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"Rewiring the Soul is one the best introductions to the spiritual life I've ever read. Not esoteric but real-world and practical. The implications are profound." Peter Shepherd, author: Daring To Be Yourself

Monday, December 19, 2011

Freedom From the Paralysis of Inner Doubt


Can we ever live without some measure of inner doubt? Perhaps in some areas of our lives that is possible, but not in others, where we feel less secure. To live without doubt in at least some areas seems impossible in a world - and in a life - that is in continual motion and growth. But my contention here is not so much to eradicate inner doubt, as to deal with the part of it that paralyzes us. As you begin to doubt yourself - in whatever area of your life - you begin to over analyze, you begin to second guess, you begin to procrastinate making decisions, and you begin to hesitate. Motion is lost, movement is slowed down, and it is even possible that stagnation - at least in that area of your life - begins.

As you listen to the inner voices of doubt, you need to have a plan:
  1. Go to your original premise - whatever you were thinking about:
    1. A decision? Where to continue your studies; whether to leave your current employment in order to seek a more challenging (or better paid) position; whether you want to get married to your current partner; which gift to buy for a friend's birthday; whether to get the blue or the gray curtains; where to take your next vacation; whether to have shrimp or steak at the restaurant ... as you see doubts can assail us in major, life-changing decisions, but also in smaller, relatively unimportant ones
    2. An ideological, religious, or political stance on some point? Perhaps you had been convinced of one point of view until recently when new events, new knowledge that came to you, or a new uinderstanding has shaken your previous belief, and now you stand before the possibility of changing that belief for another
    3. A way of looking at yourself? It may include much doubt and hesitation about your own abilities, talents, intellect, looks, worthiness, likeability, etc.
  2. Gather information: get the pros and cons, separate myth from reality, if necessary pull in a few trusted people in order to get a few (very few) other opinions or thoughts 
  3. Look at your material and always keep your gut instinct and your heart in mind (see also my Introducing Our Second and Third Brain) as you read through the material with your rational brain at the same time as you pay attention to your other brains: your gut and your heart. At the beginning of doing things in this fashion, you may find that you pay more attention to the rational brain and less to the other two, but as you become more attuned to the language and signs of the other two, and as you begin to trust their information, you will feel more comfortable in always taking them into account, in order to create an inner balance between your three brains (three brains that have been neuro-scientifically acknowledged, as you will see if you read the article mentioned above)
  4. So now you've looked at your 'dilemma', you've gathered information, you've looked at it from the position of your three brains.
  5. Now let it sit for a day or two ... sometimes just the overnight process is enough ... sometimes is requires a bit more, but be strict with yourself to not allow the mulling process to take overly long. Here you are no longer actively thinking about whatever the dilemma is, rather, you are letting it marinate inside of you, after having taken the above steps.
  6. Remember: doubts may still arise, but you are focused on listening to your three brains, and on getting a synergistic reaction from your self about the situation.
  7. When you take action, even if you feel that there is still considerable doubt, take action in the knowledge that you have done what you could to bring your process to the best possible outcome for you or the situation you are considering at this time. Does that mean that there could be other decisions? Of course. But as I wrote a few days ago in Your Possible Selves, every decision you take, over the course of your entire life, could have been different. Therefore, by uising the process described herein, you can take some of the pain of paralysis away from that process and move forward.
Remember, inner doubt is anathema to your well-being, but it can also be highly useful. If it allows you to take steps of the kind mentioned in this post, it is helpful and will keep you from taking rash decisions. If, on the other hand, it drags you into a quagmire of hesitancy and ultimately stagnation, your life will only grow and evolve with great difficulty. Finding freedom from the paralysis of inner doubt is another step on the road to inner freedom about which I am continually posting on this blog.



For more information about being aware, about doubt and moving forward and the way your thoughts and feelings about those subjects influence you and what to do about it, about inner well-being, inner growth and joy, see my book Rewiring the Soul: Finding the Possible Self, available at Amazon as paperback or e-book for Kindle. Click here to download the first chapter.

From the Description on Amazon:

Ask anyone, whatever their circumstances, if their life is vibrant, fulfilling, harmonious and happy. An honest reply is likely to be 'no', because to answer a truthful 'yes' is no mean feat. Only to grow psychologically and emotionally is not enough. And only to grow spiritually is not enough either. All three dimensions need to be developed in order to realize your full potential. If you are willing to assume total responsibility for the self and to start what is an on-going journey, you will quickly begin to glimpse the first fruits of the ultimate goal: inner well-being, freedom, peace, harmony and joy. This book sets out the pathway to self-mastery and self-discovery and walking that pathway will be the most exciting adventure of your life.

