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"A revelation of insight into the foundations of human suffering & transcendence. It not only lays out essential steps for inner freedom and joy but illuminates the way to true human potential." Paul Rademacher, author: A Spiritual Hitchhiker's Guide to the Universe

"The masterwork of a profoundly gifted healer of the soul. Dazzling, challenging, wondrously useful." Peggy Rubin, author: To Be and How To Be, Transforming Your Life Through Sacred Theatre

"Rewiring the Soul is one the best introductions to the spiritual life I've ever read. Not esoteric but real-world and practical. The implications are profound." Peter Shepherd, author: Daring To Be Yourself

Monday, November 21, 2011

Do You Vibrate to a Tune That Serves you Well ?


Recently I drove through horrendous road construction going on in my area. It was still very hot, the traffic was murderous, and due to the fact that cars were stopping and starting, the cooling system did not work as well as possible. Dust abounded. Stopped once again at yet another traffic light, I was overjoyed to see a gorgeously vibrant purple flower arising from the dirt at the side of the road, very close to my window. I actually laughed out loud when I saw it, because it seemed to exemplify a point I try to make so often: do you vibrate to a tune that serves you well?

How do you vibrate? Is it an inner vibration that only allows you to see the tedium, the dirt, the noise, the delays, and the uncomfortable heat, or is it an inner vibration that allows you to see the flowers arising from the dirt?

I remember visiting the city of Cordoba with its culturally rich mixture of Roman, Moorish, Jewish, and Spanish architecture, history, and religion in the sweltering heat one August Sunday morning, and overhearing a couple complain loudly about the lack of air conditioning as they visited one of the many sites in the Jewish quarter (la Judería). What they were vibrating to, was their physical discomfort, as opposed to seeing the immense variety of traditions and inter-mingled history this nearly 2000-year-old city has to offer. It is simply a question of perspective. What are you focusing on … what do you vibrate to?

These two examples are hugely important analogies applied to everything we do in life. The perspective that we choose to have because of our inner vibration can bring beauty to an outwardly ugly moment or ugliness to an outwardly beautiful moment. You choose. (See also Happiness: Has it Become a Science or is it a Question of Good Luck?)

But to be fair, long before you choose to focus on the purple flower at the side of the road instead of the insufferable traffic and noise, and long before you choose to focus on the lack of air conditioning in Cordoba’s Jewish quarter, you have spent years making tiny choices here and there, over and over again, that eventually led you to such a vibration.

So that is it in a nutshell: choices you make every day, all your life, bring you to this place or that, just as following a specific road on a map, can bring you to New York, or Moscow, or Santiago de Chile. But, let’s say you are well on that road towards NYC, and you realize - due to any number of circumstances – that it would be much better for you if you actually were traveling towards New Orleans, or Cape Town, or Riyadh. Then all you have to do is make minor adjustments in order that bit by bit, you would actually find yourself on the road to the new city.

Again, that’s it in a nutshell: even if the choices you have made every day of your life to this point in time have brought you to an inner vibration that does not allow you to see the magnificent purple flower raising its head above the dust, by making new choices every day from now on, you will find yourself traveling towards a whole new perspective of life.

So: how do you begin to make new choices?

People who attend my workshops, or come to my speeches, or clients, or those that write to me to make a comment about one of my articles, tell me over and over again (not in so many words, but by how they react to my answer), that they want the answer to that question about how you begin to make new choices to be a one-time deal. In other words, whatever it is they have to do, they want it to happen as a result of that one time that they do it, that one major effort that they put into it. Which reminds me of Zig Ziglar’s quote: “People often say that motivation doesn’t last. Well, neither does bathing – that’s why we recommend it daily.” (See also Consciousness is a Full-time Job).

And in the case of beginning to make new choices, you make the conscious decision to remember to do it daily. (See also Claiming Responsibility for the Self). Even if that means pasting numerous post-it notes to yourself all over your house, office, computer monitor and car. If you don’t make new a new kind of choice on a daily basis, nothing in your perspective will change. And it is your perspective that entirely colors how you see your world. And that means that it also colors how you feel at all times, how you interpret all events, and how you react to anything at all.

