How buoyant are you? And how buoyant is your life? In other words, are you able to stay afloat even when rough winds and high waves assault you? And if you are, what determines how well you do that?
Here are some suggestions, and the more of these that you implement into your life, the more buoyant you'll be able to be:
- Know that you always have a choice. Knowing this helps you move to other patterns of reaction and thought when disaster strikes, and because of that, may help you find a solution more quickly.
- Know that your state of inner well-being depends on you, and is your responsibility. Knowing this helps you move away from a low mood (or not even allow yourself to get there), helps you maintain yourself in a good place, and ultimately helps you find solutions coming from the perspective of this better inner place, as opposed to trying to find solutions coming from a low place or a depression.
- Know that you need to have meaning in your life. Without meaning, suffering and pain can be agonizing and seem hopeless. With meaning, many things can be seen as - at the very least: bearable - and at best, potentially surmountable.
- Know that for any of the above to work full-time, you need to become conscious and aware. As long as you are blind and unaware, it simply is not in your hands.
- Also know that when the above are implemented and working in your life, it means that you have learned to love yourself. Simply stated, loving yourself signifies you continually look for ways to keep yourself healthy and well in all senses of the word no matter what your external circumstances, and therefore you are able to successfully face high waves and strong winds.
I am fundamentally an optimist. Whether that comes from nature or nurture, I cannot say. Part of being optimistic is keeping one's head pointed toward the sun, one's feet moving forward. There were many dark moments when my faith in humanity was sorely tested, but I would not and could not give myself up to despair. That way lays defeat and death.
How are you maintaining buoyancy in your life?
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Ask anyone, whatever their circumstances, if their life is vibrant, fulfilling, harmonious and happy. An honest reply is likely to be 'no', because to answer a truthful 'yes' is no mean feat. Only to grow psychologically and emotionally is not enough. And only to grow spiritually is not enough either. All three dimensions need to be developed in order to realize your full potential. If you are willing to assume total responsibility for the self and to start what is an on-going journey, you will quickly begin to glimpse the first fruits of the ultimate goal: inner well-being, freedom, peace, harmony and joy. This book sets out the pathway to self-mastery and self-discovery and walking that pathway will be the most exciting adventure of your life.
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