Rewiring the Soul' provides a user-friendly roadmap for personal transformation. Using conversational style, it guides the reader to an understanding of life's problems and how they can be resolved, deliberately including the reader's connection to his own soul and spiritual growth. Based on common sense and the author's work as an integral psychotherapist as well as lessons gleaned from teaching and personal experiences, all interwoven with current findings from neuroscience, positive psychology, quantum physics and Buddhism, 'Rewiring the Soul' signposts the path to resolving everyday life and its problems while converging with the inner quest for connection with the soul. This process allows life to take on a revolutionary new meaning: resolving personal and interpersonal issues while keeping the inner connection to the soul in mind leads to unprecedented growth that is simply not possible if psycho-emotional matters and spiritual concerns are not combined.



Monday, December 12, 2011

Your Possible Selves


Just think about it: each decision you make takes you down a new possible avenue:
  • when you were a child and loved speaking the language your grandparents spoke, which was not the language of the country in which you lived, you opened the door to that job as a translator at the UN in New York or Geneva 20 years later
  • when you were a teen and you practiced the piano with perserverance and discipline instead of going out with your friends, you opened the door to becoming a concert pianist - or a fabulous music teacher
  • likewise when you were a teen and you said no to cigarettes or drugs or alcohol, despite the derision of some of your peers, you opened the door to inner strength of character
  • and when you started college and opted for semesters filled with a heavy credit load in order to finish more quickly because you wanted to get to medical school fast, you reinforced a habit of hard work that eventually led you to success
  • when you chose not to have to be right in every argument, you opened the door to specific relationships as opposed to others
  • when you chose to look more at the inner human being as opposed to the immediate attraction of the outer and more material qualities, you also opened the door to specific relationships as opposed to others
Examples abound, and as you will have understood, each of the above decisions led to one possible self evolving and not another. What happens when you have one or two glasses of wine at dinner or when you go out, instead of three or four or many more? What are the different possible outcomes? And what happens when you choose one kind of reading material or television viewing instead of another? What are the possible outcomes? (And not just for you, but for those who live with you; for example, your children). What happens when you choose to be patient instead of impatient, or accepting instead of judgemental?

So you can see that you are choosing possible selves ... possible outcomes every minute of every day. Do you choose to exercise? Do you choose healthy food? Do you choose 'healthy' friends? How about the thoughts you choose? And the feelings that derive thereof?

Is it clear to you that in so many ways you are responsible ... so very responsible ... for your possible outcomes? If your parents were alcoholics, or if you live in a totalitarian regime and are jailed for political reasons, or if someone crashes into your car and leaves you a quadriplegic, or if you are passed over for that promotion you wanted so very much (and you had done all that was possible in order to achieve it), or if you were not elected school valedictorian (and you had worked very hard all throughout your school years in order to achieve it), you are clearly not responsible for that ... but you are responsible for all the reactions and choices you make from that moment forward.

Are you choosing to be responsible for your possible selves and your possible outcomes today?

For much more about choices, meaning , purpose and significance in your life, about living consciously, about being aware of your thoughts and feelings, how you react to others and how you love yourself, as well as about choosing to seek your inner well-being above all, in order that you may have a ripple effect on all those who come in contact with you, get my book Rewiring the Soul: Finding the Possible Self, available at Amazon as a paperback or e-book for Kindle and all Kindle applications. Click here to download the first chapter.

Description: Ask anyone, whatever their circumstances, if their life is vibrant, fulfilling, harmonious and happy. An honest reply is likely to be 'no', because to answer a truthful 'yes' is no mean feat. Only to grow psychologically and emotionally is not enough. And only to grow spiritually is not enough either. All three dimensions need to be developed in order to realize your full potential. If you are willing to assume total responsibility for the self and to start what is an on-going journey, you will quickly begin to glimpse the first fruits of the ultimate goal: inner well-being, freedom, peace, harmony and joy. This book sets out the pathway to self-mastery and self-discovery and walking that pathway will be the most exciting adventure of your life.




A Review From the Back Cover:


In Rewiring the Soul, Gabriella Kortsch shows us in very practical ways how to lead a soul-guided, soul-infused life. With the wisdom of one who has traveled far and learned much, Dr. Kortsch blazes a path for all who have the courage to follow. The rewards for walking that path are great: an understanding of why we are here; an expanded awareness of who we really are; a new or heightened sense of purpose and meaning; and a deeper appreciation of life's many blessings. Highly recommended.