Here are some of the ways you can begin to make new choices:
  • When you’re at the gym … or doing any kind of other physical exercise (which in and of itself is a great choice to make) instead of thinking about problems while you are there, find five things to be grateful for at that moment in your life (see also Gratitude, Choice the ‘Why Did This Happen to Me?’ Syndrome)
  • Wherever your eyes land, whether you are inside a building, your home, or out somewhere, make a point of reminding yourself to look for something beautiful … and if necessary, because you truly can’t anything beautiful in that particular place, simply look inside and find the beauty there
  • Be present … be here and now as often as possible, as opposed to living in the past or the future (see also Entering the Now Moment By Leaving Unawareness Behind and Living in the NOW: Use it to Enrich Your Life). Here’s another secret: being present – being in the now, is the fastest way to co-creating your reality in the way you desire.
  • Be attentive to your gut feelings, to any intutive knowing that comes to you … it will generally give you more information about how you could choose to do things or react to things in a way that is good for you
  • Stop being reactive (reacting blindly to events and people), and be proactive instead (reacting to events and people after taking an inner reading about not only how you feel about this situation and what your immediate response would be, but also about how you will feel if you put that immediate response into action and whether that will be worth it, and then asking yourself what other choices of reaction you have). There are always other choices.
  • Do something at least once a day that aims at raising your inner energy and sense of well-being (see also Keeping Your Energy High).
These are merely some suggestions … there are myriad other ways you can discover to make new choices. But know this: making new choices will bring you towards a different path in your life. Furthermore, if by making those choices you intend to bring yourself to a place where you can see the glorious flowering growth amidst the dust and dirt, your life will change, your perspective about everything in your life will change, and the changes in you will bring about a vibration to a much greater tune tune that includes the word freedom in its title.



For much more about passion, meaning , purpose and significance in your life, about living consciously, about being aware of your thoughts and feelings, how you react to others and how you love yourself, as well as about choosing to seek your inner well-being above all, in order that you may have a ripple effect on all those who come in contact with you, get my book Rewiring the Soul: Finding the Possible Self, available at Amazon as a paperback or e-book for Kindle and all Kindle applications. Click here to download the first chapter.

Description: Ask anyone, whatever their circumstances, if their life is vibrant, fulfilling, harmonious and happy. An honest reply is likely to be 'no', because to answer a truthful 'yes' is no mean feat. Only to grow psychologically and emotionally is not enough. And only to grow spiritually is not enough either. All three dimensions need to be developed in order to realize your full potential. If you are willing to assume total responsibility for the self and to start what is an on-going journey, you will quickly begin to glimpse the first fruits of the ultimate goal: inner well-being, freedom, peace, harmony and joy. This book sets out the pathway to self-mastery and self-discovery and walking that pathway will be the most exciting adventure of your life.




A Review From the Back Cover:

"Rewiring the Soul is one the best introductions to the spiritual life I've ever read. Not esoteric but real-world and practical. Read it and Soul is no longer just a dogma, nor hypothesis, it is made real and as much a part of your being as your toes. We usually shut off our inner voice, yet by recognizing this aspect of ourselves we begin to discover our essential nature, our intuitive truth, and that becomes our loving guide. The author illustrates the limitations of living only as the mind's Ego, and demonstrates in practical terms how we can transcend this by awakening a conscious viewpoint, following the path of our intuition and feelings, no longer separated from our body and the reality around us, and integrating at last our Soul's inner guidance and wellspring of love. The implications are profound."

PETER SHEPHERD; Founder Trans4mind - www.trans4mind.com; author, Daring To Be Yourself





Lucy Adams: Tuck Your Skirt in Your Panties and Run



As promised last week, today I am presenting guest blogger Lucy Adams. While the subjects Lucy and I typically write about appear to be very distant one from the other, I felt that her particular brand of humour, so important in these times of worries, stress, and negativity, was especially germane to keeping ourselves on track in the positive sense of the word.

Lucy is the author of recently released book, Tuck Your Skirt in Your Panties and Run (Palm Tree Press, 2011), in which she showcases her knack for unraveling a snippet of time, already frayed at the edges, and exposing the whole story, with all of its nuances. Using her same wit and self-deprecating humor as in her first book, If Mama Don’t Laugh, It Ain’t Funny (Palm Tree Press 2007), Adams surrenders to her reader true tales of massacred magnolias, communist pig roasts and 40 year-old bridesmaids, as well as an assemblage of many other mishaps, misjudgments and miscalculations.


A Q&A with author Lucy Adams:

What makes you passionate about writing?

I love words. I love the flow of words. I like the challenge of saying something ordinary in an unexpected way. I enjoy enabling readers to “see” the scenes as opposed to simply telling them about a character or an event. When I am writing I can actually feel my brain shift and I move into another zone. I become completely disconnected from the here and now and transported to a place where I’m not even myself anymore. It’s a crazy feeling, probably akin to the freefall craved by adrenalin junkies.

