Ever decided that if the person you are with, whom you are now seeing with totally new eyes, is not the way you thought he/she was, then you don’t want to spend any more time with him or her?

What a realization! What a nightmare! What freedom! Each case is different.

But what is true is that this happens more often than not. We start out our relationships believing that the person we are falling in love with is one way, but in reality they are totally different. No, they did not pretend to be what they are not (or at least, that is not the rule). And no, they did not change during the course of the relationship from what we thought they were to this new person (or at least, that is not the rule). And no, it’s not that you are a total loss at judging a person's character (or at least, that is not the rule).

So what is it that happens?

In a nutshell, it’s projection. We are attracted to, and fall in love with, that which we want, that which is missing in our own selves, and thus we find a good hook for it. (See also Committed Relationships: Use Them to Grow Towards Self-Understanding and Real Love). We also neglect to heed all the warning signs we receive. These include:
  • What the other person actually tells us
  • What we feel in our solar plexus at the beginning that seems to warn us against this person (a twisting in the gut, might be one way of phrasing it)
  • All the little clues we readily ignore, casting them aside in the desire to get what we want, which – as stated – often has little to do with the person we are faced with, but with our own projections.

So of course after a time, after the first glow is gone, after the powerful draw of chemistry is no longer so strong, we begin to feel disappointed in one thing or another, these add up, and we gradually see another person than the one we fell in love with. But, again, this is not because the other person has changed, but because we are no longer seeing them through the projection.

So we ask: Who are you?

It is at this point that we may actually begin to see the real jewel in the relationship, the real value this has for our future growth and freedom. The process that is now possible is the true reason we were initially attracted. It is now that we can begin to polish the diamond and come away with something of far greater value than that which we thought we were getting when we fell in love. If we are capable of persevering now – at least for a time – in the understanding that the gift is only now beginning to unfold, we will come out of this far richer, far greater persons, than we can even begin to imagine.

 

For more information about your relationships, about getting to know yourself, about the meaning of your life, about being aware, about doubt and moving forward and the way your thoughts and feelings about those subjects influence you and what to do about it, about inner well-being, inner growth and joy, have a look at my book Rewiring the Soul: Finding the Possible Self, available at Amazon as paperback or e-book for Kindle.


Click here to download the first chapter.

From the Description on Amazon:

Ask anyone, whatever their circumstances, if their life is vibrant, fulfilling, harmonious and happy. An honest reply is likely to be 'no', because to answer a truthful 'yes' is no mean feat. Only to grow psychologically and emotionally is not enough. And only to grow spiritually is not enough either. All three dimensions need to be developed in order to realize your full potential. If you are willing to assume total responsibility for the self and to start what is an on-going journey, you will quickly begin to glimpse the first fruits of the ultimate goal: inner well-being, freedom, peace, harmony and joy. This book sets out the pathway to self-mastery and self-discovery and walking that pathway will be the most exciting adventure of your life.

Rewiring the Soul' provides a user-friendly roadmap for personal transformation. Using conversational style, it guides the reader to an understanding of life's problems and how they can be resolved, deliberately including the reader's connection to his own soul and spiritual growth. Based on common sense and the author's work as an integral psychotherapist as well as lessons gleaned from teaching and personal experiences, all interwoven with current findings from neuroscience, positive psychology, quantum physics and Buddhism, 'Rewiring the Soul' signposts the path to resolving everyday life and its problems while converging with the inner quest for connection with the soul. This process allows life to take on a revolutionary new meaning: resolving personal and interpersonal issues while keeping the inner connection to the soul in mind leads to unprecedented growth that is simply not possible if psycho-emotional matters and spiritual concerns are not combined.


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