ROBERT SCHWARTZ, author, Your Soul's Plan: Discovering the Real Meaning of the Life You Planned Before You Were Born (http://www.yoursoulsplan.com/ )

Image: El Arco, Cabo San Lucas, Baja California

Friday, December 9, 2011

Your Parents, Your Children, and the Marital Bed


So you had a mind-blowing passionate affair. It lasted five weeks, or six months, or two years. You each lived in your own place. Then you decided to move in together. Maybe you even marry. You were so much in love. It made sense to commit. But now, your once passionate partner who desired you so much doesn’t want to make love anymore. They avoid you, they shun you, and you are bewildered, self doubt arises, you feel hurt, unloved, and finally angry. So you leave, or you threaten to leave, or you find yourself someone else who does find you desirable. Suddenly, magically, your partner wants you again. The passion is back. The old chemistry is flying once more. So then things settle down. Everyone is happy just like at the beginning. But it happens again. Your partner doesn’t want to make love anymore. What on earth is going on?

Some readers may be surprised by this month’s topic. It veers away from the more self developmental nature of past articles and moves into the relationship many of you may have had with one or both of your parents, and then the content of the article walks right into the privacy of your bedroom as an adult. I have chosen this topic based on the queries I receive and the number of clients I have seen over time that present with this dilemma.

Men

Are you a man, and when you were a child you were – in some fashion or another – abandoned by your parents? Perhaps you were ill and had to spend a lengthy period of time in hospital, and perhaps the hospital was too far from your parents’ residence for them to visit you more than once a week. Perhaps your parents – and particularly your mother - were kind and caring, but you perceived that they simply did not love you enough for your needs. Perhaps an event occurred while you were still a child, that caused you to feel rejected by your mother in a particularly important way.

Women

Are you a woman, and when you were a child you were – in some fashion or another – abandoned by your father? (See also my article: Fatherless Women). Perhaps your parents – and particularly your father - were kind and caring, but you perceived that they simply did not love you enough for your needs. Perhaps your parents divorced and your father left and rarely saw you. Perhaps he was physically there, but emotionally absent. Perhaps he rejected you. Perhaps you felt he never gave you the approval you so avidly sought. Perhaps he (or another important male in the close family environment) abused you sexually, physically, psychologically, or emotionally.

When Love is Learned Incorrectly

Whatever the case, in the scenario both for boys and girls, the missing ingredient, or the essential point to realize, is that something has gone awry in the way the child views the love he or she receives from the parent. In other words, the child has not received – or perceived – a developmentally healthy lesson about love from the parent.

And what happens when you learn something incorrectly?

Think for a moment how you were taught how to hold a pencil when you were learning how to write. Most of us learned it properly. Some didn’t and you can see it in the way they hold a pen, or in the way they scrunch their fingers together. How about when you learned how to slice or dice vegetables? Do you julienne? Or do you chop and cut a mess of unequal misshapen pieces? And what about how you learned how to use Excel? Or sew? Or ride a bike? Or dance the tango?

So what happens when you learn something incorrectly? Don’t many people continue to do whatever it is wrong again and again and again? Until something happens to make them want to change their method?

And this is exactly what happens when a child learns dysfunctional lessons about how love works. The child continues to “do it” incorrectly. Why? Because he or she believes that that is the right way to have love.

Love Means Getting Hurt…

So here you have a kid who learned that love means getting hurt…whether the pain is in the heart or in the body is actually not so important. Pain of whatever kind hurts, and much of this kind of pain, however it originated, leaves noticeable impressions and trauma. But before the pain came, the child felt – even if only briefly – real love. The child experienced something that he or she believed to be the real thing. The love it felt for the parent was magnificent, the way love is meant to be, and the child reveled in it, the way most of us do when we feel we are truly loved and cherished. The child believed the parent reciprocated this love in the most wonderful and caring way. The child felt safe. The child felt loved. The child felt secure.

And then the blow fell.

Whether it came in the form of rejection or coldness or abuse or abandonment is not as important as the message the child gives itself in order to try to understand what happened. And although the content of this message may be varied, with consequences of a varied nature, for the purposes of today’s article, the message the child gave itself was that love is not safe. Love is dangerous. Watch it! When you feel truly safe and loved, something bad will happen.