I want to take my reader with me on that surreal journey. I want her to touch, taste, hear, smell, see what I do. If I achieve eliciting a giggle, a tear, an Ah-ha, a deeper thought, a nod of the head from someone, then I’ve achieved something.

And I won’t even go into the thrill of a deadline, here, but, my gosh, I can’t live without one.

Who has made the greatest difference for you as a writer?

Now I feel like I’m on the stage at the Academy Awards trying to think of all the people I need to thank and fearing I’ve left out someone very important. So, I’m going to say, my 11th grade English teacher, Naomi Williams, who never encouraged me to go into a career in writing. When I showed her some of my material, she did not critique content. She picked apart the grammar and punctuation and would not accept my explanation for why I had used the punctuation and grammar the way I had.

Why her? Because she taught me that I had to know how to write correctly. I had to become an expert at that first. A person can write fabulous content that reads absolutely nonsensical if the grammar, punctuation, sentence structure and word usage lead the reader down the wrong path.

What is your favorite thing about being an author?

On a home tour last Christmas, a homeowner actually walked me into his bathroom to point out my book, which he keeps on the back of his commode. That’s an unforgettable moment.

I love making people laugh; making an emotional connection.

I also like the idea that something of my creation with my name on it is recorded in perpetuity in the Library of Congress. I'm a permanent, though tiny, piece of the fabric of America. It's a record of my existence and my contribution. That sounds silly and neurotic when I say it, but it’s true.

How did you get started writing?

My original plan, when I was 5, was to be an artist and live in my parents’ garage and take care of them in their old age. Despite my father nursing that ambition, I ended up being a writer and living down the road from my parents. An arrangement that pleases my mother very much, since she and my dad haven’t decided to get old yet.

My high school friends would tell you that they always knew I would be a writer. My college friends would tell you they were all surprised. My husband says I’m not the same woman he married; that it’s like my alien inside took over.

I always wanted to write. I sort of gave up on it, though, after high school, seeking to do more practical things with my education and my life. It wasn’t until I was 34, with four children ages 6 and under, and a husband who said we needed extra income, that I got up the courage to act on it.

I typed up sample columns and went to my local newspaper and asked if I could write for them. Then I called back the editor again, and again, and again, until he said, “Yes, if you’ll quit bothering me. I’ve got work to do.”

Now, in my 40’s, going a day without writing is like going a day without oxygen.

Who are your books geared towards?

Although plenty of men tell me they appreciate my humor and that they love my books, my primary audience is women. For one thing, women are busy people and often have to beg, borrow and steal snatches of time in which to read. Each story is about two pages long and a quick escape. These are the kind of books that can be read all in one sitting or put down and picked up over the course of several weeks. Women get the humor and the nuances because they’ve been in the same trenches as me.

Where can our readers go to find your books and order them?

All major on-line bookstores, like Amazon and Barnes & Noble, carry both Tuck Your Skirt in Your Panties and Run and If Mama Don’t Laugh, It Ain’t Funny. Local brick and mortar bookstores will order them upon customer request. And signed copies are available from my website: http://ifmama.com/


Strategic Errors, a podcast excerpt from Tuck Your Skirt in Your Panties and Run, is a true story in which the names and places have been changed to protect identities. Though it sounds like a fairytale, you, too, can live happily ever after in the Kingdom of Mindovermatter.
 

Wednesday, November 16, 2011

PASSION IN 3 x 3 STEPS

Defining Passion:
  1. An unending desire and commitment, along with enthusiasm, motivation and inspiration to work towards a goal
  2. Willingness to take in the suffering that such passion involves (e.g. the Passion of Christ); suffering that may entail intermittent failure, derision and even rejection from your peers, moments in which you honestly don’t know how you can possibly continue, but you do continue
  3. Recognizing that the major portion of meaning in your life is derived from this passion, despite all of the above
A. If PASSION missing:
  1. You are continually searching for ways to make yourself feel good, none of which will do the trick until you re-focus onto a passion that gives significance and meaning to your life.Therefore: recognize that the self-sabotaging ways you are using to self-soothe yourself into feeling good, need to be set aside in order to make room in your life for step 1 below.
  2. You not only do not feel good about life in general, but you specifically do not feel good about yourself. Your self-esteem and sense of self-love is low or even non-existent. This has nothing to do with your bank account. Therefore: recognize that you feel this way due to the lack of passion or meaning and significance in your life. Stop worrying about how you are feeling and make room in your life for steps 1-3 below.
  3. You are not aware of any specific purpose or significance in your life, other than the accumulation of wealth, material goods, professional or social prestige, etc.Therefore: recognize that the pursuit of any of the described goals – while temporarily allowing you to feel good about yourself – give no lasting sense of satisfaction because this type of pursuit is not hitched to a goal that allows you to have that all-important sense of purpose and significance in your life. Concentrate your conscious efforts on steps 1-3 below.
B. How to regain PASSION:
  1.  Become consciously aware of your thoughts and feelings and begin to elevate your inner energetic frequency by using beauty, gratitude and mindfulness to do so 24/7 (book). Doing this is one of the best ways to begin to listen to your own inner wisdom with regards to that which you really feel motivated to do, towards that which is really a purpose in your life and that means something to you. Without such a purpose and meaning, it will be very hard to maintain passion in your life.
  2. As an added step, consciously use motivational and inspirational audios and DVD’s (see the right sidebar of this blog) that will allow you to raise that inner energetic frequency to get yourself to a place where you can revisit your goals and if necessary, shift to a new area of interest where you can successfully re-position your passion
  3. Write down your long-term and mid-term goals. Then do the near-term ones, until you get to tomorrow. What do you have to do tomorrow to get to that goal, and consciously make yourself be aware of the fact that as you do that supposedly small and unimportant tomorrow, it will however lead you to that all-important end goal that is giving passion to your life!      
C. How to maintain PASSION:       
  1. Continually remain conscious, about yourself, your thoughts, feelings, actions and reactions, as well as about all the messages your body sends you (we have 3 brains: head, gut, heart) and you are constantly receiving messages from all them. These If you train yourself to listen to all of them, they will maintain you in passionate mode!
  2. Continually revisit your goals, readjusting the direction as necessary
  3. If setbacks occur, go back to the pointers for regaining your passion


On November 21st, I am privileged to host Lucy Adams, author of If Mama Don't Laugh, It Ain't Funny & Tuck Your Skirt in Your Panties and Run here on the blog. While at first glance it may appear that what Lucy writes about, and what I do, are worlds apart, it is, in fact, the measure of joy and laughter that we bring to our daily lives, that makes such a difference to our ability to grow and evolve. I look forward to welcoming Lucy Adams here next week! Find out more about Lucy by clicking here .

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For much more about passion, meaning , purpose and sfignificance n  your life, about living consciously, about being aware of your thoughts and feelings, how you react to others and how you love yourself, as well as about choosing to seek your inner well-being above all, in order that you may have a ripple effect on all those who come in contact with you, get my book Rewiring the Soul: Finding the Possible Self, available at Amazon as a paperback or e-book for Kindle and all Kindle applications. Click here to download the first chapter.

A Review From the Back Cover:

"Rewiring the Soul is one the best introductions to the spiritual life I've ever read. Not esoteric but real-world and practical. Read it and Soul is no longer just a dogma, nor hypothesis, it is made real and as much a part of your being as your toes. We usually shut off our inner voice, yet by recognizing this aspect of ourselves we begin to discover our essential nature, our intuitive truth, and that becomes our loving guide. The author illustrates the limitations of living only as the mind's Ego, and demonstrates in practical terms how we can transcend this by awakening a conscious viewpoint, following the path of our intuition and feelings, no longer separated from our body and the reality around us, and integrating at last our Soul's inner guidance and wellspring of love. The implications are profound."

PETER SHEPHERD; Founder Trans4mind - www.trans4mind.com; author, Daring To Be Yourself






Photo: Amalfi Coast, Italy

Tuesday, November 8, 2011

Loving Yourself: A Roadmap



Loving yourself lies at the beginning of all roads that lead you to inner peace and freedom. The underpinnings for finding balance and harmony in your life rest on you being able to love yourself. If you do not love yourself, or at least begin the process of loving yourself, most of everything else you do in the arena of personal transformation will not bring you the desired results.

But – as so much else in the personal development field – it’s easier said than done. Loving yourself is so much more than indulging in some long denied desire, or lying in a bubble bath surrounded by scented candles while relaxing music soothes your jagged edges.

Loving yourself begins first and foremost with the recognition that if you are not in a place of well-being inside yourself, it’s up to you to do something about it. That should become your priority. Imagine you are the parent of a small child. Your child is upset, or sad, or angry or frightened, You, as loving parent of the child, would attempt to help the child move to a better place inside, in the way the child is feeling at that moment due to whatever it was that happened. You might embrace the child, talk about what is going on, or do any number of things designed to help the child view the situation with new eyes in order to find some measure of inner harmony and peace about whatever has transpired.