Looking for Love

Fast forward. The child is now a teen or an adult, embarking on relationships. Keenly interested in finding love. Frequently looking for it in the guise of sex (see also my article: Sexual Energy). Frequently this individual is – or appears to be - highly passionate. Sometimes this individual sees him or herself as more passionate than most other people. He or she may believe sometimes, somehow, that sex is love. And when this individual finds another person with whom the sexual flame ignites in the way of great passions, then typically, frequently, this person falls desperately, frantically, obsessively, fearfully, longingly in love. (See also: I Need You…I Need You Not).

Passion and Love

All of the adjectives in the last sentence that describe the state of mind of our protagonist as he or she falls in love tend – in some fashion or another - to form part of the scenario which is now choreographed (see also my article Are You in Love, Or Do You Love?). A dance begins. The individual often shows him or herself as a highly passionate, highly sexual person. He or she shows boundless desire for the partner, particularly during the phase of the relationship where the partner is not yet quite committed. None of this happens deliberately, or in a calculating fashion. It is an unconscious pattern in which sexuality plays a leading role, but not a scheming mindset designed to catch an unwitting prey.

The less accessible the partner, the more highly the flames of passion will leap, and eventually in some cases, the couple commits to a life in common. They decide to live together, to get married, or even, in some instances, to commit by deciding to have a child or buy a home together.

Commitment

So now our protagonist has achieved what appears to have been the goal: love, a committed relationship, a life together. Finally there is this long-desired state of love. Love is corresponded. A long awaited state of circumstances has arrived, so now they live happily ever after, right? Well, possibly yes, but not, perhaps, without first going through some tough trials that involve the most intimate aspect of the couple’s bedroom…the sexual relationship.

Arctic Winds

Now a phase begins that is generally misunderstood by both partners. Neither can explain how this once passionate person quickly turns into someone who shuns the marital bed, making up the most ludicrous excuses to avoid sex, or, if sex continues to play a part in the relationship, the partner who is turning off, finds it more and more difficult to continue playing a role that is no longer tenable. In other words, the erstwhile passionate individual no longer wants sex. He or she may even find it disgusting, having a hard time keeping this fact from the bewildered partner, and frequently the turned off partner will do his or her utmost to make certain the partner does not know how much sex has become repulsive, because love has not necessarily diminished, and there is no wish to hurt the shunned partner further.

In the meantime of course, the confused partner suffers a gradually decreasing sense of self esteem, at least as far as his or her sexuality is concerned. He or she may believe that sexual desire and hence the frequency of sex has waned because he is less attractive, less desirable, or because the partner has found someone else. They may also believe that the partner has become frigid or important, indeed, the person who no longer wants sex may believe this also. Occasionally they may seek out a new sexual partner, just to convince themselves that they can still function. Many things are imagined, but the truth of the matter is rarely realized, particularly not by the partner who has turned physically cold. And the solution never lies in exchanging one partner for another, because invariably the pattern will repeat itself. Like most issues I discuss in my articles, this one must be resolved from within and not from without.

The Danger Zone

The truth of the matter – at least in some instances of the type of background described above – is the fact that the individual with the difficult childhood came to believe, back then, and on subconscious levels, that being safe in a loving situation is the threshold to some kind of pain…emotional pain, psychological pain, etc. When this person was a child, and when he or she felt safe and loved, something happened to cause this pain. The connection between feeling safe and loved on the one hand and pain or danger on the other hand, has been clearly established in the subconscious mind. So when this person finds him or herself in a safe loving situation, a type of inner panic button begins screeching a warning, albeit on subconscious levels, and something has to be done to upset the applecart and avert the danger.

This is the moment that some of the people in this situation turn “cold” on their partners and sex goes down the tube. Almost as though by doing that, the connection between love and safety is successfully broken. They have been striving for just such a situation for so long, but nevertheless, they are sabotaging it in the most insidious way. Insidious not only for their partner, but also for themselves. And of course no one knows what on earth is going on. Typically the individual who no longer desires the other continues to love the other very much. At least for a while. They feel tremendously guilty about not desiring them. The other partner feels rejected, but the one who is off sex, in time may begin to believe that it’s actually due to the fact that the partner truly no longer is desirable. Or that their personal hygiene is off, or that their love-making techniques are no longer interesting, none of which of course have any relation to the real reason. Ultimately neither partner is looking for the answers inside. Ultimately it is such a difficult situation that many couples just give up. The guilt and the hurt can grow to enormous proportions.