But in order for this to happen you would need to be closely connected to your child, you would need to have strong communication with your child, and you would need to be totally aware of your child’s feelings. Furthermore, you’d need to want to be there for your child.

By now you’ve probably figured out that I’m giving you an analogy about how you need to be dealing with yourself and why: in order to show yourself that you love yourself (because that’s how it starts), you must be aware of yourself and your feelings at all times and be conscious or aware enough to choose to do something about them at all times, in order to bring yourself to an inner state of well-being.

Does that mean that you would never allow yourself to feel pain or sorrow or worry or have any other type of negative feeling? Does it mean you would keep yourself in some iron grip of control so that you would not have those feelings? Absolutely not! But it does mean that you would be willing to choose to focus elsewhere as opposed to those feelings, in order to help yourself move to a better place inside.

What would you do if you find yourself worrying about your health or money or your relationship? You would recognize that worrying takes you absolutely nowhere, you would recognize that it is much more proactive to do your due diligence about whatever it is that is going on in your life (attempt to resolve it by allowing it a certain amount of time per day – but only that amount of time - in your life, brainstorming, consulting, researching about the situation), and you would then choose to focus on something else in order to help yourself move to a better place inside, because that is what you do for those that you love. And as you begin to do that for yourself, over and over again, you begin to realize that you do love yourself.

What would you do if someone has just made you incredibly angry? Or how would you deal with someone who is playing the role of energy vampire in your life, or being emotionally unavailable with you? Remember, that part of this process has to do with you becoming aware of yourself, and taking responsibility for yourself and how you react to situations and people. See also:
So that means that if you are taking responsibility for yourself because you have become more aware of yourself, you will also have begun to accept that fact that you are ultimately responsible for everything you think, feel, say and do, as well as taking responsibility for how you react at all times, no matter what the outer circumstances. Hence, when at first glance it appears that someone else has made you angry, i.e., that it is their fault that you are angry, you begin to see that you have a choice about how you feel at that particular moment. You realize you can choose how you react. And if you consciously choose to continue to have a reasonably good day despite another person’s near effect on the state of your being, you are beginning to show yourself that you love yourself enough in order to do this.

At first glance it may appear that these suggestions are small and you may be asking if that’s all there’s to it. In effect, that is all there’s to it, but it is the continual practice of a lifetime to perfect this. If you start today, right now, this evening you will already feel better about how you are dealing with yourself. You’ll recognize that you’ve taken some steps to love yourself. And a part of you will feel just as loved as the child who has been enveloped in the loving arms of a caring and emotionally generous adult parent. This will bring you ever closer to inner peace and freedom, and this will bring you joy.



For much more about living consciously, about being aware of your thoughts and feelings, how you react to others and how you love yourself, as well as about choosing to seek your inner well-being above all, in order that you may have a ripple effect on all those who come in contact with you, get my book Rewiring the Soul: Finding the Possible Self, available at Amazon as a paperback or e-book for Kindle and all Kindle applications. Click here to download the first chapter.

Reviews From the Back Cover:

A revelation of insight into the foundations of human suffering & transcendence. It not only lays out essential steps for inner freedom & joy but illuminates the way to true human potential. Dr. Kortsch is a spiritual master for our time. Paul Rademacher, Executive Director, The Monroe Institute; author: A Spiritual Hitchhiker's Guide to the Universe

"The masterwork of a profoundly gifted healer of the soul. Dazzling, challenging, wondrously useful." Peggy Rubin, Director, Center for Sacred Theatre, Ashland, Oregon; author: To Be and How To Be, Transforming Your Life Through Sacred Theatre

"The instruction manual on rewiring the soul. An in-depth guide on life, love, spiritual evolution & our integration within the universe." Michael Habernig & April Hannah; Producers: The Path- The Afterlife & The Path 11 Documentaries

"Rewiring the Soul is one the best introductions to the spiritual life I've ever read. Not esoteric but real-world & practical. The implications are profound." Peter Shepherd; Founder Trans4mind.com; author: Daring To Be Yourself

"The human being's directory to the soul. A breakthrough for those seeking practical assistance, those of a more mystical bent & every soul awaiting discovery." Toni Petrinovich, Ph.D.; author: The Call: Awakening the Angelic Human