So Now What?

There are solutions. But I can’t pretend they are easy. Or even that there are always solutions. (See also: Marriage in the 21st Century). The dynamics of this particular psycho-emotional dilemma whose almost invisible tentacles reach into an individual’s sexuality, are difficult to disentangle. They require a great deal of awareness, not only on the part of the person who has gone cold, but also on the part of the partner. For some reason the rejected partner has also drawn this into his or her life, and so, on another level, this is a secondary dilemma that also needs to be faced, but that is the topic for another article.

If you are reading this and have recognized yourself or your partner, I urge you to seek help. Not because either of you is sick, but because this is a hard one to grapple with on your own. A very important element of the solution lies in removing pressure from finding the resolution as the solution is being sought. By that I mean that although the solution needs to be sought actively, it needs to be done in such a way that the partner who has gone cold does not feel pressured to have sex for a time. Another very important element is allowing love to live and flow despite the problem, in order that the partner who has gone cold begins to realize that he or she is loved despite the problem. For some people, on the receiving end of the sexual coldness this may be impossible, and in that case, the relationship has probably come to an end. But for those who are capable of continuing to love, there is hope for the relationship, and hope for the eventual resurgence of passion. And finally, the most important element of the solution lies in psychological and emotional awareness on the part of both partners about the dynamics of what is occurring, and to recognize that love – especially when our early lessons about it have been dysfunctional - is both the cause of the problem and the solution to the problem.



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For much more about relationships, love, passion, meaning , purpose and significance in  your life, about living consciously, about being aware of your thoughts and feelings, how you react to others and how you love yourself, as well as about choosing to seek your inner well-being above all, in order that you may have a ripple effect on all those who come in contact with you, get my book Rewiring the Soul: Finding the Possible Self, available at Amazon as a paperback or e-book for Kindle and all Kindle applications. Click here to download the first chapter.

A Review From the Back Cover:

"Rewiring the Soul is one the best introductions to the spiritual life I've ever read. Not esoteric but real-world and practical. Read it and Soul is no longer just a dogma, nor hypothesis, it is made real and as much a part of your being as your toes. We usually shut off our inner voice, yet by recognizing this aspect of ourselves we begin to discover our essential nature, our intuitive truth, and that becomes our loving guide. The author illustrates the limitations of living only as the mind's Ego, and demonstrates in practical terms how we can transcend this by awakening a conscious viewpoint, following the path of our intuition and feelings, no longer separated from our body and the reality around us, and integrating at last our Soul's inner guidance and wellspring of love. The implications are profound." PETER SHEPHERD; Founder Trans4mind - www.trans4mind.com; author, Daring To Be Yourself




Image: Bora Bora

Friday, December 2, 2011

Crossing Thresholds to Greater Growth


Venturing Into the Unknown


Just a few words today about change, newness, and the unknown. We tend to fear it. We tend to think that because we are changing to something different (job, challenge, city, country, relationship, environment of any kind), or doing something new, or going to some type of unknown element in our lives as opposed to what we have done to this point, we will have difficulty with it or even fail. The new aspect can even be something such as changing a behavior, exchanging one way of doing something for another, because we have come to recognize that it is better (for example, when people learn to set healthy boundaries (see also Do Your Relationship Boundaries Contribute to Your Well-Being?). So when they do this, people are generally fearful at the beginning of putting this new behavior into practice, because even though they see its great value for their own psychological health (and that of any of their relationships), actually doing what it takes to have healthy boundaries can be daunting when one has not been doing it.

But the real point of today’s article is to discuss the fear.

The Many Faces of Fear

Fear of the unknown. Fear of the untried. Fear of stepping outside of our comfort zone (see also Leaving Your Comfort Zone: Fear of Emotional Expression).

What exactly does this fear tell us?

First of all, welcome it. Recognize that it is the hallmark of growth to come. Fear of this type signals that as you cross a new threshold into a new arena, you will be learning something that will move your process of growth up a notch.

Secondly, recognize that you have been in this place many times before, with all the other things you have done or lived through for the first time in your life in the past, and now you are much more – or even totally - at ease and comfortable with them. You passed over the threshold when you did whatever it was for the first time, and now you are in an entirely new place. But since you are already comfortable with whatever it was that once caused your fear, you no longer view it as something threatening and fearful. Use that "success" experience (the Germans call it Erfolgserlebniss) to help you cross the new threshold. Use the knowledge that what was once so far outside your comfort zone, has now become your new comfort zone. Recognize that the fear you feel indicates that you are in the process of expanding this comfort zone once again, and that this will bring about new growth. (Also see Making Fear of the Unknown Work for You).

In other words: fear that is felt before starting something new could in fact be a good sign, because it means that once again you are on the road to new growth. Your life and your world are expanding, and you are vital and vibrant and alive in this process. In such a case, fear could be defined as your friend.

Growth Takes Place at the Borders of Chaos and Order

I recently listened to a short interview of John DeMartini. He said something to the effect that the greatest growth takes place at the borders of chaos and order.

That’s a fascinating theory. It takes you back to Hegel, the German philosopher (and even to Marx), and the concept of dialectical reasoning (thesis, antithesis, and synthesis), where the transition of thought moves from an initial conviction about something, to its opposite, and then to a new, higher conception that involves but transcends both of them.

Order might be likened to the thesis aspect of Hegelian philosophy, chaos to antithesis, and finally, the new, higher order, i.e. the place where growth has taken place, and is now both assimilated and visible in its manifestation of the personality, is the synthesis. Once the new thought or conviction about something (the new synthesis) has remained this new order for some time, and hence has become becomes the new thesis, the entire process repeats itself, because without it, there is no growth.

You might say that when chaos is the determining factor, when there is no longer any order, there is no homeostasis or balance in the personality, and until it again finds an equilibrium – but at a higher level – chaos reigns. When, however, balance is achieved, a new synthesis takes place, and homeostasis is once again in evidence.

Inner Growth Needs Some Type of Friction

What all of this boils down to as stated in slightly different terms at the beginning of this article is: inner growth needs some type of friction (fear, pain, suffering, etc.), or stated in other words: chaos, antithesis, lack of balance, for the personality to seek a new order, a new balance, a new synthesis on higher levels. I’ve even heard of people talking about it from the point of view of the actual brain re-structuring itself on new levels after the initial scrambling about in chaos to search for a new balance. Neuroscientists would refer to new neural pathways having been formed in the pre-frontal cortex that lead the individual to a higher level of functioning. (See also Creating New Neural Pathways (And Getting a Better Life in the Process) this link also points to a wonderful audio broadcast about this general topic).

So looking at it from that point of view, I suggest that you welcome situations that appear in your life that you might have regarded as difficulties or hardships, stress-filled times, and moments saturated with problem after problem, as times when your greatest inner growth can take place. Observe yourself as you deal with the situation, observe how you look for, and eventually find solutions, observe how you apply them, and how they then begin to form part of your normal life, and ultimately, observe how your parameters have expanded, how your comfort zone has grown, and how you yourself have become a much richer personality, a human being with a new order and equilibrium that must in the future, if further growth is to take place, again give way to another restructuring.



For more information about being aware, about success and failure and the way your thoughts and feelings about those subjects influence you and what to do about it, about inner well-being, inner growth and joy, see my book Rewiring the Soul: Finding the Possible Self, available at Amazon as paperback or e-book for Kindle.

Click here to download the first chapter.

From the Description on Amazon:

Ask anyone, whatever their circumstances, if their life is vibrant, fulfilling, harmonious and happy. An honest reply is likely to be 'no', because to answer a truthful 'yes' is no mean feat. Only to grow psychologically and emotionally is not enough. And only to grow spiritually is not enough either. All three dimensions need to be developed in order to realize your full potential. If you are willing to assume total responsibility for the self and to start what is an on-going journey, you will quickly begin to glimpse the first fruits of the ultimate goal: inner well-being, freedom, peace, harmony and joy. This book sets out the pathway to self-mastery and self-discovery and walking that pathway will be the most exciting adventure of your life.

Rewiring the Soul' provides a user-friendly roadmap for personal transformation. Using conversational style, it guides the reader to an understanding of life's problems and how they can be resolved, deliberately including the reader's connection to his own soul and spiritual growth. Based on common sense and the author's work as an integral psychotherapist as well as lessons gleaned from teaching and personal experiences, all interwoven with current findings from neuroscience, positive psychology, quantum physics and Buddhism, 'Rewiring the Soul' signposts the path to resolving everyday life and its problems while converging with the inner quest for connection with the soul. This process allows life to take on a revolutionary new meaning: resolving personal and interpersonal issues while keeping the inner connection to the soul in mind leads to unprecedented growth that is simply not possible if psycho-emotional matters and spiritual concerns are not combined.